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Jealousy
Okay. Me an this gurl have been friends since the 6th grade, and now were freshman. We told each other everything we were like each others other half. Everytime you seen me you seen her. Well last November we went to the mall and to eat an bowling. Well while were there I met this guy that I have been with now for a year next month. An every since about January Mine an the gurls friendship has just broke. We would always get into it. And everytime something happened we blamed each other for it. Well everytime me an her got into it i told drew (my boyfriend) we he started disliking her because she always hurt me. As me an her drifted apart me an Drew got closer an closer. We became *bestfriends* I tell him everything an he tells me everything. Now he doesn't even like when I talk to her because he says shes a bad influence on me. Shes always trying to bring up our old friendship an how she misses it. And of course, I miss it just as much. But Shes not my bestfriend anymore .. Drew is. He knows stuff about me that no one knows. An I kno stuff about him that no one knows. We just so close. And she always brings up how he took me away from her an stuff. And I dunno what to do I wanna be friends with her but I don't think we'll ever be as close as we were. (like vacations together an stuff) And Drew doesn't want me hanging out with her, like going to her house an places. An sometimes when I do he gets like extreamly mad. So I dunno what to do? Ahhhh. Help!
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Look im gonna be brutally honest here, friendship is way more important then any guy this guy claims to be your bff but if he cant accept that you girls are slowly beinging to be friends again then i dont really see the friend part in that if hes your bf then he should always accept what you want and also he might be getting jelous that you would hang with her mroe but i definatly think that you should talk to your bf and discuss how much you miss her i mean if you vacationed together and everything it cant just be over becuase you got a bf so talk to him and i hope i helped ♥ Kelley ♥
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wow that sucks
well first thing you should to is explain to the gurl your sorry about everything that has happened and you want to be friends again but maybe not as close, so then you become friends again and then there is drew
he will be harder
you need to calmly explain to him that you and the girl are friends again but will not become best friends and that you love drew and will always be best friends with him and etc. hope it works out for you
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You need gfs in your life, not just your bf. Who are you gonna have stand up in your wedding someday if you ditch all your friends? Your bf needs to understand that its ok to rely on each other, but you both also need to have your own friends!! How is this girl a bad influence on you? Does she do drugs or drink? Does she tell you to break up with your bf? Sorry, but shes just upset that your devoting ALL your time to your bf, and your not giving her any, which isnt right!! Dont let your bf tell you that you CANT hang out with your friend!
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Ok It seems to me that your boyfriend just doesnt want you to get hurt which is good but he needs to understand that you choose your friends not him.You might not be as close as you were before with your old best friend but you should still try to be friends .Maybe you drew and your other friend can hang out with each other so he can see even though she hurt you shes is still a good person it might be nice to have her there to talk about things you cant talk about with drew.hope i helped!
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It's your call whether you want to give this friendship another go. If you miss her then try it- you'll always wonder if you don't.
Your boyfriend is understandably protective of you and your feelings but it's hugely unfair of him to make you feel guilty for trying to patch things up with this girl (what does he think you're going to do, sleep with her?) and though i can understand why he might perhaps be threatened by the closeness you had, if he loves you, he really shouldn't try to hold you back from living your life.
You need to explain to him that being friends with her is not going to affect the relationship you and he share and how much you feel you want to try to regain your friendship with this girl. He needs to back off a bit.
I hope your friendship works out- it sounds like she really wants to make an effort with it too.
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It depends. If you want to be her friend again, forget about what Drew says. You control your life, not him. It is okay to have more than one best friend. If you don't like how she hurt you and shit, don't be friends with her again. It is entirely up to you. Not Drew.
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definitely try to get close to her again..no matter what he says. if he has a problem with it..you should have a problem with him. he is your boyfriend so obviously you are going to be close..but he's not going to be around forever. what happens once you break up? you will have no one. i know this from experience. my best friend was the same way with her boyfriend. i was the only one who knew that after they broke up, she would regret spending all her time with him. i was the only one there for her when she was upset after they broke up. all of her other friendships were extremely weak. be grateful that she still wants to be close to you because later on, you will be glad that she's there.
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