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I am really bad at seperating boyfriends from friends. Is the only difference between having a boyfriend and having guy friends is that you can kiss and hold hands with your boyfriend? I guess I have a problem..cause I treat my boyfriend the same way as my guy friends. Does anybody have an ideas how I can let him know that I really do like him as my boyfriend? Cause I am starting to convince myself that we should just be friends. Thanks.
14/f
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The difference is in the emotions; you feel very differently for a boyfriend than you do for a friend.
Of course, this tends to manifest itself in your behavior - women tend to act differently with their boyfriends than regular folks, because they feel differently and more strongly for their boyfriends.
Odds are, you're not really into him - you don't have that special feeling for him. And that's okay; there's no sense in forcing yourself to feel a certain way.
If you don't feel strongly for him, then maybe it's best that you stay friends with him. But really, that's a choice you have to make. And remember, you're young. You may not be ready for dating yet.
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Well thats not the only difference between a bf and a guy friend. With a boyfriend you have to be more caring. Just like give him little pecks on the cheek and just like look at him differently...do you know what i mean? Like stare into his eyes, treat him like you dont want lose him basiclly. Like if he's not really the romantic type than just like kno when to like hold his hand and junk ya kno? Just like show him you are there for him. I hope i helped a little. Let me know how it goes!
Kayte
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Ouch lol. Sounds really patronising but you're 14 and when I was 14 yeah that was basically the difference between a guy friend and a boyfriend because none of my boyfriends were serious. When you do get serious about someone, like others have said, they will basically be the person you want to spend the most time with/confide in/lean on and your guy friends will become a kind of genetically altered extension of your female friends. eg: if you saw them naked your reaction would be...well nothing. except maybe laugh lol.
But hell it sounds like you're having fun right now so roll with it. When the right guy comes along the distinction'll happen naturally.
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you should NEVER ever treat your boyfriend like your guy friend they are way MORe different and specialer than that =), some ways that you can show him that you like him as a boyfriend is just like act like he is hang out with him, talk to him about anything, and treat him like your BOYFRIEND not a GUY FRIEND, or you can say I LOVE YOU, but only if you mean it,hope it works out...
[♥]DiNA
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A boyfriend and a girlfriend are obligated to each other more than just friends are. They have to be willing to make sacrifices for them, go out of their way to make them happy, and have genuinely romantic feelings for the other person.
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Well for the most part having a boyfriend is like having a guy friend that you can kiss, but it goes a little beyond that. Your boyfriend should be the one person you want to spend time with the most, he should give you those little butterflies in your stomach when he's near you, or kisses you. You should want to kiss him, and there should be a little extra romantic side to you with him. Like wanting to be alone with him, maybe cooking for eachother, I don't know, something that you both find romantic, like doing things together that only the two of you know about.
But if what you feel for him is the same feelings you have for your guy friends, then maybe it's not that you're trying to convince yourself that he's just a friend, but maybe that's how it really is. Sometimes people get confused because they associate braking up with having a problem in the relationship, and that's not always the case. You may just have friend feelings for him, but not want to hurt him.
My advice is to think about this long and hard, think about why it was you started dating him, what you felt then, what you feel now, what you would feel if you broke up, and what you would feel if he started dating someone else. You could maybe try doing something romantic together, see what you feel about that too. If you still have only friend feelings for him after all that, then you'll know what you have to do. Good luck!
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