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i have 8 svchost.exe on my windows task mangager. which ones can i just end process?

NONE.

I've tried doing that once, but with a different .exe file, and I began getting weird popups telling me that a program needs to terminate. I ended up having to have to do a hard reset on my computer. Don't touch ANYTHING for the sake of your computer.

well what is something i could give my bf when i move? i want to make a memory scrapbook thing but something else that he can remember me by. im giving my bffs rings or those little token things but i dont know what to do for him. cause those are more for girls arent they? thanks so much :)

Give him one of your old shirts that you've worn while dating him, and spray your perfume on it that you've also worn while dating him.

There is this girl in my English Class and I really like her, but just recently she got a boyfriend.
Now because I am also friends with her boyfriend, I feel guilty liking her. Is it still ok to talk to her, as friends?

Of course it is! It's perfectly fine to just talk. However, trying to get with her is a different story, since she's in a relationship. Keep it friends-only.

OMG so i REALLYYY want to go to one of my top 3 schools: 1. Harvard 2. Yale 3. Stanford

i kind of know what i have to do to get in. so i need to know if i do the fallowing will it help me get in:

*karate lessons
*ice skaing lessons
*safety town--its this volunteer probram
*volunteer at the hospital

I really want to get into my schools BUT i'm not doing any honors classes,and i'm most likely not going to be valadictorian. I'm in 8th grade and am going to high school in Augest. I don't really care if I don't have a life in high school...as long as i get into my top 1-2 --i really want to go to those. 3-want to go but want to go to top 1-2 more!

please help all advice welcome!

Yes, colleges look at extracurriculars, but they also look at SAT/ACT scores, grades, and your GPA. These schools typically look for grades ABOVE a 4.0 GPA. The way to make your GPA increase, is to do well in your classes, and to take honors classes. You should probably consider enrolling into more advanced classes once you go to high school. Education is just one part of it. The second part of getting into an Ivy League school is the ability to pay for tuition. The typical rates for state universities tend to be about 8,000-10,000 dollars. What if I told you the tuition for an Ivy League school was 40,000? Sure, your parents will probably take out some loans to help you out, and financial aid and grants may or may not be given to you [depending on your parents income and mortgage]. You will probably have to get a job if you plan to attend these schools.

How can I get around to doing my school work and not playing online (my school is completly online, I cant quit school to do school). And noone is ever around when I do school so I'm all by myself playing on the computer and watching TV (I'm homeschooled). Does anyone know ways to get to doing my school work.

**EDIT**

I have a wireless laptop too, you need a modem anyway to connect to the computer. It doesn't mean that the modem has to be plugged through the computer.

Unplug the modem that's downstairs/upstairs/whatever.

**/EDIT**

The only way to do it completely, is to just unplug the modem [what connects you to the internet]. If you play your games through software, then you'll probably have to ask your parents to password-protect the computer and not tell you the password so that there is no way to get on. That's really all that I can think of, and that's what I've had to do in the past.

I always try hard to make my job better. But i am not able to do it perfectly. I am totally disturbed.

http://www.helium.com/items/708810-secret-spend-hours-matter

hey, i am 100 lbs and 14/f
i want to lose around 5-10 lbs.
any suggestions?

My mom still had some post baby weight to take off, so what she did for about 2 months, was eat less, but still eat fibrous foods [they make you feel fuller without overeating], and she took a light jog every other day for 30 minutes with stretching in between. She also started eating frozen foods [they are moderate and generally low in fat, carbs, calories, but still provide tons of protein qand potassium]. They're pretty good, actually, I just finished eating like a chicken basil panini with avocado sauce which really wasn't that bad, actually.

Here's what you should do:
- Eat food with fiber
- Take a light jog every other day
- Stretch in between
- Eat more fruits and vegetables
- Limit portions of food
- Eliminate fatty potato chips, and other snacks, and replace them with baked, light, fat-free versions
- EAT BREAKFAST, DRINK WATER, AND GET ENOUGH SLEEP. [most important].

I saw on one of your questions that your hymen can break when you ride horses? Is this true, and how would that happen, I have been riding for 8 years, and it has never happened before, and could it happen soon, or more then once?? I just want to know just in case I start to bleed when I ride, thanks

Yes, it's possible because of the constant vibration and contact of your groin to the saddle, for example. You would feel a slight pain the groin area, and if you notice some unusual spotting [blood], and you aren't on your period, it's likely that your hymen has broken. Your hymen only breaks once, since it's like an elastic material [think of a rubber band being stretched until it has snapped]. It's nothing to worry about, since it can happen sooner or later.

Any other questions, feel free to message me back. I'd be happy to help. :)

i NEED a job and i cant find any that will accept 14-16 year olds.i need to find a job soon to help my mom out with the rent.i would even do babysitting for a small cost.i dont care really what it is.any suggestions?

First of all, I just wanted to say how proud I am of you for helping your mom on paying rent. That's extremely nice of you, and I'm sure that your mom is very grateful of it.

Anyways, I started working at my local church when I was 13. You will not get paid big bucks, however, since it's a church. I get about $120 a month, but the good thing is that I only have to go every Sunday, for 3 [sometimes 5] hours. You should look up some local churches on Google, call them, and ask to be connected with the Children's Ministry. That's a start.

You could also try:
- Tutoring
- In-home babysitting
- Bagging groceries
- Walking dogs
- House sitting
- Mowing lawns [since it's getting closer to Spring]
- Maid service

Try making some flyers in Word and putting them around local coffee shops as well. You mentioned 'rent', as in you live in an apartment? I put up flyers on the bulletin board in my apartment complex, and got a call that same night. I ended up watching 2 kids last summer almost every day [excluding weekends] for my summer vacation, and made $600. It's always good too start out small, and work your way up.

when does the bleeding occur when a girl's hymen is broken?

The bleeding occurs almost immediately as the hymen is broken. The hymen can be broken by use of tampons, masturbation, rough intercourse, horseback riding, etc. There are many possibilities. The bleeding can occur whenever the hymen is broken, so it can happen if you're on the regular period cycle, or if you're not. If you notice some spotting that hasn't been there before, it's likely that the hymen has been broken.

My wife and I had been married for over four years.
I have ADD and high anxiety which I'm not taking medication for.
I had a pretty good paying job but was laid off early 1n 2007.
My eyes started giving me problems before the lay off but I did get them checked out while I still had insurance.

Found out this year that both of my eyes have cataracts. I've attempted working at three jobs but my eye sight prevented me from passing the probationary period.

Here's my issue. I had a step daughter that had always found a ways into getting into trouble. Everything you asked her not to do, she went ahead and done. The computer she would stay on Instant messaging, My spacing all her friends till early morning.
I gave her so many chances but she proved to me she didn't care.
Her mother and I constantly fought about her because every time I tried to lay the Law down, the discipline was always to severe.
Even if it was just a few weeks without the computer.
Then she started on the phone..the same thing.

My wifes daughter wouldn't barely do any thing in the house.
And after her mother and I told her we expected more from her since she was 16, like washing clothes, doing the dishes...she made sure she washed only her stuff when begged, ( and if she washed three loads of clothes, it would take over three days and then you'd never find them put away) until I got so tired and fed up with her and the way me and her mother fought all of the time because how she ran the house, I made her move out when she turned 18 and graduated.
My step daughters every other word was profanity, and I don't think that she once told her mother or me the truth.
And Lord if you found her in a lie ( which was always ) she would cover it up with another one. She never admitted to anything she done. From bringing guys over when her mother and I were gone, to finding a ways to explain why she messed around with her best friends boyfriend.

Well, My father and mother passed away with cancer. And I made sure that no body smoked in the house. My wife and I don't smoke.
My wife invited her brother over ( or he invited his self ) and in both houses we used to live in, he smoked in each one, not caring.
And my wife let him and to this day, if he wanted to visit...I'm sure the same thing would have happened.

Well again, on Christmas eve of 2007, her daughter wanted to spend the night with us, to be there on Christmas. She smoked.

When I went down to visit my family in Alabama, mysteriously as it sounds, my wife let her daughter move back in knowing full well we never got along. Knowing full well her daughter never listened to one rule of the house, never helped out.
Then one day out of the many fights that broke out in the few months her daughter stayed there, my wife asked me to leave. And I did.

Amy, was I asking to much? Showing respect seems to be a thing of the past in today's society, but the way my wife handled each situation, and the way her daughter and her whispered and told there secrets, was it fair or justified at the way things were handled?
It seems as though the many things I accused her daughter of doing, my wife finally told me that yes, she did smoke pot, yes she was smoking in every room in the house when she ( her mother ) was in the hospital, yes, she fooled around with boys when we weren't there.

But instead of digging in deep and finally sticking up to her guns
and giving discipline to her daughter, it was easier to let me go.

What are the parameters of a marriage? Just because a person has children, does that erase the morality or any since of any opinion I may have had? I love her mother very much, but would I be asking for more heart ache if I tried pursuing this marriage. I don't want to walk away from this marriage. To me I think the Lord gave her to me, I'll get counseling and change anything I can.
But if I'm going to be the only one who'll attempt to change, will
this be visible?

Thank you

I just wanted to add that it takes a very, very long time for teen girls to get used to stepdads. I have a stepdad, and he's there for me more than my biological dad. I love my stepdad, and I know that he has good intentions. Your stepdaughter might use the reason that you're not her real dad as to why she doesn't listen to you. I know you might think that 'Oh, well, she should already know by now,' but it's very unusual having a man coming into your life, and taking the place as the father figure. My stepdad and I do not have much in common, so it might be a little easier for teen guys to get comfortable and associated with their new stepdads [same interests in sports, movies, cars, ect.] I'm only 15, and I know that I cannot give advice as compared to a.. 26 year old for example. Your wife will probably almost always take the side of your daughter in some situations [like how she let her move back in], because that's the way that it is. It's maternal instinct. It's hard to explain, but I think you understand what I mean.

Sorry if that didn't help, I just thought that I'd add in my 2 cents.

For a competition at school, I need to choreograph a salsa dance. I'm 16/f. I need a modern song to dance to. It needs to be something fast, preferably in english. It would be great if it was something teens have heard.

Okay, I have the perfect song for Salsa. It's not that fast, but it seriously fits for the dance.

"Smooth" by Santana ft. Rob Thomas
http://youtube.com/watch?v=gpX97eg-W-k

"Maria Maria" by Santana
http://youtube.com/watch?v=6Ml3NUIDpFg

"Medicine to My Soul" - Juan Luis Guerra

"Shake Ya Tailfeather" - Nelly
http://youtube.com/watch?v=xxrbSIR_CYw
[you'd have to be deaf to not hear the quick-quick-slow beat in the song]

Ok well I'm 14 and I wanna kno if it is illegal to go out w/ a 17 yr old but he will be 18 june & I will be 15 in july... is it illegal to go out w/ him even though it is a long distance thing he lives in P.A I live in Fl is it illegal to go out w/ him????

It's fine if you guys go out.

If you guys decide to have sex, the legal age of consensual [meaning that you agreed to it] sex in Florida is 18. So you'll have to wait awhile if you even plan on engaging in foreplay and/or sex. I don't know how long you plan on staying with him, but that's just a theory.

Remember, he is older and has already matured, so be careful, hun.

Well..i got like a sorta pimple on my lip and im wondering if it can be a Cold Sore because i dont think its Herpes cuz i never kissed a boy before..so is it a cold sore??

It's just a pimple, a cold sore, or an ingrown hair. Don't touch it, just let it heal on it's own. It's definitely not herpes.

In case if it is a cold sore,

ok so this guy asked for my # about a month ago and asked me to hang out like 4 times (including last weekend) but ive been busy. but he knows i wanna hang out with him im sure b/c ive let him know.
but i dont know...does that sound like he likes me? we dont talk a lot in school b/c he isnt in any of my classes. we just kinda know each other from around...

If he asked you for your number, and has consistently asked you to hang out, then yes, he definitely is interested.

Hang out when you have some free time, and get to know one another. It sounds like you have a good thing going for you.

i cut myself and the scars kind of turn white and they wont go away.im mixed with black and white.how do i get the scars to go away.

and dont say anything about "cutting is not good for you" and "you shouldnt cut yourself".if i want your opinion on that i will ask

say nothing more than the answer to the question i asked.

Use Shea Butter/Cocoa Butter. They help get rid of stretch marks, but also scars. You can find it anywhere.

is it legal for a fifteen year old and an eighteen year old to have sex?

All of the previous answers are incorrect.

The Age of Consensual Sex varies from state to state.

http://www.coolnurse.com/consent.htm

There's a huge table for all of the 50 states.

I don't want to copy and paste it, because it's a table and it will take up way too much space.

If you don't want to scroll, push the Control Key & the 'F' letter key, and type in your state so it will automatically take you to the state and the ages that the male and female have to be in order to have sex.

Do you guys have any ideas for mysapce songs? Stuff like Jimmy eat world, death cab for cutie, taking back sunday? Stuff like that
or just kinda cute songs (not about love please...ughhh)
Oh, and not rap...HATE IT!

"Remembering Sunday" - All Time Low
"Smother Me" - The Used

15/f
this might be long.
well feb. vacation i went on a royal caribbean cruise, and let me tell you, it was amazing. i went expecting it to not be as good as it was. i didn't think i would even meet anyone, but i made a bunch of friends. it was wayy too short though (only 5 nights) the first night we met a bunch of people and we hung out all rest of the week. the second to last night, me and this kid were talking more and i started liking him a bit. then the last night we were talking like all night and i ended up smoking with him, and talking some more. we all didn't want to go to sleep because it was the last night so we were all hanging out and we were like cuddling and whatever and he was compeltely blazed and didnt feel good so he kinda like passed out on my lap so i just scratched his back(it was probably a "move" but i didn't mind:])so we walked for a bit and we were holding hands and whatever, by then it was 5 AM so everyone was like we should go to bed but me and him wanted to stay out but my sister was like dude go to bed you're like dead so we had to ilke search for his room because he forgot where it was haha so my sister was just like go and pushed him towards his room(grr) so he lke stumbled his way down the hall and i really regret not "helping him to his room" or kissing him or anything. we didnt even get to say goodbye :[
we talked through facebook for a bit after we got back but not anymore. but i really miss him and i dont want to keep start conversations about nothing. who knows if he even misses me back. i don't know, he's just differant from other guys i've been with. like he was actually good to talk to and had depth to him unlike the cookie cutter guys back home. we just really connected. i don't know how to explain it, but lyrics that are like exactly how i feel are just one night by cassie (except the sex part lol) feeling this by blink 182 (the part when tom sings in the middle is SO dead on) and against all odds by phil collins is pretty exact too.
i canotttt stop thinking about him and i miss my friends/the cruise in general so muchh. i hate coming home to stress and coldness. we've discussed a reunion type thing since we're all in the northeast but who knows if that'll even happen. i just get attached to things way too easily. how can i get over this and top missing him? whattt do i do?
(sorry this was like, a novel)

I'm really sorry to say this, but I think that he's already moved on.. there's really not much else to say. I don't know if a reunion would be a good idea because things would just become awkward [since he's already moved on]. He just saw it as a short term thing, and probably didn't expect for anything serious to branch out from that. This might sound kind of cliche, but there WILL be other guys. Trust me.

so this friend told me Oreo cookies contain some kind of drug that makes kids addicted to them. I did not believe her, that sounds crazy!
Does anyone know if this happens to be true or not??
Plz Plz I wanna know

I'm about 100% sure that oreo cookies don't have any drugs in them. What gets kids addicted to them is the sugar and the glucose, but nothing pertaining to drugs.

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