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Hi. I am new at this. But I think that my friend is Baleemic... I havent talked to her about it yet realy... I just told her she needed to go to the doctor. And she refuses... She is mexican and Im not all that sure she knows what can happen if she keeps doing this to herself. And it scares me. She lost like 40 pounds. And she is ALWAYS... everytime I talk to her... throwing up. Im realy realy scared for her. She is my Best Friend. What can I do? Please help.
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Well be careful when you talk to her again about it remember she has an eating disorder so she'll be defensive. She needs to understand this is an serious issue, try to help her by letting her not focus on her weight, which shes probably scared of gaining and look at how she feels emotionally when she is doing this. You have to keep talking to her about it repeatedly so she will be reminded and dont be judgemental when you do talk to her, she's only refuse.Don't focus on her appearance she already notices that and you can only entice her to do more of it. Talk about her stresses, stress can be the cause. And dont bring out the food telling her to eat more without binging it, she'll only feel out of control and she can never help her self. It's best if you talk to her parents about it while they can catch at before its too late, they can help treat her. Your already doing your best to be there for her, but it helps to talk about it. Hope this helps. :)
do guys like it when girls are slightly perverted, or is it a turnoff? i'm kind of perverted hahaha but it's not like creepy, just basically kind of how a guy is except not that bad. does that seem like i'm more of a friend with guys, or if i'm slightly perverted when im flirting with them is that weird?
I wouldn't call it perverted, its more of, your sexual. For some guys its a turnoff, but if you know the guy is sexual he will be more than likely happy that you give a dirty joke or two. I mean who says you can't have a dirty joke? I personally do it, and most of the guys laugh. Your giving them the sense that your comfortable with that and not all girls are like that some get turned off so guys like being around a girl like that, its not bad, its actually a plus. ++ :)
Its been almost one year since this all began. It all started early September and when Josh broke up with me September 21st 2006 I went into a huge depression. I cut my wrists, stopped talking for a little, and completley lost myself. Since he broke up with me hes only gone out with one other girl, my best friend, but hes gone out with her 5 times off and on. But he has gone out with me about 5 times off and on too. So theres this tension between me and my bff now. But also since he broke up with my I kept trying to replace him with someone else. On my second try (Steven) is when things went out of control because when he broke up with me the entire depression thing got worse and I don't know who I am, or who I am supposed to be. Now I'm doubting whether or not I love my current bf. Am I just trying to replace Steven? Or am I still trying to replace Josh? For a while I had no problem saying I love you. But my sister said "Ever since Josh you haven't been the same" and Im shocked at how right she is. How do I find myself again, but now that I think about it I don't even know if I want my old self back because I always hated the way I was. And now im just so confused. I don't really have a specific question but what's your opinion on this whole thing? Please anyone help me.
Well I think that since you're depressed you try to make yourself happy by occupying yourself with someone else, but everytime it doesn't work out you feel even more depressed and then you tend to look at your past relationships thinking you probably could have done this or that to make the relationship work, your wishing you probably could go back on it but you can't.
You want the depression to go away but you're really not solving it by slitting your wrists. Slitting your wrist, you can hit an artery, you could worry and know what are you gonna do?, die.
I'm sorry but committing suicide is a terrible way of trying to get out of life. God gave you life, and gives you a chance to live it, people go when its there time, and for you its not your time, God decides that. You look to the negative things in your life, but don't look at the negatives focus on the positive things in your life, and you cant say you don't have any, if you're saying that to yourself thats what causes more of a depression for you.
Look at the negative things on a more positive side, I know it would be hard, but look at it that way, and you can say: I'm happy and thankful for the relationships I've had, I've had these people care for me, and I can learn from my past relationships so I won't make the same mistakes in the future. Only you can make yourself feel better, other people can help you but they dont want to dwell in other peoples sorrows all the time so they tend to stay away from it.
It's not good to dwell in your own sorrow, you can better yourself by not doing that, listen to a song that can really inspire you and keep you going, you have so much to live for , life is already too short to just sit around and do nothing. Best of luck to you, and hope this helps and sorry so long!
I wanted to get my hair cut/styled and my mom would want me to get it at Walmart, but I don't want to :[! (No offense but I think it's a pretty lame place to do it at) So I was just wondering where's a good place to get a haircut/hairstyle and where's a bad place. I also want to know if Walmart is a good/bad place to do so. If you have gotten your haircut/styled at Walmart please feel free to share your stories and make any suggestions! (I'd probably want to do this at the mall at Regis, Trade Secret, or the JCPenny salon....)
No, you definately do not want to get your hair done at wal-mart, I was spose to get wavy hair but then they just gave me something that I really could've done myself and I payed a $100 for it! What a waste, me and my mom were so mad, + they kept adding stuff we didn't want at all in our bag so it added more money. It was terrible. I prefer that you would go to the mall to get it done, they have REAL professionals there, it may be a bit more expensive but if it comes out correctly its totally worth the money.
My name is Mia. Lately i've been feeling really bad about myself because i'm horrible at making friends because i'm so self concious about every thing I do. But luckily I had one true friend who lives in another town. Let's call her Megan. Today on myspace, I was looking at megan's profile and saw she had a few comments from Lea, a popular girl at my school. They were "who's the annoying girl?" Then the next one was "mia who?" then "no i dont show my comments, " So I was like omg, please don't tell me Megan is saying i'm an annoying bitch. Well, I know how to look at peoples comments if they hide them, and i'm not a stalker. I only do it in situations like these. Sure enough, comments from Megan said "so you have seen the ANNOYING GIRL! " the next one said "omg lol MIAAAAAA" then "CHEERLEADING MIAAAA" (cause i do cheering with lea) here's the horrible one. "yeah haha she was asking me like a billion times to come over but thank goodness I had a reason for my cousin being here and shit! you dont show your comments do you" I FELT LIKE CRYING. she's the only girl I get the courage to actually ask if I can hang out. and I did NOT ASK HER A BILLION TIMES. she always says she's busy so I ask her like once every 2 weeks. But i'm so confused because when we do go over each others house, she acts like we are best friends, and she invites me to all her parties. WE WERE FRIENDS SINCE WE WERE 3!!!! How should I address this to her, on the phone, IM? And how should I say it. And I don't want to be little shy Mia. I want to be a little nasty with her.
Don't feel bad about yourself, everybody can be a little self-conscious some more than others, like me per say. Lea is just immature and "your friend" is a two-faced person, yall may have know each other for a long time but her "secretley" talking about you behind you back is wrong, and if she really was your friend she would stick by you and defend you after what
the other girls said I know its tempting to get back at her but you really dont want to get nasty with her it will only start conflict between you and the other girl. Just ask her why did you say that I was annoying? If she asks where you got the source dont tell her, she'll
only accuse you of being a stalker and just say " I have my ways " or say "someone told me and I can't say" it shouldnt matter to her where you got it from what matters is that she said that. It sounds Megan* maybe trying to fit in with the other girls, but talking bad about other people and being 2- faced aint it. The mature thing to do is not to yell at her, because yelling makes you sound childish, and immature, just break it to her with a serious hard toned voice but don't yell. Talk about yalls diffrences, look for any lies, tell her
you dont like 2-faced people ,and see where this convo goes if she doesn't want to be your friend so be it, she deserved this, and you didn't you deserve a better friend. Hope this helps, sorry so long!
The only way I have ever had an orgasm is if my boyfriend pleasures me by rubbing on top of my vagina. I am really tight down there, so when he actually puts his finger inside, it hurts and it doesn't feel good at all. I feel no pleasure whatsoever, even if it stops hurting. I dont understand how girls think it feels good. I really am curious to know what a g-spot orgasm feels like. What can my boyfriend do to make it feel good when he fingers me by going inside?
Well if your not getting into it then fingering is not the thing, you usually feel the g- spot orgasm kinda of thing when your having sex, you sit on a pillow, that helps him hit your g-spot, you could do that when hes fingering you see if that helps, and if it doesn't then try using a lubricant or lotion sliding on his finger.
ok, im going 2 be starting highschool in august and I DONT KNOW ANYONE! I have NO idea what the highschool is like, and I dont know what kind of people are there. (Ive seen the HS before but nvr been in it) I want to make the impression that like im not slutty, but not a total dork. We have freshman orientation 2, and i dont know what to expect. Words cant describe how nervous i am. Every time i tell someone about my situation there just like "oh ull meet people" and its more complicated then that! someone please help!! :(
thanks
Well if everybody knows everybody that shouldn't be a problem, I mean at least you don't have to worry about being in a class with someone you don't know. Don't sweat it sweetheart you'll be fine, everybody gets nervous when they start highschool, I was when I started highschool but my freshmen yr. turned out pretty awesome, that was my fastest yr. and your freshmen yr. should too, its a new experience and you learn alot of things that the yr. just flies by fast you won't notice until its the end of the yr! Just be yourself, dress comfortable and casual, never over dress yourself on the first day of school cause some people will be like "Why do people always like dressing up so much on the first day of school?" so dress comfortable and casual. And when you have orientation go with a friend, or someone you know, during freshmen orientation they usually let you take a view of the school walking around so pair up with a friend so you wouldn't feel awkward around other people, you probably haven't seen much of your friends all summer so you'll be happy to see each other. You'll be fine sweetheart and enjoy youself! :)
I have a job where you cant have piercings, I am not ready to let my nose piercing close up could I get buy with a clear retainer? Or would the company not like that?
Probably most jobs don't allow piercings and some do, and if they dont allow it they usually ask you to wear a clear ring or something like that, ask your company/job if they allow you to do that but if they do not allow it at all you just have to take it out only while your working.
can you name some r&b artists like boyz II men, k-ci and jojo, and new edition? mostly boy bands.
thanks.
Pretty Ricky
B2K
Dru Hill
Blackstreet
Next
98 degrees
Babyface, (not a boy band)
Tank (not a bb)
Taggiz (not a bb)
Urban Mystic
ATL
Total
Heavy D
Jagged Edge
112
Isley Brothers
One Chance
Mr-Caopone E
2xl
Bone thugs n Harmony
Gym Class Heroes
Hope I helped!
But you've pretty much named all the good ones/
15/f
ok, so i have this one friend, actually shes like my best friend, and i love her and all, but lately shes getting on my last nerve. shes acting like a huge slut. shes sending pictures of her boobs, and her vagina, TO GUYS SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW. like i mean, i know them. and some im really good friends with. and she constantly wants to call them and uhh and they keep asking me about her, and saying how shes such a slut. and a whore, and like all this bad stuff. and its making me look bad. i mean, i dont even know how she got all of there numbers. i mean, she probably took most of them from my address book. but whatever, how do i fix this? i dont want them to hate me.
Well your friend is asking for it. She's just getting taken advantage of, the guys don't like her for just her, they "like" her cause she puts out. And ask her where she got the numbers.
Is she really your friend? I mean it's diffrent if she cares about you and doesn't want you doing that stuff (but she really shouldn't be doing that anyway)otherwise you don't wanna be friends with a girl like that, surround yourself by good people, but if you still want to be friends with her, the best you can do is talk to her about it or write a letter and address to her that you don't like the way how she's acting if she really is your best friend she'd listen to your advice. She's so young, and it's really trashy that shes doing that. You don't want who to hate you? Whoever "them" is shouldn't hate you they should appreciate they have a friend like you watching out for them, and the other people shouldn't hate you you're just watching out for a friend. :)
Okay well i am 13/f and my boyfriend of three years is 14. And of course i love him to death and stuff but the thing is .... i never see him i have seen him once this hole summer i talk to him at least 4 times a week... when he's home i somtimes think he is cheating on me because i know he has once with my cousin and she tolled me and so i tolled him that i knew about him and her and he said that he was truely sorry but the thing is i never see and when i do talk to him-on the phone- it only lasts for about 30 minutes. Can you help me on the way i feel about this?
Thanks in advance!
First off, you love him cause he cheated on you?, I'm sure you don't but your proved you did love him that way by giving him that 2nd chance, I mean some people deserve second chances but chances are if a person cheats once then they do it again, and it's making him think its okay to cheat because you gave him what he wanted, by taking him back. If you're in any relationship at all you shouldn't have to EVER think about whether hes cheating on you or not. Also, the big thing is HE DIDN'T TELL YOU and your cousin did. He didn't admit it til you confronted him, he's truly sorry my a-- hes not sorry, Dump him, your boyfriend is a doosh bag, you deserve better, and when you talk to him on the phone tell him why you dumped him but he should know the reason, your still young , live your life and you'll have the rest of your life to find love.
I'm in love.
My boyfriend is 18, I'm 16.
We've been going steady for a few months now, no problems and no fights.
We practically live together- he either sleeps over at my house, or I sleep over at his.
No matter what, we cant get enough of each other's company.
A friend of mine told me, that if things are going the way they have been for at least a couple more months, that my boyfriend was thinking about proposing to me.
What should I think of this?
Or really, what should I do if this occurs?
I could see myself with him forever, but I am only 16, raging with hormones.
Slow down, yall have been only dating for a few months, thinking about proposing in relationship of only a few months is too fast, especially if you're only 16, you don't want to get married at a young age and then have the relationship to blowover. Sorry but to tell the truth, most marriages at your age usually blows over and people admit it as a mistake. You say raging hormones? Does that mean that you just want to get married so yall could have sex? Good strong relationships that usually lasts in marriages take years to build not just a few months, I've heard of a relationship that a couple had for years then he gave her a promise ring which that means he wants to marry you, but you're not married til yall are ready. Just Ask yourself some questions and think hard about it. Are you ready this early and give up the "fun life" with your friends? Are you ready to start a family? Love takes time, not a few months, listen to your heart not head. :)
Three different people in my grade told me that I have a reputation of being a bitch. When I told my friends this they were like you are def. not a bitch.. but when you get mad you get really mad. Which is true like I get really mean when I am mad at someone. Anyway, I don't want the reputation of a bitch cause I'm not and I don't want to be and I don't try to be. How can I not have that reputation anymore?
These people who are telling you this are just trying to aggravate you, they don't really know who you are like your friends do, you're probably a really laid back person but people know that you can get mad easily, so they try to do things to aggravate you, and they win. You can fight this and prove them wrong by being nice to everyone, smile everytime, even to the people who you don't know, don't talk about this to your friends on how they are annoying you cause this can get to the other people and they like that they are getting to you. Don't give them the satisfaction, show that you're a naturally happy person, and be care-free don't care what everybody else things and rememeber that your friends love you for you and they know you .:)
is there any way to get rid of them???? any way at all ! ? !
Stuff like ,Vitamin E and Coccoa butter can help to help it feel soft, but it doesn't really make them go away, you can buy a cocoa butter stick at wal-mart in the skin care sections also Retin-A can help reduce the appearance. OR you can see a dermatologist to perform laser surgery or a microdermabrasion but I warn it's pretty pricey! Hope this helps.
Whenever I'm with my friends or when I kiss my boyfriend once.. I get nasty comments. I don't understand it. One girl kept saying that leads to.. this! -points to her baby-
It's making me angry because I'm not stupid. She's the one who slept around and didn't use protection.
My friends went through my camera and saw a picture of me in a bra. They screamed in an over reacting way. Yelling /keep your clothes on/ and stuff. "Don't do anything stupid".. when she has done drugs and had sex numerous times. she made herself seem all superior and well, it pissed me off :)
What can I do to make them shut up? I'm older than them and they are not joking, believe me. I'm not stupid enough to make the same mistakes. I've done a lot of sexual things but they insist that I shouldn't do anything and that I'm innocent. I'm on birth control and I already talked to my boyfriend about this. I'll have sex with him when I'm ready and when BC has taken full effect. And he MUST bring condoms or he gets nothing. We have done everything but actual sex. About drugs, we aren't doing any of it.. but we will drink a little together around a group of friends [sober]
Maybe my friends are trying to protect me.. I don't know. but I hate when they tell me that and everything. I'm a year or two older and I've been reading a lot about birth control, sex, etc. They act like it's a deadly sin when I kiss my boyfriend :(
And i hate when they scream in public. They practically said i was naked [when i was not] at a middle school graduation. oh yea, that really makes me look good in front of middle schoolers and parents! it makes me look like a slut and i haven't done anything. people always ask me if i'm a virgin.
Don't listen to them, they're just jealous and they say that cause they heard that on t.v. yes sometimes kissing leads to something farther but thats only if YOU LET IT HAPPEN, and only you can control yourself from letting the kissing get any farther.And some of the girls who say this are the most likely the ones who are doing these things, like you siad the girl pointed at her stomach? yeah, who is she to talk. And you posting a pic. of you in a bra, in opinion is not a big deal you just are happy with your body, and there is nothing wrong with that, honey, these are not your friends they are jealous people and are immature and it sounds like they like to humiliate you, don't give them a time of day or satisfaction you deserve better friends who love you for you and know that your not afraid of expressing your body and your right to say that you'll have sex when your ready, you know this cause you know better. You sound more mature than your "friends" , your just kissing him, it's not like having sex in public but maybe in another way of looking at it, maybe they don't like pda? IDK. Anyway you're not a slut, and people ask you if your a virgin because they're nasty perves , you deserve better friends. Hope this helps.
after i shave "down there" i always get these little red bumps that never go away
..is there anything i can do to make them stop appearing?
It's ingrown hairs. Hairs become ingrown under the skin instead of growing out leaving bumps. Bacteria infected it and you get little red zit bumps that have white dots on top.
But it should go away on its own in a few days. Don’t touch it too much, and use antibiotic cream or use skin care products down there if you have. If there is still some see a gyno or a skin doctor, dermatologist.Using razors down there are nasty because they are very likely to make ingrown hairs and it get stuck under the skin plus your razor can get clogged up, another suggestion is use a diffrent method to remove the hair down there, use wax, go to a professional place like tanning salons usually have it or use plenty of shaving cream down there so you wont get those red bumps. Hope I helped! :)
so me and my best friend are super close, alot closer then most friendsare, but recently she has become friends with this girl. and the yare like super close, she tells me all the time your my bestfriend she is just my good friend, but recently it seems like she chooses this girl over me all the time. and i dnt know what to do. its not like im neccissarily getting mad but i dnt know if its jealousy its joust kind of annoyence. i suppose. so what can i do?
f/16
Sounds like your friend justs like meeting new people, and when you meet new people and have a connection they tend to hang around that person alot more, talk to your best friend saying "we never hang out anymore, we should hang out sometime" kind of thing, or to make this cool where you don't feel left out of it plan for all 3 of you to get out together, get to know the other girl too, this could help out bunch or if she (the other girl) seems to be out of place and annoying to you just ignore the girl or accept that shes friends with your best friend, many people can have more than one best friend and you can too, if you have another friend or other friends hang out with them too not just her, it can get annoying if you hang out with just her, you can make other good friends too- :).
Ok..im 17/F and ive never had a boyfriend..i have been on some first dates but didnt want to take it any furthur. My friends are making me feel bad because all they talk about is there boyfriends..i mean..thats ALL THEY TALK ABOUT and it makes me feel bad about myself..i dont know if they do it intentionally because htey know ive never had one or they just dont know theyre doing it? What do you think about this and am i just a freak that ive never had a bf?
Don't worry a guy will come to you, you just have to be patient, don't start LOOKING for a boyfriend because that just makes you sound really desperate , and guys don't like that and you'll never find love that way.
Have fun with your friends, and when your friends talk about they're boyfriends they're not talking about them to make you miserable they just really like them and I'm sure when you get a boyfriend you'll be talking about him too, and someone in your group will probably say the same thing just cause she doesnt have a boyfriend. It only seems this way to you because you're dwelling on how you dont have a boyfriend. Don't dwell on it, my best advice is to be yourself. Also TIP: Many guys like the outgoing type, are you that type? Show it off! and if you're shy , don't be too shy step it up a little, guys like shy girls too. Just be yourself, and enjoy the moment. Life moves much faster that way, don't plan anything ahead, and I'm sure you'll find a great boyfriend that suddenly comes up unexpetnatley, don't look for it. Hope this helps :) Sorry so long.
My best friend and I are inseperable, everyone knows it and thinks we're together. I love this guy more than anything, but he has a girlfriend. She goes to this private prep school in town, and knows about how close we are. They've been together over a year now, and it didn't stop us from hooking up for the last 8 months. About 4 months in he told her what happened, she got over it and forgave him, but it's been going on since a week after that too. I would stop it, but I feel like he's totally worth the wait. He makes me want to be an amazing person. He tells me when the time is right, we'll end up together, but i don't know what to do.
Okay, he has a girlfriend. That should be the BIG BIG red flag. You don't wanna get stuck in a rut and you sure don't want to get into more of a rut than you already are. He told his girlfriend and then she got over it?, his girlfriend is totally clueless. A guy who cheats once will always be a cheater. She gave him a 2nd chance and that just gave him more power to think ' I've got her wrapped around my fingers', he's got both you and his girlfriend hooked and it's bad enough that you're already letting him.
Trust me I've been through this before, I thought the guy was gonna break up with his girlfriend like he said he would, turns out what he really wanted is a 'piece of cake' from the both us at the same time, also I was helping him not to get caught til he actually got caught. He's never gonna break up his girlfriend, he's just leading-you-on so he can keep you on the side.
If your a sideline chick, sorry to say but you'll never be number one, always 2nd best, you'll never get to hold hands, kiss, or talk or any of that in public. Any relationship shouldn't be in the dark.
You realize that you're only second to him not number one like his girlfriend, but you and even his girlfriend doesn't deserve this. And that is a mess, trust me you don't want this drama bull drop him, I know its gonna be hard, but he doesn't deserve you nor any girl for that matter, you deserve better a guy who will treat you like royal and show you off to the world :)
You know how people say "if you want to know who your real friends are, when something bad happens, see who's there to comfort you"? Well I kind of want to see who my real friends are. The thing is, nothing really bad ever happens to me. Haha, I'm lucky. But what should I do? I kinda want something bad to happen to me, just something that makes me a little upset, just to see who will be there for me. Any suggestions or advice would be great. Thanks.
15/f by the way.
Well they say in High School that you will find out who your real friends are. I've found out mine by something bad happening to me, but if you're already lucky like you already are you really don't want anything bad to happen. It doesn't happen that way, you just have to figure it out. You'll know whether those people are your real friends or not, best friends don't turn your back on you, they don't diss you for a guy, they're there for you no matter what. If nothing bad has happened than you must have good friends.Don't fret. :)