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I'm going thru a phase...
during puberty where I think about sex a lot, and kinda get attracted to it.
I kinda sneek into my parents rooms and look at their porno videos, its sooo BAD. But i can't stop looking at that stuff.
And sometimes I go to websites with pictures, bad pictures.
I wanna stop, but cant, what do I do?!
thx
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Its normal. Everyone does it. It seems like your just growing up. Dont stress yourself. Its okay.
Hope that I helped. ;p
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There really is nothing to be ashamed about here at all. You were curious and turned to the Internet and videos, pictures to find out about sex and how, why people do certain things.
Every guy and girl or nearly everyone of both sexes has done the same thing you did with sneaking a look at porn, magazines, pictures and we all turned out fine. You will too.
But, and this is a major but pornography is meant only for adults aged 18+ and over and not legal to sell let alone screen in the presence of minors. Bottom line, you shouldn't be looking at it at all period but having already done it this will not permanently scar you for life unlike it would if someone really young who was just a kid saw it. That's why rules are in place as teens and kids are vulnerable.
It's also your parent's videos so you don't need the embarassment of being caught looking at them especially if they were moved from where they were kept and they suddenly cannot find something.
With the Internet you are also required to be 18+ to go on those sites. The disclaimers mean something and are meant to keep young people out so the site isn't liable.
There's also on a lot of them age verification info and clauses. If you lie and there's a problem where that's discovered it's bad news for everybody the site included as you are a minor accessing images you have no right to see/download just yet.
There's nothing really bad about the pictures though or what is in them as when it comes to sexual practices nobody defines what's normal.
It's normal sexual behavior on display in those pictures meant for adults only of course that many people view and are turned on by. It's all okay or considered to be fine by society.
It's DEAD WRONG if the pictures depict minors, rape, torture etc. as the people in them were coerced and forced to partake and that kind of picture is illegal, immoral etc. and can land you in a lot of trouble.
I know you're not looking at that kind of thing but I'm making a point of putting it here so others know.
The people in the pictures you are seeing online unless from magazines may have also been coerced into it or abused or have some really bad story.
What you need to know is that it's okay to be curious about sex and want to know about it or what things are or actually look like.
Just know that porn is not where to learn that (not at your age at least) and that it's also all fake and staged etc and often very degrading to women.
Stopping is hard but if remind yourself every time you want to look at it again that A) this is not for me to look at B) I don't want to be caught doing it and C) If I really want to know what sex is about I can get books about it with illustrations and diagrams and ask my parents or someone I trust these questions.
You just have to remind yourself when tempted over and over until you get it that you don't want to look at this again until I'm old enough until it sticks with you. Every time you are tempted do something else or go outside and play basketall etc. Find something else to occupy your time so you're never bored.
Also, with the computer understand you're getting traced and sites are sending you cookies too. Your parents if they are savvy can figure out exactly what you've been doing and looking at.
On the flipside, if looking at pictures is a problem you yourself can have someone you know from school or an adult other than your parents etc install Net Nanny for you and not give you the password to get around the pornography block.
I think you're pretty responsible though and can handle this by just finding other ways to occupy your time so you're never bored enough to dig into the porn again.
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you're completly normal. almost everyone goes thru that stage in life. you just wonder and want to experiment. you'll grow out of it eventually. if you want to stop then just stop thinking about it and think of something new, or just hold yourself from going into there room.
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dude thats normal its ok you will grow out of it
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I do not see any problem with being curious about sex. You're going through a stage everyone else goes through; it's completely normal. The only time it'd be a problem is if it was disrupting your daily life. As long as you are not acting out these movies or doing any other harm, you should be fine.
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What your going through is completely normal. All teens go through, whether your male or female, we all go through it. Some of us handle it differently than others. And watching porn doesnt make you a bad person, or a bad son/daughter. Neither does getting aroused by it, if you happen to.
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You can either cope with the fact that you're a human being and you enjoy sex,or you can just stop and do something else when you have the urge to watch porn.
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