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Hello,
I am a 14 year old guy...
...I realized I liked my best friend for the 3rd time around Valentine's Day. So, I told her that I liked her, and she said, "No offense, but you need to get over me,". Well, since then, we've barely said a word to each other. My friends have been trying to get her to say something to me, so she did after I gave her a birthday card. I asked her to talk about what had been going on between us, and she said, and I quote,
"Not to be a beyotch, but I just don't feel like talking to you. I don't think we have the connection we used to have,"
After that, I was so upset. I didn't know what do to... I'm still upset, as she now has a boyfriend who is a complete jerk to me. What should I do??? (link)
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You're not going to like this, but she's made it really clear that there's no chance for you with her.
So for your own sanity, you need to drop her. Pretend that she's dead, if that makes it easier; yes, I realize that you'll probably be seeing her a lot in school, but still, if you can find some way to amputate her out of your mind as much as possible, you should.
The alternative is to continue to torture yourself. And you don't deserve that, do you?
Delete her from your universe. I know that you'll still think about her; you can't help it. And that's natural. But give her and everyone else no sign at all that she means anything to you.
Get busy. The busier you are, the less you'll hurt. Fill up every minute of the day, and time will do the rest. If you can stay busy enough for long enough, the pain will fade.
Take a long hard look in the mirror and think about it. Do you want to spend the next year or so suffering, bleeding inside over a girl who doesn't even want you?
Or do you want to pull yourself together and do your best to forget that she ever existed?
Either way, I can tell you this: it may take six months. It may take a year. It might even take TWO years (although I really doubt it). But you WILL fall in love again. And with any luck, it will be with a girl who loves you back.
Good luck!
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thanks... but I don't think this will leave me for awhile...
Its been 6 months and we still don't talk..
i'm going to kill myself tomorrow..
i hope i die.. my life just doesn't matter anymore..
thanks tho.. i'll remember your excellent advice forever
**Rating changed by level II moderator**
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