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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!
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Last week I was in the park with my friends, and my brothers friends.
I'm 15, and my brother is 19.
He had some of his friends in the park too. None of were drinking, but we were having a good time, just sitting together and talking (about 20 of us)
The thing is that some of the couples were making out and such, and as a dare, I kissed this guy who was 22.
Not with tongues or anything, but like a two minute kiss.
Now I'm kinda worried that it might be considered as really sick and stuff.
He's just a friend, I'm not interested in going out with him, it was just a dare.
He afterwards said to me ''I hope this doesn't make things awkward between us, since it was just a dare''
The day after in school a teacher said to me in a jokey way ''I saw you kissing Riley(he used to go to my school) I hope nothing is going on between you two'' and I felt so embarrassed!
What would the teacher think of me??
This question kind of makes me laugh, because I was just like that when I was your age, and I can only imagine the horrible things teachers have probably thought of me.
Honestly, it's really none of your teacher's business. Besides, it was just a dare. You don't like the guy, and he doesn't like you - everyone should just get over it. Kissing someone a few years older than you isn't a big deal. When I was 13, my boyfriend was 18. The age difference is a little less than yours and that guy, but I don't see what the big deal is, especially if it didn't mean anything.
So the teacher thinks you like to get a little friendly with guys... who cares? haha.
I'm sure my senior year speech and debate teacher thought I was some sort of alcoholic sex-addict just from my opinions on some topics we had debated in her class.
Teachers only see what's right in front of them. They don't know what goes on when they aren't looking, so they rarely have the entire story, anyway.
How many conversations with friends do you think your teacher has overheard? How many do you think he/she thought were completely innocent when they weren't, and how many do you think he/she thought were completely bad/dirty/mean, etc. when they were completely innocent?
Like I said, teachers rarely hear the whole story.
Sure, your teacher may have seen the kiss (what would a teacher be doing at a student/young teen hangout?), but did he/she know it was a dare?
Your teacher shouldn't have said anything because it wasn't their place to say anything. (Unless you're close with the teacher... friendly, nothing dirty).
I guess what I'm trying to say is to just chill out. There's nothing wrong with what you did. It's not like you slept with him on a dare (which would be slutty and wrong). And if I were you, I would have told the teacher that they were out of place for butting in. Then again, I have a problem with authority trying to butt into my personal life, and I tend to get a bit of an unintentional attitude when uncomfortable or irritated...
Anyway... if your teacher says something again, or anyone for that matter, just laugh it off and let them know that being a teenager means having some clean, safe fun. You weren't breaking any rules. You weren't doing drugs or getting trashed. You were hanging out with friends.
You could always remind your teacher that they were young once and that they have probably done worse. =]
(Rating: 5) Aha :)
Well it was in a public park, with a lot of people around, so I don't think that he was spying on us or anything :)
And I'm quite friendly with the teacher, so I know that he didn't mean it in a bitchy way, I just had a weird feeling after he said that to me.
Thanks so much for the good answer! :)