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I have been called a hoe and a prostitute because my two sisters been having sex since 13. I'm thinking about just having sex to get back at them. I'm still a virgin tho but I'm ready to get back at them and I feel that's the only way.. (link)
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If you did that you'd be doing the same exact thing you despise them for doing. Don't copy their mistakes. By not doing this people won't be able to judge you based on their antics and bad choices.
By having sex really young you set yourself up for a lot of problems much less being picked on for what they've done. Sex should never be random, to prove a point or for revenge etc. By having sex now without a good reason is getting back at nobody.
How do you get back at them? Simple, lead by example among your friends and don't have sex until ready which is not right now. Be the opposite of them and you'll get the respect you want from people. Anyone who judges you based on them without ever speaking to you is an idiot. You have to take that into consideration.
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Im 18/f. Me nad my boyfriend have been together for like a year and a half. We are going away to college next fall, but to different colleges. we plan to stay together. i just started on the birth control pills and im really stressed out because of grades and colleges and about me and my boyfriend being apart, and ive been having bad mood swings. my boyfirend gets really mad at me about them and snaps at me and we get into fights over them but i cant help it. when im stressed im always a little on edge and the hormones are too much, and i cant control them. what should i do? please help (link)
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See your doctor PRONTO about ALL of these symptoms. They prescribed it so they will know what to do in response to what you tell them. Don't rely just on what we tell you alone.
A doctor is the only person who can lower your dosages, change meds or get you off of any pills causing these reactions that aren't normal without inviting more trouble.
Here's what bothers me and scares me that nobody brought up. The mood swings have lasted a year and are extremely severe. You've only been on BC for four of those 12 months. My hunch and it's a pretty good one is that it's not the pills.
It may be something far more different that you need to see a doctor for. You might have a mood disorder that hasn't been diagnosed that is causing all of this and could become far worse the longer you leave it unchecked. If you can't control them that suggests it's not the pills as no matter the symptoms or hormones BC pills don't do this to the extent you mentioned.
If I were you I would visit an emergency room and ask to be assessed and give them the information you gave us as trust me none of this is normal for the pills or for you and have them sort it out and place you on medication to control the mood swings.
The problem is that those mood swings if unchecked and trigger of a mood disorder can progress to severe depression and or delusional behavior or bipolar disorder. Whatever, they are they aren't normal. And yes this is considered an emergency room issue as those moods and what the pills are or aren't doing can lead to a crisis. Go tonight and get checked out.
Stress is normal unless it becomes far too much to handle and affects you adversely. All of this is controlling and ruining your life so you have to get immediate medical attention for it to avoid serious problems. They'll get you off the pills no problem but I think your problem with mood swings isn't hormonal. Boyfriend is right you need medical help regardless to fix this.
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OK so recently my mom decided to give me the sex talk because she saw a text from my boyfriend saying 'i want you so bad right now.XP'. we were talking bout sex but he told me he didn't want to force me into anything and told me he wanted to marry me and would wait till then. were both 13. he\'s 4 months younger than me. so a week or two ago he went to Georgia for football camp for a whole year and they don't allow phones. so.. i cant talk to him or see him for a whole year (link)
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If you have bad acne see a dermatologist or a family doctor for a prescription cream that literally burns it off and keeps it from appearing again. You don't need birth control pills for that or a parent's involvement.
I'm not aware of many gynecologists that would put someone 13-years-old on them for a variety of reasons. I'm positive they would do something if severe cramps were causing a huge problem. But they aren't and it's best never to lie to a doctor about any aspect of your care and reason to be there.
Your mother knows you are a level-headed kid and probably believes you at your word. Indicate that you have NO desire to have sex at all but heard the pills helped bad acne and menstrual cramps. Ask her opinion. If you can't talk to her about it how the hell can you talk to the doctor or take a examination of your reproductive system which is a requirement?
This is girl stuff and believe me mom knows all about it and was there before you and made mistakes. Just ask you won't get in trouble.
I don't know how old you have to be for Nuva Ring but ask the doctor. It's actually good because it's not a pill you have to take at the exact same time daily or mess up and get pregnant (later on if sex happens when older). It's a monthly thing that tucks into the vagina and comes out. Less to worry over. Talk to her and jot me/us a note about how you handled this in the end.
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so im really really insanely horny....like seriously. i need help i want it sooo bad. but im underage, so i need the best masturbation techniques. i have an electric toothbrush, but it only gets me so far. and i cum in my bathtub but only sooo much (link)
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This is the type of question we can't answer on this site. We can't provide how-to instructions on anything remotely sexual. Having said that you can find just about anything on the Internet if you are so inclined.
Even if you did get answers from this site each girl/guy is different and what one enjoys another won't.
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Heres whats up----
First before i write anything tell me not to do it i wont listen so dont bother.
Me and my two friends are planning on sneakign out of the hous up the street to a guy friends house and sleeping over..How do we get away with it?thats all im askin (link)
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Why did you bother to ask if you KNEW people would tell you it wasn't a good idea or something you refuse to listen to or see? That's sounding incredibly immature and brat like.
We're not here to help people deceive their parents nor encourage them to. If looking for that kind of advice Advicenators isn't the place.
You're NOT thinking straight. What if they find you gone from your room at night and can't find a soul who knows where you are? It's conceivable they would think you're missing and start calling around or even to the cops. I bet you never thought of that either.
What's to say you aren't taken advantage of sexually? Even if something was planned (which sounds like your reason for doing this btw) lack of birth control and or getting pregnant still exists as does assault or a situation you can't handle.
When you sleep at his place he's more or less in control of the situation as you're alone unless these two friends are present. It's NOT where you should be alone at night if you're meant to be asleep in your own bed.
Why if you're doing nothing more than hanging out can you not do so at your place or his at normal hours? There's an alterior motive in play here other than hanging out. What's at his place late at night that's attracted you to being there?
There will be people who will post their way of deceiving their parents and sneaking out but it will not help. Even if you aren't caught now you will later and can lose their trust permanently. I bet you never thought of being reported missing or them thinking of that. Not a good idea.
Believe me if the police are sent out to try and find you if your friends/family don't know who you're with you better know that it's not going to turn out well for you or them when found. In fact, besides your parents to deal with you may have to deal with the cops over mischief and wasting their time. THINK.
You really posted this question because there was that nagging voice trying to override your decision to go for it. Listen to what sounds right rather than your pals on thi
All you're thinking about is yourself and what I think is a predetermined notion to sleep with said guy and sneak out to do it. As for your friends they've got their own motives for what they do but like you, if they're missing or doing what you are doing all 4 of you could have a lot to deal with as adults always find out. It's not a good situation at all.
Like I said, if the three of you have legit reasons to hang out with certain guy than don't sneak out. See him during normal hours at a party, your house and where people can depend on you to be.
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I'm not friends with these two girls I use to be. I still feel hatred at both of them, looking back at how they severely bullied me down and just back stabbed me. I know hate is not the answer, and I know I can and never will be even ever to look at either of them again. But is there a way to get it off my mind and find a state in not feeling "hate" towards them? (link)
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Let it go. Just like that let it go. The only person this is hurting is YOU. It's tearing you up and they aren't feeling a shred of it or concerned with this "hate" No matter what they did in the past is it worth letting it tear you apart still?
Trust me they didn't give a shit about bullying you then or the aftermath. As hard as that is to see that they don't care about you the hate justified or not that you still feel. They've moved on and that's WONDERFUL for you as they don't deserve your friendship or time.
They're still kicking your ass though mentally, emotionally, physically by you holding on to all that hate. Think of it this way it's like drinking an entire tub of liquid Draino and poisoning yourself every second you continue to hate.
Believe me it has that affect on your insides and health with worry, destructive thinking and ultimately ulcers and other things will show up health wise as hate destroys the person who is doing it if you allow it to.
I'm of the opinion that if you can't let go of this that you need psychiatric counseling to move forward as this after a while is no longer a normal way to be acting. Most people move on instantly or not soon after. This isn't a knock against you but you have to wake up and see where this outlook and state of being puts you and not them. Something's not right if you can't toss the hate, anger, worry, feeling ill etc by it.
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soo, if my boyfriend had a wet spot on his jeans (could have been pre cum or ejaculation, i think it was ejaculation] and i had jeans on but i was straddling him and that was around december 19, could have been earlier or later, and now its january 23.. could i be pregnant?? i feel like im getting bigger (like getting a stomach) like i cannot be pregnant from MAKING OUT. i will honestly die. or kill myself honestly. like, after i had my period on the 3rd (of this month i think.. i spotted for about a week after that) im freaking out. ive never spotted before, but i have long periods. my parents would kill me. im only 17. help me? (link)
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Scientifically impossible. It would have to go through his underwear, jeans and then your jeans and underwear to enter a vagina to have a shot at making you pregnant. It can't. You're fine.
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Okay my school is having a talent show so four of my friends and i are going to do a dance in it. We did one last year too and we got 1st place but we started practicing like five months before it was held. And this year we cant get that head start. And we all cant decide on the same songs. HELP US!!!!! (link)
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Don't do what you did last year. Wow them with something different. Can any of you reasonably carry a tune?
If so, I would meet with the organizers (teachers) and tell them you need an arrangement of a song that people know but wouldn't expect to have song and choreography from kids for. Have them help you pick one and come up with easy to handle dance moves. Then sing and dance your way to first.
Next have the teachers set up risers, work on lighting with them (basics) and become your own group. As long as someone can do lead you don't have to be great singers (just able to listen and blend) to pull off a song and dance moves. And no it won't take 5 months to do. A week or two can get you one number.
Ask if your teachers can get a drum machine to help you write a drum track for said song and do it a-cappella. It's not hard if you rely on teachers at school to help you enter and do what you want to pull off. Choreography needs to be simple but look complicated to the untrained eye. You can do it again just make it easier to practice in a short window of time.
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My wife and I recently can home from out to dinner and found my 14 year old son and his 14 year old girl friend in the family room on the floor having sex. To be honest we did not come in on them for about 5 minutes because we went straight to our room and kept hearing "something" and finally went out and there they were completly naked and had obviously been active for at least all of the time we were there - and for a while before. There were two used condoms on the floor and my son was using a third.
Yes they stopped when we came and. We told them to get dressed and clean up. We called his girl friends parents and discussed the situation with them. They said that they had been having safe sex for six months. She too is on the pill while he uses a condom. I am ashamed to say they are more careful then his mother and I were when we were young. They are good kids and do have a happy healthy relationship together (without the sex). We do not want them having sex at such a young age but we are not sure if putting up an "iron curtain" between the two of them is the answer - the girl friends parents agree too. We can use some advice.
Thanks
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Tell them what you would have wanted your parents to do if they had caught you. It's not much different except that they were being careful and are using birth control.
Tell them you don't approve of it and the reasons why but that you won't harp on it and that you'd prefer it under your roof and safe than not. It's better they do it safe and under your roof than not and be safe.
It looks like his girlfriend's parents know more than you do about it and have handled it with them so I would forego a lecture but teach them something about privacy though. Who knows who else could have walked in etc.
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Last year for junior prom i went to junior prom with my friends even though i didnt want to and i didnt like it that much considering i didnt want to do i was dateless and i get extremely annoyed with people at my school. This year I really want a date but its hard considering I am tall african american girl who likes tall black guys . theres not a lot of tall guys and im not close with anyone that i would want to go to prom with. Theres one kid i met and hes a freshman in college about an hr away. I really like him and i know he likes me but idk how...i mean we talk once in a while he will chat me but our conversations are general. when we hang out which we only have a few times we get along he makes me laugh and we hook up nothing like sex though. i was wondering if i should ask him? and ive only hung out with him twice...so how many more times should i hang out with him? and i dont want him to think its weird im asking him to my prom, and i dont want to seem desperate...please help! (link)
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Why not ask him? All he can say is NO. Make sure he isn't seeing someone else before asking. Tell him about the dance and problems at school and that you wanted to go there with someone you could at least have fun with. It sounds like a good idea to me. Worry about logistics when you get to that point.
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After Masturbating, The Next Day Is Your Stomach Supposed To Hurt? Cause You Come Like three times? lol I Know, Kinda Random.
&&& Yes Im A Girl
Thanks.
xoxo, Cassidy (link)
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The FACT is you can do it until your arms fall off and it can't physically hurt you. It doesn't have any connection to your stomach or what's going on throughout your body post sessions.
You have an issue with your stomach but it's not caused by this. Think really, really hard and try to figure out if you feel these pains at any other time or cramps at any other time. If so, look into it. The amount of time you climax also wouldn't have anything to do with your stomach as your vagina isn't connected to that ;)
It may have something to do with needing to go to the washroom. Have you been holding urine in during the time you mention? That will give you a lot of pains.
Do you have any trouble with bowel movements? If so there's the problem and the solution with the last one is more fibre and bran flakes or metamusal. It's absolutely not your apendix if anyone mentions that as you'd KNOW for sure.
I'm not sure what this is, sorry but do know for 100% sure you can rule masturbation out as the cause.
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I was wondering if it is rape if you get fingered by a guy even if you tell him not too? because i was making out with my b/f (im a female) ands I kept on saying no "bobby" no and then he started to breathe hard and the look in his eye was evil. I was scared and I am still scared to go near a guy or even 2 hug a guy. I broke up with him even though I thought I loved him. so my 2 questions are
1.Is this considered rape/sexual assault
2.Did I do the right thing by breaking up with him (link)
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ADDITIONAL: Age doesn't matter here. Would you hide the fact a 50-year-old man touched you or assaulted you regardless or maybe even a same aged person. The ACT they did is still to be punished for and you'll be the LAST person your parents will ever direct blame.
Whether he's 19 and you're 16 or if he's older than that doesn't fucking matter excuse my language. You have to tell and make sure he never has opportunity to do it to another girl perhaps even younger than you. Guys like this keep doing it and I bet he's been doing it too long. Tell your parents--it's the only choice.
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It's an unwanted sexual assault provided you said NO and was in no way did you give consent. The answer to #2 is obvious.
You should tell your parents even if embarrassed that this guy forced this on you and you said NO. Let the adults handle what happens to him. He's got a problem and likely did this or still does to other girls who say NO to that and far worse. You know that there's secrets you shouldn't keep from adults and this is one of them.
If you're scared of him and guys in general than you'll be needed some kind of counseling (professional not one of these school types) to work through what happened and empower yourself so you aren't forever victimized by it.
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For the first time my bf asked me to finger myself to (entertain him and I've neva fingered myself so had no idea what I was doing) i used 2 fingers and it didn't hurt but got a strange feeling(sensation)
Then afterwards there was a lot of blood on my fingers and also later on it hurt to sit and walk and at first I thought it I had cut myself cause my fingers were long but when he got me 2 do it again later it happnd again.and it was close to my period is it possible it culd of triggered my period? Or jst cut myself cause I jst did anything had no idea wat to do. and I have already had sex before and neva bleed.culd it be infection? (link)
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You didn't describe exactly what the sensation was like. Strange can mean a lot of things. Masturbation has absolutely no adverse affect on your body nor can it cause menstruation.
What took place is likely your hymen stretching and or tearing which can cause such sensation and the small amount of blood that you describe. If you use pads and not tampons this is likely why it hasn't happened before now.
It's not an infection either. Fingering doesn't have to involve penetration either. It can involve only clitoral stimulation or whatever you feel comfortable with but should never be painful. Like I stated above, I'm sure that's what you felt and had happen.
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Well at the beginning of the year me and my friend liked the same guy so me and some kids from school went out to eat and he was there so my friend likes to seduce people...i went to go get something to drink and when i came back they were KISSING!!! Now i feel like i can't trust her. How can i stop holding a grudge against her about this situation?Also everyone including her brother,sister, and cousin told her that she was wrong for doing that to me (link)
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Is your friendship worth losing over something so trivial? If the answer is anything other than NO you can bet it wasn't stable to begin with. Talk with her about your feelings and why you feel like you do.
Maybe she wasn't aware that you liked him or was dared to. It doesn't matter if GOD told her she was wrong or not much less your friends. It has to come from you and you need to work it out for yourself with her.
If she and the guy moved on long ago than move on as it's not going to help you to fight about it now. Anger is like drinking a bottle of liquid bleach every time you become that way. It hurts you inside and NOT her.
Let go of it. You're like a monkey with its hand stuck in a jar of honey unwilling to let go of his fist to get his hand out. This isn't worth fuming about any longer. Either talk to her or forget about it and move on.
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my cat is a 13 year old female, blue point persian, indoor only (couldnt have fleas/earmites)
the other day, my cats head began to twitch to the left when she walked and sat, even when she slept a little. if i touched above her left eye it would make the twitching act up. she acted normal besides that (ate, walked around, jumped up on the bed) it lasted for about 2 hours on and off, then it hasnt happened since.
i looked it up on the internet and it said that it could be a neurological problem, thats common in older cats. also, could the fact that my cats vet said that she had a 'stopped up colon ?' (ive been giving her some metamucil to help.) also she has a little gingivitis.
is she okay since it hasnt happened since? what could be the cause of her twitching? it there something i can do to help her myself? (i cant afford lots of vet bills i have a baby coming) (link)
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Animals if they have ear infections or allergies to something new often shake their heads like this. It's a futile attempt in some of them to shake lose wax etc. and anything irritating them. Look into that and prescription cream from a vet.
Indoor animal or not they do get such problems and could be an allergy if you switched food, bedding or anything else.
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i currently do mixed martial arts and im a green belt. at the place i go to they do all types mixed together so it takes extra long iv ben at it for almost a year and im at the fourth belt. i love it but i really want to practice mainly on just jiu jitsu or kung fu classes. is there places that do specificly one or thoes two types, and how can i find a place nearby or could there be a gym or something with classes, i looked online and in a phonebook but i dont really know what to look for.. i know i want to learn specific jiujitsu or kungfu though and it needs to be closeish. so any help? also which is better type to try. i like jumps, kicks and defenses. 15/f (link)
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Go with Brazilian Jui-Jitsu or kickboxing. National Geographic measured the power in kicks and punches for boxing, karate, kickboxing, Taekwondo, Kung Fu recently and found that the majority of kicks and punches for Taekwondo and Kung Fu were extremely weak.
Furthermore, students don't spar as much as they should or at all to simulate real life. Jui-Jitsu taught by Brazilians is the best place to train as you need kicks, blocks, punches and the ability to grapple in almost all real-life scenarios. Kickboxing is also good for almost everything but grappling.
Where do you find these places? The Internet may help with names of dojos in your area, as will the phone book. Asking people you know at school who take it may help too.
Jumps are mainly used as a distraction and not for power most of the time. Those kicks are pretty easy to do if you have martial arts training and not as awe inspiring as they look. Belts should take a long time to earn.
If they don't at your club they're mainly issuing them to get more money by moving you up. Then you go to another dojo and see you don't know shit to be honest. Be careful in where you sign up. Have a list of questions and criteria and if they can't answer them or own up to it than go elsewhere.
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Also, they should give you a few free classes usually 3-4 to see if you can do this before signing you up. If they won't do as much than move on and find a better club.
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i was having sex yesterday and before i didnt have the feeling to pee but a little bit after i was feeling like i had to pee and i was like controling my self so i didnt end up peeing on my self after we where done having sex i didnt feel like i had to pee until an hour later so i just wanna know why i had that feeling even thought i didnt have to pee until a while later (link)
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It may be the bladder issue the poster said below but it could be something else. Do you feel the need to pee and push down? If so this is actually a sign of G-spot orgasm and imminent release of fluid (about a liter)
It might just be this or an uncomfortable feeling related to bladder. Even if you did urinate during sex it's not the end of the world by a long shot. Stuff happens and I'm sure your partner would be mature enough to know it. It's either pressure on your bladder or what I mentioned.
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what is the best diet to loose like 10 pounds on?
its quick, lets you actually eat, and no need for exericise?
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First of all let's be sure that you actually need to lose that weight in the first place. You may think you need to lose 10 pounds but your weight right now may be healthy for your height. That's how it is determined.
You should Google a BMI chart to determine that. If you do need to lose the weight consult a doctor for advise and get a referred to a nutritionist or dietitian who can give you a proper meal plan and monitor your progress. There's no diet that I've ever heard of that doesn't require some exercise to keep the pounds off permanently.
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i have a cable box that gives me basic cable, plus the movie channels & music. for some reason the past two days it has been messed up. but we have the same box for the other two TVs in the house that and theyre perfectly normal. im pretty sure we have comcast.
it basically just will play then stop for like 3-4 seconds, then start again where its live. ive tried unpluggin everythin, leavin the TV off, changin channels. nothin works !
please help ! how can i fix this ? :( (link)
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It's probably a faulty box that your cable provider can exchange for you if you're renting. Their boxes are horribly made and always breakdown eventually and more frequently with PVR. Find out who your provider is and get them to issue you a new one.
Tell them what is going on and see if they have a solution other than swapping a new box for your broken one.
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My Boyfriend of 4 months and I just had sex for the first time. Although this was my first time ever, it wasn't his, he's been with other girls of all shapes and sizes. He's very confident in his... sexual abilities. Anyway, we tried it a couple different times, and he just could not hold an erection. He said Its the first time that's ever happened to him, and he didn't know why he couldn't cum. He kept reassuring me that it wasn't me, and that he was interested, but he just couldn't stay hard. I Don't know of any other reasons why this problem would occur if he's done it so much before. is there anything I could do, or are there any other reasons why this could be happening? Thanks guys..
Sincerly, First time Failure. (link)
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Has he recently been kicked or suffered a blow to the groin? This is important because if he had it may be affecting his ability to achieve an erection easily.
Also, there could be something physically causing this and allowing blood to escape his penis instead of a valve shutting it off. Either way he should see a urologist to check things out.
As a temporary measure you can go to any condom shop, adult novelty shop and purchase a ring that slides over the penis right to the base that traps blood in it until sex is finished.
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