I'm Em.
I'm a 20 year old English/History student living in Sydney.
I dig art, music and books.
I'll take questions on relationships, friendships, high school, uni, or whatever else.
I try to give the best advice I can, usually drawing on my own personal experience. But I'm not perfect, and sometimes when I look back on some of my advice it's far from it (especially when I was 15 and writing LiKe THiS). It's just advice, though. It's not an answer or a solution, it's simply a potentially helpful perspective. And that's all I can offer you.
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My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago. He says he still loves me, he still kisses me, holds my hand, and everything. He says he doesn't want to be with anyone in a relationship at all, but he's doing it now. He wants me to do what's best for me, he wants me to move on and see someone else since his focus is school at the moment. He says he'll be interested in other girls, but not fall in love because he'll get distracted in school. He says even if he did get married, he'll probably love me for the rest of his life. Since I was his first love and first... Everything.
I don't want to pressure him into getting into a relationship with me when he's not ready. He just thinks that he's never going to be ready for a relationship, that's why he wants me to move on. He's someone that's very trustworthy, and he wouldn't lie to me. It took him a while to tell me that he didn't want me to wait because he knew it would hurt me a lot. He said it was hard to even stand in front of me, and if I asked if he loved me, he couldn't say "no" because he did.
I noticed that there are some things that I did in the past, before I even knew him and some other things such as I would have a New Year's kiss, he got upset about. But he said he didn't have the right to say anything since we weren't together anymore.
He didn't want to do anything that'll get my hopes up, but he said I could do whatever I want until I'm ready to be friends again. Why don't I want to move on? I love him too much. I originally just move on and forget about the person, but... He's different. I don't want to crush hope with my bare hands. I don't want to give up.
My sister knows that he still loves me, just seeing him the way he would act towards me. She thinks that he just needs time to get everything sorted out since he keeps going back and forth. She says just don't get him angry or stress him out since he's stressed out enough about school, and work, since he's trying to save up money for a car and an apartment. So I tried helping him as much as I can, help him clean his house, wash dishes, make dinner... Stuff like that. That I never did before until now. Maybe if I keep doing it, he'll fall back in love? I'm not sure.
What should I do?! I don't want to give up. But I am scared he might lose his feelings for me completely. It's getting hard for me knowing we're not together. I'm just confused. I want to stay and keep myself distracted because I love him so much and I want him to come back when he's ready. Do you even think he will come back? He says he honestly thinks he won't, but things don't go as planned... Please help me. I'm terribly confused. I need more than one advice/opinion! (link)
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He doesn't want to be in a relationship and you do. Rule 1 when it comes to dating, you shouldn't be with someone who isn't at the same level of commitment as you.
I know how hard it is to want to be with someone so unbelievably much, but knowing you really cannot. The hand holding and affection is only post-poning the complete breakup. Don't cling to the hope of staying together. Whatever happens will happen, and maybe in the future when he is ready you two will get back together, but it's not healthy right now to be so close to him.
As hard as it is to believe, life does go on and you will move on. It seems impossible right now to imagine life without him, and even to imagine him not loving you is heartbreaking, but I promise this feeling goes away in time.
You need to just leave him be. Give him some space to relax and organize his life. Being there with him at all right now is confusing the both of you and isn't solving anything.
I know it's hard, but you'll be okay.
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I am 15 years old, and my boyfriend and i had oral sex. i got some of the semen on my hand and i didn't wash my hand and we continued to hang out. he fingered me earlier that day but as we continued out hang out after i gave him head i could feel myself bleeding. i wondered if mhe popped my cherry so i went to the upstairs bathroom, stuck my fingers in and out to see if they were bloody.. i then realized what i had done. I forgot how much sperm i got on my hand and I heard that sperm can stay alive from 30 minutes to 5 5hours even if dried up. my boyfriend flipped out and he wants me to take Plan B. What are the side effects of Plan B? Could it kill me? i'm only fifteen years old and i've only ever gotten my period twice in my life. Once for a whole week jan 09 & another time a whole year later in jan 10! my mom told me that she was irregular when she was younger but that didnt mean that she would have trouble having children. she said that she had no problem getting pregnant which should mean that i;m the same way/: if i take the pill tomorrow in the a.m. should i be ok? could it kill me? could the pill hurt me in any way? answer asap please, thank you (link)
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It's very unlikely that you're pregnant. When a man ejaculates, it reaches a far distance inside the vagina and I'm sure you didn't reach very far up.
You're only 15 so your period will be all over the place until you get a bit older.
If you are really paranoid, go to your local pharmacy/chemist and ask the pharmacist questions, they'll know a lot more than people on here. You can take the pill 72 hours after sex.
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My girlfriend found out she's pregnant two weeks ago. When she told me she immediately said she was going to abort it and that I didn't have to worry about anything. I tried to tell her that I really would love to raise the baby, with or without her around.
I think she's making a drastic decision. I feel like if she seriously goes through with getting rid of the baby we created together then I'll be forced to dump her. I love her but I wouldn't be able to get over this sort of thing. We've been together for 2 years and this cold side of her is completely new to me. It's like I don't know her at all now.
I understand her not wanting to be a mom right now. I'm 22 and she's 21 and so we have a lot of time to make those sorts of family decisions. I would love to be a father already though, even if it means raising my son or daughter as a single parent. I know I could do it, and I would never make her be a part of raising him or her if she didn't want to.
I have a really good, reliable job. I have my own apartment. I have a great family support system. I'm in good health. I have a few younger brothers and sisters so I know what it means to bring home a newborn. I know I could do this, and it's what I want.
How can I convince her to give birth? I know about the rights of the woman and "her choice" but what about the rights of the man? I helped make this baby with her. I'm willing to spend the rest of my life, alone or otherwise, raising him or her. I want this baby. Is there anything, absolutely anything, I can do to keep him or her around? Somehow get some sort of custody? Please, help me. She has an appointment coming up and she just won't listen to what I have to say about this. She just has to give birth and from there I will take care of rest of the baby's life. Why won't she just listen? (link)
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When she goes to get an abortion, she's going to have to go to a compulsory session with a professional to determine if she is certain she wants an abortion and to let her know the physical, emotional and psychological impacts of having an abortion.
Certainly tell her how you feel and express your opinion. But please don't go for the "if you don't keep it, I'm leaving you" route. Even if she did choose to have the baby just to stay with you, what would happen to that child? Would she grow to loathe you for making her choose this, or would she even grow to loathe the child?
Having an abortion is such a traumatic event for all persons involved. When the procedure has been made, she will probably go through a lot of psychological stress for a very long time. I understand that having this baby is what you want, but at least try to be there for each other through all of this. If you really cannot be near her, then make sure her friends and family are.
You've loved her for 2 years, and though this is something you feel so utterly strongly about, remember how much you love her. When she's ready to have children she will, and then you can love that child twice as much as you ever could have believed possible.
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18/ female
Last night i had possibly the most strange dream i've had in a very very long time. My dream felt so unbelievable realistic that when i woke up i was in a trance like state for half an hour just trying to figure out if it was a dream, and how weird and realistic the feelings were.
My dream involved my new house we just moved into, I was with my mother, sister and father in the lounge room when three guys turned up. They just so happen to be the band members from my favourite band that i met recently. Immediately the lead singer came over and greeted me, i could remember exactly what he said when i woke up, but unfortunately it slipped my mind recently. I then remember seeing my mother and the band member i have the biggest crush on getting along fantastically. In my waking life, she often refers to him as her 'son in law' so i guess thats where i got that part from.
What happened next was the most interesting part. We all headed off to bed, Yet my mother was still entertaining the band member i liked and the lead singer. So i showed the third band member to his room. Which was next to my sisters room, and the lounge room. I went into my own room and lay in my bed, staring at the ceiling. I then got up and snuck into the room where the third band member was lying down. There was two beds in the room. I remember him asking me if i wanted to join him, i replied with 'i cant when my sisters in the next room and my mother and the rest of the band in the lounge', next thing i knew i lay down on the spare bed, staring at the ceiling again, this time he came over and joined me. This is when my dream began to get really REALLY realistic. I am a virgin, so i have no idea what sex itself feels like. But one thing led to another in the dream, and i could feel the pain, so realistically. I've been told the first time that you have sex, especially if you are tight, its uncomfortable and sometimes painful. The pains in my lower abdomen were so unbelievably realistic.
This is completely out of character for me too, i've been approached or had opportunities to have sex, but i wouldn't until i found someone worth losing it to, and i certainly wouldn't make the first move, nor do it whilst my family was around. Plus in my dream the guy i lost my virginity isn't the one i have feelings for in real life. every since that dream last night i haven't been able to stop thinking about, or trying to decode the meaning of my dream, and why it felt so realistic. (link)
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I'm not a dream expert, but I usually find that my dreams are more or less quite literal.
Sex is all around you in the world you live in so it's not strange to dream about it. It could just be a way for your subconscious to express it's want for sexual desire. The person you did it with is someone you admire and in somewhat of a desirable way, so it would be fitting to release this sexual tension with him.
We can't control our dreams, they're just little bubbles from our subconscious coming up to the surface and popping. And also, just because you've never had sex doesn't mean that you can't vividly imagine the experience. Some people can dream of being shot and feel as if it's truly happening when they have no idea what that feeling is like.
In my opinion, you're coming to an age where sex bombards a lot of aspects of your life. Your dreams are just responding to this by expressing those desires and wants that you wouldn't normally feel or even be comfortable feeling.
Don't worry so much about it. Even if there is some hidden, underlying meaning, it's not cataclysmic. You will eventually and unknowingly pass the problem or issue in time.
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Hi, so I go to a school where there is a really strict dress code. Any ideas for things to wear?
Our Dress Code is:
Collared shirts- all collared shirts that aren't polos have to be tucked in with a belt
Absolutely no t-shirts or spaghetti straps
No advertisements or name brands ( for example I couldn't wear a shirt that had the 2008 Summer Olympics or a sweatshirt with Aeropostale across the front)
You MUST wear a belt if you have belt loops
No shorts after November 24 and until April 19th
All shorts and skirts should be no more than 2 and a half inches above your knee (they will measure it!)
No jeans
No sneakers
No shoes with more than a inch heel
There's more but it wouldn't fit in this box.
Thanks for the suggestions! (link)
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Ah, reminds me of High School.
Well, there's always accessories. Jewelery, crazy hair, makeup, little pins with bands or symbols on them, neckties, interesting belts...etc
You could always go for the preppy-chic look with a tailored blazer and long white socks.
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Does guys prefer hot sexy girls or cute girls? What about clumsy girls? Smart or stupid? Any additional information can be added :)) Also what kind of girls do you think is hot and what kind is cute? (link)
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Every guy is different. Some like tall girls, some like short girls, some like blonde girls, some like brunette girls. Every person is different. A lot of guys may be attracted to girls that smile a lot, positive/happy girls, and confident girls, but that's about as general as it gets.
I think every girl has her own unique qualities. Every girl is beautiful in her own way. And when it comes to who's cute and who's hot, that depends on what individual people like in a partner.
So, to answer your question, I'm sure there are guys that prefer hot sexy girls or cute girls, but they have their own interpretations of what hot and cute is.
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18/f
I just want to know if I come-off too strong because I think I'm not fit for relationships. This one guy went from liking me to admiring me, and I told him I had feelings for him but we never formed a relationship. Now he's to busy breaking-up and reconciling with his girlfriend, and I find it quite pointless, but he still considers me the most admirable girl he has ever met. I think it's nice being admired, but it hurts when you're not loved. At school, I just feel very out-of-place. I am more sympathetic of my teachers rather than my peers. My close friends look up to me and are often "awed" with how I think or what I have to say. They see me as a fighter--"an independent woman" as a teacher once told me, but I get so lonesome and lost. I just don't know, if how I feel is "right". Honestly, I think I have to get out of this little city I'm living in and move somewhere else--somewhere more promising.
So any insight/or advice will help cuz clearly I have no clue on what to do...THANKS :) (link)
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Everyone feels out of place in High School, so don't think that you're strange for feeling that way.
Life after school is so completely different as you have probably noticed. You meet so many more people, make so many more friends, and learn a lot about the person you are. You're still so young and relationships will come when the time is right. Don't focus so much on being in a relationship, but rather just enjoying yourself and 'going with the flow' so to speak.
If you're a strong, independent woman then don't change that just to get into a relationship faster. What you're feeling is normal and will pass over time.
Go out, travel the world, educate yourself with life and culture. You've just entered the adult world and you like every other 18 year old really have no idea where to go. You'll realize ambitions and passions soon enough, so don't stress.
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Okay so , I go over to guy's house and he asked for a blowjob so I asked... what else and he had his hand on his thing at the sametime as I was giving him a blowjob , and so after he went up me with the same hand , and then later he got me naked and I was on his shaft ,but when I moved by accident it touched me , but when I got home , I seen white stuff is that from me or? and he cummed all in my mouth though and we did not have sex , because I didn't want to have sex , but he kept asking me.
Thank you
Betty (link)
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If his penis was not inside your vagina it is very unlikely that you are pregnant.
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15/f
i'm 5'4 & weigh 124, but i'm not the skinniest girl . i want to get toned up abs, well enough that you'd be able to see them in a bathing suit, & my butt and thighs to get harder and bigger. i started going to the gym recently, but i dont feel what i'm doing is enough! can someone help me please!! i want to have the perfect bikini body by spring break . (link)
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Get a trainer. Best advice. You need someone who knows exactly what they're doing and can put you on a diet and exercise plan that will get you the results you want.
Secondly, i wouldn't be expecting a totally fab beach body in like a month. Is that when spring break starts? I don't know, I live in Australia so its like Autumn next month. Anyway, I really don't believe there is a quick solution to getting abs, just like there isn't to losing weight. And, if you do find a solution, it's usually going to be incredibly bad for your body and your health.
Definitely talk to a trainer and maybe a dietitian about what you need to be doing exercise wise and food wise.
Finally, there are other alternatives to just exercising hard-out at a gym. Things like yoga and pilates help tone your muscles. I'm not sure what your doing at the gym, but make sure your doing a variety of exercises on different equipment, like not just using a treadmill but different kinds of weight lifting devices and things like running or sit ups and what not. Nothing wrong with a little diversity to keep things interesting and to make sure your working every muscle in your body.
I just want to add, if you exercise and eat in a healthy manner, you'll get a fit body and the body you were always meant to have. As long as your being smart about the exercises your doing and the food that's going into your mouth, you'll be a healthy girl and that's what matters the most. Health, not looking a certain way.
I know a few people who have wanted to gain muscle. One was a girl and she started taking fat building supplements because she was just so skinny no muscle seemed to be forming. She didn't get the results she wanted and it took her months to gain even a little weight, which is now all around her tummy area (it's not big at all, but she notices it now and hates it). Another guy I know exercises and eats total junk but has amazingly muscly arms, he's a bit of a tubby guy because of what he eats but he exercises so much that he ends up with a buff body.
Different things will work for different people and different bodies. Find an exercise and diet plan that works for you and your body. It might not give you the body you want right now, but eventually you'll get it.
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I am lesbian and I've only had intercourse with a girl. Does that mean I'm a virgin? Today someone asked me if I was a virgin and I said "no" but really I don't know. Opinionated answers are fine with me. Just curious. Also when I have sexual intercourse with my girlfriend, we make it special. It's affectionate and we do it because we are in love. This is just so complex to get my mind around. Some define virginity as a penis going into a vagina, but isn't other forms of sex included for virginity? If people have oral sex and they never had a penis, are they a virgin? What defines sex? (link)
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Virginity is whatever you wanna call it. If losing your virginity is having a very intimate and sexual experience with someone for the first time to you, then that's what it is.
Asking "Are you a virgin?" is different to asking "Have you had a penis inside of you?".
It's funny asking what the meaning of sex is, like if a child asked their parents what would they say? Generally the first thing we'd all think of is that sex is when a man puts his penis inside a girls vagina, but then it could be any kind of sexual penetration from a male to a female. When two girls make love, I think that's sex. I think any kind of sensual and sexual experience is classified as sex.
But anyway, virginity is whatever you make of it. To some people it's purity, others it's just not having vaginal sex, the idea is different to everyone and every culture.
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15/f
theres a girl at my school who i used to be good friends with at the beginning of the year. its my first year at a new school, so i was making friends. one day, she decided to flip on me, and cuss at me, calling me all these horrible names and trying to offend me. although, it didnt bother me too much, just the fact that she was picking on me. it stopped for a little while, and i talked to other people, and just made more friends. yesterday she writes on my facebook wall accusing me of telling another girl that she was talking bad about her. when i NEVER did such a thing. i have no reason too, why should i talk about someone who i have no desire to like? but, then today, she keeps bringing it up and calling me all these rude things. im friends with a lot of her friends, so i sit with her at lunch. not next to her of course. i know i shouldnt be scared to stick up for myself, but i am, and im usually not like this. if she says something to me in school tomorrow, should i say something back, or just ignore it? people tell me to ignore it, which is what i did for the first time it happened, and it seemed to go away, but, i dont want her thinking im super nice and will let her walk all over me. when she was rude to me over facebook, i was rude back. i think its just when im in person.
anyone have any ideas or advice on what i should do about this situation? please dont say "be friends" because we both really dont like eachother, but this whole thing is about something so pointless. (link)
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Look if this girl keeps talking to you in person and being rude just tell her the truth. Don't fight back, don't be rude back, just be polite and say it how it is. If you keep your cool she'll be the one freaking out and will look like the idiot. Just tell her what you've said in this question, that contrary to her belief you haven't said a word about her and that she's been nothign but rude and horrible to you for nothing. If she keeps on bothering you, she's just a really pathetic girl that is trying to find attention any way she can.
Once you've told her how it is and she doesn't listen, there's nothing else you can do. When she says bad things about you or tries to offend you, you just gotta think she's only doing these things so you will do something back. I think it's kind of funny how girls do that, and when I laugh they get even more frustrated because I'm not acting out like they want.
Don't say rude things back to her, don't call her names, don't start a fight, I mean you shouldn't even be thinking about her, you so much better than her!
Some people are just rude like that, it's life, so you just got to let them embarrass themselves and move on with your life. Eventually she will get bored and move onto someone else.
Belieeeve me, every girl goes through it. You just keep your dignity and hold your head high sugar.
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am sorry i need to keep on giving you feedbacks because i really love the advices that you ive me . and i live in massauchussets so i really dont know where to search because some of the websotes could just be fake to get your information :'( (link)
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Hey hun sorry to ask but is this the girl that wanted to hang out with her friends more? I'm so sorry I've just had so many private messages these past few days!
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aww thanks i really loved that what you wrote :) aww but yea i want to get a job but its hard , i try to apply but i dont know what wrong with them . and am 17 too :) i think tat if i get a job evrything would be soo much easier for me :( (link)
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It took me like a year to finally find a job! I just kept handing in resumes and applying but no one would hire. I made a new resume and used some colour and a little design in the corner to make it more interesting, and would you believe the first job I dropped it into hired me? haha. If you wana make your resume more interesting just google like "creative resumes" and grab some idea's from there, that's what I did. You need something that will make your resume stand out from the rest.
Anyway, let your friends know your looking for a job (particularly anyone's that have jobs already), one of my friends got another friend a job at her work, and now that we have a position at work I'm asking my friends. And look online for those job search websites, in Australia we have seek.com.au
You'll find one though, and things will turn out alright :)
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me and my ex have been broken up for about a week and a half.
i was realllly sad about it so i decided to go out to a party wtih my friend and one thing led to another and i made out with a guy becuase i was drunk. but im not using that as an excuse because thats no reason to.
so we started talking a couple days ago and i felt really bad so i told him and he blew up on me. he has no right to be mad right? we werent together. so he told me we are done ( even though we already were ) i think he meant done tlaking. and im like begging him and he told me hes gonna go talk to this girl that likes him and im reallly upset and i dont know what to do. im begging him and hes telling me to leave him alone that were done for good. and im like then why the hell did you eversay you love me. you obviously dont if you could say were done just like that and hes like yyup so leave me alone.
i seriously dont know what to do. i thought i was doing hte right thing by telling him. we wernet even together so i dont know why hes so angry.
what should i say to him. i want him back ! :[ (link)
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Ahh boys.
Well, he's jealous. And he's trying to make you jealous. Even though you guys broke up, he still liked you, and maybe even thought you would get back together. He did overreact and it wasn't nice of him to act like he did. Maybe he thought you were saying it just to be mean and make him feel jealous and upset?
Anyway, you didn't do anything wrong!
I think you need to just forget about this guy. He told you he's going to talk to this girl he likes because he wants to make you uspet and jealous like he is. If he's going to be rude like this then you should just let him be. I know it's hard because you want to talk to him and be friends, but he's being impossible and it's best to just leave him alone. In a while he might come back and apologise (which he should!) but it's just going to hurt you if you keep trying to talk to him.
He did love you very much, he probably still does, but we do stupid things when we're in love.
You sound like an awesome girl, and this is going to be a hard time for you, so try and hang out with your friends and the family and just try and have a good time. Leave him alone to do what he wants, he's the one missing out anyway on talking to an amazing girl like you!
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my friends dont like going out :'( and am always stuck in my house just here in the compuer doing nothing all bored because there is no where to go :( (link)
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Do they just not like going out or do they not have money to do anything fun?
It was a drag when none of my friends and I had a job or a car because it was so hard to get everyone in the same place. Have you already asked them if they wana go out and do things? (I'm guessing you probably have but just making sure). Sometimes a group of friends just needs someone to say "okay lets go to the movies this wednesday".
If you wana be with your friends but they don't wana do anything ask if they want to come over your place and just have a dvd night.
Also, find out whats in your area. Is there an ice skating rink? rollerblading? bowling? even just a mall? Find out as many things that you can do as you can and ask your friends if they wanna do any of those things.
If your friends are just complete hermits, then.. make new friends! Of course you'd still be friends with your group, but there's nothing wrong with having other friends too! If there's someone you know that you talk to a lot but never really hang out outside of school, just ask them if they want to go out somewhere. After my school formal (which is a prom depending where you are) me and my friend were invited to one of our other friends houses outside of our group and we hung out with a big group of people we never hang out with after school. It was so much fun!
If your in a sport team or any other kind of club, why not do something with them? A few girls I know are really good friends with girls from their dance class and love going out with them.
Finally, if you just can't find anyone, what about family members? I'm not sure if you have any siblings, but why not do something with them? I hang out with my older sister all the time (we go out to dinner sometimes or lunch, shop, explore new places in the city etc.) I don't go out much with my younger brother but we watch dvds and tv shows all the time, and its actually pretty fun just hanging out like that. I never got along with my siblings when we were younger and even now we have little fights but we just found what we could do together and be happy doing it.
I'm 17 and I went to the movies with my dad and my step-mum. I thought it would be weird but it was actually really fun. We went at night and had a nice dinner before we left. My friend does heaps of stuff with her mum because she gets along with her so well.
It's hard to get my group of friends out altogether because we're all so different but on special occassions like birthdays and things we always have a dinner together and split the bill. You don't need a special reason to go out to dinner, and it's not expensive! Usually with about 6 people we pay $20 each, and we get like two pizzas, two pastas, desert, drinks and sometimes something extra.
I have a best-friend and we do a lot more stuff together than we do with the rest of our group. You don't need to have a best friend, but find someone out of your friends that wants to go out too and will be fun to be with.
If eeeeeverything fails, get a job! haha. It sounds silly but you make so many new friends when your at work. If your not old enough to work then I guess this would be a no.
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awww thank you so much! well my boyfriend which is now my exboyfriend cheeted on me :( i loved him so much well i still do..but last night i broke down i stated crying and he was just there like "why are you crying" you could tell he ddint even cared.i just wished i forget him :( (link)
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Aww babe! You deserve so much better than that! Sooner or later you'll meet someone that will sweep you off your feet and you'll wonder how you could ever have been upset about your ex. But for now, just hang out with your friends and enjoy life :)
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There is this boy i like-lets call him S-well i have known S for 3 yrs. And everyone knows we like each other...but at the beginning of the year my "friend" K kissed him in front of me and she knows that i have a crush on him...so now me and her are not really friends...so last week i had one of my friends go and ask him if he liked me and he said that he did but that i didn't act that way towards him so he was like now he doesn't know if he likes me anymore because he says i pretend like he is no one...how do i show him that i like him/build up the courage to tell him. How do i find out if he really likes me? Also he is a really big flirt. (link)
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This is a few days old so you might have already made your move, but I'll say something anyway just in case.
The best way to show him you like him is to tell him. To build yourself up, you just got to take a deep breath and go for it! That really is the simplest way. If your good friends with this guy and want to have a relationship, then when you tell him you like him and he says he likes you back, why not ask him if he'll be your boyfriend? The worst thing he could say would be no, and that's certainly not the end of the world!
This guy has liked you and still does but is unsure because you have been distant, so you should think to yourself "Well.. he thinks im hot" haha. This guy is attracted to you and likes things about you, so be a little egotistical and let it boost your confidence and self-esteem.
If you just wana flirt, one of the ingenious ways to do it is to just talk about things you have in common and have a really good long conversation. He'll think.. "wow this chick is awesome" and from a simple conversation a guy can really fall in love with a girl. Just smile a lot and be happy, a happy girl always looks pretty and guys do notice girls who smile more over girls that sit in the corner with a serious face.
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Here's my info.
I am 14,5'6", about 115 pounds. As you will probably say, I'm not fat. And I know that. I'm actually on the skinny side.
My goal is to BE skinny. Especially in the leg area. That's basically the only body part that I'm not happy with. My thighs and calves. They're definitely not fat, but I want them to be skinny.
I want to thin out my legs without gaining too much muscle. So basically, I don't want them to be stronger (which will make them look thicker, which is the opposite of what I want), but to look thinner.
But my problem is my eating habit. I have a MAJOR sweet tooth. I can't control myself when it comes to food. But I've been wanting to fix that. I'm trying to eat less junk and more fruits and vegetables and water.
So any advice on how to get really thin legs (without pills or surgery)? As soon as possible please, and tell me how long.
Thank you so much! (link)
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Well to thin them out is basically to do exercises that use the muscles in that area, so jogging/walking/running/biking etc. No you can't choose a particular area where you want weight to melt off by exercising and healthy eating but you can target areas with certain kinds of exercises.
Even so, you still have very little control over how much weight you will lose in that area and how much muscle you will gain. If you do a regular work out and eat healthy from all parts of the food pyramid you'll have the body you were always intended to have.
When I say this your going to groan and think "omg I was just asking how to make them skinnier" but honey, love the skin your in! Personally I have a curvy body with big thighs and legs. I never liked them until I started dating and for some reason guys just love that little bit of curve. Now, I look at them and think the same thing! I think on women, the sexiest part is legs, and they got to have a bit of curve or they just look like toothpicks.
Seriously babe there is no reason for you to lose weight, and your still young so your body is still going to change. My legs look completely different now to when I was 14, and that was only about 4 years ago. Just stay healthy, eat right and exercise regularly like everyone should and wait it out. In a few years when your body is filled out a bit more and you look at your legs and your still not happy, go to the gym and ask a trainer what you can do to target those areas.
EDIT: also, just looking at your age and height, you seem quite tall for 14 and you will grow a little between now and 21. This means your legs might get a bit longer and thin out that way.
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ok I have recently been having really shap pains in my abdomen. I mena it really have been hurting me. What could this mean I mean I am 14 and I don't know what to think. I have missed my period and I was suppose to get it on the 3rd here we are on the 19th what could this mean. please help. (link)
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Hey, this question is a few days old so you have probably seen a doctor and figured it out, but if you haven't I thought I'd just add on. Sometimes I get really bad period pain like a week or two before my period and recently I've been having really irregular periods where they're 2 to 4 weeks late. I've been having my periods for about 5 years or so, but things like your diet and your physical state can affect your flow.
Over the past six months I've been really stressed about my year 12 exams and now I'm stressed about the uni course I'm trying to get into, which is probably why mine have been so late.
I'm sure your okay but I still hope you find out whats going on exactly from your doctor.
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heyy! if you had a boyfriend that cheeted on you what will you do?? (link)
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Hmm I've been thinking about this a lot lately, not because of a personal reason but just wondering.
I guess it depends on a lot of things, especially how much I love him and trust him. If I loved a guy a lot and he cheated and was very sorry, I would have to be able to let go of what happened and trust him enough to be with him. If I didn't trust him in any way then our relationship would never work. What would end up happening is I would always think he was out cheating on me, which subconsciously would just make me slowly begin to hate him.
I was in two relationships where the guy never told me he was cheating but it was very obvious he was. In the first one we were not very connected emotionally so the relationship ended quickly. In the second though, when I found out, I broke down and just lied in bed crying for a week. It was hard because this was the first guy I had fallen in love with. I decided that I could not be with him because I could never be able to let it go and I can't be with someone that I cannot trust.
The term "once a cheater, always a cheater" doesn't always apply to everyone, but to me I just felt so betrayed and hurt I couldn't be with him. I do know people that have continued a relationship with a person that has cheated on them and they have been able to be happy because they could put that all behind them.
So I guess if I had a boyfriend and he cheated on me, I could not be with him anymore. It would be too hard for me emotionally and mentally to stay with him and all I could ever think about was him betraying me again.
It's all up to the person though and if they think they can deal with it. Moving on is hard but it's a lot better than spending every night wondering if he really loves you.
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