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Okay, well I made a promise not to lose my virginity before I got married. Not only did I promise myself, but I promised my friend (let say his name is Mark). So.. I found this guy I'm totally heels over head with (lets say his name is Anthony). I fell for this guy, and within the first 3 months, we became intimate. This was back in September. We're still together, and going strong, but we do have sex. I know I broke that promise to myself, but my friend had JUST found out (months later) and now like thinks I'm so stupid, and that I hurt him and blah blah blah. Cuz he's my "best friend", and yeah if you can't tell, he likes me ALOT. And I feel like I've let him down. I love Anthony, I don't regret having sex with him, and I'll keep having it. But how do I tell Mark that he needs to move on, and that it's my own life. Please give me good answers, I'll give good ratings!! (link)
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"But how do I tell Mark that he needs to move on, and that it's my own life."
You could just tell him that, you know.
There's no way that you're not going to hurt him. There's no way to let him down easy. If he likes you, if he has a crush on you, if he's in love with you, there is NO WAY to say "I'm going to keep sleeping with somebody else, no matter how you feel" and not hurt him really badly.
But that's life. He'll survive. He has my sympathy, because I've been through the same thing, pretty much, but there's really nothing you can do to make it any easier on him. Just make your position clear, so as not to give him any false hope. And if you notice that you and he can't be friends any more - that is, if he's obviously still in love with you - then you need to talk to him about it, tell him you can't be friends with him any more (and why), wish him good luck, and say goodbye.
And please don't tell him that he'll find some other girl or anything like that. It might be true (probably is), but that's probably the last thing in the world he'd want to hear from you.
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Rating: 5
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thank you so so sooooo much ! ! your advice helped me alot ! !
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