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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!

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This was something my mom and I talked about the other night, and it really made me think. Is it possible to love two people at the same time in the same way, as in a bf/gf? I'd appreciate to see some opinions on this...

JyNxiE

Well, I find myself in that situation more than once. I'll have a boyfriend and I'll really love him but then there will be this other guy. And I'll start liking that guy until the point of love then I find myself trying to decide. It is possible. Rough place to be. I hate it...

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okay...well thier is this guy i that i really like. alot of people like him too! should i go for it or just forget about it?

Go for it. You'll never know if anything could become of it if you don't go and find out. Maybe you could be the special one. But please, if you get rejected, don't be upset. He's probably a jerk if he does that anyways, lol.

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My name is Suzan and I'm going out with this guy, Joey. We've been going out for 3 years on/off and now were engaged. (I'm 20) Well he always leaves me to stay at home while hes at the gym, or hanging out with his friends. I really want to spend time with him but sometimes he doesnt care. I beg him to go places with me and he just does it because I'll get mad if he doesnt come. Well this girl saw him hanging out with his friends and she came up to him and was ALL over him. And since he's a guy, he gave in and made out with her! I havent talked to him for 2 weeks, all i've been doing is crying! But my friends say he's crying too because he was drunk and couldent believe he did that to me. I dont know what to do, i love this guy and hes my fiance!

Well, if he's crying too then he cares about you just as much as you care about him and you can't go on ignoring him and crying cause nothing will become of it but stupidity. You need to go talk to him as soon as possible and ask him why he's always ignoring you and why he did this to you and his reasoning behind it. All relationships need communication about things. And that is what you guys need to do is talk about it. Make things work, you obviously love each other. xo*

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srry if this is long but
there is this kid in my school and he is shorter me and not very good lookin but i still lik him alot and no one understands and ppl always make fun of me for likin him and i already went out wif him lik 3 times b4 and he dumped me all the times but i still rely lik him and alot of ppl make fun of me for it and i hate how no one understands mee

how can i get them 2 stopp??

You can't really do much about it. Don't cuss them or anything like that. You don't want to go instigating it, or you'll get no where. Just don't really worry about it. Tell them they must not have a life if they have to go worrying about what you are doing and why you're doing it. Quite frankly, these people are being ignorant. I've been there and done that with people saying things. Just ignore their stupid asses. That's all you can do is brush it off and get over it. Blunt truth. xo*

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14/f

I'm going on a cruise for Christmas. And I went on one a few years ago. The last one i went on I saw tons of hott guys but i was to afraid to say hi. So I spent the entire cruise with my family (which was ok). Well, this time i want to be able to meet people while I'm there. What are some ways to meet new people without being really weird about it? thanks!

Well, say you are doing some form of an activity. Strike up a conversation with the person by asking them what brought their interest to doing this activity. Or if you're standing close to someone just be like "hi, how are you doing". Don't be afraid to approach people. I'm sure if you're friendly and nice as it seems they won't mind. You could even start up a conversation by asking what made them want to come on this cruise. Good luck xo*

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Ok I've got a boyfriend who I love and who loves me but lately he's been really confusing me because he flirts with two of my best friends and it makes me jelous even if he's mine anyway he keeps smoking weed and injects himself with heroin but i don't who if he's telling the truth but he's got little marks on his arm and I'm really worried about him if it's true he could die and I know Id be really upset if he died how can I talk to him about it because he thinks it's cool and his mate does it to

First of all, if this guy loves you just oh so much, then why in the world is he flirting with other people? That is his first fault right there. Second of all, in my opinion, no matter how much you love a guy, if they are doing drugs like that then they aren't good for you anyways. Why do you need to be with a guy who flirts with your friends and does drugs?! That isn't good for you. That is plane and simple. But on the other hand, your boyfriend has a problem, and he needs help. Weed is an okay drug but it's still bad and injecting? That isn't good at all. You really should sit him and down and tell him how bad he is hurting himself. He may not see it now, but later in life he'll see that he's making a huge mistake. Try researching the harms of these drugs and explaining to him what could happen to him if he continues to do these things. Try and get him to possibly put himself into a rehab center. I'm sure he won't be crazy on this but it'd be really good for him. And if possible, find his stash of drugs, and get rid of it. Good luck xo*

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srry if this to long but i rely need help

my two best freinds used to be best freinds till they got into a really big fite are not freinds anymore so lik when ever i hang out wif 1 of them my other friend will get mad at me n stuff lik that and i no for a fact they will never become friends again cuz the fite they got into was a huge fite

how can i hang out wif 1 freind w/o the other 1 gettin madd??

Well, if you ask me, you're friends are being stupid by getting mad. All you are doing is hanging out with the other one. It isn't like you are talking behind their backs or anything. It's harmless. They can't get mad just because you have other friends. You are your own person and I don't get why people don't see this when they get over things like this. Their fight, isn't your problem. But if you insist on doing something, you need to talk to them and help them understand that you like both of them as friends and you want to be friends with both and they can't change that. Truly, why does it matter? You aren't causing any harm. Talk to them separately and help them see this. Good luck xo*

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o0k well you see i like this guy, that well my friends dont approve of. they say he's such a kid and he's immature and stuff. my friends go for the older, hot, guys with nice cars, this guy that i like well, his name is osama. funny huh? its actually kinda creepy, lol but well a while back, we're freshman, in the begginning of the year, he and my friend joe were in a fight, it was about a month ago and osama punched joe and things have been really shaky between them. but now i see him around and we make eye contact and i think i like him, i think about him a lot. my friends think im crazy and its 'just a 'phase' ' and stuff so yeah i dont know how to tell joe. osama doesnt even know who i am, our school is realy big. he's not cute or anything and i've never really talked tohim, but there's just something mysterious about him that gets me. but yesterday i told my friend if she knows him and she said yeah and i told her to find out if he has a gf and i told her i think hes pretty cute, and well today she told me she told him, and now today he went around asking everyone if they know me. he only knows my name. so hes trying to find me out, and i dont know what to do. i mean my friend joe, its gonna be tough on him and so what do i do about the whole situation? should i just come up to him sometime next time i see him and talk to him or should i forget about him or what? please help!?! ill rate you, thanks.

.p.s.i ii rate good!~!~`!!!! =)))))))

For some reason, this questions amuses me with the whole Osama name it makes me wonder if this is real question but anywho, I shall assist you. I don't think it really matters if you want to hook up with this Osama person. But, I think you should get to know Osama beings you don't know hardly anything about him and you just think he's cute. He may not even be good for you. Get his phone number or something and talk to him and find out what he is all about and then take it from there. Joe will be fine as long as you handle the situataion cooly and aren't all haha look I got a man. Lol. So yeah, there ya go Osama liker.=)

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aight my b.f is being really immature and sometimes i think he flirts with other people too, and i mean i flirt too but ahh i dunno. but then on the other hand he's really sweet at times and his kisses are amazing. but im not really sure if all of me is in this. what do you think?

I know how you feel. I always feel like my boyfriend is flirting with other people but then I find me doing it. We can't get upset if we do it too right?! But we still do. And yeah, mine seems immature sometimes too but then other times he just sweeps me off of my feet. What I do, is I talk to him about how I feel. You may just be infatuated over this guy and not really be into the relationship for a long haul. Tell him how you feel about this, and ask him what he suggest you two should do. Make sure you don't only accuse him of being a flirt. You need to admit your own faults. Together, you guys can decide if this relationship is worth it or not just by communicating about it.

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I have a friend,Megan which I have been practically sisters with my whole life. I've known her for 6 years and we basically grew up together. I also have this other friend,Kelsy, which I have known for about 4 or 5 years, and is also extremely close with me. Megan and Kelsy have also been close for years,too. Kelsy is starting not to like Megan anymore, due to a drunk night when Megan got with the guy that Kelsy liked. I know it was wrong, but I've known Megan for half my life and I can't just drop her like that. Kelsy might get mad if she knows that I still want to be friends with Megan, because everytime she says something about Megan, I always agree by saying I'm not talking to her anymore either. What are your opinions on this?

You can't let Kelsey decide who your friends are just because she doesn't like them. You are your own person and no one can change that. And if she can't respect that, then she isn't much of a friend anyways. Although, I understand you guys are close. Talk to Kelsy, and tell her you still want Megan as a friend. Explain to her that you understand that what Megan did was wrong but everyone makes mistakes and you want to be both of their friends. You can have more than one best friend and if Kelsy doesn't wish to be around Megan, you can hang out with them at separate times. Sit Kelsy down and tell her how you feel and try to get her to understand it all and perhaps you should even try talking to Megan about her feelings on Kelsy and you even patch things up. But I'd work on getting Kelsy to accept that you still want to be Megan's friend before you try getting the two to be friends again. Good luck xo*

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I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. He is everything i want..almost. we have a great physical realtaionship, but the mental/emotional stinks. How can i make it better because i nee him to be there for me in both

They say you can't have a relationship without a little physical attraction, but you can't have one without the emotional either. Have you ever sat and thought to make sure that you guys relate to each other as people and have many of the same interest? Can you guys be there for each other in times of need? Do you love each other? If mental/emotional isn't there, then it isn't much of a relationship to be honest. You two really need to sit down and discuss this topic and work on it together. I've been there and done that and the first step is to talk to each other about it to get the bottom of this and find out the reason why it's just not there. After that you guys need to discuss ways to develop this. Perhaps, spending more time together and communicating more. If you can't solve it, then maybe you aren't meant to be lovers. Think about it... xo*

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Ok, i was at sonic and a really hot girl brought the food out to me. Ive never seen her before in my life, but i got the nerve to ask he for her number. and she actually gave it to me. Ok now im stumped. What do i do? Should i call her n ask her out, or what? help plz.

Yes, call her. She wouldn't have given you the number if she didn't have some interest in you. Duh - heh. Call her, talk for a while and get to know her then ask her out xo*

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well I met this guy and I really liked him, but he was here for a visit from Califorina, we dated while he was here, but now that he is back home what do I do ?????? Can we keep our realtionship over the internet and my mail, or what???? PLZ HELP ME IM CONFUSED

To be honest, those kind of relationships are really hard to maintain and shouldn't have been started to begin with. That's the straight up truth. If you guys work really hard at it and keep your communication line going, you may be able to keep the relationship going. But, make sure you're going to be able to see this guy again. If not, it's not really worth your time even though you like him. Consider all circumstances. There are going to be a lot of temptations. You're where you are and he is where he is. Miles and miles apart from what I can tell. He or you may end up liking someone else in the long run. I think you should talk to him about this and see if he is willing to try with all his might to maintain what you have and if he will be able to resist temptation and if you will be able to. I wish you the best of luck. Long distance is never easy. It takes hard work and majoy commitment skills. xo*

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Ok, theres this one girl, lets call her 123. Theres 2 other boys involved too, 456 and 789. When I'm hanging around 456 and 789 flirting and all, 123 will come to our group and start flipping out on me for no reason. 456 and 789 say she's just jealous of me and I shouldn't worry about it. Later when 456 and 789 are gone, 123 will come up to me and apologize. 123 does this everytime we get into a fight! What can I do, this just happens repeatedly and I want it to stop! What can I say to 123 to make her stop or whatever to leave me alone if she's just going to keep doing this? Thanks for the help!:)

P.S. I'm 13 and in grade 8 if that helps.

If you ask me "123" probably likes "456" and "789" and is probably just jealous. That's how us girls act when we get jealous and upset over something like that. She probably doesn't even mean to be like that. It's in a sense like an instinct type of thing if you get what I'm saying. I think the best thing for you to do is talk to "123" about it and find out of she does indeed like "456" and "789" and if she is jealous or just what is bothering her and making her this way. That's the only way to solve it: Talk. xo*

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Ok I heard a rumor and me and my friend were wondering if its true. If u wear sports bra's all the time will that reduce ur growth *if ur still maturing. Signed: Fully Matured

No way! My friend has worn them ever since she could wear a bra, and her boobs are huge.. lol. Sports bras tend to push your boobs together in just one huge boob though. I don't like them. :)

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Hi, there is this guy i like and i think he mite like me cuz we danced a lot, about a month ago, and he sorta follows me around school and one time he and his friends were sorta all lookin at me and pushin him towards me almost. anyway, i wanna go and try and talk to him but im really shy and he is too. Is there a way i can start up a good convo wit him and keep it goin, cuz heh doesn't talk much..tnx

Just walk up to him and be like hey, what's up. And go from there. Ask him how his day is going and if he has anything exciting going on later or this weekend. Bring up the topic of music, or a tv show. That can normally go pretty far.

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There is this guy I like, and its like taking over my life.. all the sudden thats all i think about, its crazy! I can't conentrate anymore, even when I'm with my friends.. i dont pay any attention to them. I haven't told anybody that I like him. But how can I stop thinking at him ALL the time? -- Love *Melissa*

I can't say that there is much way for you to stop thinking about him. Obviously, you fancy this guy which means it just can't go away. It isn't totally bad that you can't stop thinking about him though. Why don't you try talking to one of your close friends about this guy!? Express how you feel so you don't have all of it bottled inside. You're still going to think about him though. I think in my opinion if I couldn't get my mind off of a guy, I'd tell him! :) Write a note, a e-mail, call, something of the sort. :) I think if you tell a friend or the guy or even both, it will ease your mind a little about it. You'll have the thoughts shared so that it doesn't drive ya nuts. :P

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kris makes me horny

Ooohhh Baby! ;)

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So I like this guy, a lot and I know him because his family and my family are best friends. We go on family trips together and we eat dinner together sometimes. All that good stuff. He said I was "alright" and that he didn't wanna go out with me because our familys are too close. But I know if I was hotter and his type, he'd go out with me anyway. But oh well, being friends is cool I guess. His name is Danny Kofinden and I love him! haha its Sherry, I'm bored..I dont need advice..How are things with Jeremy going? Stay hott sexy!!

You are retarded Sherry but I still love you. Eh, I guess we're good. It's hard to tell anymore. One minute we're mad the next minute it's all "I love you". I'm not hott and sexy but if you wish to say that, I'll stay that way. You do the same - ha Lylas

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What would you tell a friend that you were talking to online that was going to die in 20 minutes because he/she just stabbed themselves in the stomach?

Uhh..they'll probably die. Is this a real question? Use some good ol' common sense and call the 911. *Drrr* What else can you do? Watch them bleed?

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