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In love with...? (18.f)
Hiya,
I've had three boyfriends, all of whom were MAJOR crushes of mine. I was mad about them for ages (months and sometimes years) and took all my courage, told them how I felt and asked them out (one at a time obviously!). They all liked me back which was great but...once we started dating, with every single one of them, I just lost all feelings towards them and felt trapped. What do you think is going on? Am I in love with the idea of unrequited love? Or am I just not ready for a relationship...or what?
Ta!
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it really doesn't mean anything, everyone is like that at some point. it isn't love, obviously, it's probably just lust. maybe you aren't ready for a real serious relationship, which is okay because your still young. you'll eventually find one that makes you want to keep him for a LONG time.
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maaaybe you think of them as just hot and then you're going out with them and you don't see the big deal. meaning: you don't really have feelings for some of these guys.
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Sometimes when you crush on someone so long and get this idea of what theyre "supposed" to be like..you sorta lose reality. I think thats what happened to you. Also you might like the chase. You might just like to crush on someone but then when you have that person..you dont really want them nemore..you just liked the chase of that person. I am alot like that..i like someone and then wen they like me bac..i dont like them nemore.
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You might think your in love with them but truley your not. When you find the right guy youll know but your probably young so dont get caught up in love and things like that. Live a little you know.
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It definitely sounds like you may just not be ready for a love relationship...and it's awesome that you've figured that out on your own! Most people won't admit it.
It could help to just be friends with guys at the moment, and not press for a relationship whenever you have major crushes on them. You still have lots of time to find "the one," so take advantage of being single!
P.S. Most people don't marry until the age of 25-27 (if marriage is what you have in mind).
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ok this ones gonna be long...
OK, maybe you're just basing how much you "love" them on their looks. If thats the case when you say crush, you need to get to know what they look like inside, and not out.
If the above isnt the case, try getting to know a bunch of different guys and decide what your "type" is. Or maybe just experiment... go to a club and get sum numbers or talk to some guys. Dont be too picky, but have some limits.
I know that I am in love with being in love. I go all out with my guy, and thats ok. But if you decide that you dont like them at all anymore in the relationship, then maybe you just want to FEEL loved by a guy, or to have a guy around you. If thats it then... i dont know, work on it?
hope it helps
<.::~*~ SuGa HiGh ~*~::.>
PS thanx for sayin im an angel ;)
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I think you like to love someone, when your not in a relationship, which is how alotta people feel. I think that you really care about people, but you just don't like settling down. Maybe try taking things slower, or try when you think your ready. Best of Luck!
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