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he doesn't bite n scratch anymore, and now sex is getting bo
my boyfriend used to scratch my back and bite me a LOT during sex, i loved it!...but now, he barely does it. though when he does, it's extra hott, but i've tried telling him he should do it more, but i think in-the-moment, he forgets. plus i'm always on top so it makes it a bit hard to bite my neck. i'm VERY into vampiric sex, and he's into whatever i'm into basically. i just need to know a way to get him to do it more often. we are also out of ideas on new things to try. new positions, new ANYTHING. what all is there to do that makes for hott sex?
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If your man used to do those things alot but has slowed down with it, maybe he was concerned that you would be bored with the same old thing. The scratching and biting does make for great sex but it doesn't call for it at all times. Maybe your man realizes that and likes to give you different feelings during each encounter you have.
Maybe by him not doing those same old things, he is actually giving you more. That is definitely makes for hotter sex. You can anticipate what he has in store for you next but since you do like for him to do those things, try this...
While you two are in the moment, whisper to him, really close in his ear, exactly what you want him to do to you. It will excite him and please you. If at any time you want him to touch you in a way and he is just missing all the cues, feel free to gently grab his hands and place them where you want them to be.
Another idea, since you like it wild, dont be on top so much, try standing. If you are flexible, standing can lead into many positions even a sitting or laying position and it's not as restrictive as being on top.
Always having open communications will always lead to great sex also. Hope some of these ideas help you and you find a way to enjoy every experience to the fullest.
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I deffiently think you shoudl ask him what he likes. what hes into and what his fantcys are. role playing can always help that.. taking a small break from sex can help get that spice back. try things you normally wouldnt try and maybe the idea doesnt exactly turn you on.. but maybe trying them does..
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I humbly suggest that your problem might be something else...
"He's into whatever I'm into" is a great line. A lot of guys and girls say it, and to an extent, they probably even mean it. They want to please thier partner.
BUT if a someone stops doing something they know you really like, maybe you should re-examine thier level of interest in your kinks.
The best advice I can give you is to ASK him what he is into and encourage him to speak to about sex openly, without worrying about what you might like for a moment, so that you will get a real idea what he would like to be doing in bed.
He might be a as bored as you. He might also have some great ideas of what would get you both going agian. The best 'new' ideas could come from him.
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Here's a list of sex positions with how to's and pictures. Try toys/bondage/sensation lube/whatever you're into. It's not hard to spice things up a little.
As for the biting/scratching dilemma, hopefully you'll be able to find a good position which makes it easy for him to do those things to you. Why doesn't he go on top for a change. Or put your back to him so you're in a spoon position. He can bite your neck easily then.
Just practice different ways. Trial and error as well as fun.
P.S, have you ever considered asking your boyfriend what he wants to do? He may even be fed up of the biting etc. Talk to him. and good luck with it.
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