Q: 41 yr old fem.
What do you do when you have an online crush that you are falling in love with? They are in another country. I think about them every day. I never met them in person & know that It could be the "idea" that attracts me. What do you think?

Q: Well I can't ever get to sleep at night. I lay awake till about 2 or 3 in the morning and have to get up and 6.. I am exhausted when i get to school and all i want to do is sleep... Any advice as to how to go to sleep and STAY asleep without using medicines.!?

Q: Hi, I posted a question not too long ago about getting a job babysitting. I followed the amazing advice that was given to me, and I think I might have a job at a day care. Thats what I'm asking about.


I'm 19, and I think I got the job. She said she'd call me back in a week or so after my fingerprints came back and background check; I went to my old work, and my old manager there told me some lady called asking about me, and that she told the lady very good things.


But what I'm really wondering, is how much do people at a daycare get paid in TN? I heard is $5, and I've even heard $9. I'd ask the lady, but to me thats very rude.


I also wanted to know, what goes on at a daycare? What is a daycare for??

The place I might be working at has kids from 12wks to 8 years.

How does that work? Will I watch all of them? Or be divided into a certain age category?

Because what my boyfriend told me is that they might put me with 6-8 year olds since they are the easiest, but I really wanted Toddlers or their 6-10 month age group.

:/


Any tips?

I know she wil answer my question next week, but I'm really anxious and I'm worried.

Q: Well my dad and I have never been super close but he's getting older and I want to be with him more. But the only thing he talks about is math, math math math! All the time! He didn't used to. It's because I got a C in it last semester. I dread asking him for help because he spends like two hours on 5 questions. EVen if I tell him I have homework due the next day while my math isn't he still continues. I don't even ask for his help anymore because he just walks into my room and says ok where's your math homework? Even my mom groans when he comes home. They have never been close that I know of. They haven't slept in the same room for idk how long and don't hug, kiss, or say I love you. Ever. Please help me, if you can :)

Q: it was my baby sisters birthday and so i wanted to look older and more like my mom so i wore a little mascara to school but then my mom saw it when she picked me up and got really mad, and said that we would 'talk' about it adter the party and im really scared. i want to tell her why i did it but i feel like she is going to think its really stupid...so to get to the point...i dont know what to say, how to act, or what is going to happen. what do i do?

Q: When I read your words re suicidal thoughts I thought it could have been something I wrote... including the reason why you didn't do it. Because it would hurt ppl too much. Lately I think they would understand. I am not depressed. I don't feel like I don't belong. I just feel like I have had all that this life has to offer. I am tired & ready to move on.

Q: First off i'm 23f and i'm engaged to my long time bf (25) we have lived together for two years and the other day we got a big surprise. we are now expecting. My bf and i are happy but i'm really worried about what my family will say. his family is really laid back and i'm psitive they will have no problem with it. i know this cause his mom bugs us about grand kids. lol
but my parents are a little...ummm well the opposite. i'm afraid that i'll get a lecture not the congratz. My bf and i don't make much money but we get by. My bf and i have already looked over fiannces and things and we will be fine but i don't think my paents will see it that way. i'm just really stressed about the whole situation (my bf keeps bugging me to calm down) please any advice would help. (ps my parents and his parents are from kinda differnt worlds...i think my parents resent that i'm okay with living in the area we do and work the jobs we do...sometimes i think my parents think they are better that my bfs parents cause mine have money) i hope all the extra info helps thank you

Q: So I am going on vacation this year to San Fran or San Diego... havent decided yet. Either way... there will be 4 of us but we cant afford a hotel for 4 of us. So I wanna know how easy or complicated it is to get a 2 person room and sneak 2 more people in. We were thinking we could get a blow up mattress and sneak it out every day... no big deal if we have to do that... but the maid might notice extra luggage... idk. Have any of you done this? Is it pretty easy to get away with?

NO negative comments...

Q: Hey. 13/F. Just the other day my grandma came in the room with out knocking. And I was busy putting on a pad coz I was on my period. And I don't know wat to do ? My door was close. And I don't know how to tell my mom plz help

Q: I have been married for 6 years to whom I consider the best woman out there. I need to say that for the record. She is quick witted, smart, and has many abilities that could easily drop her into multiple career paths. Admittedly, she does feel indecisive. She hasn't followed up on any true career path and her indecisiveness has gotten the best of her in other ways. Our relationship throughout those 6 years have not been happy for both of us. While dating, I did catch her cheating and I realized that she had thought I was going to leave her so she was in essence seeing another guy. Things got better. But, I realized I have difficulty expressing myself with her. We have 4 kids now. The forth child was a difficult one in that I had no permanent job, no insurance and we had been using birth control. Our last child before her was a premature birth and had to undergo months of treatments to make him strong. I didn't want to go through that again. During the time of conception, I had my suspicions that she may have a posting for a companion on craiglist. After I found out she was pregnant, I thought about finances, my suspicions, and whether we could handle four children. I asked her to give the child up for adoption. I let my suspicions get the best of me and brought out the word divorce. We made up and we decided mutually to keep the fourth child. But the whole ordeal challenged our marriage and made her second guess our relationship. I made a vow to myself that I would be a more outgoing husband and I would express my emotions whole heartedly with her. I realized I have not been there for her in her times of need. Fast forward to now a year and a half later, she is on Facebook. Over the last few months She approached me to say that she doesn't think that she loves me as much as I love her. I thought of it as an innocent comment at first but, she began crying after a few confrontations. I became suspicious again.
I found she had been staying up late chatting with an old high school boyfriend in another state. I confronted her and she played it off as just chatting. I then found out it was more than that. They had secret email accounts and pre-paid phone cards and were planning on running away together. I confronted her again and she confessed that she did have feelings for him but didn't admit to planning on running off with him. She also admitted that she did have an ad on Craiglist for a lesbian partner as far back as 6 months ago. We decided to go to counseling and during our first session she said that she kind of sees me as the big brother she never had. She now says she wants to keep the family together but for the sake of the kids. This other guy has friended me on facebook and has made many compliments about looks and being a great guy as he has heard from my wife. At times, I still find her on facebook chatting with this guy. She says there is 17 years of feelings for eachother that she cannot just let go. Though I can see that through the emails I found that they both seem to be feeding off of their high school memories and he seems to be using that to play her. This guy has supposedly been cheated on by his girlfriend of six years. My wife has become a facebook friend with his girlfriend! I know Jerry Springer comes to mind huh?
I realized that my lack of being there for her, not conveying my emotions and yes my slacking with the house chores has made us drift apart to this stage. I really do want to rekindle our relationship and not have it be a marriage of convenience. I have been ramping up on the house work. I sent her flowers at work. I have been sharing my random thoughts for her throughout the day. My goal is a happy mariiage where there isn't any drama like this and to have her fall in love with me again. Throughout the whole ordeal, her mom has stopped answering my calls. She knows what happened but, doesn't want to be brought into things. She says she wants nothing to do with it. I really am looking for a woman's opinion on the situation.

Q: how to cope with adult son and his wife, living 200 miles away, father is controlling and narcissistic, i am the mother, caught inbetween,father wants son and wife to live in our town and be there for us, i am 77, husband is81,

Q: I am a sixteen-year old girl and I really hate my family. I usually have good days at school, but once I hit the steps of my home, all my happiness washes away. What's the problem exactly? Well, a lot of things, but mostly my mother. Let's start with her.

My mother and I both have a very violent past. My father abandoned us both when I was ten, and he would often abuse her and he cheated on her a few times. We used to be very close when I was a kid, but not much anymore. She is very nit-picky, bitchy, and forceful. She always complains that no one appreciates her, that no one cares about her, that no one ever helps her. I'll name a few examples. Yesterday, it was my six month anniversary with my boyfriend. It was my special day and I was really excited. I put on my favorite jeans, a nice shirt, and boots. She came in and said those jeans were ugly, and I said, "Well, I like these jeans." She got pissed and started crying about how no one loves her and I simply said I wanted to choose my own outfit. She threw a fit and slammed the door and the rest of the day, I couldn't even enjoy my day because she made me feel like shit. She always does that. She makes me feel so ugly and negative all the time by telling me I'm selfish and I am disrespectful. Also, I risk my education to watch her kids. I always skip school to help her out, and the next day she gets pissed at everyone because no one helps. I think it is unfair. I bust my ass for her. I take up all my after school time cleaning the house for her and she doesn't ever notice. She threatens me all the time. Once, I woke up at 5 a.m. and found cat poop on my sheets. I put the sheets aside and went back to bed with new sheets. The next morning, I told my mom, and she told me that I am a scumbag and I should've washed my sheets right away. At 5 a.m.? I told her I needed my sleep and I didn't have time for that, and I put them aside to wash them in the morning. She started freaking out when I told her she didn't need to yell at me for that, she pulled my by my hair into the bedroom and told me she would bash my head through the wall and smash my phone onto the floor if I said another thing. I was really upset that day and I called my boyfriend and we left.

I hate it here. I am constantly yelled at, bitched at, never appreciated, and a victim to abuse and negativity. I don't have a very good self-confidence because my mother always brings me down. She wants me to be what she wants, not what I want. She complains I'm lazy and I don't try hard enough. She never appreciates what I do for her. I can't ever be in a tired mood or not in the mood to talk to anyone. She expects me to be in a good mood all the time. When she found out I had sex for the first time, she told me I was a slut. She took me to therapy and a doctor because she thought I was sleeping around with everyone. She does her best to restrict me from sex all the time. I can't even talk to her in a mature way about it. Because my boyfriend and I are always alone, we do have sex, but responsibly. If I'm responsible about it, why does it matter if I'm doing it or not?

My family fights a lot. My stepdad is very uncaring and often acts like a douchebag. He is selfish and never respects my mother. This house is haunted with constant yelling and screaming. I stopped it once, because there was slamming of glass and crying and pounding and my little brother was crying. I talked to my parents the next day and we agreed to fix it. That's just it. Nothing got fixed. We all agreed to have a nice talk and we did, and nothing ever changed. My mom never goes through with anything.

How much more of this do I have to take? I have posted advice on this before, but most of them involve calling child support and such. I don't want to do that. I don't want my sister and brother being taken away as well. I've wanted to get out of here for a long time. My boyfriend told me my mother is an asshole and she doesn't have the right to treat me this way. He doesn't like my parents because they always make me cry. I've always wanted to move in with him even if we're both young. I don't want to live here anymore, but I doubt I could get the change I want, because I have no job or license. Please help. I need guidance. I don't deserve any of this. I'm a good kid..

Q: my fiance and I are having terrible problems with his 9 yr old son. He has told us more then a dozen times that he is completely alright with us being together, getting married, etc. But we are now experiencing problems.....he (the son) tells her mother (who is a total psycho stalker{we have a restraining order against her}) everything that occurs in our home, makes up lies about me, my children and his father. He constantly lies to us, disrespects us and ignores every word we say. He is concerned only with getting what he can from us. I will not leave my home for him, stiffle my children from speaking with his father or end my relationship. Someone please help us. We are at the end of the line with this child. Also his mother does not make him listen, respect, behave, do homework, care for himself (personal hygene wise) or feed him well {fast food every nite she can't cook}. We cannot at this time take him from his home so that is not an answer.

Q: My niece has a secret crush on my husband. She loves to cuddle with him so I let her. I let him lay down in bed with her and hold her when she's sad or scared. She wrote a love note to him yesterday and it was really sweet. She even asked him to marry her. He gives her hugs and kisses and he plays with her too. She's upset because she knows she can't be in a real relationship with him. She thinks he's cute and funny and he is. Me and him have been married for almost 13 years. We don't have any children. She really loves him and she really wants to be with him. Every time I try to explain our marriage to her she gets upset and cries. How can I explain it to her ? She's 5 years old. He's 35 almost 36.

Q: My husband and I attended His brother's daughter's wedding. We are the very immediate family.All of my husband's brothers and sisters(also immediate family) and their spouses were seated at the front of the room at table 1 and 2 ,however we were assigned seats in the very back of the room.We were surprised and saddened by their choice to put us there. The whole family is very kind ,loving and religious.There are no problems between any of us, we really love all of them. We feel so hurt. Should we address this? If so ,Is there a polite way to do it?I am lost and so hurt. Thank You

Q: I start a full time babysitting job in two weeks and I need to know how to be a fun babysitter. I'm going to be watching an 8 year old boy, A 6 year old girl and a baby boy who is 6 months. I'm not sure what to do to keep them occupied. Please help!

Q: I've been thinking lately a lot about suicide. I have attempted it once, but ended up in the hospital, this happened a over a year ago. People said it'd get better, I've been trying really hard, but everything is just getting worse. I'm on meds, i have a doctor, therapist, and psychologist. I almost killed myself the other day, but failed because i was to scared. Now I'm thinking, maybe I should run away?

Q: I was in a partner work project where my partner didn't memorize her part so we couldn't pull off the play. When I would say my lines the other girl would be silent and would not say any of her lines. The teacher knew I had my part done, but she said she has to fail us for it. I spoke to her during our fifteen minute break and wrote an email to her. She was offended by it and responded to it a little too strongly, in my opinion. Was I too rude or was she just having a bad day?

My email: Hi, I'm in your Drama class. May I ask about my grade for the project? (blank) and I both worked hard on the play together and we practiced our parts, but we were somewhat less prepared for it than she originally thought. However, I had practiced and had the script memorized. I think it's a little unfair that you should count me as failing as well and I thought I tried the best I could with the given situation. I just wanted to know how you're going to mark our combined project. Thank you for reading.

Her response: Hi,

I understand you are concerning about your project grade. However, I hoped you could be more patient to wait for your grade and feedback. We just had a performance (assessment) in the morning and I have told you that I was going to grade according to the grading policy which has been published in advance.
There is no reason to hear that my grading is unfair as I haven't told any specific comments, result about your performance.
Actually, I didn't have any obligation to give you a second chance as no any other pair was granted. I gave you a second chance because the performance was way below expectation. (blank) has to look at her script every line and I believed you two have worked hard on it.
I think it is rude and unfair to use the word "unfair" to the teacher without any result on you yet. You also should not to tell me that how I should grade or what I should count.

Besides, you sent this email during my class, when you were supposed to focus on the class.
I again understand your concern about your grade. I would not count her errors on you as oral part is 85% individual grade (team work for 15% -seeing if you helped and collaborated well on script) which I have already explained and posted on the website. However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today.

I want to ask your patience for the detailed feedback and grade. I would be pleased to answer or explain further questions if you have then.


Stay warm.

My response: I did not mean to sound rude or as if I was telling you how to grade. I wasn't saying your grading was unfair as you actually haven't graded it yet. I was merely asking if you would tie my performance completely to the presentation and I apologize if you thought I was complaining about you as a teacher. I typed this email to you during break time and not during class, a time period directly after our performance. We are grateful for the second chance and once again, I understand that grading is your decision and I wasn't saying anything otherwise. My email wasn't one demanding you give me my grade, it was an email trying to express concern about how the problems in class are going to affect my overall grade. I was actually attempting to talk to you about it, and I apologize if it came off as rude, but my intentions weren't to criticize you. I'm happy to hear that my mistakes won't be counted against (blank) and that her mistakes won't be counted against me. I'm still not exactly sure why you wrote this, however:" However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today." I would like to repeat that I sent my email after the performance because I wanted to talk to you privately about the grade and you specifically mentioned during our skit that you'd like to see us personally. I didn't write the email because I wanted to personally attack you, and I'm sorry if you perceived it as such. Thank you and I hope you stay warm too.

What exactly went wrong here? You guys don't have to read everything, by the way.

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Q: Sam is 40, Tina is 30, Pat is 38, and Rebecca is 26.
1) Sam is friend with Tina and Pat.
2) Sam was first friends with Rebecca.
3) Sam was nice to Rebecca’s sister and family and
engaged in activities with them. Sam also wanted to help Rebecca when she
Seem to need it.
4) Rebecca seemed independent. So Sam started to slow his help towards her.
She seemed to not want him to help her too much
5) Pat moved in the area and Sam now becomes friend with her. She tries to attach herself to Sam needfully. She has a lot of resources
that can e of use to Sam, Tina, and Rebecca. So he asks her for favor from time to time.
6) Tina was always very close friends with Rebecca. They like to joke a lot with each other.
7) Tina and Sam became close friends after Tina seems to be getting into trouble. Sam tries to help her overcome her shame. Same as he did for Pat.
8) During all of this, Sam has a tension between him and Rebecca, more so from his side.
9) He starts to treat Rebecca very badly.
10) The relationship between Tina and Rebecca starts to go bad. But it’s not from Rebecca’s part. Tina seems more distant and mean towards Rebecca. But Rebecca seems to still like Tina.
11) Sam gives Tina a lot of work to do, yet he starts to slowly distant himself from Pat.
12) Suddenly, Sam is talking up to Rebecca again and giving her compliments’ on her personality.
13) Tina is left with a lot of work to do that Sam gave her. She seems tired at times, but is happy to do them.
14) Who seems to be the best /more mature person ?

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