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Hi! 14/F
Okay, i found out that my ex ex boyfriend still likes me. That he liked me ever since we broke up, and he apparently feels dumb to ask me out again because he dated my friend, even though i warned him that she likes other guys and she will break his heart he still dated her. She got mad at me because he never talked to her that much,and he always talked to me. Well, i couldn't help that. Well while she was dating him she found someone else, they broke up and i found out that he liked me this whole time after that. Him and my friend broke up about the last week of school and now we are starting a new year. :/ He told me friend that he still liked me, he told her not to say anything though.He was dating his recent girl friend to keep his mind off of me. I know quite silly. They broke up and what i need to know is should i ask him out?? Or wait??
Thanks! (link)
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Hey.
Oh boy this sounds so complicated. But I would say, yes ask him out. He's liked you for so long and can't stop thinking about you. And it does make sense why he would think it was weird to ask you out again. I say go for it! :)
Good luck and take care
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17/f my friend really wants a car any kind of car if it runs it's good. And her mom said msybe how can she talk her into getting one?? (link)
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Well.
There are many reasons to get a car. For one, you save your parents a lot of time that they would spend driving you around. With your own car, you no longer need to rely on your parents for rides. Also, it's good to get driving experience and an old car is a great way to start. As long as your friend has taken a license test then this should be a good idea. And also, she should tell her mom that her friends can help pay for gas if she has to go pick them up or something.
Good luck to your friend.
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Okay, i asked a previous question about this, but if you havent seen it, this is basically what happened. there was a party, my girlfriend went with her friends, i was working so i didnt. at the party some guy was hitting on her, then grabbed her ass, she pushed him off, he pushed her over onto the pavement, shes got a big bruise and scraped up her arm and hands. yeah well so i wanted to beat the shit out of him, but my gf told me to leave it alone, and forget about it. yeah. i didnt. i found him a few days later, and tried to kick his ass. hes a big fellow, but i walked away better which was what i wanted. my girlfriend found out and is PISSED at me. she doesnt get it though. i couldnt leave it alone. she wouldnt even let me talk her into pressing charges(which is what i was planning) she refused so i pretty much had to do what i did. but she doesnt get it. i tried to explain to her that when someone messes with your girlfriend, they cant just get away with it. she doesnt understand, but i did apologize. shes still pissed though and i do feel bad because i guess i made her feel guilty which is crazy, because if anyone should feel guilty, its me. i mean if i had been at the party, this would never have happened. i dont know what to do now. she feels bad, and shes mad as hell at me. any help?
16/m 15/f (link)
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Hey.
Well, maybe your girlfriend feels bad because she doesn't think beating up a guy solves anything. I get that you think he deserved what he got, but for future reference you should probably let your girlfriend do as she pleases and try to respect her choices. Some girls would be okay with their boyfriend beating up another guy, but some aren't. Tell her that you are really sorry for not listening to her and that you should have. Tell her that it won't ever happen again. I'm sure that she will eventually get over the situation. Good luck.
Take care
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If you have a plant with leaves like a spider plant and the ends are brown, can you cut off the ends where it is brown and they will grow back? It has not been watered regularly and now it is going to start having regular watering...I don't want to cut the ends if they are going to stay flat and never grow back to a point. Thank you. (link)
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Hey.
Don't cut the ends flat. You should cut them slanted or make them pointy yourself. That way your plant looks pretty. :)
Spider plants are amazing.
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so i saw this shirt at the mall today and i liked it because it's striped magenta and navy, so basically i just grabbed it and bought it without even trying it on. when i got home, i realized it had this little green design on it, which kind of kills the shirt... it just looks really out of place. i can't return it because it was on sale, but i don't really wanna give it away or throw it away or anything because of one imperfection, since i still like it... but THAT GREEN THING, ugh. it just kills it. the thing is, it's not part of the fabric. it's that stuff that kinda fades away after a really really really long time. i was wondering if there was any way i could speed that up and take that stupid design thing off WITHOUT ruining the shirt...? (link)
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Hey.
You can try to scratch it off? I did that once with a sweater that had one of those ironed on designs and it worked except that it's difficult to get them off. I'm not really sure if there is another way.
Good luck
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I've known this girl for a few years and I missed my chance out of pure stupidity several times. It wasn't just some stupid hormonal attraction either - it's like she's the first person who treated me like a human being and respected me for who I am. (I like the way the 70s were better than now - not that I was alive then - and people tend to harass me because of my style in everything.)
So she looked past the surface and saw who I really was, which is what made it so impossible to even ask anything. I wasn't used to this treatment.
Anyway, she moved LAST summer and I still can't get her out of my head. Any ideas? (link)
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Hey.
I'm sorry about the way people have been treating you. It's not fair to discriminate a person based on their interests and style :/. Just know that although you missed your chance with this girl, she is proof that not all people are judgmental. Yes, there are many people who will judge people simply because they are "different" but there are equally as many people who will respect you for you. The important thing is to be completely confident in who you are. In my experience people tend to pick on people who appear to be weak. Therefore, the stronger your character becomes, the less these people's opinions will matter. Ultimately, we must live our lives in the way that makes us the happiest. The purpose of life is a topic that most people are unsure of, but the only thing that is certain is that life has two routes: happiness or unhappiness. The choice of which path we will take is in our hands alone. No one can tell you how to live your life. With all this said, please never think that the world is full of cold-hearted people. Use this as an opportunity to strengthen you character and be completely in love with who you are. You a precious and unique person and no one can take that away from you. I guarantee that the more your attitude changes for the better, the more people you will encounter just like this girl.
Take care
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i just recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. this whole experience has taught me a lot. I already have two tattoos that i love. I want to get a gun tattooed on my hip. ((not pointing to my crouch, i dont like that) but I want a quote or something tattooed with the gun. Its hard to explain how i feel. I am over him,b ut everything I've learned from this relationship will always be with me. It was a great relationship dont get me wrong, but its meaningful to me. The last few months were rocky, and hurtful, I think this is why I want this tattoo.
Any ideas? I was thinking "untouchable"
something along those lines.
Not really about love, but me in general. its hard to explain. Any ideas are welcomed, thanks!! (link)
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Hey.
I'm glad that you came out of this relationship with such a positive attitude. I think I speak for most people when I say that it isn't the easiest thing to do.
Anyways, I really like the idea of your tatoo with the word "untouchable". The only ideas that came to me were "freedom" and "shoot me", but I don't know how relevant those are haha. They just sort of popped into my head. Good luck with that tatoo.
Take care
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I am 15 years old, and I have known my boyfriend for 4 years, he also happens to be my best friend's 13 year old brother. Just recently he and I became eachother's first boyfriend and girlfriend after we told eachother that we've always liked one another. It's been a few months now, we see eachother alot and just act silly and play like we always have....but it doesn't feel any different to me. I really wish to hold his hand or at least have him show the ways that he cares for me in person, instead of only showing them on-line :P. Then a few days ago he emailed me and told me that he cares for me so much but he doesn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship. He has also heard (from my best friend) that lately there have been some guys my age making moves on me...which of course i have no interest in tham at all! I was very understanding of his feelings, though it does make me sad. But he says that it makes him feel like a wimp that he hasn't made a move yet..He just feels nervous that he's going to mess up being romantic and he says that i deserve more than that. I really need some advice! I really truly like him, but should I just let this go and try dating someone my own age in the future?( which i can't imagine right now) What could I possibly do to help him with being more brave to show how he feels about me? Should I just be patient and let him start being romantic when it feels right for him? (link)
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Hey.
You sound like a very nice girlfriend. And I'm glad you are, because you should give your boyfriend all the support he needs. First relationships are so nerve racking! But it's okay because you are both new at this and will both learn together :). But maybe if he is too nervous to make a move, you could make the first move!! :D Whenever the two of you are alone together you could try to hold his hand. From there, maybe that would lead to a kiss or something. I'm sure he would appreciate the help because guys usually have all this pressure about making the first move.
Good luck!! Take care
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okay so basically i work out everyday..my friend doesnt. we both weigh similar weights.
my questions are:
why does she look heavier than me if we're close in weight?
why do people who work out weigh more but look thin?
i feel fat sometimes because everyone is so thin..yet, i work out a lot so i weight, of course, a little more. everyone says i look good. but..idk..i guess it just makes me feel bad about myself that i cant be that thin because i want to be healthy and work out.
is there a way to work out and still like be at a low weight?
i know these are stupid questions..
but, thanks in advance to anyone who answers me. (link)
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Hey.
You are heavier because muscle weighs more than fat. I get how you feel. I used to run a lot and do a lot of exercise back when I was in a physical education class at school. Ever since I stopped taking p.e. I've lost quite a bit of weight. However, my muscles aren't as toned now and although I weigh less, I still look the same.
Your friend doesn't work out so even though she weighs almost the same as you, her weight is mostly fat. And you look thinner because you have less body fat and more muscle mass. I hope that makes sense. You definitely sound healthy so I wouldn't worry about the amount you weigh. When you are walking down the street, no one is going to see the number of pounds you are, but rather how your body looks.
Take care.
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19 femaleeeee:)!
so i've always had a little crush on my best guy friend. he was going out with his girlfriend for THREE years, agh horror! hahaa. anyways they recently broke up which made me happy because he's a single guy now and we get to hangout more! but him and her are still really good friends, i mean they didn't end it bad, feelings just weren't there anymore but she still goes over to his house and hangs out with them because they are so close, i mean three years! who wouldn't be close? i understand that but it's just so hard for me seeing her still hang out with them, i still get so jealous.
am i weird for feeling like this? am i being selfish? me and him have a connection, we are attracted to each other but i just feel like that wall is still there, and that things won't move anywhere between us as long as him and her still talk, do you believe this is true?
i understand couples who break up do stay friends sometimes, but i always have a feeling that they're going to get back together.
ughhhhh any suggestions on what i should do? am i totally just blowing things out of proportion? any thoughts would be nice! (link)
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Hey.
Well I'm glad that things are looking up for you. :)
I understand how you feel. Obviously you are jealous because now that he is single you want him all for yourself, haha. But break ups are really hard even if the two people stay friends. It's hard because sometimes they miss what used to be and wish it could be the same even though they know it can't be. He might not be ready to bounce back into another relationship. And also if you think about it, it would really stink if you were in a 3 year relationship and then right after you broke up, your ex decided to date another girl. Ouch :/
It sounds like you do have a good chance though! I say you should keep talking to him and hanging out and see where it goes. After all, you can flirt now ;). Give it some time and things will probably become more clear between the two of you. Try to stay positive too!
Good luck!
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theres this guy i like and ive known him for awhile and since my boyfriend and i just ended out relationship he started talking to me alot when he signs onto AIM it takes him about 6 seconds to IM me.. i actually counted one day when i saw him IM me lol. anyways and he always asks me to call him at night and were on the phone for at least an hour or more and ill usually text him when hes at work and we talk for awhile then to.. well since i just came out of a relationship i dont want to seem like.. i really like this guy, but i kinda do and sometimes he says that it doesnt sound like im intrested in talking to him, when i really am so thats my first question.. how do i sound interested without sounding like not obsessive but.. really like him? i don't want him to be freaked out because i really do like him a lot.
my second question is we BOTH agreed on hooking up like its just something we want to do (hook up as in sex) and he asked me on the phone if i would be mad or upset if he hooked up with another girl to because right now were like friends with benefits HE IS NOT A PLAYER. He hasn't had sex in over a year, because he simply doesn't want to do it with someone he doesn't like but this other girl asked him if he wants to hook up and he said he wasn't sure and i told him.. i don't care and he said oh okay.. but i really do care i just dont want to push what we have like were friends with benefits now and i dont want to make it look like i want more if he doesn't? its confusing but should i just not tell him i care if he hooks up with another girl.. since were not dating?or what do i say to that? (link)
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Hey.
Well it sounds like you really do like him a lot, you just need to get him to see that. I honestly wouldn't worry about sounding obsessed or freaking him out because he seems to want you to be interested in him, which means he is interested in you. But at the same time... why do you think he is asking you to be friends with benefits? Is he not looking for a relationship?
I know that you told him that you didn't care what he did because you thought it would make you sound like you aren't obsessed with him. But in my opinion by telling him that you "don't care what he does" it sounds like you really AREN'T that interested in him. I think you need to be honest with him and tell him that you really are starting to like him and that it kind of hurt when he said he was going to hook up with another girl. He will see how serious you are about him and maybe he will change his mind about hooking up with the other girl. Have you ever thought that the reason he doesn't want a relationship is because he doesn't think that you are that interested in him? I think that playing hard to get or saying that you don't care when you actually do, isn't going to help the situation. Tell him the truth. What's the worst that can happen?
Take care. And good luck.
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i just got the sims 3 for my birthday and i did everythin i could to get it to play. finally i press the play button and it says my 'video card' needs to be upgraded ! :(
what do i have to do to upgrade it ? do i have to buy somethin or jus do it myself ?
please and thanks :) (link)
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Hey.
Video card....is that the same as a graphics card? Because if it is, then the problem is probably that one that you have purchased or that came with your computer isn't good enough for the Sims 3. The Sims 3 is a very complex games and the animation is very good, better than most games, so it requires a good graphics card. I would check with your local best buy or other electronics store and ask them which of their graphics cards are compatible with the Sims 3. Or you might want to ask them for "Video" cards because maybe it's a different thing. I'm not that sure really, I just thought I would try to help.
Take care.
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HI :] 16/f
hes 18/m
My boyfriends leaving for college that is 6 hours away... :(
I wanna get him the best gift ever, i don't have alot of money to my name, but i can get some from my parents but i can't ask for alot. Hes going to college in upstate NY at Suny Canton, He looovesss cars. he knows everything about them. But i cant afford to buy him some of the car stuff he does haha (he like, adds PIA or whatever lights to his car, he wants to get a thing that makes his car have more horsepower..he has a 09 subaru wrx btw)
I really wanna get him something so that he will remember me for .... a long time. like whenever he looks at it hell remember me and our relationship.
we dont have many pictures together but im thinking of getting more together before he leaves (he leaves on the 16th or the 22nd btw) we are not continuing our relationship when hes gone.. we both know it would end out terriable...sooo keep that in mind hah.
I wanna make him a poster thing that has a bunch of pictures of us, but i did something like that for valentines day. i've gotten him a stuffed animal. and i've given him a debit giftcard with about 70 dollars on it.
I'm also thinking of making him a CD with all the songs that remind me of him, and our relationship. so he can listen to it during the long drive up.
any ideas? suggestions? let me know! i appreciate the help (link)
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Hey.
I really liked the idea you had about the cd. You should definitely do that, I was also thinking about college and that made me think about dorm rooms. There are a lot of cool things that you can get him to decorate his new home/dorm that he will need to buy anyways. Maybe a cool lamp or a nice pillow would be nice, That way everytime he sees it, he'll think of you. I was also thinking that you could get him a mini car. I'm not sure if you have seen them but there are little models of real cars. You might be able to get him a miniature copy of his own car. If you don't know what I mean, I found this link for you http://www.minimodelcars.co.uk/. Well I hope you find him a nice gift. Take care.
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i need a poem about how much you love this person in spanish. it needs to be short and it needs to rhyme. i have no idea what to write
-sonia (link)
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Hey. :)
I speak Spanish. I remember having to write poems in Spanish class. Maybe you could make it funny. Do you like food? :D You should compare your love to your favorite foods. Maybe you like coffee a lot (like me) and your love warms you up like a hot cup of coffee. Or like a warm sip of soup. :)
ORRR.
Maybe something like nature? Maybe your love is like a growing river, or like warm summer night. Maybe your love is bright like the moon against the dark sky or calm like the soft waves in the ocean.
Just try to think of things that make you happy. Be honest. Is there anyone that you love/like? Think about how that person makes you feel or what they reminds you of.
Good luck!
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We've been great friends since we met each other; everything just kind of clicked. Every day since then I have tried to figure out if I liked him as a friend or more than that, and recently I've slowly come to the conclusion that I really do like him. The deciding factor? When I figured out he was gay, I was devastated. How do I get over him while still staying his friend? He's an amazing person to hang out with, and I don't want to lose that. (link)
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Hey.
I'm sorry about this :(. I know how you feel because this happened with my best friend and I. We first became good friends then best friends and then I started to like him as more. I even started thinking that he liked me too until he finally told me that he was gay on day. I was so completely heartbroken and unfortunately I let my depression drag on for way too long.
It is perfectly possible to stay friends. The main thing that you need to never forget is that he is gay and that will never change. The reason it took my so long to get over my friend is because I always had this faint hope that he would one day like me as more. But that never happened of course. No matter what kind of "signs" he may display as liking you, never think that he does. If you two are really close friends, the chances are that he will act very affectionate towards you.
I'd say that it would be a good idea to find another cute guy to have a crush on. I'm sure that there are plenty :). I know it's not the easiest thing to do. But the best thing about liking a gay guy is that you know it isn't anything personal that he doesn't like you back. I'm sure there are tons of guys who will (and some who already do) like you. You just need to find them. :)
Take care.
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I am 17 almost 18 and wishing to learn more about the religion so that I might practice it. Please only people with expierience with the religion only. (link)
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Hi, I am a Buddhist and have been one for 10 years now. I'm so happy you asked this question. :)
Okay so first off there are many different Buddhist sects. The one that I happen to be part of is of the Mahayana school and it is called Nichiren Buddhism. It is based on the teachings of Nichiren Daishonin, a monk who lived in the 13th century. I am a memember of the SGI (Soka Gakai International). This translates to Value Creating Organization. Our practice focuses on the Lotus Sutra which was regraded as the highest teaching of "the buddha" who people know as Siddhartha Gautama. The Lotus Sutra teaches us that we all have buddha nature within us. In other words all people posses all the ingredients to become happy or enlightened. The SGI is devoted to the individual happiness of all people and our goal is the realization of world peace. In order to become happy we chant the phrase "Nam-myoho-renge-kyo". This phrase enables us to reach our highest potential and become truly happy.
I'm probably not the best at explaining this but we do have a website as well and it has a lot of information and ways for you to become connected to the organization.
http://sgi-usa.org/buddhism/buddhismofnichirendaishonin.php
I really hope that you learn more about this wonderful religion. It is such a precious part of my life. Take Care
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this will be long, but i will return the favor to anyone who is generous enough to read(:
alright lets get the facts straight:
i just turned 19, the guy i like his name is joe, just turned 18. me and joe have been friends for about 6 years now. joe has been dating his girlfriend for 3 straight years.
the thing is, im IN love with joe. i've been in love with him but he loves his girlfriend. i cant get over him, we use to be best friends. we use to hangout ALL THE TIME, before his girlfriend came along.
i can't keep joe off my mind, seriously he's on my mind 24/7 im not kidding, i even dream about him (weird...) even when i was on vacation i thought about him. when im with my friends i think about him. when i'm at work, i think about him. when i'm with another guy, i think about him more. no matter what i'm doing or where i am, i think about him.
the HORRIBLE thing is, i can't get away from the situation. one of my best friends, is my cousin and guess what? joe is my cousins NEXT DOOR neighbor so everytime i'm at my cousins i get to see joe's girlfriends car over there and it kills every single time.
i'm SO vulnerable when i'm with joe. when we hangout alone, which is like hmm, once every FOUR months he always tries getting with me. i've never done anything with him but god i want to so bad. even though its so wrong because he has a girlfriend ive never been so comfortable with any other guy.
i tell joe alot, he's always there for me. when i cry, he holds me and tells me everythings going to be okay. when i laugh, he smiles. when i look sad he always knows and asks "whats wrong, cheer up" and even when i say "nothing's wrong..." he always knows there is.
i'm not happy unless i'm with joe. i see him probably once a month because hes with his girlfriend 24/7. she sleeps over at his house, he's been to her cabin, she's been on trips with his family and that hurts soooo bad. his brothers and sisters adore me, everytime i see them they scream my name and come give me a hug.
i've never told him i've had feelings for him but i know he knows by how i talk to him, how i flirt with him. but what good is it doing? i'm obviously not good enough for him to break up with his girlfriend. and i dont want things to be awkward between us.
i love how so many girls think hes hot, but no matter how many girls throw themselves at him he will never act different around me. his current girlfriend, has been his only girlfriend. the things he does sexual, hes only done with one girl, and thats his girlfriend.
i rememeber about two years ago this guy i was interested in broke my heart and all i could say is "i need joe, i need to talk to him" because he truly makes me happy.
i honestly don't know what to do. my friends say, move on. you deserve better than him. but its not that easy! i've tried, i cant just let someone whose been in my life for six years just go away like that.
we barely text anymore because of his girlfriend. his girlfriend is the ONLY person who makes me cry because i know that she has him, and hes the only thing i want.
any suggestions? i'm so lost. i seriously realized i love this boy. my heart is broken. it breaks everyday when i wake up and realize he's still with her. i've tried meeting new guys, it doesnt work.
anything will help!
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Hey.
I'm sorry about all of this. It does sounds horrible. But it's okay, you'll be able to get over him with time, I promise.
I've heard people say that when you want to get over a person you have to stay away from them, especially if it's someone like your best friend. I kind of agree with this because the more you see him, the more those feelings are there and the more you are reminded that you aren't with him.
I think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel even if he already knows. Tell him that you really like him or if you want you can tell him that you are in love with him. And let him know that you are trying to get over him because you know that he has a girlfriend that he is happy with.
I'm glad that you haven't involved yourself with him in any way to make him cheat on his girlfriend. It's very tough to do what you've done because you obviously would love to, but you know that it would be wrong. Just continue to remember that if you ever were to involve yourself with him it would hurt even more to see him with his girlfriend after that.
It's probably better that the two of you don't see eachother very often. After you explain to him that you like him, maybe it will make you feel at least a little better. After that I seriously suggest that you do anything to distract you from him. You probably don't want to date anyone else right now and that's okay. You shouldn't date anyone until you feel you are ready to.
I am positive that you will be able to move on. I would recommend that you watch the movie (500) days of summer. It's a movie that just came out in theaters and it reminds me of your situation in a way. I think it would really help you deal with this knowing that you have someone to relate to. There will eventually come a day when you wake up and there are no thoughts of Joe (in a more than friendly way) in your head. I remember feeling exactly as you do now a few years back but eventually I think my body and my heart just got tired of suffering. I remember that when I saw the guy that I had been in love with, I felt no desire to be his girlfriend as I once had. I couldn't believe it because I thought that I my heart would break all over again when I saw him but it didn't. I was okay. And I was happy to see him of course because we were still best friends but my heart had finally accepted the situation and moved on. I know that this will end for you too. Just keep trying your best and try your very best to be happy. I wish you the best of luck. Take care of yourself.
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So me and my friend have been friends for over a year and we absolutely love each other, so this year there's this guy. Well call him skip so first my friend dates him, but only for a day because it was really awkward then they broke up a couple months later they start liking each other again and I'm really good friends with skip so we always talk and so my friend left for 2 weeks and in that time me and skip started liking each other so we were like w/e about my friend because she is known for Dating a lot of people and when she got back she was a little bad but bot bad because she met someone oN the trip she went on. Me and skip dated for a week and we were both really happy with each other buut idk what happened , I thin I found him too clingy or something really minor like that and I paniced and dumped him and a little whle after that I regretted doing it but he was reAlly hurt by it so I didn't tell any one. As time went on my friend forgot about that other guy and started liking skip again ( mean while I still regret dumping him but not telling anyon) and me and skip resovled things and are really good friends again. So skip asked my friend out and of course she said yes but while they were dating she cheated on him with one guy, which he found out about and after he found out she told me she would never do it again and I beliveed her but she did it twice MORE and he never did find out ( btw still regrtning dumping him stiiil) so this one guy that she cheated on skip with she started liking and a couple days ago she said she wants to dump skip and I was like are you sure ? And she said yea so I was like ok and she broke up with him yesterday and I texted him asking if he was ok and he said ya he doesn't care because she's different than he thought and we sorta talked about that then he asked me how my boy situation was going and I said not good and he's like why. And I'm like every guy I like doesn't like me and he's like that's not true ! I liked you and he listed people and I'm like ya I guess but I can never keep a relationship and he's like yA you can I liked you a lot but you just don't and I'm like ya that's the problem then I thought I HAVE TO tell him so I made him promise not to tell and he said that I'm his best fiend that is a girl so he would never tell so I told him and at first he didn't believe me and then when he did he said that it sucked when I broke up with him because he liked me quite bit and that it was unexpected ........... Was it right to tell him? And what if I like I'm now? I can't date him, my best friend just dated him for 3 months but what if I want to date him ? And in all what do I do about my whole situTion (link)
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Hey.
Yet again another question that I can relate to. A lot of you people on this website remind me of myself. Well anyways, I think that this situation is complicated but at the same time I think that it can be fixed to everyone's advantage :).
First off, I can completely relate to you and skip. This is like me and my boyfriend were. We were together and things were great, but then like with you, something went wrong...It took me a while to realize what went wrong. The problem was that I wasn't ready for the relationship. It came all of a sudden and I freaked out and broke up with him. After a while I regretted it just like you. I think you need to think about WHY you panicked. You said that maybe he was too clingy. I kind of thought that too at first but after a while you start appreciating someone more and more and the clingyness becomes someone caring about you and wanting to be with you.
He liked you a lot. He probably still does. After you broke up with him, he was obviously really hurt. And now, even though you've told him that you like him, he is probably afraid that you will hurt him again. I think that you were right to tell him how you feel. If you truly mean it then it's good that he knows so that he won't move on to someone else.
As for your friend, it's obvious she didn't really like him very much. She cheated on him who knows how many times and on top of that she broke up with him. I don't think that she will be angry with you if you try to be with skip again in the future.
Right now, I think it is in everyone's best interest that you stay single. There are a few reasons. The first is that your friend might get angry if you try to be him girlfriend right after they broke up and dated 3 months. Most friends would be angry. The second reason is that you need to ask yourself questions about what went wrong last time with skip and if you believe you can actually change this time around. If the "clingyness" is going to bother you a lot then maybe you should reconsider. But if you think that you can get over whatever happened in the past and do your best to make it work this time around, then that's great. And the last reason is that skip needs to probably think about it himself. Like I said before, it would make sense if he is scared of you hurting his feelings again. But it's good that he knows how you feel. Talk to him about maybe getting back together (if that's what you want) and saying that the two of you should maybe hang out some more in the meantime.
I hope that didn't sound too confusing. Haha but if it did you can always ask me and I would explain it again. I wish you the best of luck! Take care
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Hey,
I need help on choosing schools can you please help me do i go to school A or school B (link)
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Do you just want me to say a letter?
Or do you want to tell me what each school is like?
If you want the first one, I say pick A.
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i have 3 best friends. one in which is a guy. we go on and off with trying to like each other as more than just friends. but it never works. and that's okay because we continue being friends anyway. lately we have been closer than ever(in a bff type way)and i absolutely love it. i don't really want that to change. BUT he told me last night that he wants more than just "bff" and that he is going to stop being with other girls for me. i said i don't think he could do that(hes sort of a player)even though i know he would for me. i don't even know if i want him as more than a friend at this point. what i do know is i don't want to waste his time. what should i do? (link)
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Hey.
Oh this sounds complicated. But you said a few things that caught my attention. You said that they two of you "go on and off with trying to like each other as more than just friends". You probably shouldn't try to like him as more than a friend. Especially if you say that it hasn't worked out in the past.
You also said that you love how close the two of you are now as BFFs. It seems that he likes being this close to you too, but in his case being this close to you is causing him to develop romantic feelings for you again. But it seems like you don't really feel the same way.
It seems like you aren't exactly sure of what you want. In a typical relationship where both people are sure about being together, things don't always work out. And the problem with not being sure is that it makes it much more likely for the relationship to not work out. It isn't a good idea to go into a relationship with doubts. I think you need to be honest with him and tell him that you aren't sure if this is what you want. Tell him exactly what you've told us. Remind him that it hasn't worked out and that you love having him as your best friend. And maybe if you want, tell him that you need time to sort out what it is that you want. Continue to hang out with him and see where your feelings go from them. You might start to like him as more, or maybe no. Some people are just meant to be friends. I wish you the best. Take care.
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