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hey
does any one know the answer to this riddle?
What is greater than God,
More evil than the devil,
The poor have it,
The rich need it,
And if you eat it, you'll die?
please some one answer because its VERY irritating trying to figure it out :(
thanks ♥ (link)
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nothing.
exciting, huh?
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14/f.....i just met a new friend named Kate..i've got to know her and she's really nice. she liked this one guy named Phil a few weeks ago but claims she doesn't like him anymore...but you she still sort of does u kno...1/10..anyways i sort of like him now(even though ive never talked to him really; i just think he's really cute). so would it be wrong to start liking him publicly??? and i dont really want to ask her if its ok b/c i am afraid it will ruin our friendship. what should i do??
and my second question is if i do end up liking him publically..how should i get started talking to him?? thanx
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haha. how do you like someone publicly? do you like say it on tv and post signs?
okay, sorry, i couldn't resist.
this is how i really feel..because i was in the same position.
wait a couple weeks and don't tell her. wait and see if she starts liking him again. sometimes people go back and forth when they are starting to move on. once you feel a little more optimistic that she may not like him anymore, its time to talk to her and ask her permission before you do anything. if she's a good friend, she will probably say its fine. if she says it isn't, it doesn't mean she is a bad friend..she is just telling you the truth and you should respect that.
once you start liking him "publically"..just talk to him like you usually would (you do talk to him, right?). maybe even write him a note during school claiming to be "bored" and pass it to him in the hall. make it a little getting to know you type thing..like make a survey for him and just tell him random things about your day. that will give you stuff to talk about later on in person..instead of it seeming like you are pulling stuff out of midair. try to hang out with him more..and just get to know him better. if you think that there is a possibility that he likes you too, tell him how you feel. just be prepared for whatever answer he may give you.
good luck!
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this is pretty long but ill make it as short as i can..
anyway, i just started high school this year, and there is this guy named ken. i met him not too long ago, but we have become such good friends. we hang out a lot, tell each other a lot, and to be honest i started liking him... one day when we were hanging out we were sitting on our friends couch and he grabbed my hand and put his arm around me and stuff. it was really cute, and that day i really felt like he liked me.
a week and a half later or so, he starts dating this girl allison. i knew before he liked allison. but it didnt really matter.
so one day, we were talking about relationships and stuff and i told him what i liked in a guy and he told me "where were you before allison.. i liked you and im surprised to didnt see that." and ever since then, he always told me to keep liking him because he had feelings for me, but for allison as well. and if anything were to happen between allison and him, i was there, even though he really likes his allison.
well anyway, me and him talk ALOT like i said, were like best friends. now his girlfriend hates me and a bunch of her friends dislike me to cause they think im trying to steal ken from her. i know exactly how allison feels though.. if you had a b/f and he was with another girl all the time, wouldn't you be suspicious? and i dont know if i should just give up on ken or not.. i hate drama and i dont wanna be in the middle of it! but i dont wanna lose ken as a friend either.. (link)
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you don't need him. move on. not only are you making enemies..but even if you did go out with him..think about this.
what if he met another girl and did the same thing to you that he is doing to allison? if he's doing it now he'll most likely do it again.
find someone who likes you..and only you.
=).
you just said in your feedback that you are best friends. you can easily tell him that he has a girlfriend..and you aren't willing to be his back-up girl so you just want to stay good friends. then you just have to try to move on..
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I'm 15/f.
Usually a couple days before I start my period, I get this feeling like I really want to beat someone up that I hate. Lol, it's really weird. I'm not psycho or anything. I'm a really really happy person usually, and I'm super nice. It's just like 5 days or so before I start my period I just want to beat someone up. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel like this? (link)
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its very normal actually.
it's called PMS..premenstrual syndrome.
before you get your period you can get very moody. yeah, it sucks..but it gives you a good excuse to be mean to people! =P.
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hey is it true that when you sleep you're supposed to take your bra off? (link)
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it doesn't make a difference at all. it matters what kind of bra you are wearing though. if it has any kinda of underwire or anything it might dig into you and not be the most comfortable..but i wear one to bed that is just the most comfortable thing ever..just because its easier and at sleepovers i get self-conscious about it. if you are comfortable in yours..go for it. if not, take it off. whatever you prefer.
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ok well i want to get a little closer with my boyfriend you know what i mean the thing is should i shave down there or not
i shve mu bikini line and stuff and i trim to but i don't know what the dudes like so how should i do it what do you guys like.
help me lol (link)
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i say just keep it neat but don't shave because it grows back fast. it would be better to have a little hair down there than spikey stubble stuff..but that's just me.
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my girlfriend is having a halloween party and i forgot about it and made plans with my friends to go to the movies. should i go to half the party and then to the movies or to all of the party. do you think my girlfriend will be mad if i dont go to the whole party (link)
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i say go to the whole party. she's your girlfriend and she'll want to spend time with you. can your friends come with you? you can go to a movie with them any other time..but she's having this party this one time. i would be pretty mad if my boyfriend ditched my party or even half of it to go to a movie with his guy friends if he already said he would come.
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why do guys find the need to have a skinny girl? it gets me mad when a guy is attracted to some skinny girl when he could have great chemistry and a great relationship with a different girl who is overweight?
sam with girls i guess. but guys seem to have a more 'strict criteria' (link)
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not all guys like skinny girls.. i actually know a lot of guys who would prefer not to have a skinny girlfriend.
and as for the "same with girls i guess". i'm just throwing this out there for all of you.
my ex was overweight and its nice because when they're big they make you feel safe. but the guy i'm with now is really fit and that's nice too..so i pretty much don't care about what a guy looks like..though many girls do.
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Ok I was just wonnderring one of my best friends is a guy and i kinda like him but he likes a girl who is now his girl friend and he likes her like crazy... does anyone watch laguna beach? i was wonderring if guys actually acted really like stephen on the show does... (if you dont watch stephen and lc are like best friends and lc liked him for a really long time but he never did anything about it because he always liked her her as just a friend just like me and my friend and he liked this one other girl who was his gf on and off but then lc she got a boyfriend and he suddenly got jeleous...)so i was wonderring if guys were actually like that, if i suddenly find a guy who i like and stuff would by other friend feel jeleous... i doubt he would care but i was just wonnderring if there were guys who acted like that in real life or if its just crap... if your guy can you tell me if you have ever done something like that or when your bestfriend who was a grl got a boyfriend did u get jeleous or how did u react?
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every guy is different..but it can happen..as it did with stephen. seeing as he's one of your best friends, he would probably just be happy for you. especially since he really likes his girlfriend. i say don't even try it. you will hurt whoever you go out with to get him jealous when it might not even work..or even if it did..you might not ever even know. i hope this made sense. i scare myself when i use ".." a lot. haha. keep your eyes open for someone new that you actually like!
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I'm setting up a campaign for people to see whats the difference (of thoughts/actions)in people that smoke and do not. If you are a smoker or a non-smoker, please answer these questions in which category you fit in. Oh, and please tell me if you are a smoker or a non-smoker. I'm doing this so I can hellp people with certain things. I can't ask anyone around because I don't speak thier language.
Smokers:
1. How do you feel if you don't smoke for a long period of time?
2.What has influenced you to smoke?
3. Have you noticed any differences since you began smoking?
4. About how many ciggarets do you smoke in 1 day?
5. Did you feel like you have upset anyone when you first started?
Non-smokers
1. How do you feel about people who smoke?
2. Would you ever consider to smoke? Why?
3. What is your reason not to smoke?
4. In your opinion, why is smoking bad for you?
5. What would your advice be if a smoker wants to quit?
Thanks in advance, I hope you guys don't mind. (link)
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Non-smokers
1. How do you feel about people who smoke?
i feel sorry that there is something in their life that has driven to an unhealthy habit.
2. Would you ever consider to smoke? Why?
No, my dad smokes and has been trying to quit ever since i was born. I see how difficult it is and I would never want to have to deal with that. Quitting sucking my thumb when I was little was too hard for me. haha. Also, I think it's a waste of money..and really gross.
3. What is your reason not to smoke?
Even if it wasn't bad for my health..it's disgusting. I want to be healthy..and not smell like smoke..and have white teeth.
4. In your opinion, why is smoking bad for you?
I know a few people who died of emphezema (sp?). I don't want that to happen to me. I also sing..so that would completely ruin my voice.
5. What would your advice be if a smoker wants to quit?
Oh boy. Just believe that you can, first of all. Try the patch or one of those things. Find something you like that you can do when you feel like smoking...like eat a twizzeler or chew on a straw. haha. All the pens in my house are all chewed up on the ends from when my dad tried to quit. He quit using the patch and chewing on straws for a long time..until he got a new job and new stress. So, find other ways to release your stress. I've seen all this work..just not last. When you want to have "just one cigarette" it won't be just one. It will start you up all over again. Keep yourself from doing it. Do anything to keep yourself busy until the urge goes away. That's my advice.
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ok i only date aboriginal maori or ti or amercains so i only date darker boyz like my bf is aboriginal but when white boyz ask me out and i say no they say im racist cause there never seen me whith a white man im not racist i just dont find them very hot i like them as friends thats it and how can i be racist if my dads family is white and my mothers family is black thats not racist a (link)
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no, that's not racist. it's just what you like. of course they are going to say something mean like that..you rejected them and the need an excuse better than "she doesn't like me" to keep themselves feeling cool. haha. but don't be afraid to date a white guy if you meet one (i'm talking later on cause you have a bf) that you like. what if he's everything you want except for his skin?
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Wow! Do you really speak spanish? I do too! I live in Buenos Aires (link)
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i'm not fluent..but i'm learning. i am a complete spanish geek in school. i just love it. i want to move to a spanish-speaking country for a year or two and teach english..and then move back here and teach spanish. and i'm going to spain in april..I'M SO EXCITED!!
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okay.. me and my ex b/f(eric) broke up a month ago.. and i have a new b/f(rj) now.. and he has a new g/f(rachel).. me and eric were going out for 3 years till we broke up.. so of course, im not quite over him.. i dunno what to do.. i tried talking to eric.. but it just aint working..he doesnt even wanna be my friend.. and im just going through a really rough time right now.. and imm always depressed.. can you give me some advice on how to get over him.. thanks (link)
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you were together for a year..that's going to take some time to get over. make sure you really like your current boyfriend and he's not just a rebound..because that wouldn't be fair to him, but if you like and stuff..then that's great. just keep busy and don't worry about being friends with eric..if he doesn't want to be friends, then if you tried to be..it just wouldn't be any fun. eventually you might end up being friends again anyway..but don't waste your time trying to make a friendship work when you should first be trying to get over him.
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Dear Advicenators,
I'm a 13 year old girl who is turning 14 in January. My hieght is appromiatley 5'3" and I weigh 103 lbs. I feel fat and ugly and I am determined to loose 5-10 lbs. in the next month or two. What do I need to do? I feel so gross, and when I'm flirting w/ my cush and he offers to give me piggy back rides I always have to turn him down bc/ i think i'll break him. How do I loose weight fast, and not to much exercising because exercise=muscle, which is heavier then fat. I want to build my stomach and my butt and thighs so they are extremely tight and fit. I want to have the perfect body, what diet can I go on, or simple quick exercises that only loose fat and build ur stomach fat, no muscle! Thank-you. I'll rate (link)
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DON'T diet. well, eat a healthy diet..but don't diet. and STOP thinking you are fat. you are taller than me and wayy lighter..and i am considered thin. try doing crunches everyday if you want a flatter stomach. losing weight won't necessarily give you a flat stomach. most importantly, think confidently!
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okay i need help. there's this guy and i reallllyy like him. he's perfect, awesome personality, beautiful eyes, funny, gorgeous smile/dimples.. what more can you ask for? but anyways, we've known each other for like 1 1/2 months, and we text and call everry night. but then when we see each other at school we barely talk?! when we're on the phone we can carry on a convo. forever. do yall think he likes me? cause i wanna go out with him. but i don't know if he likes me and i don't wanna ask him b/c i'm scared to know his reaction. so what are some ways for him to liikee me? i've never really felt this wayy for a guy before. please help. i rate=) thxx! (link)
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you need to ask him to hang out before you do anything. if it can't work in person before a relationship, it can't work in person during a relationship. once you get to know him better in person, i'd say go for it!
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My boyfriend is cheating on me and he is totally affensive about the whole thing i woult like to know how could you break the love of your life heart with out breaking yours thanks holla atb me (link)
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if he's cheating on you..its too late to save yourself from heartache. break it off with him. you deserve much better.
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i got my period for the first time on auguest 15 (this past auguest). i didnt have it last month, but now i got it again on the 15th, and still have it. is this normal? (link)
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yes..you aren't supposed to be regular for a whileee. i got mine for the first time in january-ish. i last got it in the middle of august and i still haven't gotten it since!
its like that for most everyone.
and it's lasted almost 10 days so far? that's fine too. the time you'll have it for will also vary for a while. you shouldn't have it for much longer i would think.
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k for halloween i'm being a cowgirl. i have a cowboy hat and stuff but i'm just not sure how i should wear my hair. it's not very long.. it just touches the top of my shoulders when it's straight. i was wondering if i should put it in pigtails or if i should just leave it down? what would go with the 'cowgirl' theme more? thanks (link)
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try braided pigtails as best as you can.
if you don't get all your hair to stay..its even cuter..so don't worry about it.
you'll look so cute!
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to me, everytime a guy and me become close like almost to the point of g/f and b/f, i get like cold feet and i back out of the relationship. its not that i dont like the guy this is happening too, but its like i lead them on then i stop liking them once he likes me! i dont know whats wrong cuz in my head i have the perfect picture of me and the perfect guy as g/f and b/f but when the guy starts liking me, i back out. its like im afraid of commitment, but i know i want it. this is confusing but can anyone give me tips or advice to help me solve this?
btw im not talking about one guy really, im talking about them in general. =] (link)
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my friend is exactly the same way. once they like you its just like "omg..he actually likes me?" and you start to second guess if its the right thing. this might not be exactly the same for you..but what i'm about to say applies to you anyway. just next time you like someone don't second guess it. just go for it. if it doesn't work out..that's okay. don't worry about what will happen..just stay in the present. you could even write down everything you like about the guy you like and if he starts to like you, refer to the list..does he still have everything i liked about him before? most likely, he does. that will give you some extra confidence that you aren't making a mistake.
nothing in life is a mistake, because you learn from everything. it's just something else to grow from.
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hello well i was txing this guy (we are going out but only for like 2 weeks so far) and at the end i put lots of love and he replied love ya too.
now what does the YA mean?? does he not like me enough to say u?? or what i need to know..
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you were texting so its supposed to be a quick little thing. think about it..to get a y you have to hit the button 3 times..to get an o you have to hit it 3 times..and to get a u you h ave to hit it twice..while doing an a you only have to hit it once..it could be jsut for the sake of typing faster.
people also just say things differently..do you say "see ya!" or "see you!"?
another thing to take into consideration: saying i love you after 2 weeks is very, very soon. you shouldnt expect him to be very sincere about it now..saying "ya" might be his way of making it sound more casual.
try not to overanalyze it. he's going out with you..so he most likely likes you..or else why would he be with you? dating is all in fun and if it gets serious with him, fine...but it's only been two weeks..so don't sweat it.
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