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I'm 17 years old, and a senior in high school.
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Is it true that if you drink a lot of water at night you'll look healthier and your eyes will not look so tired in the morning??also...is there a such think as drinking TOO MUCH water? thanks!

Hey

Yeah. If you drink water at ANY time of the day your face and your body it self will be much healthier. And yes if you drink it at night the next morning you'll look great. Umm I guess the only way you know if you drink too much water is when you have to go to the bath room every five minutes. Other then that keep on drinking the stuff. It's a life saver.

♥ Maria ♥

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does anyone know many years you have to go to school in order to be a psychiatrist? not a psycologist . . a psychiatrist. thanks you very much*

Hey

Well i can't really answer that because for every person it's different. Some people work slow some people work fast it's all up to you and how well you pass all your exams But to work as a psychiatrist, you must:

complete a bachelor's degree;
graduate from medical school;
complete an internship;
pass a state licensing exam;
complete a three-year residency program in psychiatry;
pass additional exams to become board certified;

All together that's more then 10 years i believe
But hey don't take my word for it go here to read all about it:

http://www.iseek.org/sv/13000.jsp?pg=13000&id=100427

♥ maria ♥

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ok my school is doing a tabacco awareness and we have to make posters and the winner gets their poster on a road sign...i have to slogans in mind

They're Rich and Your Dead
or
Don't let them take you life to

which one do u guys like better!?!

Hey


wow i think it's a great idea what your school is doing. I honestly like both slogans, but i think "Don't let them take your life" is better.
What about this one "Don't let them win".
Or "Your life their money" But hey i'm sure whatever you pick it's going to be great.

If you need any ideas be sure to comment my inbox

♥ maria ♥

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hey alright me and my 2 friends are going to the greenday concert on friday..what are some good things to wear to that concert..and makeup and stuff?? please no stupid answers i just don't know what to wear!

Hey

Honestly it really doesn't matter what you wear because frankly nobody will be paying attention to you or your friend. I don't think you'll even be paying to attention to yourself. All eyes will be on green day. After all they all paid good money to see the band and not you, but if you just want to look nice for yourself or want to take pictures after the concert or before maybe even during the concert then I would personally suggest just wearing what you feel comfortable in. Most concerts I been to you had to be standing up the whole time. In that case I would wear a cute top doesn't matter what kind, with jeans. Also doesn't matter what kind. Blue jeans always look cute if you have blue jeans go ahead and wear them. It might get cold out or inside sometimes it gets pretty cold so maybe you can take a little jacket with you, if you have a jean jacket that's even better although I have no idea where you live, if you live somewhere where it's hot out just wear a cute jeans skirt with a tank top. Oh about the shoes just either wear flip flops or sneakers. If you're standing up the whole time I would go with the sneakers but that's just me.
You should leave your hair down; make it curly if you want. Straight would be just as cute. As for makeup I would definitely put sliver eye shadow with glitter on top. That would be super cute. No need for lipstick maybe some lip gloss. And that's about it. If you want just bring a cute hand bag with you for your lip gloss and anything else you need with you. If you need any more ideas be sure to IM me on aim. My screen name is DiOr BARBIEE

♥ maria ♥

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hey, whats The Killers newest album called?
thanks!


Hey

It's called "Hot Fuss".

♥ maria ♥

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can you tell me how to fingur a gurl. like every detail form music/lights to how to make her comfertable, you know.

im a male, 17 years old

Hey

See the problem to this question is simply that every girl is different. Just like every person that walks this earth. Yes we may have some things alike but we are never all the same. But I'll speak from my opinion. I personally think most girls like a guy that's sweet, kind and caring. It's the little things that matter. Trust me on this one. For example if your dating a girl or want to get her a simple card every once in a while would make a good impression on her. There doesn't have to be a holiday or birthday to get a girl something special. Same goes for flowers. I would love to get flowers for no reason. That just shows me that he cares and he's thinking about me. But girls don't like to be over bought if you know what I mean. Honestly I don't know your situation so I can't really help you all the way. If you like just Instant message me on aim and I would be more then happy to help you some more. My screen name is DiOr BARBIEE. Also most girls would like it if a guy would call them everyday and for no reason but just to hear their voice. That would be a major pulse. Try taking her out to dinner. Or better yet cooking it yourself and eating it at your place with lots of candles around you too. Maybe going up to your roof with a blanket and watching the stars together. I'm sure anything you do with a girl will go just fine as long as you both like each other and you make her feel loved. About the lights umm if you two are not really together yet then don't make the lights too dime. That might scare her away. Whatever you do don't go too fast. Show her you respect her first. Then show her you're her friend. Music shouldn't really matter but hey if you want her to see that you cared ask around her friends. Ask them what bands she likes and stuff like that. You know?? Well like I said if you need anymore help or want to tell me more information then just IM me.

Good luck

♥ Maria ♥

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hey if you don't mind, i was looking for somebody like you who is honest and truthful. I don't think I'm good looking, but I want the truth from somebody, because i get alot of different looks from girls, and not many good ones. so i was wondering if you would wanna just tell me how i look from a scale of 1-10. if this if you think thats annoying or dont have the time, let me know. otherwise just say you would n ill send you a link. thanks

15/m btw

Hey

Sure go ahead. Send away. If you rather IM me on aim i would be happy to talk to you. It's DiOr BARBIEE But are you sure you want to do this i mean the truth hurts?

♥ maria ♥

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Is there anyway for columnist to change the format of their usernames?

Hey

Nope. But if you get a a Paid account you can change your username. So i'm guessing you can change the format as well. But that's only if you have a paid account. Otherwise you can't. If you want just make a new column.

♥ maria ♥

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i am redecorating my room and i don't have that much money for it. does anybody know where i can find some decorating things. ex. bed comforters, curtains, lamps, desks, exc.

Hey

Well whenever I want to redecorate my room I go to Ikea. I'm not sure if that's near you but here's the website anyhow.



http://www.ikea.com/

A lot of their stuff is a pretty good price. You can get everything you need from that store. Bed comforters, curtains, lamps, desks, picture frames, EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING YOU WOULD NEED. If you need any ideas on what to buy or how to redecorate your room just IM me on my screen name Dior BARBIEE

♥ maria ♥

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I have gym first period this year...ouch!! I use Smooth and Dri Deoderant now and it doesn't keep me from sweating in class or in gym class. My mom says my expectations are all wrong and that no deoderant can keep you from sweating in gym. Is she right?? I need help!!! I heard of Certain Dri. Can that help me in gym?

Hey

I have gym first period this year also. What i personally use is Certain Dri. Yes it does work. I've been using it for almost a year now and i love it. Try it. You'll love it.

♥ maria ♥

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hey i need help on my room. wel i haven't changed my room in a really long time, so it looks all pink and white and stufed animals and toys everywhere and it looks so babyish and pink! i want to make my room pink blue and white, and i want to make it really cool and teenage like. can anyone help give me ideas on like what kinda furniture to put in it and what color the funiture would be? can you also give me some good stores that sell all of this stuff? i also want like a rug, so can you also help me decide what color it should be? and also, my room's pretty big so it can fit a lot of stuff. also, i have a bathroom right next to my room, so is there anything i can put there to decorate it a little? I also want to put some cool lamps and curtains and rugs and furniture and bed covers and sheets, so what kind, color, and where should i buy all of this stuff? i want a coool teenage blue,pink and white room, so please help i rate high!!!!

Hey

Oh wow that sounds like fun. I remember two summers ago me and my friend decided it was time to redecorate my room. We had so much fun. The place that I went to was called Ikea. You see I'm not sure where you live so I don't know if you have one near you but here's the website to the store:

http://www.ikea.com/

You can get everything you need from that store. I know I did.
What I would do first off is paint one wall white one wall pink and one wall baby blue. That would be very cute. If you don't like that idea then paint your room however you want it to be. But I honestly like the each wall is a different color idea. What I ended up doing is buying one of those wooden bulletin boards. The small kinds that you can hung up on your walls and pin anything you want on it. What I would suggest doing is buying a couple of them and put them up with pictures of you and your friends, maybe your family, your favorite shows, Pretty much whatever you want. And if you take my idea of painting each wall a different color you could put up a board on each wall. That would be pretty hot. Umm I think since your colors are going to be pink, white, and blue you can buy a white rug but then again I wouldn't suggest it unless you're a very clean person. White gets dirty really fast. Pink would get pretty dirty too. Try getting a dark blue one. When I went to ikea I got light wooden furniture with white on it. It really looked cute in my room. I think it would look pretty cute in your room also. Any light wooden color furniture would look cute. Trust me on this one. Also if you want to decorate your rooms a little bit more that's what I did. I got a whole bunch of candles and put them all around my room. You can get them at Ikea. Basically you can get everything you need to redecorate your room from Ikea. Also I got cute picture frames and put them all over my room too. It gives it that teen look. You can get new covers for your bed too.Any color would be fine. I cant really tell you all the colors yet. You can get almost anything from Ikea. Well take a look at that site and pick some things out and later if you want more ideas which I have lots of them just IM me on my screen name. It's DiOr BARBIEE. I'll be more then happy to help

♥ Maria ♥

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What age is normal for girls to start masturbating or wanting to or getting horny?

Hey

There honestly isn't a normal age for masturbating, wanting to, or getting horny. It could happen at anytime. For most people they start getting horny through out their teens. Some start to feel this way as young as 4 years old. I know for a fact my baby cusin did LOL. As for masturbating you should do it whenever you feel your mature enough. But i personally believe that you should be older then 11. Anything younger then that is kind of wrong. You could think about it all you want and get the feelings, but you shouldn't be masturbating yet.

♥ maria ♥

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(13f)Yesterday my dad asked me to pull weeds in the yard and I accidently pulled a whole bunch of plants that were like $100. I said i was sorry and promised to replant them but they wont let me. I cant pay them back because I dont have any money. Now they're not talking to me and they wont drive me anywhere I need to go! Does anyone have any ideas about what I can do?

Hey

That's the most ridicules thing I ever heard. I'm sorry but that sounds really immature for your parents to do. After all your only 13 and everybody makes mistakes. Well what I would do is replant the plants all by myself, without telling my parents. But then again if your parents didn't let you replant them in the first place when you asked, then there has to be a good reason for it. Umm lets see if your parents give you any money at all weekly or anything just tell them not to pay you anymore until it reaches the one hundred dollars wroth of plants you pulled out. If that's not an option then simply suck up to them. Like all kids do when they do something wrong. Don't worry they are your parents and they love you. They can't say mad at you for too long. Just give it some time. Remember the best way to go is by saying your sorry over and over until they get annoyed. Trust me works like a charm.
Also you can try cleaning around the house more. Making sure your room is always clean. Do all your homework on time and stuff like that. The little things do matter and they will notice that you are trying your best to help around. Just be nice. I'm sure things will work out just fine.

♥ maria ♥

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whats that song in " my best friend's wedding" that goes " Love, sweet love"

Hey


It's called "What the world needs now is love"
and it's by Jackie DeShannon

♥ maria ♥

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hey im 13/f and i reallly reallllllllllly like this guy but hes 15. i only get to see him every friday. many people have told me to tell him, but im not even sure if i should even bother, or if i was too .. how ? i just dont want to embarass myself, and as he ptus it, ehs a redneck so alot of thigns dont annoy him. but im just unsure what to do, and i really need help.

Hey sweetheart

I honestly can't grantee you won't embarrass your self because I don't know what you would find embarrassing. I personally wouldn't be embarrassed if I told someone I liked them and they didn't have the same feelings back for me. Of course just like any other girl I would be upset but hey if it wasn't meant to be why waste my time crying over a boy. You know what I'm saying? I mean if you really like this boy then just tell him. I know its easier said then done but trust me it's the best way to go. Since you only see this boy on Fridays which by the way I wonder why, you should have a talk with him. Ask him if he has a girlfriend! Be nice and smile. Keep your eyes on him. I'm sure he'll get the picture once you ask about him having a girlfriend. If you don't feel comfortable doing that then ask one of your friends to ask him if he would ever conceder dating you. If he says no then sweetie don't worry about it. It's his loss. And if you start to feel embarrassed you should play it off by saying ummm I never liked you so I have no idea why my friend asked you that. If he says yes that's great. Just come up to him and ask him yourself if he likes you. Then the rest should be history. I mean what's the worst that could happen, Your better off knowing how he feels about you now then later. It will save you a lot of time and energy.

Good luck and if you need anything else be sure to ask me

♥ maria ♥

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does anyone know a free program that i can download that i can edit my pictures with? like add cool effects to them? thanks

Hey

Well you can download Photoplus6
Go here for it:

http://www.freeserifsoftware.com/software/PhotoPlus/default.asp

You could also get the online image editor
go here :

http://www.creatingonline.com/online_image_editor/index.html

If you not happy with those then i say get Paint Shop Pro. It doesnt matter which one you get. It's not free however. but you can get a free trial for 30 days or so.

http://www.corel.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=Corel3/Products/Display&pid=1047023911984

You can look for it on many different sites if you dont like that one. Just google it.

♥ maria ♥

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hey

well i am 16 and i am having a baby. In fact i am due in 3 days. I was just wondering whats a good song that i can put on for my baby girl katy. Something so that she can fall asleep. I dont want any gay songs from the tv something different thank you

Hey

Awww good luck with your baby sweetheart.
One of my friends is 15 and shes due in 14 days.
Umm well since she asked me the same question i'll just answer you the same way i answered her.
Whenever i babysite my little cusin i put on

Winds Nocturne - Shii's song

It's a really nice slow sweet song. Its one of those songs that you can feel deep down inside of your heart. You'll love it, and for sure your baby will love it.

If you need anymore advice dont be scared to ask.

♥ maria ♥

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We have been together for 6 months and had a good sex life, but lately I have to initiate sex and often get rejected. My partner did make the comment that he has issues with my weight, which hurt me, but his loss of libido has been an issue that he has had before with other partners so I'm trying not to take it personally. This is very hard and find myself often getting very upset that he doesn't fancy me.

He has type 1 diabetes but was masturbating regularly before so he doesn't seem to be suffering from a sexual dysfunction, it also hurts that he masturbates, but doesn't want to have sex with me. We are very affectionate and loving couple in other ways and love each other very much. I'm finding it very hard to bolster my self esteem in this situation though, which is exacerbating the problem. I sometimes feel like running away then sorting out the problems. I hate that I'm feeling rejected and needy of him.

Hey

A lot of times in a situation like this the men... well... They're very sensitive. It's possible something has happened to them in the past that makes them see sex as less than pleasurable. Ask them what they like and don't like about sex. Since men's connection to sex is much more physical (and women's far more emotional), if you can train them to focus on the pleasure in sex and get them to rationalize the problem, you're on the right track. It's not the weight. It's not anything to do with the way you look because if he wanted to go out with you in the first place he obviously finds you attractive, and if he's commited he obviously cares for you. A man in the mood could sleep with anything, so you have to realise when he doesn't, it's something wrong with him, not you. Be patient and talk to him honestly about it. Do something erotic together but make sure he knows there's no pressure.

♥ maria ♥

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hi i always ask you for advice and stuff but i was just wondering i saw your away message on aim and it was a number and it said call me. I tried calling it was wrong? something how u never liked me??/

Hey

Oh Rofl it's the new york city rejection line.
It's when someone asks for your number and you rather not give it to them. You could just give them the rejection line number. It wasn't meant for you so don't worry it was just a joke. I have many stalkers on aim so it was mostly for them. You can go here to read more about it:

http://www.rejectionline.com/

♥ maria ♥

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Country listeners! Has anyone here ever listened/bought "Time Well Wasted" the cd by Brad Paisely. Is it good, and what's your fav songs, and if you want tell me why! Thx... EASY FIVE!

Hey

There is not a single track that is a disappointments so I can't really pick out any weak tracks.my favorites are: highlights are Waitin' on a woman, Out in the parkin' lot, Rainin' You (which is amazing), When I get where I'm going and Time well wasted. I even love Time Warp which was really not what I was expecting. Even my ex boyfriend who is not a country music fan likes Brad's music. I would recommmend this album to anyone!!

Look - just listen to this CD for yourself. There can be no regrets purchasing it. Only a few really good country CDs have been released this year - and TIME WELL WASTED is one of them.


♥ maria ♥


EDIT FEEDBACK: aww no your not weird at all. I understand. Alot of people are like that. If you need anything else be sure to ask me.

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