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I'm starting to like this guy. I don't know him too well and hes not usually the type I'd go for but he is very nice and friendly. The thing is I cant really imagine him sexually. Like not at all. Does that mean I don't really like him? Do I maybe just like him as a friend? I think that the main reason I cant imagine him like that is because he seems really innocent and sweet. Somehow it seems wrong. And I want to talk to him more. I see him in class but we don't always talk. Anything would help. Thanks~

well just get to know him more, i think you like him for his personality, and that happens and that is the strongest bond when we base our feelings based on who we are not what we are. So maybe if you just get to know him more. And dont be afraid to talk to him.
-hayley

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There are so many other girls in my school that are really pretty, but i dont feel like im one of them, because I think that I am ugly...Heres some pictures of me, can you guys please tell me what I can to to improve my appearance?
PS. please dont say that i should be happy the way I look, or that I should look in magazines or whatever, I just really want some tips..ANYTHING, and PLEASE be brutally honest :)
Thanks

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Okay honestly you are really pretty!! :D no lie

but your hair, it dont really look like it belongs to you. It is so light. I would die your hair maybe a medium brown or an ash brown.
and it looks kind of fryed, so maybe use a restoring hair. You can find some by suave that dont cost a lot. And you would look really good with long layers. Just my opinion though! haha

and as for makeup, i would say to wear black mascara, like lengthening and volumizing, it makes your eyes pop, and for a little extra pop add black eye liner. and maybe some clear lip gloss but dont over do it :)

and always smile!! give a good attitude and be positive about the way you look, im telling you once your great personality shines through then its all cake baby haha
-hayley

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15/f
Okay, so a few months ago one of my friends (A) decided that she didn't like me anymore. So, she kinda just kicked me to the curb and started ignoring me, telling other people to ignore me and stuff. So, I was left with only two friends. One of them has stuck by me through thick and thin and then the other one (B) I'm kinda mad at now.
A few weeks after my incident, friend B was hanging out with me more than A. I guess she felt that I needed a shoulder to cry on and all that junk, which I did. Well, because B was supporting me, A and these 3 other girls who also used to be my friends started ignoring B also. Then B was all like "I can't believe they would do this to me!" and stuff like that. And I was completely there for her because I knew EXACTLY how it felt considering these same girls had just done this to me. So B and I grew closer.
Then all of a sudden, B decided to bring up the fact that she felt ignored to A...and A was EXTREMELY APOLOGETIC and said things like "Oh I'm so sorry! I had no idea we were!" and then she invited B back into their little group and everything is nice and happy and wonderful for her. And B tries to talk to me and stuff, but I can tell she'd rather hang out with them instead of me, just like everyone else.
The thing that bugs me the most is that when I brought up how I was feeling to A, she yelled at me and said she was doing nothing of the sort and then we weren't friends anymore.
So basically, now that B is back in the group, she doesn't really talk to me as much anymore and she'd much rather be friends with them than with me. And it also really really bothers me that now she's close to this other girl who at the beginning of the year both B and A hated and now they both prefer hanging out with her than with me. This other girl is actually pretty much the reason why I have no friends now because she started everything between me and A. It's so stupid and I hate this so much. I'm so frustrated with B that she would be so hypocritical.
Any advice whatsoever on like I dunno, how to feel better about this I guess? Or should I talk to B and tell her how I feel? Though I don't know if I should do that because I don't need another life-changing fight on my hands...
I just don't know what to do :(
(By the way I'm really sorry this is so long)

You put detail and that makes answering easier for us ;]

I think both of these girls are not worth your time. I mean what about the other one who was there for you? what happened to her??

let me tell you something okay? i went through this SAME exact thing. A was your friend, but another girl stepped in and it seemed as though you didnt matter right? A just talks to you when she wants something and then when she sees what you have, she wants to take it away. So she does it to B to knowing she is a weak soul. They lure B into the group and be buddy buddy with her. Reality check: they are just using her (but dont tell her that) so B thinks "hey i got these girls what do i need the other one for?" so she ditches you to. Once A sees her master plan has reached its peak and sees you dont need B anymore she tosses B to the side knowing you wont accept her back.

Yeah it happens. I know it sucks. But i learned the hard way. The same girl tries to talk to me and be buddy buddy, so i say just ignore them. B included. You can find better friends to hang out with. Mainly this is the reason why i like having guy friends. Because they dont care if you make body noises or how you dress. They wont lie to your face. My best friend is a guy and it has opened a whole new world for me. Im telling you, go to the one girl who was there for you the WHOLE time, and maybe make friends with some guys. Its gets you possibly a good rep with the boys and over the stupid barbie dolls in the world haha
-hayley

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So i absolutely HATEHATEHATE babies and anyone under the age of 10. they just really piss me off.
well my mom made me move in with her boyfriend who has 2 sons, one of which has a girlfriend who also lives with them. well she was pregnant. but they induced labor yesterday (gag) because she was a week overdue (big deal). and now its like everything revolves around that stupid thing, and its only been ONE DAY. my mom doesnt tell me i love you on the phone anymore she left me home alone all day today so she could go to the hospital and go see the repugnant thing, and i know that whenever my family comes over theyre not going to want to see me anymore its all gonna be about that monster.
so all im really asking is how do i make it through all this, and how do i not kill it, and deal with the crying, and all that shit. and most of all how do i get over my hate. because i seriously hate ALL kids.

Dang i understand not liking kids, but dont you think you are taking it over board a little...i mean yeah kids are annoying i completely agree, i cant deal with kids that scream their heads off either. But i do have a neice and i would kill for her. And quite frankly it sounds like to me you are more jealous of this new baby than anything else. You just have to get over this jealousy. You have to be comfortable with you because you cant get to be this baby and get all of the attention. And actually a week over due CAN be a big deal believe it or not. And yeah everything WILL revolve around the baby for a while. It was just born. And if you didnt want your mom to leave you home all alone, why didnt you go with her?? why dont you at least try to get along with the baby, as their is nothing you can do about it. A baby is going to cry. It cant talk. Its not going to say "hey change me" or "im hungry"...it dont work that way. And i cant tell you what to do about your hate other than just scream into a pillow or get out of the house or something. I get it i seriously do but threatening the kid and calling it names is not going to get you anywhere except in trouble. All the kid do was be born. It has not hurt you in any way shape or form. The fact that your mom dont tell you she loves you anymore, yeah its her fault not the babys. The fact that your step brothers girlfriend or whatever you call it had a kid, yeah that aint the babys fault either...see the pattern. Dont be mad about the kid because quite frankly i dont care about the rating, i just try to get the truth out and you dont need to be placing all of your problems on a kid that hasnt done a thing to you...its just not right...i get that you dont like kids i really do, some people dont. But you havent even got to know this kid yet. I mean really.
-h-

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okay this is pretty gross but necessary, if i guy were to eat me out, what would happen? how would i act? should i shave down there? should i not? heeelp

i would shave down there. And dont worry about how you should act just enjoy it. It will come to you as you go.
-hayley

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Hey!! I'm getting my hair cut tomorrow, and I wanna know what you guys think.

This is me..
http://a432.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/75/l_c41dd78c038dfc5e7cad17314b07765f.jpg

Here is what I want..
http://www.lindsey-lohan.us/images/002.jpg

Our face's are both round, so I think it will work..
What do you think?..
&& if not that, then what? I want it to be semi long, I have had short hair before, and I didn't like it..

plus
I want my face to look.. Prettier I guess the word would be. As you can tell, my teeth aren't that good, but that was a couple days after I got my braces, and my teeth are now straight. So what are some way to make my face prettier? Any make up kinds would be great! Oh I had Raw Minerals, and I didn't like it much. Anything I could do to make my face prettier, I have a lot more self esteem now that my teeth are straight.. THANKS! =D

awh your a cutie!! it would look absolutely superb!! go for it...
-hayley

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I'm 16 and I have a bump on my vagina. I'm a virgin and haven't gave anyone a blowjob so it couldn't be and STD. I'm thinking it's staph infection because I've had that before but I'm really scared. I haven't told anyone mainly because it's embarrasing. Most people will say get it checked out by a doctor but is there anything I can buy at a store that might help. I would rather keep this to myself unless its really really serious.

These are serious. You might not want to hear it, but you seriously need to go to the doctor asap. Its not as embarrasing as you think. It could be a major problem. Check it out
-hayley

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sorry if this isn't the right category but i have a question about my nipples. my one doesn't stick out like the other. its like inside kinda unless i'm cold. is this normal? i feel kinda dumb cause my boyfriend noticed it and everything.

Mine do that sometimes. I think it is just where your relaxed, and like for example, when your cold your muscles tighten so yeah, maybe thats all it is. If it is hurting you then go to your doctor.
-hayley

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So like, everyday when I go to the bathroom I notice that theres this whiteish clearish stuff that "comes out". Its really gross! and it comes out like a lot. So is it normal or what?? I wear a liner everyday but sometimes i feel like its not enough. Help?

yeah its a normal body function for females, it happens. Its happened to me. Nothing to be worried about.. :]
-hayley

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well first off im 17/f... not a virgin.. for the first time ive had sex with my bf of 6 months.. and i was extremely tight... it was PAIN. my cherry has already been popped but after we finished WAAY after i was lightly bleeding as if i was cut... tis worried me? what can it be? thanks in advance!

Hmm, my friend is really tight too. She has to get surgery before she can even have sex. She couldnt even fit a tampon in. I would just talk to your doctor. Maybe you have the same problem...If you go to the doctor they cant tell your parents, or anyone. So you would be safe from that. Or the school nurse.
-hayley

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ugh,
okay. so i have an ex let's call him D. and another ex, let's call him J.

okay, so i hung out with D todayy, and made outwith him, like i do alot, when i went out with him.
=D

okay, but when i got home, J called me, and asked me out, i said noo.

he had broke up with me, bc he thought i still liked D. i told him i didn't but w/e.

truth is, i still like D. and when i make out with him, and hang out with him. [[which is all the time]] memories come flowing back.
today, i got quiet while we were hanging out, and he asked what was wrong, and i told him nothing. he gave me a big hug, told me that i could tell him if anything was wrong, and i told him nothing was wrong, after about 10 more minutes of silence, and him carrying me, he asked me again, and i said i was thinking about things. and he asked what things, i told him stuff. so he gives me a hug, and i tell i have to go, he hugs me and i leave,

i think he still likes me,
but idk,

=/

help.
what should i do about D.

we still act like we go out

he says i love you
and i ask how, he says "as a friend..." after i don't say it back.
with some sadness in his voice.

he's my best friend, i tell him everything.
ilove him.

what do i do about him.
and J.
bc J keeps asking me out,

what do i do.
about D and J ???

I think that you should stick with D and open up to him. He seems like a great guy and he really cares about you.
And J seems like he might have trust issues so i would just stay friends with him.
-hayley

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im going on one on wednesday. there will be others there but how do i act with the guy?
its the movies.
and since its a schoolnight, my dad is expecting me home earlier than a regular date. actually, i haven't ever been on a regular date.

i am just so lost. and don't know how to act. i am quiet at first and sort of socially awkward! tips please
and don't say "be yourself"
because i have 2 selves so to speak!

well its a group date, i mean i wouldnt do anything big like making out because that could cause ridicule for months to come. It all really just depends on what you are comfortable with. I mean it is with friends so just act like your hanging out, except flirt with the boy a LOT haha
-hayley

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Could i get pregnant if my bf and I had prtected sex and i have not had my period for a few months?
I am 18 by the way. Im a little over weight.

I would take a test. Condoms are not 100% effective with this...
-hayley

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so this guy i like who is kinda interested in me imed me and it was his frends over who are girls and they were like calling me a ho and stuff and like hey your crush wants to video chat with you he wants to hear your beautiful voice and messing around with me what does this mean...does he like me...oh he knos i like him

they probably were just messing with him because he has a huge crush on you! :)
-hayley

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what happened to asia nitolliano frm the pussycat dolls winner for last year? how come she not in it?

she decided to do a solo career...so she left them hanging

http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/pussycat-dolls-present-winner-asia-nitollano-not-joining-dolls-5556.php

-hayley

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Okay I know this is really weird and sick and all but this is a question that I reallllllyy have been searching for an answer for:
Your in love with this guy, head over heals love. and he feels the same way. Your with him ALL the time 24/7. But your not dating because there is a problem. Your both christians, and you also happen to be cousins, (4th to be exact). Should you still like one another or not. WWJD (what would jesus do? Would you got to hell for it, or what? I mean in the end we are all cousins right?

oh my goodness...okay well i had this problem too, you see i have an adopted cousin and we would flirt all the time, and one night he kissed me, and i was freaking out, because well i was mean. mainly i flirted with him because i knew he liked me haha... but i looked to see if it was incest or not and yeah it is. One does go to hell for incest and yeah we all are cousins in some way shape or form but he is closer to you...
-hayley

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Alright, my friends and I [ages 16] are making a list of things we want to do this summer, only we need a little help. It's kind of like a bucket list, only for the summer.

They can be fun, or serious, crazy or simple, but nothing like "get drunk and drive to Mexico" or anything like that.

So far we have things like this:

- Sleep in a tent out under the stars.
- Go fishing.
- Watch a foreign film.
- Fly a kite.
- Have a picnic.


Any help is appreciated
and the more answers the better!! =]

Oh i love questions like these just because i have done so many things haha :]

-go to walmart and have a sword fight with the wrapping paper.
- get the electronic scooters and have races...
-hide in the clothes racks and when people come to pick out clothes whisper "pick me" haha

go to the movies:
- go up to the popcorn guy and when he says what would you like say "im batman!" and run off..its funny...
-tell the cashier dude the bathroom is flooded..
-go into a movie and throw popcorn up in the air and yell "its snowing"
-make fun of kissing couples and if you brave enough throw popcorn at them.
-yell out "hes behind you!! he will get you!" just stupid stuff like that

-Play knicky knicky nine doors leaving freaky anonymous notes behind

-hayley

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Well i ask my friend to hang out everyweekend but everytime i ask her she says soething like "i have to babysit or i have to clean?" and like i really think she doesnt wanna hang out with me but the next day she can hang out with anyone and i dont get it?

(female, 14)

I say screw them. I had this problem one time when i was your age, actually i was 13, but the girl just wouldnt do anything with me, so i just stopped asking and left her alone, and then a week later she asked me to do something and i told her to kiss it, and she got mad..this is a reason why i dont like girls, they are mean..but whatever just let her go, she aint a real friend
-hayley

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male, 17

how can i tell if a girl likes me? Im really bad with women, but how do I know the difference between her being really friendly vs her wanting to start a relationship. When we first met, she was really quiet ad I had to do most of the talking, but now she talks to me like a friend, and when we are at school sometimes she comes up to me and starts a conversation, and online she messages me about everyday. sometimes we play around in gym class, like we are back in elementary school, outside throwing grass at each other and one time we played duck duck goose. so what i need to know is that if she is being really friendly, or does she like me?

i think she likes you...

http://ezinearticles.com/?Does-She-Like-Me---5-Proven-Ways-To-Know&id=675699

-hayley

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Okay i have a boyfriend and his name is Kyle and i love him so much but after 3 months of dating me and my friend was doing a test on him and she made up a name and started flirting with him becasue i told her to and so she asked him if he had a gf and he said maybe but he dont know if he should dump me because of her and he dont even know her but before that he cussed my sister out and asked her if she was horny and everybody keeps telling me not to date him but i really like him and i dont care about the looks i care about the personality but like i really like him but then i dumped him after he dsiad that to my friend about the dumping me part and he said it was just a joke and he keeps telling me that he loves me and that he is sorry but now he wont even answer my calls or talk to me on myspace and i really want him back but help me please of what to do

you dont deserve this guy. You can do better. You said you care about personality. well lets go over this okay:
-he was flirting with a "stranger"
-he was talking about dumping you
-he is ignoring you trying to make it seem like its your fault.

It is not your fault and he is turning it on you. Apparently people know something that you dont, i say that you should just forget about him. It might be hard. Maybe you dont love him, you just love the fact of having him??
-hayley

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