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obnoxious girl at school.
15/f
theres a girl at my school who i used to be good friends with at the beginning of the year. its my first year at a new school, so i was making friends. one day, she decided to flip on me, and cuss at me, calling me all these horrible names and trying to offend me. although, it didnt bother me too much, just the fact that she was picking on me. it stopped for a little while, and i talked to other people, and just made more friends. yesterday she writes on my facebook wall accusing me of telling another girl that she was talking bad about her. when i NEVER did such a thing. i have no reason too, why should i talk about someone who i have no desire to like? but, then today, she keeps bringing it up and calling me all these rude things. im friends with a lot of her friends, so i sit with her at lunch. not next to her of course. i know i shouldnt be scared to stick up for myself, but i am, and im usually not like this. if she says something to me in school tomorrow, should i say something back, or just ignore it? people tell me to ignore it, which is what i did for the first time it happened, and it seemed to go away, but, i dont want her thinking im super nice and will let her walk all over me. when she was rude to me over facebook, i was rude back. i think its just when im in person.
anyone have any ideas or advice on what i should do about this situation? please dont say "be friends" because we both really dont like eachother, but this whole thing is about something so pointless.
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Many girls in high school are catty, hopefully she'll get over it. But until then, take a deep breath and tell her the truth. That you didn't do it, and that you have no desire to do it and that whoever said you did was a liar. And if you wish to go a bit further, you can tell her how immature she's being and that she should grow up and stop being a stuck up catty bitch and to grow up. You can practice saying it over and over in the mirror or something, and have people you trust with you when you do it - to help you from feeling scared. Good luck.
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I say ignore her for the most part. If you decide to speak up for yourself, be calm about it. If you did nothing wrong then you don't have anything to prove. She's doing it for a reaction which you shouldn't give her. Girls can be vicious.
I wouldn't bother with her anymore. Hang out with anyone and don't acknowledge her.
By not responding doesn't give an appearance of "I let people walk all over me" That's not how I would view it. It just makes me think that you don't care what she has to say and you're not going to bother to respond to her BS.
If you ignore her and give her no reaction then there's no satisfaction on her part. Eventually she would give up.
I would delete her from facebook or at least block her to show that you have no concerns for her.
There might be a reason behind her behavior. It's a pretty common situation.
I agree with xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx:
"If you keep your cool she'll be the one freaking out and will look like the idiot."
I've seen this happen many times and the one that causes scenes usually loses friends. If you don't like someone you usually don't pay attention to them. But for any other reason, like jealously for example, a person would hang on/fight/etc.
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That kinda thing kind of happened to me except she didnt talk bad to my face , but what you need to do , the next time she confronts you . Tell her calmly to stop lying and prove it then when she doesnt stop , tell her you have better things to do and walk away . If she follows you .. then you can yell . The last thing you should do is start swinging just so you know . It wont help ... unless she hits you first which i doubt cuz she seems like one of those all-talk-no-bite kind of chicks .
hope i helped .
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Look if this girl keeps talking to you in person and being rude just tell her the truth. Don't fight back, don't be rude back, just be polite and say it how it is. If you keep your cool she'll be the one freaking out and will look like the idiot. Just tell her what you've said in this question, that contrary to her belief you haven't said a word about her and that she's been nothign but rude and horrible to you for nothing. If she keeps on bothering you, she's just a really pathetic girl that is trying to find attention any way she can.
Once you've told her how it is and she doesn't listen, there's nothing else you can do. When she says bad things about you or tries to offend you, you just gotta think she's only doing these things so you will do something back. I think it's kind of funny how girls do that, and when I laugh they get even more frustrated because I'm not acting out like they want.
Don't say rude things back to her, don't call her names, don't start a fight, I mean you shouldn't even be thinking about her, you so much better than her!
Some people are just rude like that, it's life, so you just got to let them embarrass themselves and move on with your life. Eventually she will get bored and move onto someone else.
Belieeeve me, every girl goes through it. You just keep your dignity and hold your head high sugar.
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