I'll give advice to anyone I think I can help in any way. Ask away.
Gender: Female
Location: England
Occupation: Student/ General Know-It-All
Age: 22
Member Since: August 17, 2005
Answers: 297
Last Update: January 22, 2011
Visitors: 23373
Favorite Columnists
Scribble
poa
comradestalin
hebe
mundokiir
|
| |
Ok, before I ask my Q, I just want to make this clear---IF YOU DON'T KNOW A LOT ABOUT MUSIC, DO NOT ANSWER. I don't want anyone saying "oh drink some honey and tea and that will turn you into a huge opera singer."
My range is from E3-Db6. I was a soprano for a while, but I switched to mezzo because my mid-voice notes are stronger and richer than my higher notes. My problem is: From D4 on up, my notes sound kind of thin and weak. I can sing the notes easily, but it doesn't sound rich like my mid-voice register. If fact, it sounds like two different people singing. But last week, I had a 3-hour choir rehearsal, and near the end my higher notes sounded rich and like the same person singing. Why is this? (link)
|
basically because you "warmed up" your vocal chords. think of it as a piece of blue tack. if you try to stretch it cold they snap but the longer you play around with it the further you can pull it before it breaks or gets weak and thin.
The key here is practise, and exercises before you start to sing properly. try to do some every day and you should see some long term improvement.
|
OKay so i have to write a essay on it and im kinda stuck!
Heres what my sheet says...
How does Shakespeare introduce Juliet to the audience?
comment on:...
- What is said about her
- Who she is surrounded by (her mother and the nurse)
- What she says
- First impressions
- The influences from those close to her (the nurse)
so thats what i have to do... my essay has to be from the start of act 1 scene 2 up until the end of act 1 scene 3.. so yes its only to scenes but im really confused with it.
so if any one could help me i'd be sooo greatful! also if you have any other ideas of what i could include in my essay to get a better grace id really appreciate that to :) thankyou xx
has to be between 500 and 1000 words (link)
|
Ah Romeo and Juliet. Studied it 3 times in 2 years. so:
1) Capulet and paris discuss her age mainly. A big deal is made of the fact that she is very young. In elizabethan times girls were married off in their early teens so the fact that Capulet is reluctant to give her away yet shows just how young she is and also (going onto no.2, that she has a protective father despite the later happenings in the play). Act 1 Scene 3 look for stuff the nurse says. She is he one who launches into juliet's history as a child. Lady Capulet has not a lot to say about her and the stuff she does say is wrong-eg:her age(we'll come to that in a min.) and focuses on Paris' virtues more than her daughter's.
2)Capulet, the protective father.
The nurse who takes on the mother-role in juliet's life (she was the one who breast fed her and rmemebers anecdotes from J's childhood. Nurse also lost her own daughter so Juliet is a substitute.
Lady C- the absent, socialite mother who married and had juliet young. She is concerned with uliet marrying the wealthiest, most renowned dude possible (Paris).
Paris- thinks J's pretty and from a good family. Knows nothing else about her although to be fair he does seem quite loyal later on when mourning her.
3)She begins very "yes mother, no mother, three bags full" a little bemused at the idea of marriage "it is an honour that I dream not of". This meek and mild attitude is important because as the play goes on we see her take more and more control of her own life (to the point of ending it even) and basically see her grow up very quickly. You'll realise as the pay goes on that Romeo actually plans very little-juliet is the practical one.
4)First impressions are your own thoughts. Do you think she's sweet? A sap? up to you. just justify it and make sure you take into account the different social contexts of now and back then. (now she might look pathetic but back then girls were supposed to be obdient and subservient for example)
5)The Nurse is a pretty "earthy" (dirty minded but not sick lol) character who basically thinks marriage is a great idea partly because it's the done thing and partly because it means Juliet will get laid. (Seriously). However although she sings Paris' praises, she doesn't particularly care who Juliet marries so long as he's a decent guy. When she marries Romeo the Nurse is as all for that as she was for marriage to Paris. Her enthusiasm isn't personal to Paris.
phew. Hope I haven't spoiled the entire play for you! I'm guessing you know the basic plot already.
Incidentally the most sickening phrase Juliet utters in the play is "I'll look to like if, looking liking move; but no more deep will i endart mine eye Than your consent gives strength to make it fly". Basically "if he's fit, i'm sure i'll like him but i won't do anything at all without your permission". Use it. It sums up her character (a young, naive puppet) as we first see her- she would never utter this by the end of the play which shows her development. Also it shows just how much she's been brought up to be traditional and confined making her rebellion a much much bigger deal than if that strong loyalty to her parents wasn't there.
Good luck with it!
|
hey everyone....
i went on this site and noticed that some other people have been having the same problem that i have- well it's not really a problem- but it happens at least 3-4 times a day and everyday too. ok this is what's happening- every time i look at a clock- at home, in my room,at school , anywhere- anytime- the numbers on the clock are all the same like everday i come home from school and the time is 3:33- and when i lay in bed and glance at the clock before i go to sleep it says 11:11- and even when my friends stay over- we went to bed at 2:22- and woke up at 11:11- and one time i went into the mall and it was 1:11- i came out and it was 4:44- and it's really starting to freak me out- i'm not sure if it's just some big coincedence- or if it's a sign for something- so if you have any information or anything in common about/with this subject-please share it with me.-thank you
ashley (link)
| |
omg! i have no advice whatsoever about this but i thought i was the only one!!! *hugs* lol.x
|
Well, here's my situation. I had a best friend, and we were VERY close. We started growing apart during the summer of 2005, and the last thing I hung out with her was probably some time in September. We rarely ever talk anymore; even in her myspace it says on one of the surveys, "Have any best friends: No" or something like that. As much as it hurts me, I'm starting to get over it.
This situation has left a scar, though.
I am starting to get paranoid about my friends. A friend could act weird, and I freak out, wondering if I did anything wrong. If a friend doesn't talk to me on AIM or call me enough, I start wondering, "Oh man, I must have said/done something wrong to make them do that." Even if a friend talks to another person (If the other person is a friend or not), I get kind of jealous. I don't mention it to my friends, but it sure is a problem for me.
If you've ever grown apart from a friend that you still cared about, you probably understand what I mean.
What should I do to get over this paranoia? How can I get my old life back and just enjoy spending time with friends without worry? (link)
|
Getting over this is a combination of time and good friends. If you have a really close friend try confiding in them about part of your worries (best not to pour out all the crazy in one go I find!). Often they'll reassure you enough to reassure you for a while at least.
Afraid it's just a case of coming to terms with the fact that sometimes some people will come and go from your life and living in the present making as many great memories as you can.
You'll be fine x
|
Ok im 13 and im in 8th grade..and im already tired of school. Ok? Like i have a lot of friends i just dont like people and all the drama with my friends so it takes all of me to get up in the morning and go to school. Then like the teachers are ok and all but they just put too much pressure on me and i teach myself better than they teach me. So i want to be homeschooled for highschool...my sister said she would do it i mean she works at home anyway. But my dad doesnt think its such a very good idea because then i may not get into a good college but i dont know if i want to go to college...i really desperately need help.. should i stick it out and try for college or just be homeschooled what would you do? Also im pretty much inlove with this guy actually im fully inlove with this guy and we have our whole lives planned together. So we want to get married as soon as I graduate because he's joining the marines and like thats another thing... i was gonna live on base with him... so i dont kno what to do. I dont know if i want college and i dont know if i was to be homeschooled... i'm really thinking about it but then like i dont kno im just so confused can anyone help??
Sorry if this is confusing i just kinda wrote what i was thinking and my toughts are all jambled right now...please help!
Kayte (link)
|
I understand what you're saying about school. I'm in my last year and at points it's felt like battling through a minefield of stupidity and melodrama. However school is the best place in the world for meeting people you get on with and learning to deal with life in general, and yes it will most likely be far easier to get into college if you go through the normal route. Personally while I think homeschooling is awesome for education-working at your pace etc, it can be quite alienating both at the time and later on- when you're an adult you will be missing that common experience with other people who went through highschool.
As for this boy, you could well be right and you two could well end up getting married but 4/5years is a long time and you are both going to become very different people. If you two really are in love you going to highschool will not break you apart. You have years and years to decide whether you want college and marriage or not.
In the meantime i'd give highschool a try. It's much easier to drop out of highschool to be homeschooled than it is to try to enrol in highschool halfway through a year.
|
|
ok well theres this boy i like alot and well he likes this other girl but last year he told me i am hot so than i started to like him but now he told the other girl he likes her and she doesnt like him but about every 2 month he says it hoping it will change but she not going to change her mind every time he says i like you to her i get so mad/sad cause in those 2 month i try to get him to like me my question is should i get over him or keep trying and if its keep trying what should i do. (link)
|
Move on hun. Sadly we can't make people love us no matter what we do and it sounds like he's really hung up on this girl. Imagine if you guys went out and you always knew at the back of your mind he was infatuated with this chick. not cool.
Find someone who likes you as much as you like them- lots less heartache all round.x
|
|
Well ive had a b/f for 11 months now and i do love him or else i wouldnt be so confused....Theres no spark anymore because hes so up my butt lol...He doesnt leave his dark room to hang out with anyone else because he said he might miss my call and he hates everyone because he said he doesnt need friend he only needs me and im only 17 so i dont want a relationship like that. and there is this guy and when ever he flirts with me or even talks to me i get excited.....and smile but i know if i break up with my boyfriend he'll fall hard and cry n stop going to school and do stupid things and i wouldnt be able to handle that! what should i do? (link)
|
If you really feel you want out of this relationship then you have a perfect right to do so- you are not obligated to stay with this guy and you are not responsible for what he does if you leave him. If you want to make it work you have to talk to him gently but firmly about giving you some space and generally getting a life outside of you. You may be the best girlfriend in the world but you are not his mother and every guy needs friends.
Your crush on this other guy seems to basically represent the freedom and fun you're not getting from your boyfriend so you need to decide whether you want to try to get those things from your bf or if it's time to move on to someone else who can give them to you.
good luck
|
|
I used a tampon for the first time tonight. I began to feel a little discomfort afterabout 30minutes to I took it out. However it hurt to take it out; I had to pull pretty hard. Is this normal? (link)
|
it's really weird at first so yeah it's normal. Make sure you push it in far enough. If you take it out before (sorry this is gross) it's had a chance to get soaked in blood then it'll hurt coz of the friction of the material against sensitive areas! Much easier once you've left it in for a while.
Try using smaller ones to start off with, with a pad too incase you leak.
|
|
okay, i dont understand why i feel like this, but it happens in my relationship sometimes. well like sometimes ill feel bad for something i did (or didnt do) even though i probably shouldnt.. so i apologize for it.. then after i say im sorry.. i feel bad again and feel stupid like why did i even apologize for that? and i also feel like apologizing for stuff even when i dont even know if it needs a "im sorry" that its gonna push my boyfriend away.. or cause problems for spilling my heart out or saying sorry. so then sometimes ill tell him "well im sorry for apologizing, i thought i needed to" I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY IM LIKE THIS!! i hope it makes sense, it was hard to explain. and i know that if i said sorry at the time.. then it was obviously how i felt and nothing is wrong with letting your boyfriend know exactly how you feel or what is on your mind, is there? like i dont wanna push my boyfriend away by always being musy & sweet or apologizing.. but that kind of stuff won't push him away will it? i dont know, im confused. oh and no.. my boyfriend has never said anything like he doesnt like it when i say im sorry for stupid stuff or being sweet/mushy or anything.. but maybe hes just not telling me. someone just help me please! (link)
|
Heh yeah I have that. It's like a tick. If someone pushes past me I apologise. Several theories:
1) could be down to insecurity and fear of losing people
2)The politeness rammed into you at a young age to the point of having a phobia of rudeness
3)it's said with the hope of getting an apology back from the guy which you feel you deserve.
Alll of these apply to me so I'd advise that as you feel a "sorry" coming on you pause for a couple of seconds and ask yourself if you were really in the wrong. It's tricky to catch yourself before you say it but you'll get used to it. It's the same as trying to train yourself out of any automatic response like when you change your phone number or any speech tick such as say "like" in the middle of sentences (I do that too. it even annoys me.)
It's pretty unlikely to be such a big problem it drives your boyfriend away but i'm sure he'd like yto see you with a litte more confidence in yourself.
Good luck x
|
I am really bad at seperating boyfriends from friends. Is the only difference between having a boyfriend and having guy friends is that you can kiss and hold hands with your boyfriend? I guess I have a problem..cause I treat my boyfriend the same way as my guy friends. Does anybody have an ideas how I can let him know that I really do like him as my boyfriend? Cause I am starting to convince myself that we should just be friends. Thanks.
14/f (link)
|
Ouch lol. Sounds really patronising but you're 14 and when I was 14 yeah that was basically the difference between a guy friend and a boyfriend because none of my boyfriends were serious. When you do get serious about someone, like others have said, they will basically be the person you want to spend the most time with/confide in/lean on and your guy friends will become a kind of genetically altered extension of your female friends. eg: if you saw them naked your reaction would be...well nothing. except maybe laugh lol.
But hell it sounds like you're having fun right now so roll with it. When the right guy comes along the distinction'll happen naturally.
|
|
over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me (link)
|
I'm willing to bet this is not the best idea you've ever had. She's hot, take a picture. You love her personality, be friends with her. However hard it is they are your only options to keep your marriage happy.
Yeah you only live once and believe me i understand that pull towards someone else but at the end of the day you are old enough to understand the effect this could have on everyone concerned. If you don't understand this I suggest you shouldn't be married.
I'm sorry to sound cliched but how would you feel if it was done to you. seriously imagine your wife doing what you're contemplating. If the thought doesn't really bother, again, perhaps you shouldn't be married.
Sleeping with some random person is one thing (no better obviously but still) but if you begin an affair with someone you and your wife see a fair amount (which i assume you do) you're just creating a time bomb which i guarantee will explode in your face sooner or later.
Minimum risk (in fact, the only course of action risk-free) is to let this woman be if you want to keep your wife. If not, time to be a man and say so.
|
|
Ok, so I have been going out with this guy for almost a month, but it feels like it has been longer becasue of certian things. I mean we have been like best friends since 6th grade and we madeout before going out, so it's not like we started out as slow as some people might. He's still really good friends with his ex, I mean I'm friends with her too and I'm also good friends with my ex, but I get jealous of his relationship with her, and I'm not usually a jealous person. I don't know how to say anything to him, or to her, because it's a werid subject for me, and to top things off the only person that I can really talk to about with, or have really talk to about it at all with, is my ex. How do I say something without sounding like a girlfriend who reads too much into things and worries too much? (link)
|
By admitting that you have insecurities like anyone else and letting him reassure you. Seriously not a big deal if you bring it up in a non-accusing way. Pretty much everyone gets all paranoid at some point where relationships are concerned (i hope...otherwise i'm really weird) and if you're in a good relationship you'll support each other, maybe make an extra effort with them when that person's around for a while.
God knows I get jealous about my boyfriends girl-friends and considering the amount of guy friends i have that makes me a complete hypocrite- it's not rational, just relationship instincts.
Congratulations, you're normal!
|
|
do guys prefer for a girl to fake an orgasm if they don't get one during sex? (link)
| |
No it hurts their pride if they find out. But if you've done it already don't beat yourself up. Every girl has at some point.
|
what does "for learning how to rule the air was not a bed of roses" renames,describes,or refers to ?? i really need help bad !
♥
thanks !! (link)
| |
in the literal sense that it was not easy to invent the plane (to rule the air). In a more english-y sense you could point out the use of the two elements of air and earth(bed of roses), earth being what they're trying to leave and perhaps what we already rule.
|
|
Hi, i was wondering if it it possible to miss a period? Ive been very active in sports this month and im a week late on my period. Thanks (link)
| |
yeah definately. especially if you've only started within say the last year or have been stressed in some way. You could just be a bit late or generally irregular. The pill can regulate your periods if it's a problem but if not, nothing to worry about so long as you're not having unprotected sex.
|
|
I find myself caring way too much about what other people say, especially when it comes to my family. Last night I cried myself to sleep because two of them had said something nasty about my boyfriend -- which I should be used to, since they've loathed my boyfriend from the day I met him four years ago and they've made no secret of it. I really can't go on like this, getting upset every time they say something nasty to me (not just about my boyfriend, anything). What are little tricks you can play with yourself so you don't care quite so much about what other people say? (link)
|
1) understand their motives for saying what they do. If they're unreasonable, try to hang onto that fact. A lot of the time what people say about you has more to do with their problems than yours.
2) try to remember all the positive things people say to you. If you have trouble remmebering, keep a kind of diary of compliments and good times. You know how most people use diaries to vent and moan? Do the opposite. Really helps to look back at it.
3) don't rise to it and get upset in front of them. just humour them and let it wash over you. It can help to say something they really don't expect (if you're anything like me it'll make you laugh and feel all smug :)). e.g. if they accuse you of being selfish/stupid etc etc just agree and leave it at that. YOU don't have to believe it but it'll pull them up short coz where do you go from there really?
it's really hard but just try to make a real effort to like and believe in yourself. Make time to take care of yourself and just do things you want t do sometimes. It'll take time but you really can do it.
|
|
how do you get rid of pimples by, lets say, tommorow? ill rate 5's (link)
|
it'll be pretty dificult to do it in one day but if you can, buy a Witch Stick. It's the best thing i've ever found for getting rid of them quickly and permanently if you use it regularly.
Other than that, concealer covered by powder to stop it coming off is your best bet.
|
Alright so a few nights ago I got really, really drunk. Like, I can't even remember anything besides taking the shots.
But the thing is
I got drunk and this guy fingered me+I gave him head. I'm a virgin so really the only thing that's 'been in me' was his finger...
and I'm pretty sore
But the thingis...
I don't know If he actually put his dick inside of me. He might've, but he doesn't remember either.
I got my period the next morning, so I'm wondering if there's any possibility at all that I may be pregnant.
thankyou (link)
|
very unlikely.
It'd be very unusual to get pregnant at the stage in your cycle anyway plus the fact you did get your period.
If you were both drunk it's certainly possible that the reason you're sore is just from his drunken cack-handedness and him not really knowing to be gentle with you down there.
Get a pregnancy test anyway-it'll give you peace of mind.
|
|
i like this dude but im scared to tell him. i wrote him a message but then i chickened out and said srry wrong jesse...anyways i go to church with him and we always set by each other...and i cant take it anymore ...pleze help (link)
|
Bless you, this dating lark's pretty scary,huh? Why don't you start by asking him out somewhere (e.g. cinema) in a group of friends and take it from there. Try to get up the courage to get talking to him properly there then maybe you can progress to seeing each other one on one and take it from there.
If you're lucky it'll mean he'll be the one asking you out sio you're off the hook anyway! And if it doesn't work out like that at least you'll have got a friend out of the whole thing. And you can't have too many of those.
Best of luck
|
What do they mean by this " But, not till Man forgets his wings, Will man forget his wrights "
This is a poem about Wilburt & Orville Wright !!
please help fast !! (link)
| |
well basically (very basically...maybe too basically...) the Wrights invented the airplane, the "wings" are a reference to wings of a plane which allow man to fly. Hence until planes are forgotten, the wrights will not be since they invented it...
|
|