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camp...leaving boyfriend
I'm going to sleepaway camp for a month and a half and am leaving my boyfriend. What should i say to him? I might hook up there but i really wanna come back to him after!
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Like I say to other people who are in your shoes: If you were in a strong relationship & truly cared about your boyfriend, you would NEVER think about hooking up with someone else. I know I would never be able to do that. We all have "needs" & a month & a half may seem like a long time to go without them. But if you are the type to give into temptation just to meet these needs, you clearly have commitment issues. Reevaluate your relationship before making a decision. If you want to stay true it shouldn't be hard to not give in. But if you doubt you can remain faithful, then break things off before you really hurt him.
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Decide between your boyfriend and this camp hook-up. If you really want to keep your boyfriend you need to establish before you leave how much you care about him before you leave, and as hard as it may be, that you will stay committed while away. If he's important to you you will do this. It isn't fair to him for you to be able to have a committed relationship on his end and then hook up with whoever you want at the same time.
Think about it. How much do you really care about your boyfriend? Are you taking him for granted and keeping him around because it's convenient or do you really care about this guy? If you do have a hookup while he's not there, you don't deserve him coming back after.
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I was somewhat faced with this problem recently. My boyfriend has been in Europe for a month with a community group, and saying goodbye was hard. We spent the day as normally as possible, we had dinner then back to my house to watch a movie alone. When it came time to say goodbye, we kissed, and hugged and talked about how we wanted our relationship to be over the trip. Him and I are very much in love, so we chose to stay true to each other and together.
It has been hard, there has been temptations. But the choice to go on a break during your camp depends on your seriousness of the relationship. Personally, if you two aren't too into the relationship, I'd go for the good time at camp! Who knows what might happen there!
Other then that, saying goodbye is our own personal choice. I loved spending the day alone with him, that way I was the last person he was with which made me feel special. :)
GoodLuck, have fun at camp!<3
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