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bad reputation?
Three different people in my grade told me that I have a reputation of being a bitch. When I told my friends this they were like you are def. not a bitch.. but when you get mad you get really mad. Which is true like I get really mean when I am mad at someone. Anyway, I don't want the reputation of a bitch cause I'm not and I don't want to be and I don't try to be. How can I not have that reputation anymore?
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no one will ever call you a bitch again.
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I have the same problem..when im really upset i just get to angry and i cant control it. Instead of getting mad about this..and being a "bitch"..try to change your habits. When you get mad at someone...instead of being really mean and defensive..try to calm yourself and think rationally. Also when youre at school or work or wherever youre hearing these people calling you a bitch..be EXTRA nice to them when you see them..kill them with kindness. Eventually these people will change their opinion about you. Hope i helped
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Consider the source of these comments. The people who made them don't know you and are not your friends. In little under three years you won't even know half of them.
Considering they don't know you don't let their comments bother you. Its like them calling you an oompa loompa. Obviously you are neither an oompa loompa or a bitch. Laugh it off and go on with your business and friends as all these people want is to get a reaction out of you.
Don't give it to them as their comments are powerless to do anything to you unless you react and let it bother you. These people may just be jealous of your talents, intelligence, athleticism, the fact others like you etc. Yopu probably have everything they feel they lack and or want.
Show these people some love as that's what they need and turn the other cheek and ignore it. In the mean time see your parents, teacher and or guidance counselor to work on your anger as that will help you in the future.
As far as your reputation goes continue to be who you are and treat everyone whether friend or foe equally nice. Nobody could mistake you for a bitch then.
You only have a reputaion with a select few who don't matter and cannot change your repuation. Most people are smart enough not to listen or be swayed by people like this or rumor and will develop their own opinion of you by getting to know you or not.
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hahah i have the 'bitch' reputation too...Dont change your personality or start acting nice just becasue people say your a bitch, cause then soon you will get the reputation as the 'fake' girl. Just let it go, but if your really stressing about it, hang out with some of the people that are labeling you as a bitch, then they will realize your not.
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These people who are telling you this are just trying to aggravate you, they don't really know who you are like your friends do, you're probably a really laid back person but people know that you can get mad easily, so they try to do things to aggravate you, and they win. You can fight this and prove them wrong by being nice to everyone, smile everytime, even to the people who you don't know, don't talk about this to your friends on how they are annoying you cause this can get to the other people and they like that they are getting to you. Don't give them the satisfaction, show that you're a naturally happy person, and be care-free don't care what everybody else things and rememeber that your friends love you for you and they know you .:)
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Just be nice to everyone(even the ppl u hate) but not ovebearing and annoying. And when you ge mad, just remember the whole reputation thing, calm down, and forget about it.
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