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i want to be with this guy (we both know we like each other) but my friends don't want to see my with him. But i think every one know we want each other.We are mad cool, last year we got tighter than ever.He left for the summer came back.When school started everyone thought we were togeather. i stayed single he dated couple of girls (one of them was my friend) I love him to death he and everyone knows that.I started to call him baby boo. What should i do?I want him but i don't want my friend to me mad at me also.
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talk to your friend. is shouldn't be a big deal if she went out with him knowing that you like him.
also talk to him. that's the only way anything is ever going to happen. maybe he doesn't think you still like him like that.
tell him you still have feelings for him and you want to know if he feels anything back and if he thinks you will ever have a relationship.
if he says no or i don't know..you should probably try to get over him..as hard as that sounds..because he isn't serious.
good luck! if he likes you, everything should work out.
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During 4th period yesterday, my friend, Ryan had my cell and I forgot to get it back from him at the end of class. So he had to keep it and his 5th and 6th periods are football. All the football guys know me so I guess they thought they could mess with my phone and it would be alright. Here's just a few things I found out they did:
1. changed my b/f's name to "cock sucker"
2. took pictures of themselves in the shower (surprisingly enough, I wasn't turned on)
3. sent dirty texts to people
4. changed my dad's name to "do not answer"
5. downloaded all these songs and games
6. i have a "never delete" folder for the texts i want and didn't want to delete and they of course, deleted them! (they claim this one was an accident)
7. and changed the language to German
I was furious with them when I saw my cell. Mostly at Ryan for letting them do it. So, I am not talking to any of them until I figure out if they're worth it or not. Specially Ryan. Now, he claims he is mad at me because I had no right to be mad at him because it wasn't his fault! How immature is that? I don't care that they used up my texts or downloaded stuff that cost money and I don't want them to pay me back or anything but what should I do?
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the downloaded games and stuff..that costs money doesn't it?
ask your friend to ask them to each pitch in a buck for that.
you have a right to be mad because that was very immature..but they were just having fun and when a bunch of guys get together they can often go overboard.
you can't hold a grudge on all of them because..it's not THAT big of a deal..just make sure they know you didn't appreciate it and that they apologize.
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I have lived with my mom since i was born. I don't know my father because my mother and him broke up before i was born. It really bothers me and i have mood swings now. I will be happy but then someone will say something and i get really upset. I have talked to my mom about not knowing my father and how much i really want to meet him but all she says is "he is an asshole and you dont want to meet him" which always leaves my crying myself to sleep. What should i do because i really want to meet him? (link)
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bring it up again..try not to get upset about what she says and just stick to it. tell her that its really important to you and why and that its your decision and your right. assure her that nothing will change between you and her and that you will probably realize that he is an asshole..and that's something you need to do.
someone else said that if he really cared he would come looking for you. that is not always the case. i know this from personal experience.
if she still doesn't let you, you could try finding him yourself. she will probably be upset about it though..so your best bet is to keep talking to her about it at an appropriate time.
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Ok. 13/m. I don't know if this question goes under Families or Work/School Relationships. Sorry it's so long. I'm really worried for my sister (14/f). She just found her first date at school this year. They went to the movies and all. My sister was just sitting there waiting for him to do something. She had her arm on the armrest the whole time waiting for him to hold it or something. She bought Junior Mints "just in case"---didn't use a single one. She could've talked to me. I've been asking and answering Advicenator questions for months now. I pretty much know what's going to happen and the pains she's going to feel. But no. She doesn't like to tell me stuff. Instead, she tells our cousin, who has serious boy problems. Boys rule her life. Her Bat Mitzvah was ruined because her newest ex was there. She couldn't enjoy Avenue Q because one of her exes liked it. She has serious issues. I know that. My parents know that. My sister just doesn't seem to get it, so she talks to her for advice.
My cousin is saying things like "Well, if he doesn't want to hold your hand, he must not be right. Dump him." or "Try rushing him, that usually works for me." I eavesdrop on their conversations because I'm concerned. I want her to listen to me. I've gotten chances to talk to her which I of course took advantage of, but she refuses to understand. She doesn't believe that she'll face hate, jealousy, rejection, etc. I felt most of it first-hand, but as for the parts actually IN the dating, I couldn't get that far. She doesn't think I know enough. Just because I'm younger and haven't actually dated doesn't mean that I haven't felt jealousy and rejection, I haven't been extremely depressed, etc.
How can I get her to listen to me? Thanks.
By the way, don't say to write in a diary. I'm already doing that, but my parents confiscated it last night for writing after dark. (link)
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keep trying to be there for her with advice if shew wants it..but don't force it on her. dating is a learning experience and she apparently has a lot to learn..and she will learn in time. she still has a lot of time to realize the problems with her cousins advice.
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I use "L'Oreal Paris: Wear Infinite" eyeliner. It's a pencil eyeliner. It works really good..like it comes out dark and doesn't hurt when I put it on. But the only problem is, I'll put it on in the morning, and then by the time I get to school it already wore off! My question is: What's a good eyeliner? This one is like $7. & people say NYC eyeliner which is $1 works REALLY good. What do you think? I need an eyeliner that's going to last all day & that's not TERRIBLY expensive..? (link)
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i have NYC too and its awesome. it stays on most of the day if you wear it on the rims..but if you also make sure you spread it so its like in between your eyelashes that stays all day long.
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lately ive been crying alot .... my dad died like 4 years ago.... this guy that i like that french kissed a few times just told me that he only likes me as a friend....my hair was really long and now its up to my shoulders and i hate it..... I think im really ugly but everyone else says im pretty...... im pissed off at my cheerleading coach... my mom is being really bitchy to me..... i wanna loose weight(i weight 105 pounds and im 5'1 i no that doesnt seem like heavy but i have extra fat that i wanna loose)
*****can someone help me with all this like the guy i like how can i get him to like me and what can i do about my extra fat and just give me advice***** (link)
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if everyone says you are pretty..you most likely are. you see yourself everyday so that's why you seem plain to yourself. you also see yourself at your worst. when you look in the mirror, think about the things that you do like about your appearance rather than the things you don't like and can't change.
your hair will grow. don't worry about that. it's different, but it probably looks fine all the same. take a few hours to play around with it and find ways to do it that are different.
your problems with your cheerleading coach will pass, i promise. keep working at cheerleading though..don't let it hurt your performance.
try helping out your mom..if she is a single parent (or even if shes not) then its very stressful. just a few helpful actions a day can change her attitude towards you dramatically.
you are about the same weight and height as me. i know what you mean. we aren't fat, but we aren't toned either. set a goal to do a certain amount of crunches per day..that's what i'm doing. exercise every chance you get. don't cheat on conditioning in cheerleading. try running or instead of sitting around talking with your friends..go for a walk with them..also what i do.
i'm sorry about your dad. i can't even imagine what that must be like. just cherish the memories you have with him and don't try to forget about him..but also don't consume yourself in thinking about his absence. he helped shape who you are today.
as for the guy..i'd say forget about him. i know, i know, INCREDIBLY hard..but do you really want a guy who will kiss you..but doesn't want a relationship? that shows all he cares about. you deserve someone who respects you..and he's out there. it doesn't seem like it..but there are guys out there who actually follow their heart..instead of thinking with their you-know-what..they are just harder to find. believe me, they are worth the wait.
crying is healthy, but you do deserve to feel good about yourself. focus on the positive aspects of your life. keep a journal and write about unimportant things, good things, and bad things instead of only bad things. that helps a lot.
i hope things turn around for you.
if you need more advice..or more specific advice..drop one in my inbox. i like to put time and thought into my answers and i tell the truth only. i put extra effort into questions in my inbox..though i put a ton of effort into this one because i could relate to a lot of it.
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Yes Pills. Me and My two closest friends pop in and outta school. Cough Drops are all we take though. And yes its wrong but we actually are sick and use them just a little more than the suggested dose. I probably take 20 a day for the past week. Is this harmful and should we stop? (link)
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get jolly ranchers instead because those are supposed to be candy.
the cough drops might not be as effective if you take to many.
i don't know that its actually harmful with cough drops..but try not to use as many cause 20 a day is a ton.
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Well my boyfriend of 6 months recently went off to college and things are fine we are working that part out and are for the most part, ok with the distance. But he is always telling me about these "hott chicks" he saw or talked to. He also was telling me of how his roomates ex lets him take naked pictures of her and I replied with a "Well thank you for telling me that, I needed to know (sarcasm)" and he also told me that she was going to come over and strip for them. Then told me that he was joking. I just dont know what to do, or how to approach him about it. I really want this to work but it might put a strain on our relationship if he continues it and GAH its pissing me off!!
Thank you! I will rate high for good answers:D (link)
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wow..what a jerk. i would really tell him how you feel about what he's saying and let him know that you aren't going to put up with it so he should either shape up or lose you. if he is really joking, then fine..but you need to find out if he really is..then that's a whole other problem. he could have just been trying to find your reaction to the truth to decide whether to tell you or not..or he could simply be making things up to get you jealous. i hope i helped..i'm not sure if i did. haha.
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Well my boyfriend of 6 months recently went off to college and things are fine we are working that part out and are for the most part, ok with the distance. But he is always telling me about these "hott chicks" he saw or talked to. He also was telling me of how his roomates ex lets him take naked pictures of her and I replied with a "Well thank you for telling me that, I needed to know (sarcasm)" and he also told me that she was going to come over and strip for them. Then told me that he was joking. I just dont know what to do, or how to approach him about it. I really want this to work but it might put a strain on our relationship if he continues it and GAH its pissing me off!!
Thank you! I will rate high for good answers:D (link)
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wow..what a jerk. i would really tell him how you feel about what he's saying and let him know that you aren't going to put up with it so he should either shape up or lose you. if he is really joking, then fine..but you need to find out if he really is..then that's a whole other problem. he could have just been trying to find your reaction to the truth to decide whether to tell you or not..or he could simply be making things up to get you jealous. i hope i helped..i'm not sure if i did. haha.
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Okay. Me an this gurl have been friends since the 6th grade, and now were freshman. We told each other everything we were like each others other half. Everytime you seen me you seen her. Well last November we went to the mall and to eat an bowling. Well while were there I met this guy that I have been with now for a year next month. An every since about January Mine an the gurls friendship has just broke. We would always get into it. And everytime something happened we blamed each other for it. Well everytime me an her got into it i told drew (my boyfriend) we he started disliking her because she always hurt me. As me an her drifted apart me an Drew got closer an closer. We became *bestfriends* I tell him everything an he tells me everything. Now he doesn't even like when I talk to her because he says shes a bad influence on me. Shes always trying to bring up our old friendship an how she misses it. And of course, I miss it just as much. But Shes not my bestfriend anymore .. Drew is. He knows stuff about me that no one knows. An I kno stuff about him that no one knows. We just so close. And she always brings up how he took me away from her an stuff. And I dunno what to do I wanna be friends with her but I don't think we'll ever be as close as we were. (like vacations together an stuff) And Drew doesn't want me hanging out with her, like going to her house an places. An sometimes when I do he gets like extreamly mad. So I dunno what to do? Ahhhh. Help! (link)
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definitely try to get close to her again..no matter what he says. if he has a problem with it..you should have a problem with him. he is your boyfriend so obviously you are going to be close..but he's not going to be around forever. what happens once you break up? you will have no one. i know this from experience. my best friend was the same way with her boyfriend. i was the only one who knew that after they broke up, she would regret spending all her time with him. i was the only one there for her when she was upset after they broke up. all of her other friendships were extremely weak. be grateful that she still wants to be close to you because later on, you will be glad that she's there.
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i know this is asked a LOT but..
i like this guy. by these few things, does he like me do you think?
-he whispers "(my name) is such a slut!" so i can hear it then im like yur cool nd he smiles
-he was lying down nd i layed on him nd he was like just talking to me nd smelling my hair nd putting his finger near my face..lol it was cute thou
-he wanted to c if i could bite him so hes like walking his hands down my face nd feeling my lips
-he was on the computer nd my other friend was on a computer rite next to him, i was in the middle reading both ;). well he IMs "(my name) is a whore" nd stuff like like nd im laughing or wutever
-he was playing football with everyone nd he goes "come on (my name) tackle me!" (so i did hahaha, i was the only one that could, was he being easy on me..?)
-i sat next to him on the couch nd he goes "eww i dont want to sit next to (my name)" nd i just ignore it while he puts a pillow between us. then he goes "im just kidding u kno that right?"
-my friend who he was IMing next to me, she said "i think he likes you!"
do u think..?
ps-ill rate 5's for EVERYTHING thats not smart a**! cause this was long! (link)
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aww..it sure sounds like he does!
let him know that you like him. that's the only way to know for sure. plus, that will give him the green light to ask you out!
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ok so i bascially love this kid hes 15, im 13. people always say flirt with him, but whenever i do, hes always like dosent back. i need advice as to wha i can do.
ps-i dont giving up is an optino anymore. (link)
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maybe he's just not that great at flirting so its hard to tell when he is..or he just isn't.
it may be that he needs to brush up on his flirting skills or, honestly, he might not be into you.
if you really want to find out, let him know how you feel. don't make him feel like he needs to ask you out right away..just say you like him and want to get to know him better and want to know if he feels the same way.
of he doesn't like you back, don't take it personally. i'm 15 and i know a lot of my guy friends wouldn't go for a 13 year old..but some would. it depends on the guy.
if he does feel the same way, be aware that he is 2 years older. it usually doesn't matter much..but at your ages..there is a difference between relationships when you are 13 and relationships when you are 15. this also depends on the people. so, just be aware.
good luck!
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Okay. How are you supposed to get rid of under-eye bags?? I hope no one will answer with the word "sleep" because I get plenty. More than enough. And I conceal the bags everyday with concealer. And it might be genetic/stress-related/hereditary, I KNOW. Just tell me how, without purchasing anything, can I get rid of the bags under my eyes? (link)
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put spoons in the freezer for a few minutes and hold them under your eyes. it works for me so well. the coldness brings the swelling down.
do this before you put the concealer on..put that on afterwards and youre all set.
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I realize that this is a question asked millions of times per day and that I normally skip over questions like these. Please don't do that here. There's this guy in one of my classes, and I like him. Since the beginning of the year, he's been emphasising the traits that we have in common. For example, I am an unuually loud and outgoing person. He has become loud and seems really confident. Plus he has style and is so cute. He's funny and makes me smile. Lately, he's been walking 1/2way to my next class with me and today his arm was around me for like a long time. I haven't really had any experience with guys, but I am in high school, and so is he. Do you think that he's being friendly, or that he likes me? Thanks for not disregarding this question, and I will rate well for genuine advice! (link)
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unless he is just a big flirt, it sounds like he likes you. pay attention to the way he treat other girls..if he puts his arm around other girls..then it might just be his personality. otherwise, sounds like he likes you!
i just have to add this though. if you do go out wth him, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with..and if he respects you, he will respect your decisions.
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ok i am 14/f and i really like this guy!! but he likes one of my best friends!!and she is always braging about it and she knows i like him and she says she dosent like him like that!! but i dont know what to do!! please help ill rate 5's for good answers!!! (link)
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there's not really anything you can do. definitely don't tell him that you like him when you know he doesn't like you. spending more time with him could give you more of a chance of him liking you, but other than that..there's nothing you can do. talk to your friend though and tell her nicely that it bothers you the way she talks about him liking her in front of you and ask her if she could try not to talk about it when you're around.
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Hey, I get bored at school super easy and my boyfirned isn't in anyone of my classes! Anything I could do to help the go by after my work is done? Thanks. (link)
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do you mean what you should do after you are dont with your work and have extra time in class? start your homework and read over stuff. or write your boyfriend a note and pass it to him in the hall. that's what i used to do with my ex..cause he's in a grade above so we only had band together. haha. or write notes to friends. maybe..draw? unless you are allowed to talk then there's nothing really else to do. maybe if you have a graphing calculator get games on it.
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Ok so in science right now im averaging a 68. He said im missing two papers (he never even asked me for them) and I got a 70 on a test. All the rest of the papers i got A's on. Does this average seem right? (link)
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it's probably right. ask your teacher if you can turn in those papers for even a little bit of credit. also ask for extra credit. don't worry about it too much. i had a 51 on progress reports in physics and i brought it up to an 80 by the end of the term. just buckle down and try extra hard in that class to bring it up.
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First of all, let me clear the air. Im a sexually active 20 year old, Ive never been married, and I personally see nothing wrong with premarital sex, or sex in general.
But.
I have many friends who are Christian or Catholic, and they are (in my opinion) anywhere from sexually repressed at best, to afraid of and disgusted by sex at worst.
I cant really talk to most of them about it, simply because its a very uncomfortable subject.So I pose the question to the masses. For those of you who are religious, what are your views on sex, and why?
Thought provoking answers might get my screen name for further discussion, if you like. Any answers that sound something like
"ur crazy! Sex is uber cool! I LOVE SEX AND THERS NOTHIN WRONG WITH IT!! hope I helped plz rate"
or outright flames will get a 1. (link)
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i am catholic. i don't really follow my religion as strictly as others do, but do feel very strongly about my beliefs..but i don't expect everyone to share them. i'm not sure how you would catagorize my feelings towards sex, but here they are.
i have decided not necessarily to wait until marriage, but to wait for the person i want to spend the rest of my life with. you may think, yes..that would be waiting until marriage..but it isn't. it's very hard to explain. but it would have to be someone that i care enough about that i would be certain not to regret giving away that little piece of me to if things don't work out.
so pretty much, i won't have sex with any of my boyfriends in high school, or with anyone other than a serious, long-term boyfriend in college.
i'm just going to stop it there. i could go on for a while..but its just too difficult and i'm too tired. haha.
if you give me your sn in your feedback i can go into more detail or discussion.
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I learn about sex through sex education websites, such as sites for teenagers, and I'm consintly sharing such information with friends so that they will not do something wrong when they get infected or something. I taught everyone how to put on condoms, take them off correctly, and although my friend recieved the information gratefully, she thinks that I would only know this because I watch porn. Naturally, there are pictures but they are of infections and such. What do I do to convince them that I DO NOT watch porn (even though it is a healthy thing, I still don't), and that I don't have such access to it? (link)
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if you show your friend the websites you get your information from, then she will see how you know. that is really the only way you can prove it.
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ok i dont know how to word this but i will give an example like today i got some headphones from around the house to see which would have the music come out the loudest from my ipod and like i took these pair of headphones from our family room and my dad started yelling at me saying im not supposed to leave the room with the head phones when i didnt and and so he was like i thought i told u to put them back when he never did so i yelled back at him so he came like running over to me and like almost broke my finger and he said if i did it again he would beat the $h!t out of me and a couple of times he has hit me and i dont know what i should do cause my mom never believes me when i tell her this and when he hits me it never leaves any bruises and he says if he goes to jail for beating me at least he would have found the enjoyment in it (link)
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this is serious. go to another adult..like a teacher or guidance counselor and tell them about it. you can't let this go until it gets out of hand.
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