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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I am 26 years old, All my life I have struggled with anxiety which has lead to complete isolation over the years and seemed to have taken it's toll for the worse.

I have struggled to fit in, It almost feels as I gasp for breaths while I attempt to talk to my own family members around holidays. My heart races, My stomach turns and I automatically want to be the first one to run out of the room if there are more then 4 people I do not know well around. I have in the past attempted to talk to people, I stutter and look at the floor. I am currently seeing a therapist and I have for many years as well as tried different medications. The problem, It doesn't seem to be working. I have no friends, I avoid contact with people and the only time I get out of the apartment is when I feel the absolute need for my mental state of mind or need to buy house hold items. I am married, I find it sad that I can count on one hand how many times I've showed up to my spouses fathers house. My spouse has bought it up to why I don't go and pay visits and I hesitate and don't know what to say. I have tried many times to over come this, I fail. I've tried therapy, Failed. I even tried medication and again, Failed. I am beginning to loose hope, I am also a victim of substance abuse if that helps too. (link)
We probably won't be of much help getting you over your anxiety. I do want to encourage you not to give up. If one thing doesn't work, you simply must keep on trying.

Have you been going to the same doctor for all the help? A problem doesn't have to be a life or death illness to get a second or third opinion. If one doctor isn't helping you, try another.

Are you still a substance abuser or are you recovering? Substance abuse can cause some of the symptoms of depression and/or anxiety you have trouble with too.

I assume your doctor and therapists know of the substance abuse. It may take a little longer to find the correct dosage of any med that will work for you. Your doctors probably don't want to give you a dosage that might cause you to abuse it. Your body may also have built a tolerance to some types of medication.

It takes time. Sometimes a long time, but don't give up trying.


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I apologize, I meant a victim of domestic violence. I got confused. I have been to many doctors in the past yes.




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