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ok tihs may sound stupid but what is an orgasim

This could have easily been Googled.

"An orgasm is a very enjoyable release of built-up tension and energy. Orgasms are different for everyone, making them difficult to define. Some people describe the sensation as a tingle, whereas others describe explosive feelings all over the body."

hey; there are these 2 songs that i want to know the names of
they're both in the supermac18 video "the song movie" on youtube.
the first one goes
"i wanted to be like you
i wanted everything
so i tried to
to be like you
but i got swept away"
and the second one goes
"do you know what its like
when its so wrong but it feels so right
nothing in this world can stop us tonight
i can do it she can do it so much better?"
or something like that.
if anyonne knows what either are called it would be greatly appreciated! ((:

First is:
Michelle Branch. "All you wanted"
http://www.lyrics007.com/Michelle%20Branch%20Lyrics/All%20You%20Wanted%20Lyrics.html

Second is:
Paris Hilton. "Stop us tonight"
http://www.lyricsandsongs.com/song/689927.html

Next time, for any lyrics queries, Google will have them ALL. :)

any one who wants to answer please do i need to find out what she thinks about me b4 its to late

Signs a girl likes you are:
Smiling, eye contact, talking to you, laughing at your jokes, gestures such as touching you without really needing a reason and maybe flicking her hair.
It all depends on the person. There's lots of flirting techniques.
I think you should be brave and ask her, or tell her you like her. It's the only DEFINITE way to know, because at the end of the day, some people are just very flirty and friendly without meaning to be.
I'm sure there will be more here:

Apparently red lipstick is the shade this winter. I always follow the make up must-haves but im really stuck on this one. My skin tone is about kelly rowlands or june sarpongs and my lips are full. What shade of red would you recommend?? I live in london by the way...
thanx xxx

Personally, I think darker reds will look lovely. Also, terracotta and plums if you want other colour varieties.
It's all about experimenting. and test them before you buy them! :)

Sometimes when i masturbate 4 times a day i feel tired & feel drained out...what is the solution not to get exhausted?

Cut down. 4 times a day is rather alot. Or find a different method which isn't so vigorous.
You didn't say whether you're male or female, so look for new techniques which aren't tiresome.

On Myyearbook.com i posted on a confession that i was a virgin, and the website said this is potentially innapropriate content, your profile may be deleted and the police may be contacted. the website says they contact the police on pornography and violent threats, do you think the police will be contacted??

PS, i didnt use my real email, or name, location, and i deleted my account right after that message.

Absolutely not. If they look into it, they will see your confession was innocent and not exactly breaking the rules.
It did say "potentially innapropriate" - that doesn't mean it is - just could be.
They have to take these precautions.
Don't worry!

ok me and him like eachother but hes talking about this do you think hes trying to make me jealous? i didnt really get jealous but is he? we were talking on aim and this is the convo:

him you know this 1 vietnamese girl keeps flirting with me
him: kick her butt
me: hahah
me: what the heck
me: no
me: ahhaha
me: vietnamese girl
me: hahaha
him:yeah she keep massaging me and stuff
me: hahahah
me: haha
me: how does it feel
him: its cool shes good
him: better than u
him: haha
me: =]
him: HAHAHA
me: ahhaha
him: hey
him: !
me: yes
me ?
him: you suck....
me: what?
me: how
me: i didnt do anything
him :exactly

what does it mean when i said"i didnt do anything? and he said exactly?

In short:
Yes, it seems like he's trying to make you jealous. It also sounds like he wanted you to have a better reaction to someone flirting with him.
Looks like he's trying to aggravate you so you give him more attention all round, too. :)

ok so my friends having this problem with her bf and here is her question.........

ok so theres this guy who asked me out, and i just couldnt say no because hes like really really sweet and he did it in person, not through a friend...but the problem is that i dont like him...only as a friend, so now i have a bf that i dont like and the guy i really do like just now started to talk to me and flirt with me...so the problem is that i dont know what to do about my bf...like how to tell him that i only like him as a friend, but i really dont want to hurt his feelings, cuz i know he'll be totally heartbroken...what do i do???????

sorry that was kinda long lol

Break up with him as soon as possible, because the longer you leave it, the more hurt he will be.
If you are definitely sure you only like him as a friend and want to go through with the break up, you need to do it in person. Not the cowardly ways like txt, over the phone, email etc.
Just be honest and humble. No matter what you say, he will be hurt, but at least he will know and be able to get back to his old self given time.
Take him to a quiet place and explain you don't want to take it further because you just see him as a friend. Tell him thankyou for the times you did get to share with him though. and if he'd like to remain friends.
Very best of luck.

my boyfriend is kind of picky, and im worried about giving head for the first time to him. HELPPPP!!!!

We can't give you information on how to give head, you will need to do the research part yourself:

Now, remember, if you feel pressured into doing it, don't. Noone's making you.
If you genuinely WANT to, the only advice I can give you if you're worried, is to suck it and see. If you aren't a fan, don't carry on. :)

my girlfriend and i were having unprotected sex, but i pulled out before i came. i washed my penis and peed after, and then we did it again, but i was wondering if there could be any left on my penis from the first time that i came, which would make her pregnant

PLEASE dont give me crap about "you can get pregnant from precum" because it's completely untrue, anybody with google could tell:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0922.html
http://www.corporatemofo.com/stories/021201inandout.htm
http://www.idsnews.com/news/story.aspx?id=33698&comview=1
condoms = 3%
pulling out = 4%

if that's not enough evidence maybe a government website can convince you:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=12762415&query_hl=9&itool=pubmed_docsum

im not an idiot i did research before we did it

please just answer my question and none of the crap about precum because that's what i got on the other advice websites

Pulling out is a very inaccurate method of birth control.
Looks like you need to do more research.

"No, precum itself does not contain sperm, but be careful when you're APPROACHING ejaculation. Precum is not only a lubricant and a cleaner, but also a nutrient-rich medium for the sperm to swim in that they eat as they travel towards the egg. Because of this, it DOES mix with the sperm right before ejaculation, and it is possible for this mixture to leak out as precum would."

and there are MANY more sites with info like this.

Now, it might not be common, but it can happen.
Don't forget it only takes ONE to get a girl pregnant.
Now, in answer to your question, you washed your penis, so fair enough, there would be no sperm left if you did it thoroughly, but who's to say you didn't accidentally leak as you came close to orgasm? What if there was sperm left over in your urethra even if you did urinate?
What's stopping you from using more effective methods? Nothing. So do it in future.
In your case, the chances of pregnancy is probably slim to none. You might not be so lucky next time. You may not be able to control yourself or you could get caught up in the moment.
If you do happen to get into this situation again and have an "accident" so to speak, there's a morning after pill for a reason.

P.S. You must have some form of doubt, otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question. You would have stuck to what you researched, right? Protected sex will make it better, because you won't be worried about pulling out etc.

Sorry for the long answer with stuff you said you didn't want to hear. I just want you to be safe and have a more enjoyable experience without the worry.

well i really like this guy and he really likes me b ack but i cant date him till next year. He has a girlfriend who he is always around so i can never talk to him. Plus, on myspace and msn his name is like I love her so much talking about his girlfriend and it says like i really hope we stay together for a long time, so what is up with him? what do i do?

He has a girlfriend. If he liked you, he would be with YOU. Not her. Do yourself a massive favour and just keep away from him. He is an idiot. Nothing more.
Find someone who actually wants to be with you - and not make you wait for when their relationship turns sour.
You know it makes sense - even if you don't want to believe it.
I hope you make the right decision.

Whats the difference between whoring someone and a train??

I read one thing and it said "please do not put [SP] in your name unless you are on the train."

So whats the difference?
thanks

xx

A train is being part of the group and your picture is in the bulletin for example. I'm sure you've seen lots of bulletins with random people from the group under headings such as "riders" and "VIP". So basically, it's like a rank depending on how "good" you are and when you joined.
You have to apply to be on the train, and if the owners think you're "good enough" you get to be in it.
whoring someone is when someone posts bulletins telling people to add you. There are also whore trains and various websites you can join to get friends.

I really really like this guy. I thought he liked me too, but just recently he got a new gf... How do you go after someone who has a gf? do you just wait to see how their relationship goes, move on... what? please help

Move on, move on, move on.
If he liked you, you would be his girlfriend. Not someone else. It's just not nice to try and ruin someone's relationship. You wouldn't like it if it happened to you.

Ok at Wal-Mart, I bought 'Sally Hansen- Hair Remover Wax Strip Kit'

is it ok if i wax my arms?

If that's what you want, then yes.
Test a patch first.
P.S, the hair doesn't grow back thicker and courser. I did it once to prove waxing didn't hurt much years ago. :)

what are some ways to make my eyes look sharp ..not all smudgey?

Use a liquid eyeliner. It's better for sharp/defined eyes and you can add lots of detail. Keep the pencil for smokey eyes.

http://www.style.com/slideshows/fashionshows/F2005RTW/CHANEL/DETAILS/00370f.jpg
http://www.maybellinenewyork.ca/caeng/includes/l29l30l41l212l606_model.jpg
http://www.ilovemakeup.com.au/images/liquid_eyeliner/christina%201.jpg

Anyone know what's the code for one of those window opening scroll down thingies? Like something like the 'pick a category' section on Advicenators when your asking a question except the text inside it is a couple of things about you.

http://www.myspace-help.com/Learning/Drop_Down_Menu.php

Is this what you're after?

Go here for more basic html codes:
http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=tutorials§ion=basichtml

ok i babysit this little girl shes 3 and when its close for her to go to bed she starts crying because she misses her mom what do i do.

Just comfort her. Say her mum will be back very soon and in the mean time, play with her and ask her what she wants to do. When it comes to bed time and if she's still upset, stay with her until she falls asleep. It's normal for this to happen to kids that age - it happens with my nephew, so we normally do things to take his mind of it, and make him laugh etc. It will get easier. :)

ok. i play club volleyball all year around ... but at m school basketball tryouts i flew into the wall to get the ball and hurt my hand real bad. now the bottome of my hand is swollen adn bruised and you can feel something is worng. what should i do. i don't mind missing basktball but my voleyball ...i can't mis... i mean i want to go to college.... =(

Go to the hospital as soon as you can.
It could just be a bad bruise, or strain, but if it's broken, you will definitely need medical attention. Don't be afraid, the sooner you get checked, the quicker you will be able to play Volleyball.
For now, apply ice to reduce the swelling and be careful not to bang it etc.

ok i need help! ok so like ive been noticing my hair has been falling out alot lately. like i will brush it and sometimes it seems like just lots of pieces will come out, way more then usual. why is that? could it be because i straighten my hair? or like am i not eating right or something? please help me because im getting kind of sick of this! and kinda worried...

thanks!

It's normal to lose up to 100 hairs a day. If you think about it, it's quite a lot. and it can be caused through straightening, yes.
There are many reasons for hair loss, such as:
Stress, underactive/overactive thyroid, hormonal imbalances, birth control pills, too tight hair styles, alopecia, etc. If you think you may be losing more hair than is average, talk to your doctor to rule out any problems.
Have a look at this:
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/tools/symptom/501.html
There will be lots more information here:

my boyfriend used to scratch my back and bite me a LOT during sex, i loved it!...but now, he barely does it. though when he does, it's extra hott, but i've tried telling him he should do it more, but i think in-the-moment, he forgets. plus i'm always on top so it makes it a bit hard to bite my neck. i'm VERY into vampiric sex, and he's into whatever i'm into basically. i just need to know a way to get him to do it more often. we are also out of ideas on new things to try. new positions, new ANYTHING. what all is there to do that makes for hott sex?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_positions
Here's a list of sex positions with how to's and pictures. Try toys/bondage/sensation lube/whatever you're into. It's not hard to spice things up a little.
As for the biting/scratching dilemma, hopefully you'll be able to find a good position which makes it easy for him to do those things to you. Why doesn't he go on top for a change. Or put your back to him so you're in a spoon position. He can bite your neck easily then.
Just practice different ways. Trial and error as well as fun.
P.S, have you ever considered asking your boyfriend what he wants to do? He may even be fed up of the biting etc. Talk to him. and good luck with it.

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