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friends are getting into drugs!!
i'm 16 and i'm in high school right now and I know this might seem like a cliche, but all of my close friends are getting into serious drugs and alcohol, and I made an oath to myself awhile back never to get into that shit. So what to I do, find new friends? Tell it's stupid and have them exile me? Even I myself at one point almost gave in.... I keep trying to tell them pot makes them stupid and they're alcholics. Any suggestions?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
1.If you know somethings wrong, don't do it. No matter what.
2.Stand up for what you believe in, they might not actually exile you for not being another statistic.
3.You could find new friends that don't try to get you to do things wrong.
4.Althought it would be very smart to find new friends, you don't have to.
5. It's totally b.s. if someone tells you that you won't do something you don't want to, because you might.
6. Just remember, stay true to yourself, and do what you want to do. No one can make you change who you are if you don't let them change you.
---Hope it helps some---
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I'm going to tell you this out of experience.
First off -- WTg on your oath to yurself and goodluck in keeping it.
2nd --- It's not a question of you abandoning your friends man. ( Pause and re-think that, take a second )
... your friends already abandoned you.
Trust me on this when I say everything about drugs n alcohol, even if you don't use it, but if you're around it -- nothing but bad can come out of this for YOU. Sure, try to get them to stop using the crap, but being a DD, or haging out with them while they're drunk n high... dude --- NOTHING good can come out of this for YOU.
Remember --- it's not that you abandoned them... Hell, you're going to school and you made an oath to yurself not to drink n do drugs - why? Because you're trying to make a future for YOUESELF man. The second one of yur 'friends' offered u a line of coke or a hit of acid or a puff off of a blunt... that shit was a slap in yur face for yur future. They abandoned you man.
WTF you want backing you up in the future? some guy thats easily manipulated as to start doing drugs because 'their friends are doing it?' or you would you rather have someone trustworthy, someone with a backbone that knows right from wrong, someone that stands his own ground?
They abandoned you
You wrote to the wrong place man
What you should do is write a note to those friends of yours and ask them why they abandoned you.
You value your future enough to know this is right.
You value your future enough to know that everything your parents taught you was not for nothing.
I was one of those guys that used drugs starting in High school. Sure, they'll say -- "dude, im not addicted - im just having a little fun, relaxing. Don't be such a good2shoe pussy"
lol - i told my friends, "hell no i dont think about it all the time, I can stop whenever" and I actually believed it. And when I look back upon those days now --- thats all i did after schoool - get high . On weekends - Get high. lol@ i dont use it all the time ... I was using it every second I could, and didn't even realize it.
anyway...
Good Luck Lil Byrd
~Infamous Trump~
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I would do what you feel is necessary to keep your oath to yourself. Since you've been tempted already, I would talk to your friends about not dong drugs or alcohol around you and not offering it to you either. If they still do it, walk away when it happens or restrict your activities with them to places they can't do it. For instance, invite them over to your house when your parents are home. If you don't feel that you can be friends with them like this, then it may be best to move on until they've got past this problem.
Unfortunately, until they realize that it's stupid and that they have a problem, they'll keep doing it. You can try talking to them, but unless they want to make the change, it most likely won't do much good. Stick to your guns on this subject. They may learn from your example. Good luck.
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No way do you find new friends. You made an oath && I know your sticking to it, but the only reason why you don`t like your friend is because they are druggies & alcoholics. Please don`t get new friends. It`ll just be really messed up. You made an oath & that`s good!! But that doesn`t mean that you need new friends. They aren`t leaving you because you don`t do drugs. So don`t leave them.
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i think you should stick to your oath and your friends. if there is one friend that you are particularly close to maybe you can convince them to not do drugs either.
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I'll just let you know ahead of time that you won't ever be able to convince your friends how stupid their behavior is when they do drugs.
Whatever you do, stick with your promise to yourself. If you give into it, think of how much you'd be letting yourself down and it'd be like not being able to keep promises to yourself!
As for having them as friends, if they are always getting high and drinking, then you've probably got low chances to hang out with them again. Not only would you be left out, but you may even feel tempted or you'd get in trouble with them if they did something stupid and dangerous.
Just whatever you do, do NOT give in! If you feel tempted, then it's time to make them just people you talk to in school, where they aren't high or drinking. Your oath will be worth it in your life. Take this from someone who had to watch drugs ruin someone I love's life. I never usually share my past experiances in my column, but you have no idea what drugs can REALLY do. Do not let yourself down.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think you should stick around your friends. While you've made a really good decision, some people need to experiment a little to come to the same conclusion. But if you stick around, your friends will be able to see you as kind of a role model for someone who can have fun (oh this sounds so cheesy) without drinking. Lecturing isn't really going to help, I'm sure they get enough of that from their parents. But if it gets to the point where they only invite you to parties so you can be the DD, or make sure nothing gets broken and hold peoples hair back while they puke, then you know it's time to move on.
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Well, just because your friends do it, doesn't mean you have to. they should accept your choice (which i must say is a wise decision) and not peer pressure you into anything. I think you should continue to be friends with them, however stick to your true feelings and not give in. You're going to come across this no matter what group of friends you choose in high school. soo enjoy life, be with the people who mean the most to you, and always follow what you believe to be right!!
Best of Luck <3
Sarah
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I see you being very wise for your and I would strongly suggest you continue on this path. It's a path your parents should be proud of.... if I were you(and in my 61 years I've not ever been drunk or done drugs, not even prescriptions) I would find new friends. I wouldn't spend my time or put in my energy in the direction they have decided to take. I feel you would be real wise to find friends you can do a variety of things with and not have to think about the bad side of being in their company. How long do you think you can continue being friends with those who 'use' before you've joined them? I feel you days are numbered with that crowd.... but that can change and some of them can one day get it together, at which point you could rejoin them in friendship. I feel you're worthy of good and clean friends.... you'll have 'real' fun and 'real' companionship... personally, I get real high on life and feel I am leading a very blessed life and I've done it w/o artificial stimuli.... drugs/alcohol! You can too! I do salute your wisdom... perhaps one day you'll be a politician or world leader with no 'hidden skeletons' in your life's closet. Keep up the good choices... YOU are worth it!
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You need to tell your friends that you like having them as friends, but that you're not interested in it. I have friends that do all of the same things that your friends probably do, and because I told them that I don't do those types of things and I don't like it when they do it around me... they still have respect for me. If you sit there and tell them they're stupid, it's just going to make them want to do it even more. Just make it clear that you don't want them to do the stuff around you. They'll get the message. If they don't, then I suggest finding new friends.
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stay intelligent and don't start the stupid "cool" shit. keep the respect that you have for your body and your brain cells, and be the mature one in the high school crowd. It may be hard but you'll appreciate your decisions when all your friends get busted, and maybe even get that crap down on their profile. That affects what jobs you get, what schools you get accepted into, etc.
You're smart. stay that way
Hope i help at least
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