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Female-15....almost 16 w/ boyfriend-15
Ok, so I have been going out with this guy for almost a month, but it feels like it has been longer becasue of certian things. I mean we have been like best friends since 6th grade and we madeout before going out, so it's not like we started out as slow as some people might. He's still really good friends with his ex, I mean I'm friends with her too and I'm also good friends with my ex, but I get jealous of his relationship with her, and I'm not usually a jealous person. I don't know how to say anything to him, or to her, because it's a werid subject for me, and to top things off the only person that I can really talk to about with, or have really talk to about it at all with, is my ex. How do I say something without sounding like a girlfriend who reads too much into things and worries too much?
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Okk well i think that you shouldnt talk to your boyfriend about this because it may ruin your relationship... i think that you should just think about the friend relationship you have with your ex. You would b kinda mad if your boyfriend got jelous of him. Plus...your going out with him so he does like you more than her. just try not to get jelous. Hope i helped =]
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Jelousy is a normal thing and I'm sure it happens to everyone but you both are equal. You both are really good friends with your ex's. You shouldn't be worried that he will like her or that he might do something because if he liked her he would be with her. You know that he is YOURS and not hers. Most guys don't like when they are not trusted and then the girlfriend ends up doing something stupid because of her jelousy. Since you do want to say something to him, what would you say?? That you're jelous of him and his ex? He might get a little offended by that because you're friends with your ex to. If you want to keep a good relationship with him you need to learn how to trust him and you could do that. No matter what he will always be yours and not hers. Just tell him that you do get a little jelous but that you still trust him to make good decisions.
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By admitting that you have insecurities like anyone else and letting him reassure you. Seriously not a big deal if you bring it up in a non-accusing way. Pretty much everyone gets all paranoid at some point where relationships are concerned (i hope...otherwise i'm really weird) and if you're in a good relationship you'll support each other, maybe make an extra effort with them when that person's around for a while.
God knows I get jealous about my boyfriends girl-friends and considering the amount of guy friends i have that makes me a complete hypocrite- it's not rational, just relationship instincts.
Congratulations, you're normal!
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go to your boyfriend and something like you know i trust you, and im sure im just overracting, so please dont get mad, just sometimes i get jealous when you talk and hang out with your ex girlfriend.
stuff like that, you shouldnt hide anything from him.
im sure he will understand why you would feel this way, anyone would.
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