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We have been together for 6 months and had a good sex life, but lately I have to initiate sex and often get rejected. My partner did make the comment that he has issues with my weight, which hurt me, but his loss of libido has been an issue that he has had before with other partners so I'm trying not to take it personally. This is very hard and find myself often getting very upset that he doesn't fancy me.
He has type 1 diabetes but was masturbating regularly before so he doesn't seem to be suffering from a sexual dysfunction, it also hurts that he masturbates, but doesn't want to have sex with me. We are very affectionate and loving couple in other ways and love each other very much. I'm finding it very hard to bolster my self esteem in this situation though, which is exacerbating the problem. I sometimes feel like running away then sorting out the problems. I hate that I'm feeling rejected and needy of him.
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It is not you and it is not him. He has mental issues and a mindblock when it comes to sex period. For some reason he can love you etc. and be fine but actual sex is turning him off and or making him not want it. You both have to have him see someone and discuss this or it will ruin your relationship.
Masturbating and sex are totally different. While sexual acts it does not involve a partner and perhaps what his fear is of is a partner and not knowing how to respond sexually. He has a mental block there and it has to come out sooner or later why. Again, not your problem, do not run away, you can resolve it with honesty. None of this means he is gay but it could be the remote reason. Something is going on upstairs for him to have no interest.
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Hey,
I'm a 24 yr old F from the UK.
I don't want to post my response on this site cos the vast majority of the users are teens and I don't wanna disillusion them at this tender age! I would, however, like to give a response,
Please inbox me your username and i'll leave you a reply to your question directly to your inbox or eMail me directly @MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
If you choose to do neither then take care and I am sure things will work out for the best.
Take Care
Melanie
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A lot of times in a situation like this the men... well... They're very sensitive. It's possible something has happened to them in the past that makes them see sex as less than pleasurable. Ask them what they like and don't like about sex. Since men's connection to sex is much more physical (and women's far more emotional), if you can train them to focus on the pleasure in sex and get them to rationalize the problem, you're on the right track. It's not the weight. It's not anything to do with the way you look because if he wanted to go out with you in the first place he obviously finds you attractive, and if he's commited he obviously cares for you. A man in the mood could sleep with anything, so you have to realise when he doesn't, it's something wrong with him, not you. Be patient and talk to him honestly about it. Do something erotic together but make sure he knows there's no pressure.
♥ maria ♥
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