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I've been with this guy for 3 years and were really close and I am ready to have sex. So is he. My parents know what we are planning on doing and they don't really care. We are going to use a condom and everything, I just wanted to know if it hurts or what it feels like. Also do u think I'm too young? 13/f.
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I think you are waaaaaaaaay too young!! I mean what would happen if you were to get pregnant?! Just think about it before you do anything stupid
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hey! i havent had sex yet, but i think that if you guys have been going out for 3 years and you're 13, then its pretty serious. i dont know hold he is, but you gota know that if something goes wrong, like if the condom breaks, you might end up pregnant. now, i knwo that you gota be relaxed and confident when you ahve sex to be able to have a good time. i dont know what it feels like, since i'm still a virgin. if your parents dont care about you ahving sex, then try talking to them about what it feels like. in my opinion, 13 is a pretty young age to have sex, but if you really really feel like your relationship with him is going to last for a long long while, then follow your heart. if you have anymore questions, hit me up on aim, peace and love, have fun!
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Three years? Whoa. *Claps* That deserves applause. Your parents...*shakes head* I suppose that's good for you, though. I wish my parents didn't care...Lol.
Okay, I won't say you're too young based only on your age because I don't know you. Age is a state of mind, not being, and I stand firmly by that opinion. If you're mentally, emotionally, and physically ready to handle all the risks of having sex with this guy, I say go for it.
Now I have to do my whole shpiel...At the risk of sounding old fashioned, I want to suggest to you that you make sure this guy is "the one". I honestly think sex is the ultimate expression of love that should only be shared with one person. Think it over carefully. If you had sex, and then broke up for some weird reason (unlikely, I know, but still, consider it), how would you feel? Would you feel used? I would. I'd wanna kill my guy if that happened.
It's good that you're planning to use a condom, but realize that condoms are only 97% effective. If you were on birth control, the effectiveness increases to about 99%. (Which is another reason to consider this carefully. If you got pregnant, what would this guy do? Would he sit next to you and hold your hand while you explained to your parents what happened?)
Also, make sure this is something you really want, and not something he's pushing you into.
Lessee...as far as your "does it hurt/what does it feel like" question...be warned, it DOES hurt most people the first time. If you're a little stretched out (chances are this is a no, as you're only 13), it hurts less. Like, if you use tampons, you get more stretched out. If not (this was my situation), be prepared for pain. It also depends on how big the guy is. If he's big, and you're small...baaaaaaad combination. BAAAAAAAD combination. Lol. Once you get past the pain...it's interesting. Chances are, you'll see. ^_^
I hope this helped!
-Siren =)
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Yes, I think you are way too young. Why? The younger you have sex, the higher your chances of developing cervical cancer. You'll also have to make an appointment with a gyno and plan on having pelvic exams every year; you'll also need birth control in addition to a condom. Your age might cause problems with certain forms of birth control.
What else? The stress of wondering if you are pregnant is huge; it doesn't matter if you are the most careful person in the world, you'll still be counting the days until your period comes. And due to your age, your period might not be regular yet which will only add to the stress.
Sex also complicates relationships. Some of that is due to the stress of pregnancy worries, some due to the overwhelming bit of being so committed to someone at so young an age.
Basically, it's totally up to you. Just think realistically about all the possible complications and try to plan ahead. Sex will hurt the first few times you have sex, for example, so make sure you feel completely ready and possibly have lubrication on hand. Make sure your boyfriend has practiced and knows how to put a condom on.
Be aware that what you expect out of sex and what it will be like at first are two different things.
Finally, I can pretty much offer you an ironclad guarantee that you will not be with this boy forever. If you are someone who only wants to have sex with the person they will marry, don't do it.
Your personality isn't even fully formed until your mid-twenties, so it's impossible to know who you will end up with, let alone who you will become, at your age.
Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but you asked.:) Good luck with everything.
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aww how effing sweet. three years?? damn when did you start dating when u were a toddler? true love??? haha i'll bet you've already blown him b/c you looooove him "So" much. you guys are messed up. hah you want to know what it feels like? well go have sex and find out. well go ahead. do it, get AIDS, and die you loose kid. oh and if you get pregnant don't worry you'll die. b/c your body isn't capable of handling a baby. your waste is too small and fragile. you are such a sad kid.
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Youve been dating since you were 10? Well heres my advice.
DONT HAVE SEX
You are two young, I dont care how mature you are. Youve only been around 13 years. Even if you use a condom you could still get pregnant. Are you really ready for a baby? Is your body ready for a baby? I dont think so. You still have alot of good times ahead of you. Dont mess your life up already.
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Hold up...your parents know that you and your guy are planning to have sex, and they're OKAY with it? That in itself is crazy. But, my opinion, you are way too young. You will regret it later on.
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You are so young! Your probably not physically and emotionally ready to deal with sex. And the fact that your parents know, and dont care..is kinda weird. Condoms dont always work..What if you get pregnant? You have your whole life ahead of you and theres plenty of times when you can have sex. But 13 is too young, wait a few years! Yes it does hurt, and many girls I know say they cried because it hurt so much. The first time you only feel pain..no joy. So yeah it does hurt! Hope I helped!
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Though I may be sounding old fashioned her, sex should be something special, shared between to mature adult individuals who are fully aware of the consequences surrounding the topic.
You are only 13 and you have the rest of your life to experience the joys of sexual intercourse. There is no need to rush into anything you might end up regretting in the future.
I cannot stop you from having sex, but just remember. For every action there is a reaction and consequence.
Think about ur descison carefully and consider all the pros and cons of the situation. Once you have had sex, you cannot back.
Good Luck
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Yes, you are too young but since you have been with your boyfriend for about 3 years, I think you should have sex with him. You are so lucky that your parents approve that you can have sex at this age!! It's also good to know that you are using protection. And yes, it does hurt a lot. If you didn't pop your cherry, than it's gonna hurt because you are tight "down there" if you never had sex before. Hope I helped and good luck with everything sweetie!! :)
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WOW, i think you are to young to have sex when your only 13. and i wouldnt know how it would feel like
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