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*-*i'm a 13/f me and my boyfriend been together for almost a month..but i think i'm really in love with him b/c i never had this feeling for anyone else..well we talked about having sex,,is it okay or should we wait?*-*

*thanks*

Well if it was me, I would wait because I want to wait for someone really special..and im 15. You dont have to have sex to prove your love to him. If its something you really want to do..and your ready..then ok do it..but if it were me i would wait
I hope i helped.

I have been really depressed lately and don't know what to do at all. I feel like everyone is out to get me and i'm always getting so mad over the little thing people do. I don't even feel like hanging out with some of my best friends sometimes. I've also cut myself a few times but I don't want to resort to that. I don't want to talk to my mom and please don't say "You need to though" I would feel so weird talking to a counceler and my friends just don't understand. I'm lost, confussed and need someone to give me some advice on what to do.
Thank you!
Kristen.

How can you get help if your not willing to reach out to somone who can really help you and bring you back to yourself? Your mom loves you and shes here for you..and if i were u my mom would be one of the first people i go to because she would support me and get me help from a professional counselor. Im sorry but if your not willing to reach out..how can you get help? You have to look deep inside yourself and WANT to make a change so bad..that your willing to reach out. If your not willing to talk to your mom..or even a school counselor..what is there to do? Is there anotherr relative you can talk to? Anyone?
Thats the first step..in order to get help..you gota talk to a counselor, doctor,your mom. Next time you go to your doc..tell him your feeling depressed. You have confidentiality with him..but is that any use? When ur mom goes to get your antidepressants shell see what the doctor prescribed. If the doc sends you to a pyschologyst..your mom will have to bring you there right? And insurance is involved. You have plenty of opportunities to get help..but first you gota talk to someone.
Please talk to someone..anyone.
You'll be happy you did so.
-melisa-

okay im 14/f and ive been crushing on my best friend lately.. hes really sweet n nice n cracks me up, we always make each other laff n we always have fun togather, weve started b-n rilli close friends just this year tho, theres this other guy that goes to a different school that is obsessed with me he actually think we are meatn to be he tells me he loves me and everything but i do kinda like him to i dont know which one i go for my bff which we are kinda like brother ns ister so i dont think we would work out although everyoen thinks he likes me too or should i go for the other guy that i kno loves me? please help!! * kay *

Well..how do you feel? Do you like the guy whos crazy about you? If you do..he might be the better option because many people argue that friendships are ruined by relationships. However this isnt always true. He goes to a different school..so consider that factor. You said yourself that you dont think going out with your best guy friend would be a good idea..but if you chose your best guy friend..friends with benefits might be better. This way theres no breakups..etc. But the choice is yours..so i would make a list of positives and negatives for each guy..
-melissa-

ok i have this friend his name is deven swyers and hes always mad at me cuz im better than him at everything and i could beat him up and he better than me at absoulutely nothing what whould i do to make him feel better?

Tell him none of that matters to you and that you like him because hes a great friend. Life isnt about talents..its about having true friendss..etc..and hes a great friend so keep telling him that.Sometimes everyone needs a confidence boost.

lately i just feel weak and tired. I get sad often. My moods are up and down and i feel like i have no control. I don't know what to do

I think it could be depression..but i just give advice..im no doctor! I would go to the doctor because he/she would know best. You'll be happy you went trust me..everyone gets a little depressed sometimes..and some meds could do the trick. You'll be fine

what is a quick way to earn money? besides ponning, stripping, or prostitution. 15/f i need money quick. I've already done work for my mom and her boyfriend, but they have run outta things for me to do. I have a good bit of money saved up, but i need hell of a lot more.. any suggestions would help. Thanks! (I'll rate high)

Prostituting? Lol no no..you can make money and not be a hoe...you have to be willing to work hard though. Are you willing to work hard? Try waitressing. You get tips. Its hard work though. Try getting a job in a store somewhere. More options open up when you turn 16.

does anybody know how hard it is to get into princeton b/c i am freaking out about getting into it. i am a straight A student but will it be enough?

Straight A's is great..they will also look at your SAT scores. Colleges..especially good ones like princeton will look for what you do outside of school. Like extra activities such as sports,clubs, student council, etc. Straight A's is good..but they will look at what courses you took..if you took honors courses..challenging courses..etc. I have a friend who thinks shes getting into a great school..yes shes smart (kinda) but she doesnt do anything else..so she probably wont get into a really great school

ok well, in social studies class i sit in the back. And the other day this kid Dan had been absent and we had a test that day. Well the day he came back he had to take it (i sit next to him) and during his test his cell goes off. In my school we r not aloud to have cells phones. And he thought if he reached in his pocket and turned it off then the teacher would think he was cheating. So he wisppers to me to turn it off. So i reach in his pocket about to turn it on when the teacher sees us. She thought that i was doing some thing **else** inhis pocket then turning off his cell phone. Now i have a detention for "cheating" and for doing other stuff wit dan!! wht do i do?!

**sk8rgurl

I would get this guy Dan to come with you and tell the teacher the whole truth and insist thats all it was. Tell your teacher it was a misunderstanding and to please remove the detention.

female/13 see i got a boy friend but mii best friend is a boy and it seems like i havent spent any time wit my best friend lately because im so focused on my boy friend so what should i do ? im scared of losing our friendship
signed, confused

Maybe the three of you can hang out? Being that hes a guy ..they might click better. If not..and you dont like the idea..or you try it and its awkward..then set aside a day for him! On the weekend. If you go out with your bf friday night..then hang out with your friend on saturday. If you go out with your bf saturday..hang out with ur friend on sunday. Theres enough room in the weekend to hang with your bf and your best friend! If you do that..then you wont lose your bf.
-melissa-

i just found out my boyfriend is gay...this is so weird...what do i do? i still love him a lot and just "being friends" would be really awkward ...im so confused!

This is a rough time in your bfs life right now. He needs support! I would really try and be his friend..despite the awkwardness. Hes confused and he needs a good friend. Hes probably thinking aobut how to tell his parents..and if he wantts to come out of the closet in school..he will have to start worrying about the mean ppl in school who will make fun of him..etc. So yes definately try and be his friend!
-melissa-

2 and a half weeks ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. I'm finding it really hard to get over him and today I found out that he has a new girlfriend. She's a girl who went to his primary school and he hasn't seen her for over two years. He says he likes her and all but I don't know if he's telling the truth or not. I spoke to her on MSN (I've never met her) and she seems nice, she said that if it was really bothering me then she would break up with my ex. I told her not to ruin things with him just because of me but I can't help feeling jealous. I love my ex and if his new girlfriend makes him happy then I hope they're happy together but it's still tearing me up inside. How do I deal with this?

As time goes by..the pain will start to fade away. For now..go out with friends a lot..do all kinds of activities to get your mind off of him. As time goes by..the pain will ease and you'll be able to look back on the memories you shared and smile. You cant just tell yourself to stop liking him or thinking about him..because you cant control how you feel.
I hope things get bettter
-melissa

hi i have a slight problem.. i cant stop sleeping with guys 15 years older than me. My last boyfriend had 3 kids with me. How can i stop sleeping with all these guys? what should i do?

Please help me... I need help..
MOLARRY CURLLLY

Stop by thinking how you want to hold your head up with pride and dignity. Its not hard. You can still have a bf and even have fun with him..just remember what happned the last time you slept with someone. You had children. Enjoy the sex later in life..for now.. try to just enjoy being a kid..and also concentrate on raising your children.

Im doing so bad in school! I have an F, a D, and the rest are all C's and B's..my mom keeps saying if i dont bring my grades up (she said this when i got my last report card which wasnt as bad as this one) that she will not let me do anythingg besides my school work and after school activities! Ugh..i cannot imagine what i am going to say to my mom that im FAILING? Has anyone ever done/said anything that works? Also how do i stop procrastinating and STUDY&do homework??

When your mom finds out your failing..tell her "im ready to change and make it better..trust me you'll see improvements." Next step..is to get on top of your school work and bring up your grades. If you have a study hall..do as much reading/studying/hw as you can. When you get home from school do all your work. Dont go on the comp or watch tv. Just get everything done..and hopefully when 9pm rolls around you'll be done so you can watch tv or go on the computer. Your mom will see your effort and appreciate it..so hopefully on weekends she'll let you out.
-melissa-

all right, I'm sure that i'm not the only one that has this problem. First of all, I'm male and straight. I have friends that are girls, who I become friends with, but then I might want to date later. I like being friends with a girl before I ask them out. I've dated girls before that I haven't really gotten to know before asking them out, and then we might last for a month or two. The girls I become friends with, I really like, but then they may say comments like " I wish I had a boyfriend that was like you." Here I am though? IF I bring it up about us going out, they say we're too good of friends to risk that. They ask me questions about guys and other stuff, but I'm starting to feel like I'm their best gay friend, but I'm not gay. What should I do if this happens again?

P.S. For you smart arses out there- I'm not effeminate either. I have a deep voice, drive a land rover, play football, hockey, and lacrosse, and dress in subdue clothes.

Thanks.

You sound like a really great guy..and i dont think these girls see you as their gay friend. i think they view you as a great friend whos a guy...and they dont want to take a chance and ruin the friendship they have with you. Next time this happens..say "well what if we make a promise that when we break up..we'll always be good friends." If the girl still doesnt want to..you cant force it..thats the last thing a girl wants. I have a friend whos a guy...and he wouldnt stop persuing this girl..he was annoying as hell! You'll find a girl whos willing to take that chance to be with you..and the wait will be worth it. They dont see you as gay..they see you as great guy and i bet your sexxy as hell. ;)
Hope I helped out?
-melissa-

Ok i really want to go to the movies today with my friend today becasuse its a snowday for me and my mom was like no you cant i dont want someone else driving you that far! And then i got really mad cuz shes just an overprotective evil and i told her i hated her(i really do) and now its so annoying cuz she doesnt understand 1 thing.!

Help me!!! i rate high

By yelling ..nothing will happen. How bout you ask to sit and talk with her calmly..with no arguments. Say you respect her opininon..but you want her to understand that you want to go. Ask her to think of some comprimises that will make both of you happy. What if your mom dropped you guys off? then later maybe being that your mom picked up your friend..your friend can drive you home. If that cant work..keep brainstorming. Maybe gather up a group to go..and have your mom drop you off at one of your friends houses? Then your friend wont have to pick you up later.

Almost exactly a year ago i made a BIG mistake. I was going through a depression and I felt horrible about myself, and my best friend's boyfriend was also one of my best friends. We talked all the time but before he started dating my best friend he liked me but I just didn't see him that way. Well while i was goign through my depression he was really there for me and he made me feel really good about myself. And somehow he managed to talk my way into having sex with him... while he was still with my best friend. Now i know that it sounds horrible but honestly i am NOT that type of girl i am like an awesome friend and i'd do anything for anyone because i'm just like that. After i did it i cried for like weeks. It took about 3 months until my best friend found out and she was crushed. This just through me into a deeper depression. But eventually she forgave me and now we will still talk and such but we are nothing like we use to be, and nor do i expect us to be. But the thing is is i still can't get over it, even though she forgave me its like i can't forgive myself. I drive myself crazy thinking about what a horrible thing i did and how horrible of a person i am. I honestly feel like shit everyday because it doesn't get out of my head, everytime i see her i think to myself how couldi have done that to her i am jsut a bitch. And like i just put myself down so much. I've only had sex with 2 guys in my whole life but i feel like a total slut. And i should i think. I'm starting to fall back into my depression and it is driving me crazy. I got over it for a few months but now its just all starting to bother me again. I don't know how to deal with it. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can rid myself of this uncontrollable guilt? i mean i know i should feel guilty but i honestly feel likei am driving myself crazy. Thanks so much

Everyone makes mistakes..big and small! You have a really awesome friend by the way. I know this might sound selfish..but you've suffered enough..and nobody desserves to be in turmoil the way you are. Your extremely sorry for what you've done and you DESSERVE to feel better and release some of that guilt. I suggest going to a doctor. Its nothing to feel ashamed about...everyone goes through depression and the best way to get over it is to go to a doctor so he can prescribe something to you. Going to a doctor for depression does NOT mean your crazy or anythign like that so dont think it is!
Whats in the past is in the past and its time to live the present and think about the future. Your friend forgave you..now its time to forgive yourself :)
-melissa-

Im 15 and this Girl that i like is 17, i will be 16 in june. she is a junior and i am a freshman, is their anything wrong with us being together? And how should i ask my parents what they think about this?

Theres a guy in my school who is 15 and dating a senior. Being that your a guy.. I think your parents would be more OK with it. Your dad might even say "thats my boy" because lets face it..a lot of guys would like an older woman. If i were in your place..my parents wouldnt like it at all because im a girl..and they wouldnt want me dating a senior..but being that your a guy i think they would be ok with it. So ask her out and if she says yes..go home and talk to your parents. Tell them straight out that your dating a senior and show them how happy you are. See their reaction and take it from there. If they flip out and you need some more advice..drop me a line in my inbox
-melisaa-

me and ryan* have been dating for about 6 months now. these past two weeks, it seems like he's been hitting me a lot lately. i mean, half the time we're joking.. but he's been kicking me.. we were walking down the hallway and i said something to him, a joke.. and he kicked me in the back of the leg.. i couldn't walk right the rest of the day.. he kicked my other leg yesterday before algebra ended.. and today, my friend jacki was over and he kicked me in the hip (very bony) so i started to cry and all. is he considered abusive ? what do i do ?

Yeah this guy is definately abusive. I would dump him ASAP. I think its a disgrace when a guy hits a girl..especially when they are a couple! Lose the guy, trust me in the long run you will be happy you did because its not going to get better...

my boyfriend is really sweet and thoughtful of what he does. so before he kissed me, he asked if it would be ok. and i said it would. so now he wants to kiss me. but the only thing is...it's my first kiss and i don't know how. please help. it might sound kinda stupid but i need to know how. thanks in advance!

Everyone gets a little freaked out and nervous about the first kiss (i know i did) but believe me when i tell you it all comes natural! The first kiss isnt going to be a hollywood kiss you see in the movies...you get better at kissing as you do it more! If you remember the basics like keep your breath clean and wear some chapstick...your going to be fine. Dont kiss him too intensely on the first kiss..take it slow. Once your lips meet..all the nervousness will go away..and its going to be amazing trust me. It comes naturally! Kiss him lightly on the lips..then as the kiss progresses you can maybe put your arms around him or in his hair. Your gonna be great dont worry!
-meliss

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months,and he wants to kiss me, but I'm not sure if I should. My mom would freak out, but i really like him. What should I do?

Your mom doesnt have to know every little thing you do. Kissing your bf isnt going behind your mothers back or anything. If your ready to kiss him and you want to..then i say go for it!
hope i helped
-melissa-

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