Male/17
Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
First, I want to mention that I'm a 22 year old female, I thought I was in love when I was 17 for a few years, but after we broke up, I realized that I was just dreaming about the first month, and was denying the truth.
Anyway... I believe that it's possible for someone to be in love, yet the two people break up.
There seems to be so much divorce right now because people do not want to try.
People are lazy, if there is a problem, then they dont' try to fix it, they just throw it away and get a new one.
People need to realize that nothing comes easy, not even love. Two people may love each other, but that doesn't mean that everything will be perfect for their entire lives.
I also think that many people say they are in love, when they really aren't. Perhaps they are settling, or, as is the answer with most teens... they just don't know enough to realize that it isn't love. Most teens fall in love with one of their first relationships because it's the best thing they have AT THIS POINT. That doesn't always say a lot. I thought I was in love before because the guy seemed perfect, he had his quirks, but he SEEMED perfect for me.
I know now that he was far from it, but I had to get some more experiences in life in order to realize that.
Some people may find someone to love when they are teens, but they are usually too immature to know how to deal with it. Like I said, everything takes time, and effort to keep forever. You can't expect to be able to know how to deal with that kind of thing when your a teen.
Some people are lucky. I know people who have been together since teen years, now in their fifty's, and they still cuddle and flirt with each other.
But, that doesn't often happen.
It can go both ways, as you've said. Adults and teens can mistaken lust for love. I also think that adults and teens can both throw away love simply because they didn't want to try at it.
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Good explianation. It does seem that people don't want to try to make relationships last. It would be very nice if someone were to stay with their highschool sweetheart. Those old couples... that's what I call "true, romantic love"!
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