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Q: My friend that i have known for a long time has just revealed to me that he is gay. I love him to death. What should i do ??

Accept it, even though it might feel wierd, he told you because he didn't want to hide anything.

Q: I broke up with my girlfriend last summer and i cant let go of her. I dont know what to do but I love her and i dont know what to do. HELP!

Try to become friends with her and than ask her back out, and say that you messed up big time

Q: I love to draw but the only problem is that I never know what to draw.I need some ideas on what I can draw!And if you name something that is very colorful and takes a while to color than I will rate you a perfect five!!!

I think you should find something or someone to draw, like a portrait and just do that. Maybe do a picture of a flower/garden/animal. Besta Luck

Q: Ok the other day (I forgot how we came up on the subject)my friend and I were talking about how much we weighed. I told her first, but I am pretty skinny. Well, she told me she only weighed 2 more pounds than me (92). I think she is lying, however (maybe she feels embarassed?), because she wears a size five in jeans (I wear a 0). Can she really only weigh 2 more pounds than me, and yet still wear jeans way bigger than me? b/c me and this girl are REALLY good friends & i she NEVER lies to me (and i would hate for her to start!!) Thanks I will rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is your friend taller than you? I think she may have been embarrassed, but Im sure its nothing to worry about, its jus weight. She may have felt "fat" because you weigh less than her.

Q: my friend doesn't really like this guy who i like but she's leading him on. she said to my face she's doing this on purpose. he likes me and we are like best friends but my friend askes him to dances a month early so i can't ask. What should i do?
female 16

I think you should slap your friend, and tell the guy what a jerk she is. I mean, what kind of friend would do that JUST to make you feel bad?

Q: Alrighty. There's this guy Adam, and him and my friend Michael came up to me a few days ago, and Michael said Adam thought I was cute and he was going to ask me out. Adam ran away. Adam's getting closer and closer to asking me, but always chickens. I want him to ask me out...what do I do?

You just gotta wait. Eventually he will end up asking you out, it just takes time. If you dont feel like waiting, go for it.

Q: Okay.. let's see- I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. We are both around 16. Hes not to desperate to do anymore than we have.. He's went down my pants but thats the furthest we've got. We both talked about doing more, and we both want to. The only thing is i'm kind of nervous. Like everyone says giving handjobs/blowjobs come natural how to do it. but i dont think it's going to for me. or like him eating me out? Won't that just be weird. will i just lay there? I'm really ready to do this, but i just want to make sure i do everything right for him...

I rate high

Well, I'm not sure what you do, but I doubt he is sure either. That's what makes it "exciting". I think he should be happy that he is gonna actually get some anyway. Besta Luck

Q: Some people say that if you put toothpaste on a pimple overnight than it will go away. Does anyone know if this is true? Has anyone tried it?

This is true, and yes I have tryed it. But it does burn...alot.

Q: My Dad's soon to be ex-wife has been harrassing us and stalking the house. Today, she told the police that I have been slandering her name at my high school. I never talk about the woman. Why would I want to talk about someone who is making my life a living hell? When I am at school, it is my relief from all the stress of home and I try to enjoy the time with my boyfriend and my best friends. I have had four of my friends come up to me and tell me that she has come to her house and said a bunch of stuff to her parents about Dad and about me. This is four different people that their parents would rather them have nothing to do with me. Do you have any advice on how I can improve my name, or at least deal with the stress of someone trying to ruin my life? (Although she says that I am ruining hers. Yeah, funny how that works out...)
Thanks!
Stressed...

This is almost the same thing that happened to me (except their wasn't a crazy woman involved). I would just call the parents of your friends and tell them what happened. Although they may not believe you, it would show them that you care about your reputation. I would get the police to make her stay away from your house and your family. Besta Luck

Q: ok i know this is really random and sounds stupid, but whenever my mom eats, she doesn't eat with her mouth closed. this really bothers me because it looks and sounds really disgusting, but none of my other family members seem to notice. how can i tell her, politely, that i think it's disgusting and she should stop (because she does it in public too!)

Just kindly (KINDLY) tell her that it grosses you out when her food is practically flying out of her mouth. If you are too embarrassed or unsure, just do not look at her when she eats. Besta Luck

Q: Okay well to start things off, I was dating a boy named Ryan. And I knew this other kid Jake, who liked me and was always trying to get me and Ryan to brake up. I never knew him that well so I never go involved, that is until i broke up with Ryan. Jake treated me like gold. He made me a better person inside and out and I have NEVER been so happy in my life. I would walk into my classes actually crying tears of joy after i had walked with him in the halls just because he made me feel that good. I don't know if it was love, but if it wasn't it was as close as you can get. We broke up 2 months after this. We broke up in November of 2003, and I still can't get this kid out of my head. I've had 2 boyfriends since then but I constantly was comparing them to him and it drives me nuts. I almost felt like i didn't like them just because I don't feel the same way about them as I did about Jake. I know that I do, but I don't feel like i can ever feel the same way about anyone else. He went away to college which makes it easier but whenever he comes home all i do is think about him. I still cry at night sometimes because I can't get over how perfect he was for me. He calls me still every once in a while to check up on me but i try to keep it brief because it hurts too much to talk to him, it brings back too many memories. Is there anyway for me to get over this? It really hurts me like on a day to day basis and i thought i would be over it by now and i'm not. I don't know what to do.

I think it was wrong to go out with him in the first place. Anyone who doesn't respect a relationship isn't really worth it. BUT....I think that you should just try and keep him out your mind. Whenever you start thinking about him, just force him out of your mind. Besta Luck

Q: Take this in mind before you help me!
-I HAVE TOLD HIM MY FEELINGS
-We have went out before
-WE are bestfriends now

Okay?!

I used to go out with my now bestfriend.. But I broke up with him after about 2 months into it.. But now its like.. 9 or 10 months later and i still like him.. alot.. cant stop thinking about him always wondering wahts on his mind kinda bull crap and he is off liking other girls.. and i tell him everything.. and thats why im here.. i cant tell him this one thing.. and thats.. Im thiknig about telling him i think we shouldnt be friends naymore.. cuz im sick and tierd of being hurt.. him always talking about another girl and crap.. knowing i cant have him.. its hard to explain but thats what i want to do.. but then theres this thing about how if i did tell him to just leave me alone , that i would miss him even more and prolly end up going crazy.. So what would u do? Tell him to leave me alone.. or just deal with the hurting ..

I would just try to tell him how I feel. I wouldn't stop the friendship just because he talks about other girls. I mean, you DID break up with him. Just try to get over him, think of other people to like. Besta Luck.

Q: Ok. i have this friend and we both like the same guy. i mean he's a really really nice guy and he's not fast paced and he'll give the girl the time she needs. and he's popular so i guess i kind of have two questions.

Question 1). Would it be totally horrible for me to do something about my feelings, because i know for a fact that the guy doesn't like her he told me. but if things worked out and she got mad i'd feel horrible but the thing is she'd do it to me in a heart beat, even if it hurt me ...

Question 2). I'm not sure what i should do. because if i decide to talk to him and let him now how i feel theres a chance he'll laugh in my face. because hes popular and im not really. im not sure if i should give it a try, because he seems like he could possibly be interested in me, he's flirting and acts interested, but that could then again just be how he is ..

You should never fight over a guy with a friend. It ends up ruining a good friendship over something that might not even work out.
If you talk to your friend, and shes ok with you going out with him, do not just leave her by herself either. Try to spend time with both of them. If shes kool with you guys going out, just go for it.

Q: Theres this guy Steve who asked me out.. 2 years ago.. and I was a dumbass and I said no. And I know that Steve wants a relationship, because he sometimes talks about how he wants a girlfriend. And he's not the type to just want a fling.. he's not your typical, hott, popular guy.. he's not even that great-looking, he's not popular but he's still cool, and he's caring and easy to talk to. And when I said he flirts with other girls, he doesn't exactly FLIRT with them. He just TALKS to them and becomes friends with them. I donno, I guess I get jelous sometimes and assume that he's flirting. And I'm not really sure, but sometimes he hints around that he kinda likes me. But how do i tell the difference form when hes flirting and when hes just being friendly?? Idk what to do.. help!!

Most guys DO flirt with girls, it's just how they are. However, there is a thing called Harmless Flirting, which is like they kinda joke but they know they would NEVER date. If you aren't going out with him right now, it shouldn't bother you as much. If he likes you, ask him out.

Q: i need help.my ex bf broke up w/ me on valentines day. i'm still madly in love w/ him. i told him i missed him and he said he misses me too... i was like why are we doing this to ourselves? he said i dont know... i am so confused! help please!

I think his problem was that he wasn't ready to settle down. Or maybe Valentines day made him feel like he was trapped or something. I would give him time to realize what he is missing and try to get back with him. Best of Luck!

Q: Hiya,
I've had three boyfriends, all of whom were MAJOR crushes of mine. I was mad about them for ages (months and sometimes years) and took all my courage, told them how I felt and asked them out (one at a time obviously!). They all liked me back which was great but...once we started dating, with every single one of them, I just lost all feelings towards them and felt trapped. What do you think is going on? Am I in love with the idea of unrequited love? Or am I just not ready for a relationship...or what?
Ta!

I think you like to love someone, when your not in a relationship, which is how alotta people feel. I think that you really care about people, but you just don't like settling down. Maybe try taking things slower, or try when you think your ready. Best of Luck!

Q: I didn't know what to put this under but i truley need some advice... i will rate rate you high even if you just try. I'm got in a fight with my teacher today and i got arrested and my mom picked me up at the jail a few hours later. I have court and that was my last strike so i am gettin sent away. this has been streesing me out all day , and i can't stop crying. The hardest part was seeing my best friend crying in my arms and telling my boyfriend.. ne ways what I'm asking is what should i do or say that will make everyone feel better including me.

I would keep telling them and yourself that it isn't gonna be the last time you see them. Just remember that you can send letters and call them. I wish you the best of luck!

Q: okay i none this kid Joe for the last 4 years,fell in love with him! i broke up with my boyfriend to go out with joe (but i also broke up with him because i heard he was payed to go out with me!) any way sooo joe asked me out first i said once i break up with my boyfriend,so i did,and then jeo goes "never mind" and his friend robert told me why...because joe thinks i "played" my Ex boyfriend. and he doesn't wanna be played!! i wanna go out with him soo bad! he likes me and all! but how do i get him to beilve i wont play him!

please help i rate high!!

I feel bad for your boyfriend. To dump him for someone else is kinda...wrong. But I think you should earn Joe's trust back. Just let him see that you didn't play him.

Q: I really like this boy, and he is in 4 of my classes. I have no idea whatsoever how to talk to him. I mean, we talk, but never about anything interesting. My friends all know that I like him, and they think that he likes me. What should I do?

I think you should ask him about what kind of things he likes to do. When you know, try to start a conversation about some things that he likes, so he can see that you are interested. If the time comes, ask him out. Good Luck!

Q: Ok, well, my one friend, Chrisy is going out with this one kid named Josh. See the thing is, is that one day i was over at my other friend's house, leah, and she asked Josh if he like her and he sadi yes, and that he was going to break up with Chrisy a weeek after valentines day. I promised Leah i owuldn't tell anyone. See the thing is is thT IDK if i should tell Chrisy what happened or not. I love Chrisy and LEah the same, but idk wut to do....please help!

I think you should kind if hint around to Chrisy to dump him first. You wouldn't be breaking your promise to Leah, but you wouldn't have to watch your friend get hurt.

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