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I'm 18, and my child is due on March 3rd. I'm really excited about this, but the problem is with the father.
Don't get me wrong--I really love him, but I'm scared we leaped into everything too soon.
We were dating for 3 months when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared to tell him, but he was so supportive, and he ended up absolutely ecstatic about it once we'd both been reassured about some things. We're engaged now, and things are going great.
But, that's the problem.
I think things are too good, and that once the baby is born that things might fall apart. I really want to talk to him about this, but I don't know how to approach it.
Any help is more than appreciated.
Thanks for your time. (link)
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People like to scare expectant parents.
I don't know why, but they do.
"You'll never get any sleep, ever again."
"Say goodbye to sex."
"Look forward to being broke for the rest of your life."
"Babies kill romance."
It just goes on and on. Well, here's a piece of advice from a parent: don't believe them. Your lives WILL be different, and there will be things that you'll have less of. But love, and romance, don't have to be one of them.
The best way to talk about it, is to TALK to him about it. You're engaged. You're having a baby together. You really need to be able to talk; believe me, that will be a HUGE asset after the baby is born! So sit down with him, and talk about your worries. Try not to let the conversation dwell on just the scariest possibilities, but don't be afraid to look at everything that's bothering you.
You might want to make a pact with him: set aside some special time for just the two of you, every week. Let someone from your families look after the baby for a few hours, and spend some time together. That's vital to keeping a marriage happy and successful.
You might also want to consider trading off weekend mornings. Sometimes everyone needs a break, a little alone time, so perhaps you could both work out a deal where he gets to sleep a couple of hours late one morning, and you get to sleep in the other morning. Or not sleep; that time should be your own, for you to do whatever you want to do.
Together time, and "me" time, are both really important. That's easy to forget after a baby is born.
I wish you the best of luck. And just so you know: having a baby is the most incredible thing in the world. Six months from now, you won't BELIEVE how empty your pre-baby life seems to you.
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Thank you, so much. What you said put me more at ease, and it's ever so appreciated. Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you.
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