I went to a private school until this year and everyone was pretty religious and conservative.
Now I go to public school and I have a LOT of more socially liberal friends that I get along with better in a lot of ways. At private school, I was the "weird one." Now I'm not. At all.
Sometimes I can hang out with my old buddies and it's fun, but then a topic like homosexuality comes up and I'm surrounded by people who disagree with me.
I just feel like I'm being pulled in different directions by people who want different things from me.
I miss my old friends, I love them, I grew up with them, but I feel like I'm just too different to really be that close now. I don't know how I can balance my new and old friends, not really time-wise, but in my own mind.
Please help. People who do not write in complete sentences need not answer. If all you have to say is "balance your time," forget it. If you had read, you'd have realized it wasnt about that at all.
Thank you.
It's ok to dissagree with your friends. I dissagree with a lot of friends and even my close family members on things like religion and sexuality. I have a very liberal, non religious view about most things, and my roommates, and best friends are very religious and somewhat conservative. We have a lot of interesting conversations.
The conversations have gotten pretty involved, but never actually moved into arguments. Your old buddies need to respect your opinion, but you also need to respect theirs. Basically, at times, your going to have to agree to disagree.
It's nice to hear different opinions and views on different subjects. You've been the "weird one" before. Is that really a bad thing? Now you have the option of being the weird one and also being part of the majority.
Perhaps talking to your old friends about this would help. Just talk to them about how your views are different, but it doesn't need to change your friendship with them.
ya know.. something like that.
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It's not just that we have differing opinions. It feels like I've changed a LOT, and I'm not the same person I was when I was with them.
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