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I really want to find the right guy<3
A sweet, good looking, romantic, that I can talk to about anything.
I feel like I have lost all my chances with guys because I was sexualy asaulted but everyone thinks I did it by choice<3 all guys think im a slut here. what can I do to find a right guy for me? One that will love me like i deserve to be.
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Here's a 17 year old's answer.
1.)Don't dress slutty.
2.)Don't use too much eye shadow.
3.)Don't have strange piercings.
All three will make you look like someone who's out for sex, or 'naughty.'
Other than that, be 'nice.' Good guys like nice girls. It might take many tries, but the right one will come along soon enough.
Also, date some nerds. Date the innocent ones who want a real relationship.
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don't rush love. you seem like a teenager, if you are, you have plenty PLENTY of time. don't worry about it. someone will come. you want someone who wants you back. he will come soon enough :)
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Well I dont know how old you are, but you could try to get a job and meet a guy there, or you could join a church group or something simmilar, depending on your religon. Or if you are old enough you can join some kind of dating service. Good luck
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The right guy will come along at the right time. And when you find him, you will know it.
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
- Carl Jung
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I am very sorry you were asaulted.
But this will make you a stronger dater you will not be easy to take advantage of.
Anyway just keep your eyes open to every possibilty. If there's a nice, sweet guy in your school just start talking to him. If he thinks you are a slut tell him what really happened. Also if there are new kids it's always good to get to know them. You can start off with a clean slate like that and find someone truly amazing.
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the right guy for you will understand what happened. if a guy calls you a slut, he is definitely not the right guy for you. try not to look so hard. if a guy's interested in you, look into it, but dont try too hard. he'll come around when the time's right. hope i helped!
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im terribly sorry. you're a very strong person.
keep hangin on. don't change yourself to fit what other's want. if you keep yourself available the right guy will come to you. ignore the rumors because when that guy does come he was obviously ignoring them as well.
stay strong :)
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Sorry that happened to you. What doesn't kills us can only make us stronger.
The right guy wouldn't care about the rumors. He should want you for you and not what others say.
You can't really do any certain thing to find the right guy. Just be yourself. Don't change yourself for anyone.
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aww sweety im terribly sorry you were assaulted.
Look, the right guy who is sweet,caring,..everything you want could be anywhere! Thats the beauty of life! You dont know who you will meet,bump into, or notice! Just be yourself and who knows when a great guy will come along.
I'll give you a personal example on how you just never know when you will bump into an amazing guy :
You know of myspace im assuming? Well awhile back i added this guy from a couple towns over..and i figured..just a "pointless myspace friend" ..you know, the ones you never talk to or anything..they are just on your friends list.
Months went by..and one day i posted a bulliten complaining how bored i am and stuff..and what do ya know?! The 'pointless myspace friend' responded to it ..and we got talking..and wow he is great! we wound up hanging out and we are going to hang out again!
So you see, you just nevver know how or who you will meet and when..its one of the beauties of life!
Be yourself! you desserve to be loved..and you will find that ..but you mustttt
-be yourself
- keep your eyes open
-be friendly
maybe at basketball games or somethin you will meet someone from a different schoool..or if you and a group of friends aree out at the movies ..get flirty with a group of guys
*keep me updated ..i hope i helped!*
<3 melissa <3
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I'm sorry that you were assaulted.
Online dating services are a good place to meet people. That way you can find out if your personalities are compatible before you have to deal with phsyical issues. Generally I recommend trying two different services simultaneously; one that's focused on your favorite hobby or area of interest (there are services for almost any category you can imagine, from Star Trek fans to spelunkers), and a more general one in order to cast a wider net.
I found my wife through Match.com, so I can recommend them. Just don't spend too much money. And make sure to go in with your eyes open; unfortunately some people do lie online, just like in the real world.
Never put yourself in a position where you don't have an out. The first few real-world dates should always be in a very public place, and stay there. Resist the urge to have sex early in the relationship; there's nothing wrong with premarital sex (as least, I don't think so), but if you get physical too early it tends to reduce the chance for a successful relationship.
I wish you the best of luck.
Followup: Since you're underage, you can pretty much ignore the advice about premarital sex. You'll be happier if you wait. As for dating...if you're not comfortable with dating sites (and I suspect that most of them won't accept underage members), you might just want to try online areas where you can meet people who share your interests. Otherwise, I'm sorry, but there's no easy way to change what people think about you.
It's not fair, but that's how it is. Do your best to ignore them, and lead your life as YOU want to. Focusing on schoolwork will help, and it will give you more options when the time comes for you to leave home.
You probably already know this, but after an experience like the one you went through, it would probably be a good idea to talk to a therapist.
I hope you find the love that you deserve.
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