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I've been really depressed the last couple of days because a guy that was a really close friend of mine who moved a couple of months ago has never contacted me. I tried phoning him on his cell the other day and was told it was disconnected. He never sends me emails, and when I send him emails they get returned. So I think he's changed his address and never told me.
I don't understand why he would do this to me. Before he left we gave each other a big hug. I gave him a friendship candle and he said he would always think of me everytime he looked at it. He also gave me his computer before he left.
Other people I have talked to said he is either having financial problems or met a new girl. But why wouldnt he have told me this instead of having me worry? Does anyone have any ideas why he hasnt contacted me? (link)
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I don't think he's purposly trying to ignore you. Moving is stressful business and making your home in a new place takes a lot of time and effort. Don't take his lack of contact personally. He's probably just trying to get things settled. When he's ready to contact you, he will.
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My friends and I go to South Padre for spring break every year. Well this year, my boyfriend’s first baseball game of the season is 2 days after we leave. He said it was really important to him and that he can't come with us which I understand but going without him is just going to plain out...suck.
We've been together for 2 1/2 years and he's been able to go before because our spring break used to be the 3rd week of the month, now it's the first week this year. And there weren't any "big" games scheduled during that time so he could get out of them.
So now I'm not sure if I should go or stay. If I go I'd be thinking of him the whole time and might not be able to enjoy myself. If I don't go I'll be missing out with all of my friends. But there are other beaches we can go to around here but I don't think it'd be as much fun without EVERYONE. Oh the dilemma...
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Is there any way you could wait a couple of days and go to South Padre after the game? That's the best option because then you would be able to see his game and he would be able to go on the vacation with you. If that's not possible, I think you should just go without him. If you've been together for two and a half years, obviously your relationship is fairly stable. One disagreement over a vacation isn't going to make or break it. You might not have many more oppertunities to go after you leave home for college. Just go on the vacation and have fun with your friends. If he's able to go after the game, that would probably be better for everyone.
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I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.
Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.
I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.
So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?
Please Help! (link)
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If you really like this guy you need to tell him to stop lying just to impress you. In my opinion, any guy who does drugs, steals, and lies is not worth the time. Let him know that if his ridiculous behavior doesn't stop that you will stop seeing him. There is nothing wrong with having high expectations. You should. The fact that everyone is scared of your boyfriend should tell you something about his charachter, but it's your life and your decision.
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I'm in an origanization at school and it's my job to get the tshirts made, i was wondering if anyone knew where i could have reliable and hopefully well priced shirts made? (link)
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The best thing to do is look in the yellow pages of the phone book for a company that does screen printing. You ususally get a better deal if you order the shirts in bulk, rather than just one at a time. Call around to some places in your town and get an idea of what they would cost. Whatever you do, don't have someone use those iron-on sheets that you can make with the computer. Those wash off if you don't do EXACTLY the right thing with the laundrey.
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I got my retake back & it turned out with my eyes closed. (oh god!!!)
So I emailed the yearbook sponsor and she said that she already sent in the pages so she couldn't take the picture out. So my yearbook picture has my eyes closed!!!! (oh god)
I have the option, she said, of:
*Bringing in a picture of me to just put somewhere in the yearbook
*Bringing in a picture of me and my friends to publish somewhere in the yearbook
*Getting interviewed by a staffer & putting in an interview that says something like "What was your favorite part of 7th grade" and saying something like " sleeping on Picture day!"
I'm transferring schools because of boundary rezoning and i really don't want to be remembered with a bad picture.. i just want the load to be made as light as possible on me. What should I do?
Thanks!
I rate 5's. (link)
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I think you should bring in a picture of you and your friends to put someplace around the yearbook. That way, when you look at your yearbook a year from now, you'll remember all the people you used to hang out with from your old school and you'll have a memorable story because of how it got there. I guarantee you'll look back and laugh about your yearbook picture when you're a few years older. It'll just be one of those memories that stays with you forever.
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Which you think is better Cathloic high schools or Public high schools and explain your reason why because i don't know if i want to go to a public high school because iam attending to a cathloic high school. (link)
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I've never been to a catholic school in my life, so I can only give you my opinions of public school. Honestly, I'm glad my parents sent me to public school all along because it's given me the oppertunity to learn about other people and their differences. There are a lot of things that you probably wouldn't be exposed to at catholic school that are common at public school. Of course, that could be concidered good or bad, but it's important that you learn about diversity and learn to accept other people even though they might have a different lifestyle than your own. Some public schools have drug problems and stuff like that, but the good things definatly outweigh the bad.
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i'm 16 and i'm in high school right now and I know this might seem like a cliche, but all of my close friends are getting into serious drugs and alcohol, and I made an oath to myself awhile back never to get into that shit. So what to I do, find new friends? Tell it's stupid and have them exile me? Even I myself at one point almost gave in.... I keep trying to tell them pot makes them stupid and they're alcholics. Any suggestions? (link)
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You need to tell your friends that you like having them as friends, but that you're not interested in it. I have friends that do all of the same things that your friends probably do, and because I told them that I don't do those types of things and I don't like it when they do it around me... they still have respect for me. If you sit there and tell them they're stupid, it's just going to make them want to do it even more. Just make it clear that you don't want them to do the stuff around you. They'll get the message. If they don't, then I suggest finding new friends.
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My cousin is engaged to my ex boyfriend.
They're getting married in May.
I was the first person she told her engagement to.
She wants me to be her bridesmaid.
I don't know what am I suppose to feel.
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You're probably going to have some hard feelings towards your cousin for a little while, but that's only natural. Do your best to keep them to yourself if you can. You should congratulate her on her engagement and wish the both of them well, but if you're not comfortable being a member of the wedding party, you shouldn't feel obligated to. I'm sure it would mean a lot to your cousin if you were one of her bridesmaids, though. The best advice I can offer you is to just grin and bear it....
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My friend has being going out with her boyfriend for two years now - she's just turned 16 and he's just turned 18. They've always got on really well, and he's always been a really good boyfriend, but lately he's been pressuring her for sex.
She's really not comfortable with this and is happy to carry on as before, but he's been saying how selfish she is.
He also spoke to one of his girl mates about it (someone my friend doesn't even KNOW), and this girls said very nasty things about her.
How can I help my friend? What should she do? (link)
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I think that you should remind your friend that she shouldn't have sex with this guy just because he's pressuring her to do it. All you can do is tell her to stand her ground. The rest is up to her. I've been in her position before, and I think she should tell her boyfriend to stop discussing their relationship with a third party. What goes on between your friend and her boyfriend is THEIR business and he needs to discuss this issue with her, not his friend. The other girl is probably only saying rude things about your friend because she likes the guy. I don't know that for a fact, but that's probably what's going on. Your friend needs to dump this guy if he doesn't stop pressuring her for sex. Why it's all of a sudden so important for him, I don't know, but it's not a good sign.
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my one friends slept over last night and my parents went out adn didn't coem back till one. So, we were really bored nd decided to listen to my dads old records. When we went into his closet.. omg. I thought i was going to die, I saw this DVD for porn. I thought it was a nightmare, it didn't seem liek reality to me and it still doesn't. My parents are the furthest thing from pornos. Now, it's the next day and I can't even look at them. What should I do? (link)
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I think you should try your hardest to put this experience out of your mind. Even though you don't like to think about it, parents are still people, and people have sex. People use those kinds of movies to get in the mood, and that can hardly be looked at as something that's bad or disgusting. There was definatly a reason why that type of movie was hidden away in the closet.... Spend a few days doing things out of the house and see if it helps you to not think about what you saw so much. I wouldn't reccomend going through your parents' closet again, though...
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does anyone know where i can definetly find jordana cosmetics? (link)
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Walgreens carries that brand. I'm not sure of anywhere else, but I buy their eyeliner and that's the only place in town that sells it.
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Ohk im 17. f.
i Have a sister that 13.
Im skinny and she bigger then me by like 2 sizes.
every single day she goes in my room when im asleep and takes my clothes and ask me if she can wear them. im still asleep when she asks me so i have no idea what im saying. She takes it as a yes and wears my clothes. She takes jeans, shirts, and even my damn uniform pants for work. today she went to the movies with her friend. her friend didnt have clean jeans so she gave her a pair of mine to wear. her friend is bigger then her.
When i see her with my clothes on i tell her to change right now and she does she throws my clothes in my room and doesnt even wash them after. She gets stains on my shirts and they dont come off. Well the jeans i dont have many pairs and when she wears them the strech out and i cant get them back to regular size.
I bought like 2 pairs of new jeans and she asks me everyday if she can wear them and i say No every time and she continues to ask me.
Is there any way to get her to stop asking me to wear my clothes all the damn time. She has more clothes then i do. she just doesnt wear them.
ill rate good if you give me good help. (link)
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Your sister is just trying to be like you. Honestly.. I think you should talk to one of your parents about your sister's "borrowing" habit. Especailly if she's taking the stuff without your permission and returning it dirty. Your sister should have to replace the clothes that she ruins with her own money. If worse comes to worse, take some of her things and ruin them.. just so that she can see what it's like to have her things ruined.
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well in sixth grade i was a complete loser, i mean ugh i had really curly hair and wore it in a bun, and i wore big clothes. like i didnt even care. and i liked this guy A LOT. his name was david, and like he didnt like me at all. and he hated me in seventh grade. and we havent seen eachother in a year. untill saturday night. and when he saw me. he kept looking at me. and like we cuddled or whatever. and he said he liked me. but like i dunno. sixth grade was weird for both of us. and ive changed A LOT since then. and i just wanna know should i give it a chance? (link)
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Yes, you should give it a chance. Everyone.. and I mean EVERYONE was a dork in junior high; even if you didn't know it at the time. I think you're exactly right. Things have changed a lot since the sixth grade and there's nothing wrong with that. I say go for it!
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okay say if you give someone oral sex and you do swallow their cum. well do you like always get STDS or only if they have an STD? because people make it sounds that everyone has an STD and if you dont use a condom then you'll get STDS. like im confused. (link)
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You will get the STD if the other person has the STD and you don't use any form of protection. Not everyone in existance has and STD, but many people have them and don't realize that they have them, and that's why there are all the "Protection" commercials on TV and the radio... to remind people that getting an STD is a risk.
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Weve been friends for 3 Years!!We were a trio.Me,Miranda,and the stupid barbie,Kaylie.Me and Miranda dumped her because she thinks shes all that.She wears things that are in style(they dont even look good on her and no im not lieing)and trys to compete with me.I dont mean to brag or anything but im Phater and way thinner than her.Shes very jelous of me.She feels really mad because she knows were better of with out her.Right now shes hanging out with the stupidest girls in school.She recentley came up to me and told me she needed to talk to me.I just walked away.Then she came up to me and asked do you think we will ever be friends again.I said i dunno(In a rude way)then she started giving me dirty looks and told her :"you know what,no i dont want to be friends again.She said fine.Im really happy with out her.Miranda and I are even hanging out with a cool girl we met:Catherine.My Question is how ca we just get rid of her,because shes always trying to talk to us.Note:This girl is very sensitive,we will make her cry if we say anything.And it is really hard to ignore people,so please dont tellme "just ignore it.p.S WE CALL HER THE BARBIE BECAUSE SHES BLONDE AND HAS A VERY UGLY NOSE"PEOPLE:4 THIS,ILL RATE HIGH!!!!!!!! (link)
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I don't think you'll have any problem getting rid of Kaylie because I can't see why she would have wanted to be around you in the first place. If you don't want to be friends with her anymore, just say so. There's no need to make fun of someone and call names just because you're not friends with her anymore. Can you say CHILDISH? Honestly, it sounds like you're the one that thinks you're "all that". I agree with the person who answered before me.. Maybe Kaylie will find some real friends now that she's not hanging around you anymore. No one ever got anywhere in life by being a stuck up little prick. Chew on that for awhile.
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hi my name is alex i have my space too my e-mail is alxsuz@yahoo.com im new at advicenators because ive been looking all over for advice columnist my question is what do i do in my house of the computer whats some things that are fun to just do when your realy bored???
tanks bunches,alex (link)
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hmmm.. I'm not sure if you meant things to do off of the computer or things to do on the computer.. but either way, I think I can help.
If you're looking for something to do on the computer, try sites like Neopets.com. It's just a virtual pet site where you can take care of your own little pet, join a guild with people who have similar intrests, play games, and chat on the message boards. I spend most of my online time either on myspace or listening to music or chatting with friends on MSN.
When I want time away from the computer, I usually do something like cooking, watching movies, or creating new items of clothing from older clothes. It's kinda fun to cut stuff up and pin it back together with safety pins sometimes....
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I have 2 friends, Bailey and Lauren. Bailey is my best friend, and we literally do (or did) EVERYTHING together. We hung out so much that people began thinking we were sisters. If one of us is going somewhere, the other one is bound to follow. It was just a really strong relationship.
Then she started hanging out with Lauren. Lauren and me aren't really very close at all, in fact, the only reason we're friends is through Bailey. Deep inside I kind of dislike her, for personal reasons, mainly her attitude. But I get along with her for the sake of Bailey.
Anyways, Bailey and Lauren started hanging out a lot. And Bailey kind of forgot about me. Like, they would go over each other's houses everyday and not even invite me. Sometimes, when Bailey and I had plans, Lauren would whine and complain about us not inviting her and end up inviting herself over, yet, when they have plans, Lauren never mentions a word to me. Bailey's attitude sorta shifted to being like Lauren's, and it made me feel like I was losing a friend.
It really hurts going on the bus, too. Odd, isn't it? It's because ever since the beginning of the year, Bailey and I have ALWAYS sat together on the bus. We'd save it for each other and sit together. Just the other day, Bailey sat with me for about 2 minutes until Lauren was like, "SIT BY ME!!" So she just got up, while I was talking to her, and sat down with Lauren, and then they both started laughing.
Now, I don't know how strong their relationship is, but I know Lauren considers Bailey her best friend. And it makes me kind envious, you know? Bailey still calls me her best friend, but I always wonder if she's lying, just not to hurt my feelings. Because she's done that before, with another girl.
My mom and my friend said to just ignore her and she'll get annoyed with Lauren after a little bit (because she is already starting too) and come back to me. But I'm hesistant if that will work.
Usually I'm really very honest with Bailey. But how can I find the words to tell her how I feel? She'll just deny everything and laugh and ask me if I'm kidding, and say I'm her best friend of course. But I want a sincere and honest truth. Because I know our friendship is falling apart. (link)
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It's natural for friends to grow apart like this.... if Bailey is getting annoyed with Lauren, chances are that she'll stop hanging out with her so much fairly soon. I'm with your mom on this one.. be nice to both Lauren and Bailey when they're around, but try looking for some other people to hang out with every once in awhile. It never hurts to have more than one best friend. Maybe if Bailey sees you hanging out with someone else,she'll see how much she misses having you around.
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ok i just started going out with this guy yesterday and today at school he was seriously CLINGY and he said he loved me at the end o the day i was so freaked out how should i act around him what to i say cuz im not even sure if i like him anymore PLEASE HELP SOON 5's for anyone who helps at all (link)
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You need to tell this guy to back off a little. Telling you he loves you at the end on one day going out is a little excessive. You guys need some time to get to know each other and stuff. Just tell him you need him to be a little less.... clingy... If he can't do that, just let him go. You can't possibly know that you love someone after only one day. And if you don't even like him anymore.. don't waste your time.
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I really feel awful right now so I'll sum it up. When I got to my last class today a friend told me I was really stained. I went to the bathroom and i had blood on the back of my pants. It's so embarrasing. I feel like becoming a hermit crab. Share your experiences with me please. (link)
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This happens to every girl at some point.. The last time I got "suprised", I had just bought this cute pair of designer jeans that I was really excited about... and of course.. that was the day I decided to wear little thong panties with light blue jeans.. and you can imagine how well that worked out... Not only was I stuck at school without a tampon.. but I left my phone on the charger, so I also had no way to call for someone to bring me anything else to change into... I totally hid in the bathroom until school was over.. which was in like an hour. But an hour in the bathroom is a REALLY long time.
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ok so today my freind showed up i school with this gorgeous sweater on... however it was sooooo tight on her... it looked bad on her and she looked liek a slu*. (sry) and so like she wears a cami under it(it was a v-neck) but the v nexk litterally comes around her breasts. and it makes her boobs look huge. she gets medium adn not to be rude but she's fat and I get smalls and im pretty skinny. she always dresses like this and i hear people talking about it. how can i tell her she is dressing inapropriately? she's my BF and i want her to be known as lovely. (link)
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If your friend likes the way she's dressing, there's really nothing you can do about it. I agree with whoever posted before me when they said that she might be dressing like this to make herself feel better. You could try taking her shopping one day and try to politely point out that some of the things she's picking out would look better on her if they weren't so small. Tell her flat out that people talk about her behind her back is just going to hurt her feelings and probably make her really mad at you for being the bearer of bad news...
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