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Hi, i have alot of scars and brusies from when i was younger And after all these yearsI have not been able to get rid of them! They are the reason why I always wear jeans and not skirts. So any creams or tecniques that would get rid of them fast would help. OR you can give me the conceler that can cover them thats sweat and waterproof. I am an African American skin tone. So my skin is like a brown or dark brown. Thanks!
Aw, don't be embarassed about your scars. If you want my honest opinion, I love them. They've showed you've lived & you're okay with that. :) They are what make you unique & I think you should have all the confidence in the world whether you have them or not. There's nothing sexier than confidence! :)
I really love sun dresses. i was wondering if anyone knew where i could buy a whole bunch for pretty cheap. It doesnt have to necessarily be a sundress....just like casual dresses that i could wear out.
Thanks so much!!!
Wet Seal! A week ago they were having a sale for summer dresses starting @ $20. :)
ok i am just curious
when a girl gives a guy a bj
why should she enjoy this?
i mean isn't just the thought of having his thing in her mouth disgusting? and swallowing his cum... wouldn't that just taste and make you feel disgusting?! i'm just wondering cause i don't get it at all why anyone would want to do that!
All girls are going to have different opinions about this. Some girls are going to think it's disgusting & something they'd never want to do & that's completely fine. But girls who enjoy doing this, usually do it because they like pleasing their boyfriends/husbands. Also, if you're in a serious relationship where you truly care about eachother, oral sex isn't "disgusting"; it's more intimate.
ok so I'm getting my ears double peirced in a few days, i want to know how bad it hurts. I couldn't tell how bad my first piercing felt because i was only 6 months old! So does it hurt?
Pain varies per person. If it hurts at all, it's a pinch that doesn't last for more than a few seconds. & it's nothing unbearable that's worth getting too worried about. :)
my boyfirend and i dont have sex or do really intense stuff like that...but one time we were making out and his penis was right on my vagina and he had boxers and athletic shorts on and i had just underwear on...he was pressing on me pretty hard for no longer than 10ish minutes (it didnt go in me)..
Im pretty sure we both got "wet" but i dont think his could go through his shorts and my underwear...and then INTO me.
is there any way that i could get pregnant from that?
There's really no way precum (assuming he didn't cum), went through his boxers, through his athletic shorts, through your underwear, & climbed up into your vagina. That's 3 layers of clothing & he wasn't inside of you, so you really don't need to worry. Trust me. :) Just be careful & use protection if you ever plan on doing anything.
i really want to get my tounge pierced. what is the worst thing that can happen? is it very common? how long does it take to heal? how long will i not be able to talk for?
I have my tongue pierced, so I hope my advice will be a little more helpful. I have not heard of anything more serious than an infection (just like with any other piercing you get) & the piercer hitting a vein, which would lead to bleeding. But a good piercer will always check for veins, so that should not be an issue. Just make sure to do a little research before deciding on a place to get your tongue pierced. As long as you clean & take care of your tongue properly, you should be fine. Your tongue will typically swell for 1-3 weeks. I have gotten my tongue pierced twice (I took it out for a few months & went back to get it repierced.) Both times, it took me about 2-3 days to talk & eat properly. The day after is always the worst - probably the one day you should avoid talking at all unless you really need to. But by day 2 or 3, you should be getting the hang of everything again. I usually noticed my tongue wasn't swollen after the first week, but everyone heals differently. If you have any other questions, feel free to leave a message in my inbox. Hope that helped!
ok, i have a few awkward questions about sex and getting pregnant and no-no juice, and etc.
first of all, is it possible to get pregnant without the man ejaculating inside the woman? meaning, if a man is inside a woman, but pulls out way before he comes, is it possible to get pregnant from the precome?
also, can you get pregnant from semen getting on your vagina, when the man is not inside you?
thank you.
1.) Yes, it's possible to become pregnant from precum.
2.) I've never heard of instances where that has happened. But I don't like to say that it's completely impossible. Just very unlikely. I would avoid situations where that would happen, just to be the on safe side.
i'm 15 and haven't hooked up with anyone yet. first of all, i mean hooking up as in kissing/making out. i really want to hook up with someone just to get my 1st time over with. dont answer this lectureing me on how i should wait for it to special - just answer my real question. theres some parties coming up.. how do i put myself ina situation where i can hook up with someone? how should i act to show i want to hook up? what shold i wear? etc. any advice is good.
Yes, making out/kissing is exciting, but don't act so desperate to do it. (For example, changing the way you act & what you should wear.) You need to act yourself & be confident. If there's someone you're interested in, flirt with them. Don't wear less revealing clothes & put yourself in vulnerable situations just because you are so eager to make out with someone. No, I am not saying you need to wait for someone special. If you want it to be fun, then make it fun. But changing yourself & acting differently is not attractive. You want guys to be attracted to YOU, not someone you are trying to be. So like I said, be yourself, maybe push yourself to be a bit more outgoing & flirty. But remain true to yourself & I'm sure guys will notice you.
there's this guy that i would love to date, and i'm pretty sure he'd love to date me too, there's just one problem--he has really bad acne. acne totally grosses me out, and i wouldn't want to be close to him or anything because of it. what would be a nice way of telling him to wash his face or use proactive every once and a while?
There is no nice way to tell him that. Perhaps that's something he's extremely insecure about. Put yourself in his shoes: If you had bad acne & couldn't do anything about it, would you want some guy telling you to wash your face? Or perhaps, saying he doesn't want to date you because of your acne alone? You have realize people with acne usually can't help it, because in all reality, who wants acne & isn't going to do anything to treat it? I'm sure he washes his face & maybe he's tried Proactiv & it doesn't work for him. Or perhaps it's just too expensive. I don't think you should let his acne stop you from dating him. You date someone because of their personality, not because of their looks.
17/f
okay...so i have a boyfriend and im sexually active with him. its one of the most amazing feelings ever. esp. bc the love is there.
and i love it when he fingers me. it really turns me on
but for some reason i cannot finger myself...ive tried...it doesnt do anything...it doesnt even feel good..ive tried everything possible to pleasure myself and it does nothing.
is this normal??
Yes, completely. You could be doing everything he does & just as good, but I think the suspense of not knowing how he is going to do it makes it a lot more pleasurable. It just feels good when someone else does it (etc: if someone were to massage your feet, it'd feel great! but if you did it yourself, it just wouldn't be as great.) Make sense? Basically, it's probably a good idea to leave it up to him to do those things. :)
during puberty where I think about sex a lot, and kinda get attracted to it.
I kinda sneek into my parents rooms and look at their porno videos, its sooo BAD. But i can't stop looking at that stuff.
And sometimes I go to websites with pictures, bad pictures.
I wanna stop, but cant, what do I do?!
thx
kp:\
I do not see any problem with being curious about sex. You're going through a stage everyone else goes through; it's completely normal. The only time it'd be a problem is if it was disrupting your daily life. As long as you are not acting out these movies or doing any other harm, you should be fine.
do you believe "once a cheater always a cheater" ?
why or why not?
Honestly, it all depends on the person. For the most part, I believe it's true. Atleast in the short term. Someone who usually cheats in the first place lacks respect for the other (& is selfish in my eyes). If they were given the second chance, chances are they will do it again. For someone to change overnight is very slim. On the other hand, I do believe people can change months down the road. Cheating may have been something they did 2 years ago, but something they'd never think about doing again.
i wish i was rich...like more than anything...i really do...is there any way that i can forget about this desire? its killing me!
Study hard, aim for a higher paying career & maybe apply for a part time (or full time) job. :) That way you can have a little bit of extra cash on the side to buy yourself some nice things. Other than that, don't worry about it too much. There are other ways to finding happiness. :)
13/f
everytime i try to remember an important date, I end up forgetting, like my orchestra lessons, I miss them and now my score has gone down to a B and i'm scared Ms. H might pull me out of the class. How do you remember things?
Since my phone is ALWAYS on me, I put everything on my calendar on there. & if there's something I really need to be reminded (such as remembering to take my medicine at a certain hour every night), I set a reminder with an alarm & I never fail to miss it.
my boyfriend and i were doing it one ngiht and i didnt know he taped it. and he showed it to all his friends they write whore on my locker and my desks and they always stare at me. i yelled at my boyfriend for it but he said i have a nice body and should show it some more. what should i do?
Goodness, does everyone have loser boyfriends or what? Dump him & press charges. Simple as that.
alright by boyfriend always grabbs me and puts his hand up my skirt and everything. like during school when were watching a movie and the lights our off, he starts grabbing me and tries to finger me. three of his friends laugh when they see and call me a whore and that hes their hero. and i told him to stop and all he does is laugh and says shutup whore. i dont wanna break up with him and im not going too but i need help like what do i say to get him to stop? thanks.
Don't give yourself excuses to stay with him. You have told him to stop & all he does is laugh. There is nothing else to say to him to get him to stop. "Stop grabbing me & fingering me during class" is enough. There should be no what if's, and's, or but's about that. If he can't comprehend that, then get rid of him, honey. No boyfriend with respect for their girlfriend calls them a whore. You are only making yourself look like an idiot by continuing to go out with a loser like that. & the only reason he continues to do it is because you let him. Your solution really isn't that hard. Making you realize that it is the right solution IS what's hard. You may think my advice is wrong & I'm completely crazy, but I can guarantee you when you mature, you'll realize what an idiot you were to have ANYTHING to do with someone like that. Atleast I did.
I'm fourteen, and our 8th grade dance for school is coming up soon. Supposably it's not going to be that "formal" but you can still wear a dress. Where can i get some simple but cute dresses for it?
- Something thats not too expensive as well.
Thanks =]
If it's more casual, try stores like Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe & Forever 21. I know Wet Seal has a great selection of semi-formal dresses & other bright, summer dresses in the $20-$30 range. If you're looking for something more formal, try department stores.
ive wanted this job ever since i was little.
i finally got an interview for tomorrow.
but im really nervous.
there are 2 other people interviewing also.
and im afraid im gonna screw it up.
any tips?
16/f
- Dress appropriately: nice dress pants (or knee length skirt), a nice top that covers your shoulders & doesn't reveal cleavage, & closed-toe shoes or any dressy heels.
- Research the company.
- Go onto monster.com & search the most popular questions asked during interviews. Review things you should not say. Practice your answers or have an idea of what to say if that question were to be asked in your interview.
- Show up atleast 10 minutes early.
- Greet the interviewer with a smile, eye contact & a handshake.
- Remain calm, breathe & focus on the questions that are being asked.
- Always remain in eye contact with the other person.
- After the interview has been completed, ask questions. It shows that you are interested & have thought a lot about the job.
- Thank them for their time.
- Write a thank you note the very next day to thank them again for the interview.
Other tips can be googled or found on monster.com. Hope that helped. :)
im 13/f and ive had sex with 14 different guys. i know how slutty that it. i was kind of neglected buy my family so i needed a way to be loved. i know regret all of it. i realize how lucky i am to still be not pregnant and std-free. ive been going to church every other day and confessing. what can i do to get my life back together????
1.) Keep your legs closed.
2.) Continue what you're doing. You're on the right road, congrats! :)
im a freshamn in highschool im fifteen, and i was at my boyfriends friends house it was me and like his four guy friends. there all football players and everything so there built. there really nice and respectful and all but we were ust sitting on the couch and they were asking me really inapropriate questions like when ill get my next period and how old i was when i first got it, and what size bra i wear. it was really uncomfortable so i got up to go to the bathroom and i heard someone behind me so i turned around and it was my boyfriend he started kissing me and he asked me if i felt uncomfortable. we have been going out for a year since eighth gtrade so i could trust him and he was nice to me and everything so i said yeah a little and he started kissing me and apoligized and then in his friends house there was a guestroom right next to the bathroom and he started pushing me into the room and i went along with it since i mean we werent going to do anything. keep in mind hes a football player and weighs like 190 which is all muscle and i weigh 91 pounds. so he threw me (liturally) on the bed and started taking his shirt off and he locked the door. i sat up because i didnt want to do this. and he pushed me back down and started taking my shirt off and he started kissing me again and it hurt since he was ontop of me. i was trying to get him off and kept telling him no i dont want to do this and he always respected my opinion before when we were doing stuff and i didnt want to anymore so i thought he would this time. all he did was start to punch me and tell me i was a slut and a whore. and he started taking my pants off and he started fingering me and it hurt really bad. i just froze i was in shocke he would be doing this. i tried to fight him off which i knew wouldnt work sincehe was much mcuch bigger than me but he took his pants off and went in me and then i started screaming and his friends came but since the door was locked they just asked if i was okay and i said no and then they broke the lock and got him off of me and asked me if i was okay. meanwhile my boyfriend kept telling them i was a slut and he thought thats what i wanted because thats what sluts do and they kept telling him i wasnt a slut then he got all mad and left. the next day he kept calling me and tellling me how sorry he was and he wasnt thinking that night and he loves me and will wait till i ready to do it again. he bought me flower and he wrote me apoligy notes and all. i forgave him and its been like five months im just afraid hell do it again. i need help. what should i do?
So basically, your boyfriend raped you & five months later, you're still with him? I'm not here to put you down, but are you kidding me? LEAVE HIM. By staying with him, you're giving him power over you & the chance to take control of you again. It does not matter how many flowers or how nice the apology letter was, you do NOT continue to date some who was violent, held you down, called you a slut, & raped you. That is completely disgusting. Like I suggested to another girl - get a restraining order on him and LEAVE. No one deserves to be treated like that & you are only playing a desperate idiot by staying. I'm sorry my advice is not what you WANT to hear, but it's certainly something you NEED to hear.