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tonight i was at my boyfriends house and ive been with him since october.. 16/f.. just recently i fell in love with him and its an amazing relationship ..i was at his house tonight and he and i were messing around and i suddenly have never wanted to have sex so bad in my life.. im a virgin so im kind of opposed to it.. but i mean im in love with this guy and he means so much to me its just.. being a virgin i get so much respect and i love the respect i get from it.. im afraid if i lose it im gonna regret it somehow or another.. i dont know though.. i really dont know.. what should i do.. i mean i want to so bad because its just so .. there.. but i just.. dont know.. by the way hes a virgin to.. hes 18/m me-junior him-senior

I think you should hold off because your not ready. Its normal for people..(especially our age) to have those kinds of urges. But its just our hormones acting crazy. I would hold off on having sex with him for now. Keep building your relationship..and if your together for awhile and sometime down the road you decide your definately ready..do it then.
I hope that helped?
-melissa-

i am a 21yr old female and have a huge sexual disire for sex everyday cn not find a man to satisfy me i need help...

You just have to keep "shopping around" . When that one guy who comes along one night..and has what you need (whether its a big penis,good hands,etc) hold onto him! For now..theres nothing else you can do but keep hittin the clubs up where you'll meet plenty of guys..and take him home with you. Just remember to be careful and use protection.

im 14 years old(male) and i keep cutting myself. I've tried to stop but i keep doing it. I ve talked with my friends to see if they could help me out and one of them started to cut too! i really dont know what to do please help me out.

Im happy you reached out to your friends..but now you have to reach out to a adult IF the following doesnt work.
1. From now on...when you want to cut yourself..hit a pillow hard
2. Write poetry..stories..etc.
3.Listen to music
I know going to an adult is probably the last think you want to do..but if you cant cut the habbit by doing this in a few days..then I would talk to an adult.They can give you the help you need to stop cutting and to get back on track! Dont feel ashamed,embarassed,etc because thousands of kids our age do it..and they are in the same boat! The only difference is..you want to stop it and im proud your asking for help.
-melissa-

Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high!

Absolutely I think you should break up with your bf. You and Kyle both have strong feelings for one another. You and your current bf are drifting apart. Dont feel bad about breaking up with your bf to go out with kyle. We're young..we are supposed to date lots of people in our "golden years" lol It sounds like you and Kyle are going to have a great relationship!
-melissa-

my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

I know this is going to be hard for you..but dont you think this is best for her? Being molested is horrible..and she needs to get away. For now..support her. And when she moves..keep in touch by talking on AIm..emailing..phine..letters. And maybe once a month you guys can visit. But your friend must escape this environment. shes lucky..many girls who are molested by family members are stuck in the home. But she can get away..she needs this.and i think you know deep down inside its best for her.

my stepdad... well he 'touched' my sister alot. like every night. my sister ended up moving away to live with mu dad. he has done it to me once when he was drunk. but that was years ago... the thing is, i'm confused cause i find myself defending him. i told one oof my friends and i keep saying that he was drunk, didn't know what he was doing, etc. why am i doing this??? i am fairly close to my stepdad (in a non sexual way) and i hate my sister badmouthing him. i dont know why. Please help me!!!

I think the reason why is becase your close to him and you want thinkgs to be ok. You want to put aside the fact that he touched yuo. But you know wha? somethibng like that isnt something you can put aside. Its wrong..and your stepdad has issues because he did that. Your sister badmouths him because of her bad experiences and i dont blame her. He could start up again..that wouldnt be good. Think about moving with ur dad..i would

for some odd reason.. i start to cry when i see people helping me, answering me questions. i dont even cry in the saddest movies.. or if a friend does something that hurts me. maybe its because seeing people who care who i dont even know are helping me more than any of my friends or anyone i know would. any more thoughts?

i think thats why.On here..people have the courage to ask their deepest questions because they cant go to friends for some of them. On here nobody knows you and your anonymous which gives you the power to ask what your most curious about. Its a great place here :) And people here do what they love best.helping others. dont cry ..its our job :)

my best friend went out with a guy... and they never pay attention to me when were out.. so one day my friend says please come to the game today and i go why and she goes cuz i want you and i said if you can take me home and she says yeah.. we go to the game and of course she ditches me for her boyfriend.. to make it worse she goes to me can you find a ride home me and (her boyfriend) are going out to eat.. then she leaves me.. i come home and she apologizes but she doesnt get how mad it makes me but im not gonna tell her cuz it will make everything weird.. i dunno i just need to complain to someone.. if you can help please give advice

Man..thats a sucky situation. Well pleease a least think about talking to her about it. Shes so tied up with this guy! she needs to find a balance. Ive seen it happen to too many of my friends. they forget about their friends until their bfs break up with them. If you dont talk to her you will just keep getting frustrated!At first she may be mad..but i think she'll come around and realize what shes been doing to you. If you dont want to talk to her in person..write a letter tellimg her how you feel..this way in mid conversation she cant cut you off..please think about it because after u tell her you'll feel better
melissa-

i was good friends with these 2 girls and they have been friends too. we would always hang out together..all friends, all happy. but lately they leave me out. like, they'll have each other over and put away messages up on AIM saying it. we were all supposed to see a movie together, then they went w/o me. its alomost like they do it on purpose. most people are saying i just need to drop them and get new friends, but when they do include me we have a lot of fun. i just get so confussed and mixed signals. please help (im 14, by the way)

When they include you is there a catch ..like do they ask you for a ride home or do they use you for your place? if so they might be using you. Or maybe the reason is whoever's mom said they can only have 2 friends over. I watched an episode of dr phil and the topic was how cruel girls can be to one another..if they are doing it on purpose..they are not your friend. Maybe they dont realize they are hurting you? There are many posibilities and the best way to find out for sure is to talk to them and tell them your being left out and your hurt.

good luck!

I think I've finally decided to tell the guy that I like, how I feel about him. The only problem is, I'm not sure what to say. We're old friends and he's shy and I don't want it to be anymore akward than it has to be. I need some ideas on what to say and some encouragement.

Im glad your going to tell him..because if you dont years from now you'll still be thinking of what could have been. It will drive you insane! The best way to say it is to get to the point quick if your going to do it in person. Just say..ive been thinking a lot and im starting to like you as more than friends. Keep it simple like that and good luck with everything!!

this may sound very goody goody but.. i am so sick of everyone doing drugs and drinking.. not that im completely innocent i mean ive done it before but it seems like right now every single person is into that and half of them are doing it to forget about problems.. now i did learn about drugs and i did learn that weed can actually make depression worse and i also know that after youve done weed for a while your wanting to try a new drug so what do i do.. i hate it that my friends do drugs and drink and dont tell me to forget about them and get new friends because i love my friends.. and also.. everyone in my school does it.. whether you want to believe that or not is up to you.. but really.. the ones that dont are like .. messiahs or something.. please help
*stonecoldmystery*

All you can really do is tell them how you feel. This can really make them think and it can stop them..sometimes all it takes is that one special friend who has the guts to speak out. Other than that your options are limited..i mean you could tell their parents or something..but people usually dont do that because the whole school will find out and end up talking about you behind your back..so its a sticky situation. try talking to them..if it doesnt work stay friends with them but you just let them know there will be no drugs when they hang with you.

well I have been talking to this guy and he asked if I wanted to be his gilfriend. But he has only seen pics of me that are like old and crap and dont even look like me but im nervous to meet him what do I do?

First off..meeting him could be dangerous..so i think you should bring a couple friends and some weapons in your bag just in case. Dont be nerous!Looks arent everything and im sure he'll think you look fine. If not..then hes a loser and hes not for you.

i like guys and stuff,and in real life i look at girls (im a girl) brest...and butt...and i make out with guys.am i bi?

yeah there is a chance you are..but if you are dont worry abou it! We are what we are..arent we? Nobody here on advicenators can tell u if ur bi or not..you have to figure it out. Some questions to ask yourself..is..would you consider kissing a girl? would you consider doing morewith a girl? If you figure out that you are..not to worry..people are becoming more accepting of gays these days. Maybe after you try doing things with a girl you wont like it..maybe you will..whatever happens..dont be ashamed.

ok i havent gotten my period yet this month but it seems like i never have a regular period cycle..and my boyfriend and me were like messing around at his house but i was just giving him a handjob but he cumed but not on me....and i dont think it was any whree near me...and i was expecting my period around the 13 or 14 or around there and me and my boyfriend just recently did this stuff like a few days before the 13...is it possible to be pregnant? but i didnt get morning sickness or anything..

no your definately safe. Sperm from the ejaculation die..and they die quick. It wasnt even near your vaginal area. even if it was..the liklness is still less..so trust me your safe. No way can the sperm go from your hand or whererever and swim up your vagina. Even if uyou fingered yourself you would be safe ebcause of how quick the sperm die off.
your delay is most likely due to stress ..about worrying if your pregnent. So rlax..and enjoy time away from your period
-melissa

i have problems with the way im feeling.. like it sounds weird but i never know how to feel.. like i dont know who i am or what i want or what i like.. im always thinking of what other people like.. i try not to but im always just thinking so much.. please help

Hey..live life your way and follow what you believe@! you only have one life so dont continue to follow others! Gradually make your own choices and do stuff your way. It will take time but soon you will be more independant,
-melissa-

Ok so I love my boyfriend very much ..like alot..I mean really I do..but my friend who is a girl adn is seriously attracted to me and I like her kinda really wants to make out with me and I kinda wanna make out with her to..but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend..what should I do..and I already talked to him and he goes "I love you and I trust you and it takes alot to hurt me" sooo im sooooo lost..please help me!

your bf sounds like a sweety..but i really think hes hurting inside right now. Its a lot on him and it would hurt anybody ..its also pretty awkward. Dont kkiss the girl while your going out with him. Maybe you need to experiment..your emotions speek for itself. You should dump him if your having these feelings like this. However..if you decide you want to stay with him..give him assurance that hes the one and theres nobody else. Dont flip flop because ive seen a lot of my friends get hurt because their crush would "flip flop" and put them through hell. Folllow your heart..but if you decide to go for the girl..dont do it behind your bf's back
-melissa0

Well, I'm a little unsure if I should be upset or not.
Okay. Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months now and I found out a few months ago that I was not his "first" (talking about making out.) He was mine without a doubt. But it's not just that i'm not his first that upsets me, it's with who. It's this girl from another school named elena. She's a slut and she knows it. My boyfriend "didn't even like her" he claims. But, what concerns me is that if he didn't like her, what if he made out with me and he "doesn't even like me." Am I upset over a stupid thing? Because if I am I want to not ruin our relationship over something so stupid.
Once again,
Retro_Romance

As long as hes not acting weird and the relationshio between you and him are going well...i would forget it. People do stupid stuff..(myself included) and everyone has regrets. Hes with you now and thats the important thing. Dont let it ruin your relationship..6 months is a long time..(my record anyway) so keep it going
-melissa

I've never had a boyfriend, because my parents think I'm too young, and I think I am too. But now in high school (i'm a freshman) it's really hard not to want a boyfriend. Another thing is I don't know how to tell my mom that I like someone. Every time I do she always walks away or laughs. She won;t take me seriously. What should I say/do to make her listen. I just want someone to talk to! ;(

Sit your mom down and tell her that your in high school now and you feel your ready and wanting to date and its part of what high school is all about. maybe your mom is laughing because shes the type of person to strongly beleive that people your age cant have a good relationship or be in love. If thats the case and she says this to you tell her you know your not getting married..and all you wana do is go out and have fun! maybe not quite that way because it sounds a bit hookerish lol..but just say having a bf and dating is something your ready for and to please consider it.
Write me back if theres any more troubles
-melissa-

im bored any site suggestions for a 14/f?

Not my strong spot..but i'll try.
How about jibjab.com it has some funny stuff. Jokes.com um kiwibox maybe
i would go to a search engine and look for joke sites or icon sites..whatever you feel like checkin out

I'm a male, and I'm 15 going on 16. I've had this off and on relationship with a really special girl over the past couple of years (since May 21, 2003 to be precise). Each time she'd broken up with me (like three times), it was because she was scared of either getting hurt--perhaps she feared commitment too. During these periods of breakups we'd both had other minor relationships, none of which were remotely sucessful. As of a few weeks ago, we are back together now, and closer than ever before. She seems to make it very clear that she's not going to break up with me again, and I can tell she's being sincere. And we talk about our relationship a lot more, and things are very much different than they used to be... The thing is though, we've never kissed. We'd held hands in the past, but that was it. This time we hold hands a lot more and we're more "cuddly" I often get a strong desire to kiss her. We've also recently said I love you to each other. And I think we both mean it. One can laugh at this (or not), but relevantly--it should help to explain how much I want to kiss her. I'm just not that great with showing affection, as much as I want to, I'm just sort of awkward. I want to, I just don't want to screw it up or do something weird. It has nothing to do with her, I'm like that with other things too. (You should see me dance. O_o Ugh.)

I don't know a lot about the different types of kissing (or even how to do them right), but one of my friends (a girl) had told me a while back that whenever I kiss a girl for the first time it should be closed mouth and such, but I don't think that she was including our history into the equation--I mean, we've been going out off and on for almost two years... I feel *REALLY* close to this girl now. I know she feels the same. I want to kiss her, and I wonder what "form" of kissing would be most appropriate. What are my choices, and what might be for the best? Should the first kiss be in private?

Aw congradulations on getting back together first off. Ok yeah i would say it should be in provate the first time around. You can do either a light peck..a closed mouth kiss or a french kiss which involves the tongue. You have some options. You can go for the closed mouth kiss first to start..then move to a french kiss. Or you can go right for the french kiss. Being that uyou love birds have a history.. go for the french kisss! Hope i helped.
-melissa-

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