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A male friend of mine that I've been hoping that one day will become more than friends with me was having a conversation with me one day. We were watching a Dr. Phil show about dead beat parents. I started telling my friend how I would raise my kids if I ever had them one day. My friend was listening intently and seemed to be really interested in what I had to say. Well after this he said to me "so when are you having these kids"? I got a little embarrassed and then told him that I hadn't thought about it (although I had, with HIM being the father) and said that I just knew I would be a great father. Then he said in a really quiet but sweet voice "yes, you would make a great mother some day".
Do you think this may mean he's interested in me as more than a friend, and may be contemplating having a family with me someday? He would make a great father, he's so good with kids.
Oh yeah, I am 28 and he is 45. We've both never had children.
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It's quite possible. The odds are good that a straight 45-year-old man would be interested in a 28-year-old woman, as long as she was reasonably attractive. That doesn't necessarily mean marriage and children, but it does sound as if you two are friends...which is a good first step.
But as a man who became a father at an older age, let me say this: it's really a good idea not to wait. Personally, I wish that I'd started having kids at age 30 or earlier.
In any case, may I suggest that you think about talking to him directly about this? If he's made it to 45 without getting married, it's possible that he's very shy. If you wait for him to get up his nerve and approach you, romantically, you may BOTH be past childbearing years. So why not think of romantic-type events that you could invite him to? Ask him to a concert, some sort of music that you both like. Ask him to go with you to a mildly romantic movie, if he's willing.
It's also a good idea to consider just outright asking him if he'd like to go on a date! The worst he can say is "no", after all, and if he's really not interested in you that way, it would be much better for you to learn that as quickly as possible. That way you can give yourself the time you'll need to get over him, and move on - so that you, at least, can have children.
And of course, there's a good chance that he'll say "yes".
Some men aren't good at expressing romantic interest. He may just need your help.
(By the way, having children is more wonderful than you can imagine.)
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Rating: 5
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thanks for the great advice, it really helps. I think you're right about him shy!
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