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i am not sure this category fits, but its the best i could choose..sorry

okay..so im a 15/f...almost 16 in october..

i have always lacked self-confidence, and i think i am really ugly and fat..but everyone always tells me im hott, but i honestly dont get it. when i look in the mirror i hate what i see..
i dont know if me being REALLY fat last year has anything to do with it. i lost over 40 pounds, but i still feel fat, even though i am in the healthy weight range, and i also have double d's, if that has any effect.

so i was wondering what i could do to make myself feel better? should i lose more weight? or what? any advice helps, and please be honest! thanks!


here is my myspace, if you wanted to see a picture of me..
myspace.com/THISisWHYimHOTTdoubleD

I'm going to be honest with you, not that I would normally lie anyways. Usually I'm very open minded to questions, but questions like these anger me. I'll try my best to answer your question fairly.

1. I hope you're not starving for attention. Asking people on an advice sight what they think of you is not going to build your confidence. Most people are just trying to be polite.

2. Focus on your positives, obviously you have big boobs; you've mentioned it alot. So, be proud of those. Be proud of your weight loss. Don't focus on the negatives.

Now I'm not going to tell you how beautiful you are, and I'm not going to point out any flaws either. This is an advice sight, not an opinion column. Stop listening to what people think of you, focus on yourself and your own thoughts. Dress as you like, act as you like. Try new things and push yourself out of your comfort zone to increase your confidence. If you still feel you are unhealthy and fat, exercise and eat better. Just don't go to extremes to lose the weight.

I hope my honesty won't affect your approval of my answer.
Good Luck

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am i still a virgin, even though my cherry's poped because i fingered myself?

You are a virgin until you have sex.
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Is "Ginny" short for a different name (a girls name)??

And can everyone PLEASE tell me their favorite boys and girls names??


Thankss soo much!!

I can't answer the Ginny question. But I'd like to give my opinion on names [:

Personally, I love Trevor, Jordan, Andon, and Kyle. For girls, I like Haliee, Halli (HAL-e), Hannah, Alexis, or Taylor Kate.

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I have strep throat. I've been prescribed with medication. When would I be able to start running again? I ran monday, had to stay in bed tues & wed. Right now I feel horrible so tomorrow is looking doubtful. If I'm improved on friday, would that be good? Or should I wait till monday? I'm afraid of gaining weight. Thanks!

Atleast wait until Saturday. You're body is still fighting the infection, so its no time to challenge it even more by exercising. Rest, rest, rest. I don't think you'll have to worry about gaining weight that quickly. Plus, if your throat hurts you probably won't eat as much anyways. So like I said, just give it until Saturday unless you still feel like crap.

Good Luck

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i dont really pay attention to ratings because i just started but i gave someone a detailed answer and he gave me a 3. its not so much his rating its his comment:
Thank you for your answer. I would give you a 4 but you didn't capitalize. Otherwise it was a good answer.
what does capitalizing have to do with anything?

This sight is called Advicenators for a reason. If it was Grammar-nators I could understand his response. I think your answer should be judged on its quality, however if a response is poorly typed then the advice may look unprofessional. Not that any of us here are professionals or anything.

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my best guy friend is leaving on wednesday to go to the philipines(where he's from) for five weeks. we went out last summer for like two months and i never got over him. i know he still cares about me and were the best of friends. everyone thinks he likes me and im pretty sure its true. ive tried to move on but i think theres always gunna be something there between us. anyways, we're going to hang out before he leaves. im not sure if it will be just us or with a group but im thinking of kissing him before he leaves because im going to miss him. i dont know if this is a good idea because i dont know how he'll take it. if i give him a hug and kiss after we hang out do you think he will get the wrong idea; like i wanna go out with him? i dont want him to think that cause i dont want to mess up the friendship. sorry its long and thanks for reading. i love your advice.

I tried this once before, but me on the other hand wanted the guy as my boyfriend; it worked out beautifully. So yes, go ahead and try it. However, be sure to say something afterwards that has to do with your friendship.

For example:
Hug him, and pull back a bit and look at him. Lean in and kiss him, then say something along the lines of "I really love our friendship ____, I'm so glad to know you're always here for me. I'm going to miss you."

Or, you could always go for the safe route. Hug him, then kiss him on the cheek, then say "Thanks for being such a great friend."

Good Luck

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I haven't been to church in 5 years which was when I was 9
well I'm agnostic and I'm going to church tomorrow with my boyfriend and Its alright with me I don't mind
but when i was 9 and went to church I wore dresses
Well I'm about about 15 now and I'm not going to wear a dress especially I'm going to be hanging out with my boyfriend all day I don't want to be all dressy
So I was wondering if just jeans and a regular t shirt would be fine but I'm still not sure what should I wear?
thank you

Typically when I go to church I wear nice cords and a nice top, sometimes I'll even wear a skirt. But lately, most people go in jeans and a decent shirt. Try not to be too relaxed though.

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I love the smell of Hollister clothes and id love to smell like that all the time. I saw one day the workers spraying a perfume on the clothes and i tryed their Maui perfume but thats not it. Anyone know what perfume they use to spray their clothes with that gets them to smell so good?

Hollister August, its typically what they use.
They no longer have it on their website, but I've seen it in stores recently. It usually runs about 30$ a bottle.

Good Luck,3

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I'm going to sleepaway camp for a month and a half and am leaving my boyfriend. What should i say to him? I might hook up there but i really wanna come back to him after!

I was somewhat faced with this problem recently. My boyfriend has been in Europe for a month with a community group, and saying goodbye was hard. We spent the day as normally as possible, we had dinner then back to my house to watch a movie alone. When it came time to say goodbye, we kissed, and hugged and talked about how we wanted our relationship to be over the trip. Him and I are very much in love, so we chose to stay true to each other and together.

It has been hard, there has been temptations. But the choice to go on a break during your camp depends on your seriousness of the relationship. Personally, if you two aren't too into the relationship, I'd go for the good time at camp! Who knows what might happen there!

Other then that, saying goodbye is our own personal choice. I loved spending the day alone with him, that way I was the last person he was with which made me feel special. :)

GoodLuck, have fun at camp!

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What is the difference between freckles and moles? Im confused because my dad said moles are raised, but in a magazine they should a healthy mole that didnt appear to be raised.

Thanks.

That last answer was not true.
I have moles all over my body. Before you get grossed out, they are not raised, gross looking things. They are dark freckles, just like small, round, brown dots. My doctor has confirmed this. She told me freckles are those like discolorations pale persons usually get when they get too much sun. They are usually much lighter in color. Oh, and moles can be raised also.

GoodLuck

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5"1, 85 pounds. If I gained 10 pounds in muscle, how would it look different than if I gained 10 pounds of fat by eating cake and french fries and deep oil-fried Twinkies? Would I look slimmer?

Lol, if you gained 10 pounds in muscle, you'd look like you have muscles. You arms and legs would be toned, you'd look athletic.

On the contrary, if you gained 10lbs of fat, you'd be lumpy. The fat wouldn't distribute evenly. Hey, if you're lucky it would go to your butt and chest. But for most people, it'd go to your tummy and legs.

You would look slim with the muscles.
Its a great idea. :)
GoodLuck

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okay so i dont HATE my body, but i dont like it.
im not one of those people who will go throw up food to get skinny but i will try hard.

does anyone know how i can look like the victoria secret models? like their body.

my big sections are my thighs, and i have love handles, also i would like to try to get rid of my pooch.

this summer im going to be on my boat 24/7 with all my guy friends and boyfriend. i just want to look good.

You hear so much about diets these days, you have no idea what to believe. Trust me, I know what you mean by wanting to tone up.

I suggest water. It has been proven that if you replace up to three sodas a day with water, you can lose up to 5lbs a week. Thats how bad soda is for you.

Do squats everyday. I've only been doing them for about a week, and I've already had amazing results. Its best to do them with brushing your teeth or watching tv. Just stand with your feet shouler width apart and squat. Do about 15-25 a day, until you find an amount you like best.

Do crunches. People say these don't work, but I have friends with the flattest abs in town who do up to 200 a night. I've started them and seen a more tone result. Be sure to keep breathing during the crunch, because if not you could make your pooch larger. Start with 25-50 and once again work up to any amount you wish.

For love handles, stand with your feet shoulder width apart. Lean to your left side keeping your whole body facing forward, and touch your left hand to the outside of your left knee. Stand up straight again, then go down to the right side. If you don't feel the muscles by your love handles/sides tightening adjust yourself until you feel it. Also, be sure to keep your whole body straight and facing forward. Do not lean forward to touch your knees, just go straight down the length of your leg; then back up again. Do abour 25 a night to each side. They won't seem hard, but the next morning you will feel sore so don't over do it.

And finally, try running sometimes! I personally hate running, so I usually do it ... once every six months. Lol, try going once a week just to burn off the weight of the week.

Other then that, try not to snack. I don't snack what so ever. I eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. Its worked better for me then any other diet.

Good Luck

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I'm putting together this little notebook with meaningful quotes and sayings. I just wanted to hear what everyone's favorite quotes were. It could be about anything; love, life, death, happiness, sadness, work, friendship, etc. The quotes may or may not be from a movie.

If you have heard some kind of quote that really inspired you in some way, please share. I promise to rate! Thanks!

The World will tell you who you are, until you tell the world. -To Be Fat Like Me (the movie)

Thats totally the quote I live by.
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like when people say spell the alphabet while kissing, wouldnt that not go too well because your not doing it in sync with their tongue?

Personally, the whole alphabet thing is stupid. Just go with licking their lips, teeth, gums, and playing with there tounge. Tease him with your tounge by not letting him have it all at first. Be sure to see how he reacts to certain things to figure out what he likes.

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Hey, I just realized I like my best friend Alex. I have known her since we were in jr. high. But I don't know how to tell her I love her. Thanks for any help.

Frodo

Hi there :) Thats totally sweet, there are a couple different routes you can take to telling her how you feel. The other advicers gave great ideas, I'll try to bring you a couple more.

1) Just come out and tell her, totally more easier said then done. This also might creep her out a bit, so I do not recommend this.

2) Start flirting bit by bit. Don't spring on her all at once, but hug her goodbye, say sweet things to her etc. Try to get her attention.

3) Invite her to hang out on a walk. While walking try reaching to hold her hand. Its a simple, sweet gesture that will get the message across. When you feel comfortable admit to her that you have fallen in love with her over the years, and it was important to you that she knew.

4) Leave her flowers at her house with a small card that invites her on a date. On the date, express your feelings.

I also really like the movie idea the previous advicer gave, its really a great suggestion because it doesn't take too much nerve to do.

Good luck, be sure to let me know how it went! [:

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this guy kissed me, but i'm not sure i love him. what should i do?

You don't have to be in love to kiss. You don't have to kiss to fall in love, either. Maybe the kiss was meant to show that he likes you. If you like him, hang out with him a little more and maybe it will lead to whatever you would like. Other then that, make sure he knows you're not into kissing him because you don't have feelings for him. Kissing is just fun, its not a commitment. :)

Good Luck

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who are some of your favorite comlumists?

..like who on this website do you really look up to? who gives amazingg advice?

you can make a list or just write one name.

thanks, love youuu all.

I love duudee_advicer ;)
Heh, most of my old favorites have left, but here are a few of some that still stick around from time to time.
younggrandma
HectorJr
MelLeDisko
Imperialistic

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I can't believe myself!I just turned down my crush for a date a couple days ago caus i thought that people would laugh at me caus he's shorter than me.I told some of my friends and they all said "LUCKY!He said yes?!!!!!!!!" Now here comes the advice part should I call him back or will that be stupid caus I don't know if he's going out with someone? thanx!:3 =] sorry it's so long

Call him back, you could use the "I was nervous excuse, but I really am interested." If he says no, apologize and ask to make it up to him. Its totally worth a shot. And in the future, careless about what your friends think, that will get you no where in life.

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so i'm going to cheer camp this coming Monday, aaaand i'm a Freshman, so I've never been.
i was wondering what went down at cheer camp, and if it's fun and whatnot.

i'm friends with pretty much everyone on the squad that's going to camp

Hi there :)
I cheered for five years, I've been to my fair share of cheer camps. For the most part, its alot of work. You will be learning all your chants, cheers, stunts, and a routine if you're a competition squad. If you're sleeping over at the camp, I'm sure there will be little team activites to do together for bonding.

Don't worry, camp is usually a blast! I'm sure you'll have alot of fun with your friends. Be sure to work hard, also make sure you always stay hydrated!

Good Luck

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f/13.5
i've had my peroid for almost 2 years now, and i've never worn a tampon.
And i want 2 (4 swinmming & such) buti don't know how it feels or how 2 put it in. and i been told if i'm not careful i could get TSS. i don't want this 2 happen what should i do?

Believe me, I was more then scared my first time.
Its honestly not that bad, infact they're so much better then pads so I highly recommend them.

Now, go into a bathroom and take a couple tampons with you for your first time. I recommend Tampax Pearls because the plastic applicator makes it so much easier to enter for the first time. There will be instructions in the box, reading those really helped me out.

Put the tampon in the necessary hole angled back towards your butt at about a 45 degree angle. Slowly push the applicator in. When you feel the whole tampon and applicator is in far enough, push the actual tampon (which will be the long, skinny part in) This may be where it will hurt the first few times since your vagina will not be used to it. Then pull the applicator out and wa-la, you're done!

Only leave the tampon in for a maximum 8 hours, I usually do about 5. If you sleep in it, put a new one in right before bed, and right when you wake up.

Good Luck

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