I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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14/f...What's a good way to make a move that is NOT SO OBVIOUS on one of your good guy friends? A way that won't totally freak him out and is like dropping hints?
I RATE HIGH!!
thanx
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I've never been one for subtlety but maybe you could just try simply making eye contact with him and giving him a sly grin at the same time when no one else is looking. The phrase "making a move" and "not obvious" is kind of an oxymoron, or complete opposites. Making a move suggests you're taking action, and action tends to be more obvious than not. Simply flirting with him would probably be the most likely way to let him know that you like him without freaking him out.
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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on? (link)
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You have every right to say to him "look who's freaking talking!"... I know it's not considered "mature" to stoop to his level but he has no right to critisize your weight, even if he happened to be skinny.
DEFINITELY move on. This guy is too insecure and not worth your time at all. He preys on your confidence because he can't find any of his own, and those people are just downers. Find someone who isn't so judgemental and hypocritical.
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My dad made me cry my eyes out today. This is what happened.
Well last August I was asked by my cousin to be a bridesmaid for her wedding in April of this year. I said yes, and at the time was unemployed. Well I have a job now at a really good company. But I'm still on a 3 month probation. My grandma (who is paying for the wedding) was expecting me to take 3 days off on a weekend this Febuary just for a dress fitting!! She lives 6 hours away, and I would have had to take the greyhound bus. I told my dad this and he started screaming at me, saying that I was going to lose my job over this. I have a mental illness, and this is the first job I've had in 5 years. He said I would never get another job again and that he wanted me to drop out of the wedding, and that the job was too important. Well I started to cry because I really want to be a bridesmaid but also don't want to lose my job. I asked him if he could phone grandma and make some sort of comprimise, like maybe get the dress fitted her. Then he said "the fact that you're crying shows how delicate you are". He was really mean about the whole thing.
I still want to be in the wedding. I talked to my grandma and she is going to send up the fabric for me to get a local seamstress to make the dress so I won't have to take time off work until the wedding. But I'm still really upset at my dad. How should I act around him? And does anyone else think what he said was out of line? (link)
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He shouldn't have gotten upset with you so quickly. He had every right to be concerned about your job but he did go about it the wrong way, and if anything, the crying comment was just completely out of line. He doesn't sound very easy to talk to ... my dad used to yell at me and then I'd start crying and he'd yell at me more for crying...and reasoning with him just didn't work.
Maybe try to catch him during a calmer time and say, "If I'm delicate, then my feelings should be handled all the more carefully." It might really piss him off, but don't let him manipulate you and stand your ground. He's going to yell either way, right? Might as well say what you feel and get yelled at rather than voice no opinion and get yelled at. It will take some practice to not cry in these arguments but the closer you bring yourself to not crying the more he'll realize that he's messing up because he can't get ot you like he used to.
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All right, so one of my best friends announced that she had a major crush on this guy, and it as the same guy I like too. But she's my friend, and I kept my mouth shut. You see, she's the really shy sort of person, and this was the first time she announced to anyone that she liked them. Only now, I sort of get this feeling that he likes me back. What should I do??? (link)
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You already sent me this question and I already answered it. Check my column for proof.
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I am as flat as my back. I have no boobs. I wear a padded bra, but I have no boobs! Is there a kind of bra that will make me look bigger? I'm short and not as develpoed... I develop slower then others. Will they get bigger? THANK YOU SO MUCH! (link)
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Well um... kind of depends on how old you are. You didn't exactly give enough information to determine if they will grow. It seems like most girls reach their actual size by 15 or 16, but some can have a growth spurt after that... though I really haven't. Sure, you could try some type of wonderbra or padded bra from victoria's secret, but to me that's always been false advertising...but whatever floats your boat!
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for a sec could you dig through your cosemetics case and bathroom? what products would you rate best for my...
[] weak / bendy nails
[] frizz problem
[] acne
and last...
[] best teeth whitener?
thxx (link)
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I'm not a very girly person... I pay basically no attention to my nails or hair so I can't help you there. For acne I use astringent and special moisturizer I got from a dermatologist. I heard the crest teeth whitening strips are okay, but the really expensive stuff you get from a dentist is 10x better.
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I have had this really great friend for a while now. She is very shy, and has just announced to her crush she liked him, for the first time ever. I used to like him too, and now I sort of have the feeling thah he likes me back. What should I do? (link)
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Decide whose feelings are more important- yours or your friends, and if someone you 'used to like' (rather than some raging hardcore crush you've had for 5 years) is worth upsetting her.
Also, what I suggest that you do is to not pursue him at all. If he truly does like you, he will start to be extremely obvious about going after you and it will be basically unavoidable... then your friend will see that it's him who chose to like you and it'll make it seem less like you "stole" him from her.
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Hey. Is it true that guys won't have sex with girls if the don't shave their vaginas? (link)
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Many of the guys I dated didn't care. It's all personal preference.
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ok i have a serious question
i bidded on something on ebay and i really dont want it anymore
can u plz plz tell me what happenes when you dont pay for something on these?! (link)
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...Why don't you pay for it and then once you receive it put it up for auction on ebay again?
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13/m
ok i hope that this is in the correct category. well i masturbate wayyy 2 much. i kno i need 2 stop. 1 because my girlfriend doesn't like me doing it. 2. becuz its a little weird that i do it a lot. like whenever i get a boner ( and no1 is around or im in my room , if im at my house ) i masturbate. i only do it at my house and shit but still. Plus the major thing is that i need 2 do this for my girlfriend * i dont wanna loose her or risk loosing her *. please dont tell me 2 think of sumthing else, trust me i have tried, it doesn't work for me.
thanks in advance
tiredofit (link)
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Your girlfriend is irrational. It's completely unreasonable to expect a 13 year old boy not to masturbate. Here's a news flash: a majority of guys your age likely masturbate as much as you do. Don't read too much into it. You're just a normal, hormonal boy, and your girlfriend shouldn't be able to expect you to change something you can't help. Tell her to lighten up and realize that it's natural for you to behave this way, and if she doesn't believe you tell her to look it up herself. The proof is all there.
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OK so to get rid of stretch marks, whats that stuff called? And whats the brand, and where can i get it? Thanks in advance (link)
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I hear vitamin E oil or anything with a lot of Vitamin E works... also, there's this cream called "mother's friend" that pregnant women use on their bellies to prevent stretch marks as their stomach grows bigger...you could try that?
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I'm worrying... So I've had my period for about 3 years and all. I last had my period on Jan 17. But I have brown discharge... Is something wrong with me? (link)
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considering you had your period somewhat recently, I'm guessing that your period's just finishing itself off. The brown is just the remains from your last period. It should clear up within a few days to a week, and if it doesn't, I suggest you visit a gynecologist.
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okay i like bands like linkin park, thousand foot krutch, aerosmith ect. so what are some other bands like that that i might like ? (link)
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Led Zeppelin
The Who
TRUSTcompany
Nine Inch Nails
Deftones
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hey everyone! im going to a Battle of the Bands tomorrow night and im kinda scared. i love rock but im afraid people are going to think im a "poser" because im preppy. you know those little scenesters. and idk if i should wear a Fender shirt because i dont want to get any weird looks...any suggestions? =] thanks! (link)
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Just remember that a lot of scenesters are freakin' stupid and that their opinions mean nothing because of how quick they are to judge without looking beneath the surface. Not to say that they're all bad, it's just that so many I've been around are just as bad or worse than that jock prototype they emphasize in the movies, yet they're trying to be different from them. Hmmm...hypocritical no?
Okay, haha, sorry about my scene rant. Seriously, just wear whatever you want, and if that's a fender shirt, then go with that. Jeans and a t shirt are fine for a rock concert, and usually more practical.
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i like this kid n hes gay but hes a senior n im a freshman. we have alot in common n im thinking of asking him out how would the easyest way to ask him without making an ass of my self.
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Well... I think asking out a senior at this point would be kind of pointless... I'm a senior right now and I know if a freshman were to ask me out I'd be like, "sorry, kid. I'm graduating soon, and you're stuck here for another 3 years."
That doesn't even get to the real problem though. He's gay? I'm sorry...I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you're not going to change him. By senior year, people pretty much know what they like I'd think. If a senior is set on the idea that he's gay, that's just not going to change. It's just like if one of your best girl friends tried to make you like her even though you're straight. Wouldn't work out so well would it? I strongly suggest not asking him out because it would seem like you're not respecting who he is and it would have a 99% chance of ending with rejection.
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Me and my girlfriend of 3 years just broke up. Well she broke up with me, claiming she needed a time out to decide what to do with her life. I love this girl so much, and as you guys can imagine im debastated and heart broken. My question is, what should i do, ive been getting all emotional, and i dont wanna be anymore, the way i see it she got rid of me for no real reason. Should i start dating/fooling around with other women, or should i wait a litle bit? i always find that its easier to forget if you get somebody else. (link)
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This happens a lot in long term relationships. I've been in her position before. She didn't break up with you for no reason to be a bitch...just sometimes in longer relationships you start to lose sight of the bigger picture and you've built your life around this one person so much it feels like you need to build it around yourself for a little while instead.
I know it sucks to be really emotional, as I have also been in your position, but the more you literally try to force it away, the worse it's going to get. Just give yourself time and don't tear yourself up if you take longer to get over her. It's better to take the necessary time to get over someone and completely heal than to push it away and bury it. If you feel like dating will make you feel better, then by all means, go ahead and do it, but don't go and have mindless casual sex to fill the void. I know it would probably be tempting, but that honestly just makes that void more empty.
Anyway, just give her a little space for a couple/few weeks and then tell her how you feel. Telling her right now might push her away more because of how confused she is. If even then she seems distant and she doesn't want to talk about it, then still keep giving her space until she seems more open to talking and compromising. She'll appreciate that you're still there but that you've also given her time to sort through what's happening with her.
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Goodday,
I am from Nigeria in Africa,i love to be a pilot but i cant afford the fees,i wanted to know if its possible for me to get any form of financial aid so i can obtain a student visa and attend an aviation school in US.
Thanks,i cant wait to get a positive reply asap. (link)
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google FAFSA. It's a federal financial aid organization. That's probably the best source for financial aid another than from the school itself or scholariships. good luck!
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i'm 15 and my ex boyfriend is 16.. we broke up back in july.. we'd been going out for 9 months and 2 weeks prior.. we were both of each others longest relationships.. we broke up alot before but this time it was for good.. well in october i found out i was 5 1/2 months pregnant.. ya i know.. he was alittle supportive but not until he found out i was going with adoption because i don't want to be a mom and there's no way i could handle that change right now.. finally in late december he started to call & come over -- it was a big change becuase he wanted nothing to do with me all summer & i hate to admit it but i was even told by 2 counselors & my mother that he was honestly my "first true love" & when he left i hit rock bottom & of course i'm still not over him.. but my problem is -- one of the times he came over we were hanging out as friends & the next thing i know we were making out & doing things we used to like we were going out again but when i asked him later on why we can't just go back out he said he can't just jump back into a relationship but that he truely did love me & i believe it because i'm pretty positive i was his "first true love" too.. so now when we hang out (which is not alot at all maybe 1 time every 2 weeks) we act like we're going out.. we hold hands & kiss & tell each other we love each other but there's 2 girls in my grade he flirts with soooo much & they want him all of a sudden & they are definitely competition material & i know he likes them but don't know if he wants them.. yet he tells me he hasn't done anything with any other girl since we broke up & he just misses what we had.. yet he doesn't act like he plans on having us get back together.. so do you think i honestly have a chance & just need to wait & MAKE him fall back in love with me or is he possibly just using me when no one's around to get what he wants & once the adoption's final he'll just leave again for good..? i'm still madly in love with him & i don't want anyone else - yet i don't want to play friends with benefits if thats all it's going to be but i'd do anything with him if it'd make that spark come back for me.. what should i do?? (link)
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See, you COULD go with the incredibly immature, revengeful advice given below, but then you would have screwed up your life (and most likely your potential child's) life for the next 18 years just to make your ex feel shitty, and he'll feel shitty enough as it is when it finally hits him that he's being a complete and total douche bag. It might not be until he's older, but trust me, he'll feel the guilt eventually.
Still put the kid up for adoption. You didn't seem like you were wavering on that decision, but I just thought I'd reemphasize that point. It's very smart and brave of you to do this.
Get rid of this guy. The fact that he has the audacity to go and flirt with those girls and then go and tell his pregnant ex that he still loves her is completely mindblowing and awful. He will cause nothing but pain for you no matter what. Please stop acting like you're going out with him.. if anything, not kissing him or what not will probably just make him want you more, and by the time that happens you'll likely have realized there are bigger and better things out there. You might not even have to put effort in to get rid of him if he leaves when you put your child up for adoption- and in that case he wasn't worth it anyway. A worthy guy would respect your decision of what you do with your life.
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why do people on here ask about touchy questions when they dont want to hear the truth? like for instance some person just asked why people are mean to mormans or something along those lines and although ive never heard that i told the person exactly why i know mormans are unliked from where im from and he flipped on me because i guess thats not what he wanted to here. so if you dont want to hear the truth why do you ask those questions? (link)
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Haha, he or she did the EXACT same thing to me, too. I just told her to stop being a snobby bitch. She was probably just looking for a place to rant about it and then turned it into a question so it wouldn't get deleted. She didn't want actual advice- she just wanted someone to listen to her whine about her beliefs...which, you know, is kind of hypocritical considering she wants other people to accept hers but then bashes people for their own. Whatever. "Everybody knows that the world is full of stupid people." -Roger Clyne
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Okay, y'all...I am a fellow advicenator. I am just wondering why advicenators who have NEVER had sex or don't know what the hell the are talking about are answering sex questions. These people actually might just TAKE your advice...at least learn about what you're answering before you hit submit. Oh yeah, and for all of you who think wearing TWO condoms is cool...you are so wrong. (link)
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To reemphasize what protossc said below, those people simply want to feel more grown up and intelligent by knowing about something taboo and "cool" like sex. I've never seen anyone on this site say to wear two condoms, but I have no doubts that it's happened. Those people are obviously idiots...
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