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Am I just being paranoid?
Well, here's my situation. I had a best friend, and we were VERY close. We started growing apart during the summer of 2005, and the last thing I hung out with her was probably some time in September. We rarely ever talk anymore; even in her myspace it says on one of the surveys, "Have any best friends: No" or something like that. As much as it hurts me, I'm starting to get over it.
This situation has left a scar, though.
I am starting to get paranoid about my friends. A friend could act weird, and I freak out, wondering if I did anything wrong. If a friend doesn't talk to me on AIM or call me enough, I start wondering, "Oh man, I must have said/done something wrong to make them do that." Even if a friend talks to another person (If the other person is a friend or not), I get kind of jealous. I don't mention it to my friends, but it sure is a problem for me.
If you've ever grown apart from a friend that you still cared about, you probably understand what I mean.
What should I do to get over this paranoia? How can I get my old life back and just enjoy spending time with friends without worry?
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I think you need to learn how to control yourself and stop all of your paranoia that you have and tell the friend you grown apart from that you really do miss hanging out and all the fun times that you and that person had.
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Getting over this is a combination of time and good friends. If you have a really close friend try confiding in them about part of your worries (best not to pour out all the crazy in one go I find!). Often they'll reassure you enough to reassure you for a while at least.
Afraid it's just a case of coming to terms with the fact that sometimes some people will come and go from your life and living in the present making as many great memories as you can.
You'll be fine x
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I hate to brake it to you, but if your scar is as bad as mine then you'll carry it with you forever. You wont be able to help the way you feel, you have to inwardly push those insecurities aside. A lot of times, I lay awake in bed, and think about my ex best friend, and I start to sob, but you know, I cry it out, and then I remind myself that I was the BEST best friend that I could be, and that if we aren't friends anymore it's not because of anything I did, it's because she didn't appreciate me. Maybe you should try telling yourself that whenever you feel like your going to loose another friend because they haven't spoken to you in a few days or something. And you got to just make sure you don't close yourself off because you're scared you'll get hurt again. Be yourself, as long as you do that, you are NEVER to blame if someone stops talking to you.
I really hope this helps, and I'm truly sorry for your pain.
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