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Q: okay well my sisters boyfriend is like 18 and he likes me?! and im kinda freaked out. im only 14. and he always comes in my room and lays in my bed when im in it. and the one day my boyfriend was over and me n my bf got in a little fight. and i went in my sisters room to ask her what to do. and my sister was in the bathroom . and jake (sisters bestfriend) started to hold my hand..i let go and told him to stop...and he got pissed..im really freaked out..everytime hes over i lock myself in our computer room..but somehow he always gets in..please help!!

tell someone.
even better yet tell him that you are jail bait and if he doesn't want to get locked up tell him to keep his hands the f*** off you.

Q: So I'm a teenage girl, don't say that i'm "young" or "naive" or immature or anything, because i'm not any of those things. I have the maturity of a college student and the appearance of one. (so i've been told)

So, my problem is this. The only things i've done are: kissing a guy on the cheek/neck (it was between the two) and I had phone sex a few times. And that's all I've done exept for cybering when i was a lot younger.

I told my "friend" this because we were talking about how far we've gone- and he says "aww. I feel bad for you." because he's fooled around with many different guys. (he's gay)

Is it normal that i've only done the things i've done? If I had a significant other, I'd go all the way in an instant, I don't have any religious reasons to hold back. I'd also fool around without protest. And i would be willing to make out on the first date even.

So why haven't I been able to lose my virginity? It's all I want out of life.

I masturbate regularly and I've been orgasmic for quite some time.

Wow that's really lame, all you want out of life is to lose your virginity? So you mean you would have sex with some random guy just to meet your needs? SLUTTYY! That might not be what you mean but from what I read you seem like a desperate whore. Maybe your still a virgin because you are so desperate. Just be patient and wait until your time comes.... maturity of a college student... yeah right.

Q: my friend is a virgin and she told me last night that she thought she was pregnant. i really dont see how this is possible but this is how she explained it: She told me she was fingered and then im guessing she gave him a blowjob and she got stuff on her hands.. she washed her hands and then put a tampon in cause she was on her period i guess. She thinks some cum got on the tampon.

i really dont understand!! is this even possible?

i think she just wants attention,
i mean ew, being fingered while on your period... that gross. and the chances of getting pregnant while on your period (even through sexual intercorse) are slim to none, when a girl has their period the body is doing everything it can to not let the girl get pregnant, and vice versa when she is not on her period. and also the chances of her being pregnant from having cum on her fingers is a very slim chance because when the sperm hits the air it ususally dies from airborne bacteria. tell you friend to stop being an attention seeker and to come up with a better lie next time.

Q: I really want to make out with this guy named Josh. But hes kinda shy, and hes my friend. I dont know how to do this. How do I make him want to make out with me? And if so, how do I get him alone (at school), and how do I make him kiss me?

You can't MAKE him do anything. If he wants to kiss you he will and if he doesn't then he won't. Nothing is ever going to happen if you want him to make the first move, so why don't you do it? Just at school pull him aside and be like I want to talk to you, then just be like i've been wanting to do this for awhile and kiss him. Like a short quick peck and then if his reaction is good go in for a deeper longer kiss. Do you like this guy? Because if you do then you should tell him. And if you don't then thats just a bit slutty.

Q: hi i was wondering what it means when people put ilywamh on a IM or myspace

it means i love you with all my heart

Q: does anyone know where to download harry potter movies/ebooks FOR FREE?
thanks muchoo!

limewire, or bearshare, if you want viruses or want to get arrested.

Q: how do you make yourself throwup? if the gag-reflex tear-drop looking thing at the back of your throat doesnt work when you touch it or whatever?

umm first of all why would you want to do that? and i really hope the people who read this don't answer because they are stupid to help you become a bulemic.

Q: how can you learn to kiss or how do you know if you know how to kiss

Honestly, kissing doesn't come naturally, because when your nervous you kind of freeze up. The other people that posted saying it comes naturally are only saying that because they don't know what else to say, either that or they never kissed anyone before. To make this easier on you I would tell the person you are going to be kissing that you are not real good at it and you need to be "directed" until you get the hang of it. I can't tell you a specific way to kiss because everyone does it differently and the way I do it might not be the way you like to do it. And also you kind of have to follow your partner's way of kissing to make it easier.

Good luck hope this helped just remember to relax so it isn't as hard.

Q: 19 f
ok so i went on a date with this really nice guy the other night. weve been talking to each other and everything has just really clicked. Well i wound up spending the night at his house. We didnt do anything really just made out and stuff. I then slept in the guestroom. WEll my bestfriend wasnt happy about it. She had already told me that it was still to soon to do that. While i agree with where she was coming from in regards to that i also wanted to make my own decisions on this. I chose to spend the night and it was one of the best night of my life. I just want to know what i can say to her that will tell her i really respect your opinion but at the same time you cant be mad at me for what my decision is. I value our friendship alot and i dont want to say anything that will jeperodize it. Thanks for listening.

You can tell her that your are an adult and can make your own decisions, if you wanted someone to make them for you, you would let your mom or dad do it. Let her know that you are responsable enough to know right from wrong and what moving to fast is. Most people your age probably would have gone further than making out and you know your boundries and followed them.

Hope i helped and good luck!

Q: 13/F. This entire school year I have been wearing a 32AA bra. My friends have always made fun of me for my little boobs. Well my mother got me fitted this weekend and according to the people I should be wearing a 32B bra instead. Now they dont look right on me and when I told my friends they didn't believe at all that was my size and even asked me if I stuffed. Im too afraid to wear my new bra cause I think people will believe I stuff or will say mean things about me. I dont like wearing this size bra and im going to my best friends house tonight and she deffinately doesnt believe me. What should I do?

why do you care what other people think about your boobs. it's none of their business and i really don't know why you told them your "new cup size" in the first place.... and if they were really your friends then they wouldn't make fun of you. and if its really that important to you to let them know you bra size then cut the tag out and show them.

Q: does someone want to explain to me what is 4/20 all about? thanks

National pot smoking day.
The reason it is national pot smoking day is because it is also hitler's birthday, and to celebrate he gave all of his Nazi's weed.

Q: I need help. I am 13/f and I'm having trouble finding bathing suits. I'm small so when ever I look at bathing suits that fit, they are kiddish. I am a 10 in tops and bottoms. If you can help, please do so.

Thanks in advance.

ive had this problem before.

here are some links of baithing suits i like

http://www.oldnavy.com/browse/product.do?cid=14506&pid=483484&scid=483484012

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=32059&pid=484416

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=32059&pid=484409

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=32059&pid=419406

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=32059&pid=486926

those are pretty good prices and they are cute, to find a cute baithing suit it ususally costs around $40 but these are all in the $15-$20 range

Q: I broke my phone so I'm getting a new verizon one.

Does anybody have one they like, or even a website that shows all the verizon phones available?

Right now I sort of want the LG Chocolate or possible the Samsung u740 (http://samsungmobileusa.com/u740/)
So if you have either of those, opinions would be soo great!

THANKS!

i have the lg chocolate, i love it but it freezes sometimes.

Q: What are some good songs to play at a wedding?

i want truly madly deeply to be my wedding song

either by cascada (girl singing it) or savage garden (boy singing it)

Q: girlies - what are your favorite jeans? i am looking for
something NOT like abercrombie or hollister in that i
want them to be tight YET stretchy enough to be comfy
... i don't want to spend more than $40. helpp?

kind of like true religions, cause i want them to be tight
and stretchy at the same time (but i dont want true
religions! so expensive).

thanks, lovess.

Angels, Glo, LEI, Levi.
you can get them all at kohls.

Also American Eagle's jeans are amazing!

Q: alright, this might be kind of a stupid question, but i just need advice.

i`m not comfortable wearing tampons, i don`t know why. i`ve tried, and i just don`t like it. eventually, it`ll be practical, sure, but for right now, i`m sticking with pads. i got my period in 6th grade, when i was 12, in december. i`m not in 7th grade and 13.

last summer, i didn`t go to the pool or anything when i was swimming, but i had my period when my whole family went to a waterpark, so i wore a tampon that day, but i didn`t like it, and it didn`t even do anything because my period stopped that day. so i don`t even know how well a tampon works for me, or if it would work well enough while swimming.

anyways, i hate having people ask me to go to the pool when i have my period and won`t go. so, if i wore a tampon, would i be able to go? or would it still be a good idea to just stay out of the water for that day? what if i`m going to a waterpark or something when i have it, should i wear a tampon then?

these might seem like stupid questions, but i wasn`t really sure. thanks in advance :D

Don't worry this wasn't a stupid question. Don't let your period hold you back. The tampon will deffinatly work during swimming. You just have to make sure that you get the right fit. Since you are still new at this, make sure you get slim fit tampons, I love the Tampax pearl, Playtex slim fits are also more comfortable. Also You have to make sure that you pushed it up as far as it could go, and on a slight angle.

I only wear tampons when I am going swimming, but once you use them more often they get more comfortable, and it feels so much better when you are actually in the water. When I am in the water I can't even feel it. Make sure your string isn't hanging out of your bottoms though!

Q: so, im getting a puppy. a chihuahua. shes only 5 weeks,(6 weeks saturday) and she started eating by herself, so i might get her this weekend. well anyways, i like the name Stella. But when people ask me her name, i say Stella, and they give me a weird look. i think the name is cute.
so my first question. do you think the name is cute?
and can anyone think of cute unique dog names. oh and if you couldnt tell, shes a girl.. haha
thanks!!!

It's illegal to have a puppy under 8 weeks old because it still needs it's mother. So wherever you are getting her from probably isn't the best place because if they are willing take illegal actions and sell/give away puppies at that age then I can insure you that puppy won't last as long as a dog who was with their mother until they were 8 weeks old.

I like the name stella, don't worry about what other people think, it's your dog so they shouldn't care what you name it.

Q: i have sweaty hands all the time! It's not at any one point, or when I feel any one specific emotion. It just randomly occurs, occuring often that is :(

I have been able to cope with it for awhile, but i feel extremly awkward when even holding hands with my partner. During a long kiss she will caress my face or play with my hair. It is somthing I am afraid to do back to her because my hands. I don't want to mess the moment up or make her feel uncomfortable or awkward. If we both are sweaty things are a bit easier, I can rub my hands on my jeans or shirt fast to dry them and then proceed to feel her, but I hesitate from touching her face or any part of her for that matter when we are just kissing.

Is there a good way to solve this problem. I want to be able to caress her and make her feel loved while we kiss, not just when we're both already hot :-(

advicenator girls: would'nt you feel awkward if your lover was touching you excessivly with sweaty hands

thanks in advance
-Corey

There is really no way to solve it.
Baby powder helps a little bit but its kind of messy and you have to make sure its rubbed in real well. If it doesn't work I would just stay clear of her face, unless you only use your fingertips because your palms are ususally the sweaty part. Also you can play with her hair because you can't feel sweat through your hair or head. And also anywhere when she has clothes on, like rub her back or her leg.

Q: I have very light skin, and I do NOT tan at all. It really sucks but I want to know what kind of bathing suit would look good on someone with really light skin. Like what color and what kind of bathing suit. Thanks :)

Bright white, or light pink baithing suits tend to make pale people look tanner. Tankini's would probably be best because they don't show as much skin but any baithing suit is fine.

you do have to be careful with white baithing suits though because some tend to be see through =/

Q: I go tanning & I get pretty tan. Lateley, my legs & stomach get tanned a lot but my face & arms aren't as tan. Make sence? How can I prevent that?

i am not sure why that is happening but what you can try to do is use tanning oil on the spots that need it more. or one time you can bring a towel and cover up your legs and stomach