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Q: im 13/f and my breasts have been hurting lately i dont know why. i have a 38c bra size...what do u thinks the matter

Well you might be starting your period soon because thats what happens to girls before they start their period. Their boobs hurt..or it means their growing.

Q: 15/F/F
okay so i was going out with this guy and he was a year older then me and we live in the same neighborhood but go to diff schools and we were sooo perfect for each other...but then he cheated on me soo i broke up with him even tho i liked himmm sooooo much and he still liked me a lot to ..((he didnt wanna break up i did ))soo then after we broke up he tryed to ask me out again but i said no cause it would be way to weird so we stoped talking and now about 2 months later he likes me again and today he said he wnats to tlak to me about sumthing and i havent talked to him in like 1 or 2 months soo im guessing he likes me again soo what should i do bacuse i still really like him but all my friends will get mad at me that i took him back i dont know what to do ..help ..thanks6

Dont go out with him. You need to move on..find new guys. He cheated on you once, theres a chance he'll cheat on you again. No girl deserves to be cheated on..and you taking him back will make him think like "Oh I'll cheat on her again, and then everything will be fine because she took me back last time" you know? dont do it..just be friends!

Q: I've been with this guy for 3 years and were really close and I am ready to have sex. So is he. My parents know what we are planning on doing and they don't really care. We are going to use a condom and everything, I just wanted to know if it hurts or what it feels like. Also do u think I'm too young? 13/f.

You are so young! Your probably not physically and emotionally ready to deal with sex. And the fact that your parents know, and dont care..is kinda weird. Condoms dont always work..What if you get pregnant? You have your whole life ahead of you and theres plenty of times when you can have sex. But 13 is too young, wait a few years! Yes it does hurt, and many girls I know say they cried because it hurt so much. The first time you only feel pain..no joy. So yeah it does hurt! Hope I helped!

Q: K well anyways I have had this b/f for 2 months and Its internet, thoug I've knew him almost a year... anyways My Friend, her b/f and myself are planning to drive down to where he lives, which is about 30 minutes to an hour away from me... but I know my rents would not go for it if they knew I was going to meet him... so Should I go on and go and just tell them Im going shopping with my best friend for a party or something or tell them the truth and try and convince them o let me go? If I should tell them Im going shopping with My buddy... I need a good excuse to go out of town...
Thankz
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You said you know this guy and have known him for a year. Have you even met him? If you have never met him..You dont know who he is! So no, going to visit him is not a good idea!! But if you dont care what we say, I suggest meeting him in an open, public space..with lots of people. And your friends with you too. Just tell your parents your going shopping, and really do go shopping.

Q: Hey everyone, this is fabolouzxkay8. I have some spywares on my computer and my virus scan can't delete them. Like in some questions, there are a few words underlined like "My family" or like "Curly hair". Also, in my column, there is spyware on that too and I delete it from my profile settings but it comes back. I know not to click on them but is there any way I can remove them? Thanks

Thats what I had too! It was soo annoying...go to My Computer, then add-remove programs..and delete stuff you think that is making your comp get spyware..Try that out, it worked for me!

Q: okay hurr it goes i went out with this guy over the summer for like a month and a half and i truley believed i loved him then he cheated on meh and broke up with me for my best friend. Well they are broken up now but i still love this guy but he hates me now n i really dnt know why but i kant get him out of my mind i love him sooo muchh and i want to be back in his arms sooo bad wut should i do?

It takes time, but you need to move on. Focus on liking other guys at your school and stuff. You'll be over him soon..Just takes time!

Q: Okay me and my best friend whitney love to sing we sing all the time but we've never sang in public or anything. we wrote a song one night and we made a tune to it and we sing it all the time now we sang it to our moms and they loved it my mom started crying and we really think that its a good song. We're really scared of what people might think of us we, sing really good and stuff but maybe other people won't think so we really want to become singers. we don't know what to do though like where to go to or anything.
please help im sorry its long. (btw we live in west virginia) thank you! =] I rate.

You should sing the song in your school talent show, or sing at partys..You gotta get your voice out there:D

Q: Hi, my problem is this. I'am a 21 year old female from Australia. I've worked in numerous jobs ranging from a Hardware to a Chemist and at the moment i work at my local supermarket. At the moment i'am studying medical administration but i dislike it very much. I can't seem to hold down a job because i still don't know what to do for a future career. I dislike studying but i don't want to let my family down. Time is running out, financially i'am really poor and concerned about my future. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

The link I'm going to give you is a quiz, called "Right Job, Wrong Job" I took it just for fun..and it told me the job that was perfect me would be detective work stuff. Well suprisingly, Thats what I want to be. So it does work!

http://web.tickle.com/tests/rightjob/index.jsp
It gives you free information on what you want to be, and you can buy a full report but yeah..if it wont let you take the quiz..try creating an account. hope I helped

Q: I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...

Go out with him. Who cares what your mom thinks. All that matters is that you like eachother..race shouldent seperate you two. Hope I helped!

Q: my 2 friends (boy and a girl) r being all stupid about how we r to young to be wearin thongs and we all ask them to stop talkin about it and then dont they just keep on talkin it is so annoyin were 13 and we dont need it can u tell us wut to do
- the girls

Tell them to shut up you can do what you want.

Q: well ok i have a friend thats a gay guy and i know it wrong that i hang out with him juts to make my crush mad!!but i think its fun bc we check out guys together and and we even shop together!! is this soooo wrong??????

No its not wrong. Having a gay guy friend would be so much fun. Like you said, checking out guys and shopping haha. Nothings wrong with that.

Q: okay...well on wednesday i went to church with my boyfriend..well not really we went to his friends house that is right across the street ...and he told his dad he was goin to church...his dad happened to drive by and saw him out of church..he made him leave so i just hung out with my bf's friends..and he called my cell when he got home n he didnt talk 2 me..i was like wats the point of callin you kno? well finally he was like WELL ILL JUST LET U GO HAVE FUN WITH THEM...and he hung up..the next day he called n apologized....he was like "im sry its just that i dont c u alot and i was mad at my dad for making me leave u" i was like its arite...well on friday we planned to do somethin today..saturday...and he called me n changed the plans to goin to c a movie @ 6....he sed hed call me back with the information lyke wat theater n movie we wer gonna c...he sed this @ 12 30 today....AND HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK!...i cleaned to get money n erything....and i cancelled everthing i had goin ontoday to c him...and he never called...and then friday (yesterday) he sed he was in trouble from wat happened on wednesday so he couldnt do nothin or go nowhere....but i called him later that nite...AND HE WAS GONE! i called like 2 times n his parents wer like o no hes not here hes gone for the nite...idk wats up with him....wat do u think i shuld do...im really mad about the movie thing....=\

Aww sorry. You should just call him later and ask him what happend. Maybe theres a good excuse..dont be mad until you know everything. And save that money maybe for sunday? Or maybe next weekend. I hope I helped.

Q: can a 18 year old get in trouble for dating a 13 year old?

Yeah, if they do anything like sex..or if police catch you makin out in a car at night or somethin..then it wouldent be good

Q: Okay well i told one of my ex bf that i loved him like in the end of the converstion and hung up before he said anything now today when we were chattig i told him that my brothers were making fun of him and he got all tough boy like and he never acts that way ad what not.he began cussing and he know that i hate when he cusses.so i told him ill stop talking to him and then he was like okay bye.so now we arn't talking and it sucks. i miss him and he seems like he doesnt even care about me should i just let it go i dunno!help

Just call him and leave a message and say sorry..He probably does still like you but doesnt like when you say not to cuss.

Q: Alrite i know acting doesnt go along with music but you see, ive always wanted to be a singer...always been my dream acting is also another dream of mine...does anybody know how to get recognized by people within the music biz?? If it means anything I live in Tennessee and also near nashville but i dont want to sing country just not me! any suggestions?? :0\

I suggest singing a few songs on a good recorder, and put it on a tape. Then send it to record lables such as Jive Records, Geffen, etc. Good luck!

Q: There's this guy in my last period class of the day tha i use to like. He's very good looking but i don't like him like him because i dont wanna lyk sum1 for there looks cuz thats wrong. I wanna start to get to him but im to afraid to talk to him. I had an incounter with him but nothing speical he juss let me go first while walking down a asile and i was very cool about it which suprised me. Im a very shy person when it comes to good looking guys cuz im afraid i'll come off as ugly or annoying so i usually feel lyk im being annoying. I dont think i can approach him but there's prolly no other way to get to know him...If you have an idea of how i should then what should i do?

In class, if there is a book or something right next to him..be like "Hey can you get me that book please" Or "can I borrow a pencil" and then just be like "by the way I'm (name).." and then yea!

Q: oK: sO i'M 16 fEmAle... aNd i know its super bad.. but i have been smoking for about 3 weeks now. like once/twice a day and i was just wondering about 4 months ago i had a sports physical.. and for one of the questions they asked me if i smoked.. and i said no because at the time i didnt... but if i were 2 get another physical/doctors appt. again.... and they asked me if i smoked would they be able to tell if i did? and if i answered yes... would my parents find out? and please dont give answers like: u shouldnt smoke! because thats not my question!sOrrY sO lOnG! LoL! pLeaSe dOn'T dElEtE tHis! i RaTe eVeRy1! (wELL!) tHaNx iN adVanCe

No they cant tell. But I do think they ask you that because when you run or whatever you cant breathe as well as other people. Because you smoke..so Just brush your teeth a lot alot! And chew gum, or have a mint after you smoke

Q: this boy and i meet 1 year and 2 months ago at a cabin and i live in minnesota and he lives in a driffrent state and we talk all of the time on the phone and internet.he asked me out and i said yes and i dont know if its the right thing because we havent seen each other for awhile what do u think is it the right thing to do since i like him and he obviously likes me???

You should go for it. If you both like eachother the distance wont matter. But long distance relationships are toughys :D..but yeah do what you want.

Q: What age do you consider to be old enough to have a baby. Not like.. "when you feel you are ready" or anything like that.. i mean like.. 16.. 20..

how old do you think someone should be before they have a baby?