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acne
there's this guy that i would love to date, and i'm pretty sure he'd love to date me too, there's just one problem--he has really bad acne. acne totally grosses me out, and i wouldn't want to be close to him or anything because of it. what would be a nice way of telling him to wash his face or use proactive every once and a while?
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you shouldent say anything about washing his face to him or he will get mad and if u think acne grosses you out then dont date him and everybody gets acne its life and
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There is no nice way to tell him that. Perhaps that's something he's extremely insecure about. Put yourself in his shoes: If you had bad acne & couldn't do anything about it, would you want some guy telling you to wash your face? Or perhaps, saying he doesn't want to date you because of your acne alone? You have realize people with acne usually can't help it, because in all reality, who wants acne & isn't going to do anything to treat it? I'm sure he washes his face & maybe he's tried Proactiv & it doesn't work for him. Or perhaps it's just too expensive. I don't think you should let his acne stop you from dating him. You date someone because of their personality, not because of their looks.
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There is no nice way to tell him that.
Washing his face likely wont solve the problem and although Proactive is pretty effective, it's also really expensive. You could make the suggestion to him in a sideways manner like "You know, proactive/clearasil/whatever, really worked for my friend/sister/whatever." He'll still likely be a bit hurt, but he might also be able to tell you why he can’t, or doesn’t worry about those things.
If you can't see past the acne, then you need to find someone else to date.
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It's likely he already is using treatment/facial washes for his face. Bad acne is hard to treat -you can't get rid of it just like that.
If you like him enough to date him, perhaps you should be able to see through his spots and see him for the person inside? Don't forget his acne won't last forever. But if it grosses you out, perhaps you shouldn't be with him at all.
It's not his fault. and I'm sure he would be devastated if he knows it's getting in the way of potential girlfriends.
Think about this one.
If it really grosses you out that much, it would probably affect your relationship.
I wish you the best of luck though. and personally, i'd get over the spot deal and focus on the person inside for the time being.
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First of all, hygiene isn't always the cause of acne. He could scrub his face every day and still have it. He's a young guy, it happens. Just because you were lucky enough not to get it doesn't mean everyone is that lucky. And proactiv DEFINITELY doesn't work for everyone.
And if his face "grosses you out", you probably shouldn't be dating him at all. Acne doesn't go away over night. It's a long and difficult thing to do, especially if you have naturally oily skin.
And there's no nice way of saying "wash your face once and a while". Like he should change how he looks for YOU? No way. As I said, if he grosses you out that bad, just don't ask him out. Simple as that. Find someone else you would "love to date" that doesn't have acne.
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There really isnt a nice way to say it, i think you just shouldnt date him then beucase then your whole heart wouldnt be in it. Its just fair to him or you.
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