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I really want to find the right guy (link)
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I'm sorry that you were assaulted.
Online dating services are a good place to meet people. That way you can find out if your personalities are compatible before you have to deal with phsyical issues. Generally I recommend trying two different services simultaneously; one that's focused on your favorite hobby or area of interest (there are services for almost any category you can imagine, from Star Trek fans to spelunkers), and a more general one in order to cast a wider net.
I found my wife through Match.com, so I can recommend them. Just don't spend too much money. And make sure to go in with your eyes open; unfortunately some people do lie online, just like in the real world.
Never put yourself in a position where you don't have an out. The first few real-world dates should always be in a very public place, and stay there. Resist the urge to have sex early in the relationship; there's nothing wrong with premarital sex (as least, I don't think so), but if you get physical too early it tends to reduce the chance for a successful relationship.
I wish you the best of luck.
Followup: Since you're underage, you can pretty much ignore the advice about premarital sex. You'll be happier if you wait. As for dating...if you're not comfortable with dating sites (and I suspect that most of them won't accept underage members), you might just want to try online areas where you can meet people who share your interests. Otherwise, I'm sorry, but there's no easy way to change what people think about you.
It's not fair, but that's how it is. Do your best to ignore them, and lead your life as YOU want to. Focusing on schoolwork will help, and it will give you more options when the time comes for you to leave home.
You probably already know this, but after an experience like the one you went through, it would probably be a good idea to talk to a therapist.
I hope you find the love that you deserve.
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