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Q: i went to this ballroom dance and it was so much fun! So far I learned the waltz, and the polka. But i was wondering if there was something that could teach me about how to like breakdance or something? I know this is so sad, but-- ive never danced before. no hip hop, jazz, anything.
Generally, a dance studio will have it. Look up Dance instruction in your telephone book, and call each to find out if they have breakdance lessons.

Q: can someone help me reword this so i can understand it better:

"We are examining the role of steady state chemical weathering on Earth"
We are studying how chemicals whether the earth at steady state.

Q: should i carry a purse to a homecoming dance tonight?
No. There is no need for it other than fashion, and with the amount of people there, odds are it will be stolen. Just bring yourself.

Q: okay..lately i have been into cutting and i have been for awhile but lately i have been a lot and i can't help it,it's helping me feel better but it's hard to hide it because i don't want anyone to know so i was woundering if anyone's know's what else i could do..i've tried writting and using rubber bands upon my wrist but that didn't work that well
Cutting is a physical addiction. Now, you may immediately think me insane for saying that, but please hear me out. There is a reason why pain disappears. It's morphine. Your body makes morphine every time you feel pain. And, like all drugs, it becomes highly addicting if used in high doses. That's what happens with cutting. That is the good feeling you get, and why it feels good.
However, drugs such as morphine cannot be controlled by using less of it. The rubber band does not work for that specific reason. It's a little of a drug, and that makes you crave more. Writing alone will not cure you either, as it will do nothing to the addiction.
All you need to do to get away from cutting is to stop. Yes, that's saying so little. Let me explain. You stop, just for 1 day. Yes, it is hard to do. Now, whenever you feel like you are going to cut, THAT is when you use the alternatives. I hear a lot of people complaining that alternatives don't work. Alternatives don't work if you use them alone to heal you. They do work in emergency situation. I don't know when you cut, but sadness is calmed with a bath, anger is through punching something (Inanimate, please. :P), and a desire to see blood is calmed by taking a red pen and drawing all over yourself.
Reward yourself the next day. That may be by baking and eating a cake, or by going shopping. Anything non-cut related that makes you happy. Oh, and if you are thinking "Eat cake! No way, that'll put 20 pounds on me!", listen. Weight is secondary in all cutting cases. Cutting is physically dangerous at immediate levels. Weight gain is not. I'd favor breaking the habit.
Then, tell someone. Be it a friend (Friends tend to not be too good, as they rarely understand), a teacher, an adult, your parents (Yeah right...), or even your sister, they'll listen. It'll get a lot off your chest, and ask them to help you.
Then, find a group of people to support your every emergency. That's us here. :) We'll answer all questions. At least I will when it concerns cutting.
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Q: i like this boy what do i do (13) and he's (14) i rate 5's
Treat him like anybody else you would be in love with. Plenty of relationships happen throughout age barriers, and most come because the two treat each other as equals. Besides, one year is not much of a difference. 8-10 is the most I've seen.

Q: hello my name is ally and i am 23 and married for last 4 month.
i would like to know if a women does not gets her mensuration (monthly periods)in any of the month then how many days does it takes to know her that she is pregnant.....n whats is the measure to confirm that she is pregnant.

thanks
There is no set time to find out if you are. Missing a period is only the first sign. If that happens, and you have had sex after your last period, you go to the drug store and buy a pregnacy test. These are 99.9% effective, and will find out if you are with no harm to the baby. But, the only error proof way to find out is to go to the doctor.

Q: I was using my other phone line and I wanted to pretend I was calling someone. So i thought i dialed the same number as that line i did that about 4 times and hung up. I know it was stupid. The person called back I apologized and explained I dialed the wrong number. I am scared will they be able to find me?
Possibly. The person may have caller ID, which would possibly identify you. It depends if you gave it out or not. But, since they have your number, they can use that to trace you if they really wanted.

Q: I was wondering if you call someone on the phone it rings once and you hang up with no one picking up will you get charged? Your answer will help me soo much :)
I don't believe so. I think it is only if the end user talks or if you talk to an answering machine. That's with long distance, anyways. It will cost you a cell phone minute.

Q: How old do you think you should be for it to be okay for you to start dating? I need a lot of opionions !! all ages!! please in your answer put how old you are because i really need a lot of different point of views...
thanks soo much

xox
16/m. I think that a person can start dating at 13, when they have some aspect to what it is, but 15 is when real dating begins. 13-14 is puppy dog love, 15 is when real relationships should begin.

Q: Have you ever died and woke up to think you are alive?
Rarely. But if you feel that way, you are wrong, for you are alive.

Q: Same thing kinda....if you smoke weed, then doesn't it lead to like coke, and heroin? And all those club drugs? I've beenn partying a lot lately, and I've noticed afterwards, I was drunk or high, with out realzing it! I'm only 13.(going on 30...lol).. and I'm already in the world of sex and drugs! Wait, not sex...not yet at least. But if I keep this up, how will that affect me later on? I knew the answer, but I keep forgetting things!!! It's so frustrating. But I can't stop. It's like going to work without clothes on. You need clothes. I need drugs! But I wanna stop. But I can't! See what I mean? I'M A NUT JOB! And I've noticed I'm paranoid...so, yeah.. You can try and answer. but you don't have to.
It is a gateway drug, and often leads to much worse drugs. You'd be best to get off it. Yeah, easily done.
Like Alchohal, you need to admit that you have a problem. Find a drug rehab program near you, and attend sessions. The will tell you what to do.
This may invovle telling your parents, but you have to do this if you want to recover. You cannot do this alone. It'll help you get away from that.

Q: ok so i have been thinking of what i wanted to do. I was in a doctors office and i saw this lady come in who was looking very cute in her out fit and i was checking out her car and it was a nice BMW. So i asked my mom who she was and she said that she was a pharmaceutical sales rep. Well i have been thinking and medicine is intresting and the human body is fun for me to learn about! So i was wondering exactly what they do! And how much do they get paid, thank you soo much! i rate easy 5s!
Pharmasists fill out prescriptions and attempt to create new ones. They make $100,000, usually at base salary. Sales reps go around trying to get companies to buy and supply their product. That's in sales, usually around $50,000 base salary.

Q: how can i get my pennsylvania babysitting licence
Call the nearest chapter of Red Cross (Find it a www.redcross.org, I think...), and go in for babysitter's training.

Q: How far can you drive a car after the empty light comes on? I have a rental car that I am not suppose to refule. I have 1/8 of a tank and have 40+ miles to go today.
It should be able to make it. Assuming 1/8 is 4 gallons, that means you need a car that gets 10 miles/gallon. 2 gallons, it is 20 miles a gallon. Easy rates. You'll barely make it, but will make it.

Q: hey one of my best friends recently told me that he liked me and i like him too and we always tell each other evrything and we always stay up talking so anyways he told me he liked me and i like him too! but he is my best friends boyfriend and he told me before he told me he liked me that he was gonna breakup with her and now he's telling me he wants to go out with me and so do i but i mean if we go out my best friend will hate me! what should i do??
Just tell him to wait for about 2 months. That is enough time for your best friend to get over the shock. After that, go out with him, and your friend, if she is your friend, will accept it as is. That way, it doesn't seem like you stole him from her.

Q: I'm 13/f in the 8th grade.


Why do boys always beat each other up? Every morning, there's always at least two boys beating each other up in the hallway or by the lockers. For example, this morning this guy stole another guy's backpack and tied a piece of twine to it, letting it swing over the balcony. The kid who owned the backpack got really angry, and the one who stole the backpack jumped on top of him and tried to throttle him. Why does this happen? Is it hormones, or are the boys in our school just really violent?
Yes, it is hormones, and it is also male socialogy. Males tend to be more physical when dealing with problems, yet are a bit more dim-witted (Unbiased view, I AM a male), so the just try to hurt the other person through pain. Girls tend to do the same thing, just they hurt the other emotionally by refusing to talk to them for a REALLY long time.
It's normal, it's just hormones.

Q: Hey I'm doing a school project thats due tomm. for math, and we have to make an If, then statement. We have to get a slogan from a store or restaurant or something, but I cannot think of anything!! Here's an example the teacher gave: If you eat Subway, then you eat fresh.

Can someone give me some slogans and places and such? You wont be doing my project our anything because we have to do alot of other things to the slogan, but I just need a slogan to start out with! Gracias!
I'm loving it. :) If you eat Mcdonalds, than you will be loving it. Or If you play EA Sports, you are in the game.
I hope this works. Few suggestions that I can think of now...

Q: ok some kid that i used to be friends with now i am not he got my phone number and he calls my house acting alll stupid and curses also i dont want my parents picking up and him curseing at them cause i wont be grounded for like ever.. what can i do to make him stop calling i rate 5s
Have a tape recorder, and call him. Tell him to stop calling you, and record it. Tell him you'll press charges of harrassment if he doesn't. Then if he does call you, record it. That's enough to take him to court.

Q: If Roberta gives Tony $5, they will have the same amount of money. If Roberta Gives Tony $5 she will have twice as much money as he will have. How much money does each have??


can anyone help me out here? ez 5!!!
Well, let's use Robeta's intial cash as R and Tony's as T.
She give him $5, and they are equal. So, that means the She lose 5 dollars, he gains it. Loses is negative, gains is positive.
R-5=T+5
Then, solve for one variable. I like R, so bring the 5 over.
R=T+10

Then, you have a second equation. I am guessing you mean tony give her $5, for if she gave it to him, there is no solution. So, use the plus minus above, and you get
R+5=T-5
However, it is given the R+5 will be twice of T-5. So,
R+5=2(T-5)
Solve for R
R+5=2T-10
R=2T-15
Then, substitute is T+10 for all Rs, as you found above.
T+10=2T-15
T=25

NOT DONE!
Substitute the 25 in the 1st equation.
R=25+10
R=35

So, T has $25, R has $35

Q: is it normal for a person who is 5/4 5/5 to weight 124
Definately. I weighed that at 5'10, so minus the male part of it, you are fine.

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I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
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