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My mom is being a crazy phsycopath and not letting me buy something with my own money. I have read every single review for the clarisonic face brush and every single one i saw was good. Everyone loves it. Yes, it is expensive but I will pay for it with my own money but she said she's going to make an appointment with my dermatologist and the meds they give me will clear up my face but eventually my meds will run out and my then what? If I have a clarisonic it wont' run out because each head can go to a maximum of 6 months. What should I do? Is my mom right?

A few years ago, I wanted some acne medicine the dermatologist was selling and I wanted it right away. My mom told me I had to wait a few weeks, maybe even months for the insurance to cover it. I was crying hysterically because I just wanted my face to be clear, but we really couldn't afford it. At least your mom is able to buy you medicine to clear your acne. Don't rock the boat.

...Didn't answer your question??? If you want me to be blunt: your mom is right.

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Im 14 years old and i do not eat Vegetables i do but very rarely! i do eat junk food alot but! i've been staying away from it now. but still i dont eat vegables! i do eat fruit and im very worried about geting a heart attack at 17 i dont know how high my cholesterol is!my mom tells me im to young to worry about that so what should i do!

Hey, I understand your situation. I've been diagnosed with high cholesterol since 5th grade (I'm 19 now) and I've been too afraid to check up on it since I'm afraid of needles. Anywho, we never had fresh fruit or veggies in my house while growing up, but now that I'm older and have a say in what we buy at the grocery store, I make sure to eat well. I actuatlly would recommend going Vegan. This means no more animal products such as eggs, milk and butter. Did you know that only animal products have cholesterol and cutting these products out of your diet and substituting fruits, veggies and whole grains is the best thing you can do for yourself! Give it a little research :)

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My children, particularly the 10 and 11 year-old, do not seem to have any regard for rules. Simple requests, such as bringing down dirty clothes and linens, are ignored. Their only response when asked why they did not is only a shrug or "I don't know". We have noticed that this behavior is carrying over to school, as well. When asked if they have any homework, etc., they almost always say no, but we have been contacted by teachers that they are not turning in assignments. We have removed games, TV, ipods, computers, cell phone use and at one point removed our oldest from basketball, but they really do not seem to care. At least not to the point of any improvement. I don't know how to discipline someone who simply does not care. Need advice...

I think the problem is that they're getting things taken away. What you should be doing is giving them a punishment such as cleaning the entire house, organizing stuff within cabinets, re-arranging furniture...get creative! give them a chance to build character by helping out in ways they normally wouldn't want to help out in.

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Ok so I have been masterbating for about 2-3 months and its making me feel horiable like i stop a day or 2 at a time then just start up again i realy need help i know people will say its good for you but it makes me feel horiable plz help

Believe me, I used to feel guilt too, when I was younger. I'm 19, now. I felt like I was doing something wrong and almost "fessed up" to my mom. Truth is, nobody needs to know. Although, it's not a secret, it's also nobody's bussiness. Plenty of people masturbate without talking about it. You aren't the only one. It may take a while for you to be able to do it without remorse, but just know that you can stop feeling horrible whenever you choose to! :)

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i always seem to find at least one quality in every person that im envious of. ive stuggled with being self conscious all of my life and i can not come to grips with the whole "loving my flaws" thing and i dont think i ever will. i do not know how to overcome the fact that im jealous of every single girl in the world. any tips?

Try to turn that envy into inspiration. If there's a quality another girl has...it doesn't have to belong to her exclusively. You can be just as pretty, nice and happy as any other person that walks the earth. It's all about your perspective. How you see things shapes your world. If you think you have it all...you're right. If you think you have nothing...you're right. What makes things real are the thoughts you think.

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i am a 28 year old female i don't know what it is aout me but i can't seem to keep any friends. its not anything that i did its just that people don't like me. ESPECIALLY WOMEN. Women hate my guts they are always talking about me behind my back.I was friends with this girl since 7th grade she slept with my boyfriend behind my back. And i got her a job working where i work and she started talking behind my back spreading rumors about me to all my co-workers.

I was also friends with this girl from high school. and one day for no good reason she just stoped talking me LIKE LITTERALLY she stoped when i called her she did not pick up when i stoped by her house she acted like she wasn't home. and i knew she was home cause i saw her peeping through the window. I was so embarresed. I keep trying to figure it out does my breath stink am i annoying to people its nothing like that at least i don't think so.

And then recently this other girl stoped talking to me. I've known her for years too. She asked me for $500 dollars to pay the rest of her rent. (mind you she always asks me for cash and i always give it to her) $10 here $20 there gas money stuff like that and she never pays me back. This time she asked me for a whole $500 when i told her that i didn't have it she stoped talking to me she acted like i betrayed her or something.

i don't know if i'm the one with the problem or if its everyone else. What do you think?

First off, you shouldn't have to PAY for a friendship. Why would you give her money? Her rent is not your rent. Being a good friend means being there emotionally. Financials are her responsibility.

There's no way to tell who is part of the problem. Sometimes people get tired of each other and move on. Don't take it personally. Grow a thick skin and don't let it get to you.

Try choosing friends with different qualities than the "friends" you just mentioned because it sounds like you were being used.

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ohkay so lately ive been thinking that i might have been sexually abused as a child..alright, well lately when me and my boyfriend have been doing sexual things ive felt kinda guilty afterwards not because of anything he did or i did. idk its just a feeling. and when i think about it i dont have any memory of like younger than 10ish. when i was little i used to always wanna play "doctor" with my friends but like with clothes off, wed usually hide in a closet or something. and as from when i was little till a couple years ago i used to hump things like anything i could find. when i was little i used to hum hampers and beds and couches and my parents would catch me and tell me to stopp. and as i got older and still humped i felt guilty afterwards. i dont know why im feeling this way. i dont understand it. i even had a dream a couple months ago that my dad was trying to "touch" me but he would NEVER do soemthing like that. i just dont know what to think. any help would be appreciated. thanks.

Your childhood sounds a lot like mine. That's kind of awkward to admit, but being curious is normal. From what you described, you weren't forced to participate in that kind of behavior. It seems like you chose to do it because it is what you wanted. Honestly, I don't think you have been violated as a child considering I have a similar past and don't feel bothered by it.

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Iv came to a point in my life where I'm deciding to quit smoking but my main concern is stress .that's why I smoke .working two jobs and dealing with people all day becomes stressfull for me .I don't smoke at home just at work and iv been hideing this from my wife for quite some time .the cologne the gum mothwash you name it .but its realy taking its toll on me ciggerets make me tired and I'm ready to quit now so I need help .what's the easist way to quit

Sounds a bit like me except a little different...I just quit my job because the stress made me turn to food for comfort, so much like a smoking addiction I had a food addiction...and it didn't help that I was in a restaurant setting (around my drug of choice)
I'd say it would be a lot easier to quit once you took some stress out of your life. After all...aside from it being a habit, you smoke because it relieves stress. You may want to consider changing jobs.

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I don't have very large boobs but I wanted to know if I need a bra yet. I live with my dad and so we never really had the breast size discussion that I guess girls have with their moms. How can I tell if I need to start buying and wearing bras? I haven't ever wore a bra either so what sort of one should I buy, if any? I'm really pretty lost here but don't want to grow up and end up having saggy boobs because I didn't wear a bra when I should have

I'd say from fifth grade on you should wear a bra. Regardless of if you need one or not. :)

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My friend gave me a thing of Velveeta cheese today because she accidentally bought a second box of it when she already had some at home. I accepted it but I've never eaten it. I know it's a processed cheese, obviously, but what are some things I can eat with this Velveeta?

Nacho dip! Put a chunk into a bowl of salsa and melt it in the microwave...so good!

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Okay I have decided That i want a STEADY advice buddy which means that i want to have one specific person (that actually LOVE giving advice) That i can write to wheneva i need advice. Im senseing that some of the advicee that is giving to me is not serious. I wont someone that will actually think the advice that they are about to give to me and not go off their own disappointments. Example: If I ask someone what should i do about my boyfriend I dont want the response to be...(FORGET HIM!!! HE'S NOT WORTH IT) Just because that person have had some problems in their relationship. I wont a person that I can send direct msgs to. I also want someone that wont take FOREVER to respond bacc because I really do need help on some situations. So please, if you feel as if you can be a great advice buddy then please respond. Thanks

you know, I would love to :)
Email me: lisaxfaith@yahoo.com

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

If I were you, I would feel violated. The relationship was supposed to consist of you and him. Not you, him and the rest of the world. I could understand writing in a journal about your relationship together, but a facebook group? Seriously? I would flee in a heartbeat!

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I started dating my boyfriend last month and he treats me really good. The problem is that his friends really don't like me. They keep telling me that I'm hideous, ugly, and skanky and that he deserves so much better. I haven't really said anything to him about it but he never says I'm pretty or beautiful like guys are suppose to do. It's weird. What should I do? Do you think he thinks I'm not pretty? Should I tell his friends off?

If he's friends with people that would talk about you that way, then his thoughts about you can't be too different. Are you hideous, ugly or skanky...? Probably not, so ditch this boy.

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I'm getting my teeth pulled today and I'm kinda scared about it. I'm getting numbing gel and laughing gas before I get the shot but I'm still scared. I have to get two baby teeth pulled. Can anybody tell me if it hurts?

I just had three wisdom teeth pulled using gel and laughing gas. It doesn't hurt at all! I didn't even feel uncomfortable, to tell you the truth. If you do feel anything it will be discomfort rather than pain, so don't even worry about it! :)

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This girl I met this year in school seemed really cool abd funny. So we started talking and hung out a few tines. She said she wasn't friends with any girls because she doesn't like drama & she doesn't go many places because of drama.
I had like ten friends over and she was one of them and she could not get into group conversation. Someone would be telling a story and she'd interrupt Abd try to have a seperate conversation. She was kind of awkward at this get together. Then the things she says are kind of rude. She wanted to go to this concert and asked ne to go, it was a band I did not like and it was also on my 18th birthday. I was like I can't go it's on my birthday and were going away for the entire day. She said something like "I can't believe your not fucking going with ne I can't find anyone else to go with me I can't believe your not going thanks a lot" I was like geez calm down. I just found that really rude. And then I just got a puppy and I texted " hey what are you doing tomorrow let's hang out you can see mally" she responded back "lol ummmm idk..come over see mally and then leave" like what the heck. And I sent that to two other people and they understood what i said any everything. So what should I do? Say something? Stop talking to her? What would I say?

She sounds insanely rude. You're actually really nice for putting up with her! Stop being THAT nice lol forget about her...you seem to have other friends and for you to recognize that her behavior seems rude means that you're used to being treated better, so stick with the friends you already have! :)

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i want to loose 10 pounds in 2 weeks.

i was really looking into doing the maple syrup diet since you loose 20 pounds in ten days! but i think its a little extreme for me and i dont have the right enviornment for it.

since the detox is kind of starvation i was wondering if i could potentionaly loose ten pounds quickly by doing a starvation diet.

id idealy like to simple eat coffee, fat free frozen yogurt, and chicken for a week. just that. maybe an apple or some fruit but nothing more.

would i be able to loose a lot of weight by reducing my calorie intake that much? or will i simply go into starvation mode and my body will gain weight...
i really am not educated enough in this department to know if this will work.
YES I AM AWARE THAT STARVATION IS EXTREMLY HARMFULL but i simply want to loose ten pounds thats it. i do not want to get an eating disorder or anything like that! i LOVE food. that is why i need to loose the weight!

so, can i go on a starvation diet and succesfuly loose ten pounds?

if not how could i? i need to loose ten pounds in 2 weeks or less!

To answer your question, it may work it may not...everybody is different, but the problem with starving your body is that all the weight you lose is more than fat...you lose a great deal of muscle in the process. Muscle is essential to burning fat, so I would suggest you concentrate on preserving the muscle that you have while cutting down on calories.

The great thing about protein is it is proven to make you feel full for longer amounts of time than other foods. At every meal have eggs,chicken, or milk...etc. Also try weight lifting to strengthen your muscles. Good luck!

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i wanna take my old clothes to platos closet, but i have some questions:
do my clothes have to be a certain age? cause i have some that are maybe a year or two old. would they take them? and also, would they take clothes that are just from walmart or target? how does this whole process work? do i get a certain amount for each item? or what?

thanks a bunch(:

It's not so much the age of the clothes, but the condition. Although, I think they have a way to look up how recent a style is by finding a code from the clothing tag throughout their database.

I've seen clothes from Target there, but never clothes from Walmart. If you think somebody would be interested in it, just bring it along! No harm there!

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22/F

Okay, I weigh approx 280 lbs. and I am 5'7 so my BMI is high or whatever. I do have a genetic predisposition to diabetes because it runs greatly in my family. Yes, I am obese. (But I don't in my eyes appear to be obese, I have very large muscular thighs, and they have very little cellulite. But I do have a large stomach and chest, 44 ddd.)

I am currently taking Metformin 500mg 2 tablets everyday... (but I do forget often). My periods have been abnormal for the past 4 years. Like I get only 3 periods a year. I have had ovarian cysts but have not been diagnosed with PCOS.

Yes, I have been to the doctor and she's told me all the stuff about how I need to loose weight, YEAH I KNOW. Plus I just got done taking both a nutrition and health class and has been ridiculed a great deal in both classes about being obese.

But has this changed my mind? No. I know that I am already pre-diabetic... especially for type 2 diabetes. I know what diabetes is and I know that it can kill me if I don't loose the weight.

My question is why with all this information and knowledge I have, I CONTINUE TO EAT.

I can honestly say that life happened to me in the past 3 years, I had a really bad break up, suffered the death of a best friend, lost my apartment because of people who used me, lost a lot of friends, and was used for sex which was a major blow to my self-esteem. I mean it was a lot... so my comfort was and still is food.

Why is it that I won't give it up? What can I do...

My ultimate fear is that if I loose weight, that I will put it back on... and weigh more than I am now...

I really want lap band surgery to ensure the weight will stay off but its costly and my insurance won't cover it.... I don't know what to do, but something needs to be done. Lap band surgery however is still an option for me.

Hey, I'm 5'2 and about 120 pounds and trying to lose a teensy bit of my belly fat.

What I've been doing for the past three days
is :
eating a chocolate muffin for breakfast! it's delicious and healthy. It has things like cottage cheese, soy milk, and oats and couldn't be tastier! I made it myself tehee

For lunch I have a whey protein shake (cookies and cream flavored, mixed with some soy milk)yum!

For dinner, I can eat a normal portion size of anything as long as it's high in protein.

I've already seen progress!!! The key is to up your protein intake, so that you're losing fat and not muscle. Plus, protein keeps you full longer. I wouldn't say go on a low-carb diet, but try to eat only one bread product at most per meal. Good luck!

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I switched to being a vegetarian about a week ago. I ate too many fatty, fried foods (mostly meat) and have been trying to eat healthier. I've been making sure to get all the vitamins and minerals I need throughout the day and I did tons of research before I decided to go through with this.

The first two days I was grumpy and then I started to feel good and not as tired as I did when I ate meat. I changed to being a vegetarian for health reasons mostly. Is it normal to go through the "grumpies" at first? Has anyone else had this experience?

hey! when I first went vegan nearly a month ago...I didn't notice my mood change to be positive like I expected it to be. I thought I'd find clarity and peace and energy, but I didn't and I realized why. Even though I stopped eating animal products, I was still eating very processed foods such as frozen meals and vegan mac & cheese. all of this is loaded with sodium and preservatives, so I still felt "cluttered" and just overall icky. I'm looking into a mostly raw diet featuring mostly fruits because I prefer those to vegetables, but anywho...try to shop in the produce section of the grocery store and allow your body to "detox".

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Crap. I was going through my mom's drawers because she use to put money in there when I was a kid and I ran into this thing. I didn't know what it was at first so I picked it up and examined it.

It's her vibrator. It isn't like a dildo though so you can't blame me for not knowing what it was at first! But still! Eww!

What do I do? Should I tell her I found it? I feel weird around her now!

No. It would be one thing if she put it in plain sight and that made you uncomfortable, but this was in HER drawer and she didn't even expect you to be in there. You probably feel all weirded out about it, but you're gonna have to keep it to yourself.

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