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So ok i had sex um like two weeks ago....Down there is kinda like all red and it looks like someone like burnt the first layer of my skin off. See after i had sex it got real ichy(i thought maybe he cut me with his finger nails down there does that make you ichy?) But today after my shower i seen that there was like a lump but its like a pimp but its not one its just a blister looking type thing. I herd from people he had STD's and he does fuck and isnt safe...Are thease signs of a STD?

From the way you spell, I can that you are stupid enough to have sex with a guy that you've heard has STD.
You dumb bitch I hope it is a STD, just to teach you a lesson.

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I'm 15 (almost 16) and female.

A certain *someone* constantly complains about my naps. I take naps because I get tired.

In the past I used to sleep extremely late (we're talking about from 2-4 AM or later) during school nights. However, I would also get half of my other sleep during the day when I got home from school, since at night I was busy with homework. I couldn't resist taking a nap once I got home from school because I'd be way too tired to concentrate on homework anyway if I didn't nap.

This is probably a question for high schoolers and up, because those with a large homework load will understand why my sleeping schedule is this way.

Now back to what I first said. According to that *someone* naps are horrible and it's totally killing my health. Okay, I understand if I don't get enough sleep it is really bad for me. But I do get enough sleep. Not to mention I don't sleep that late anymore, I try to sleep as early as I can (latest is 1 AM so far because of homework).

What I want to know is, are naps really that horrible? If you don't get enough sleep will your health be really bad? If you sleep enough, but part of your sleep is at night and part of it is in the afternoon is that bad in anyway? What advice would you give me in order to help me sleep earlier? I understand that *someone* cares about me a LOT, but it gets really annoying to always be nagged about when honestly I already am trying my best to get a normal sleeping schedule and it is really hard to NOT take naps.

Thanks a lot!

Its not that naps aren't healthy its that your almost 16 and you shouldn't need naps. Teens should be able to stay up almost all night and not have to take a nap during the day. If you are that tired from just going to sleep at 2 or 4 am then maybe something is wrong with you. Like you need more iron in your diet or you need to exercise.

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Okay, I'm on birthcontrol. But, when you're on bc do you have to use a condom? And can he cum inside you and you still be safe? I"LL RATE 5's!!!

It would be best to also use a condom but you dont have to because birth control alone is like 99% effective. But a condom would be good if you didn't know who the guy has already slept with to keep you safe from STD's.

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hey my friend is 15 years old and she is having a baby what should i do to help and what should she do

Maybe you should have told her to not be a slut and wear a condom and use birth control.

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I live in Indonesia and my school makes all the students get tested for TB aka tuberculosis. I got mine done, at about 9:30. When I look at my friends' tests, they have a little bubble on it, and your supposed to get that if you dont have it. I know that you don't get the results instantly and its already 6:30 now.. On mine, you just see the scar from where they inserted it and it's got a very very light circle of red around it. Do you think I might have it?? Or should I give it some more time?

I'm pretty sure its if you have the bubble after like two days. Plus the chance of you acutally having TB is very low unless you go over to some poor country.

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I probably just figured out every girls dreaded nightmare. I'm pregnant now. Im only 16... my family is abusive. My town is no place to be raising a baby. There is no one I can go to .... only my boyfriend cares. He really does. He isn't the hit and run type. He's going to drive me away... we'll have to get a place to live... he's saved up some money. I have NO choice but to leave... but can anyone just tell me some things I need to know to raise the baby right?

One thing to really help the baby would have to not gotten pregnant at 16.

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ok what would happen if i like a 19year old and i am 13 years old and my mom and dad know abut him and i known him all my life and hes like my brother and both of our parnets kno we are going out would he still get charged for sagitory rape?

If your dating someone whos like your brother isn't that like dating your brother?
He can only be charged with statutory rape if you do anything other than kissing.
Oh and learn how to write a sentence.

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What should I do if I want to break up with my boyfriend for the 3rd time but I don't want to..And I dont want to wait for him to break up with me cuz I know it'd be in a long time

Maybe not go out with him three times in the first place.

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I dont want to sound like a jackass or anything, but why do most women (most being the ones that ive talked to on the subject taht are in HS or graduated around the 17-21 age range) not like birth control. Now it seems to me that birthcontrol isnt to bad at all, and that these women dont understand that seriousness of having a baby. Can someone pleas like to explain why someone would rather risk getting pregnant and having an unplanned baby or having an abortion, instead of takin a pill that would save you from alot of trouble.

Sorry about the length, but its a serious subject, 18-m

Well, for one when if you start taking birth control at a younge age it can fuck you up. Such as giving you cancer or having it where you can't ever have babys when your older. Also maybe those girls are too embarrassed to go to a doctor to get birth control (which in my opinion if your too embarrassed to get birth control then you have no right having sex.)

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hi my name is justin, and i am a 16 year lod male. i live in nyc and i have a really bad habit. i like to suck my thumb, and its becoming a problem fast. like kids who know me but dont like me will walk up to me and say something dumb like" are you getting ready for the future" or " are you ready to upgrade"(being put into nicer terms) so can anyone help me like share some tips for quiting or anything? thanx a million

Put like nail polish remover or something really nasty on your thumb. So when you go to suck it it will taste nasty and you wont want to do it anymore.

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I dont feel like my life is important to anyone and that I should die. I feel dead most of the time anyway. I feel ugly and am always depressed and stressed. I need help. I want help. What can I do to help me feel better?

Sit outside, like at a park or something and eat jolly ranchers (or whatever candy you really like) and think about everything thats worth living for such as candy, and good jokes, good music. I know it might sound silly, but really just sitting at a peaceful place with good time to just think about good times/things will really make you happier.

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ok well my feet are shped very "dis-formed" lets say. they have webbs between them just like a duck and when i wear flip flops with all my friend i feel left out. they really make fun of me. what should i do??

signed,
duckie

How can you even wear flip flops with webbed feet?

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hey,
today I got in a hung fight with my mom!! i'll spare you the deltails but i will tell you this, it envolved slamming plates, both of us yelling and crying and stuff...wow she told me that i was going to H*** (i am a goody-goody i've always made sure i was going to Heaven) and she sed to burn in H*** and i got so upset

what should i do? i;m just not getting along with her PLEASE HELP I RATE WELL!!!!

Just so you know, there is no hell or heaven so don't worry.

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ohk so i was setting up my ipod on the computer cause u just got it. and the screen froze its been frozen for like 3hours.... how can i fix it?

Have you tryed turning the computer off?

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i was wondering what is a good sweet 16 present. my aunt asked me what special thing i wanted and right now i have no idea. im an anverage preppy girl i guess i love my hollister and would love a car but thats way out of the question. any ideas other than clothes or the normal stuff?

A ring.

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i was spellinlike that cuz im on AIM alot and im juz used to typin like this. get over it.

Oh my gosh. When you try and explain yourself, you only make yourself sound more stupid by spelling worse. Nice try.

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What age do you think a girl should be to go to a gyno? Not for birth control, just for health check ups? Thanks!

You go when your 18 or when you start having sex if its before 18.

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i know im 13 but ive been held back and now im starting middle skool. im really nervous. wut if the other kids dont like me, or if i dont fit in. wut if i get my classes mixed up and everyone makes fun of me? all u guys are in middle skool so PLEASE HELP!!!

Haha I can see why you were held back. I think a three year old can spell better than you.

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condom packages always say that they are like 99% effective if used correctly and stuff, but in school we learned that since condoms are latex like balloons, they have tiny holes in them that sperm can swim through. wtf. how effictive is that?

The school lies. They really are 99% effective, but the school can't say that because its against the law, because they arn't even really supposed to be teaching about protection and only teach abstinence.

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See I want to learn how to play the bass.... that is not my problem my problem is I dont know what is the best bass to get when you are first starting off.... And I need to find a cheap one.... if you can give me a link to as site I will be very greatful..... I also always rate 5's

http://www.fender.com/products/search.php?partno=0193460725

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