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too close? idk really
to me, everytime a guy and me become close like almost to the point of g/f and b/f, i get like cold feet and i back out of the relationship. its not that i dont like the guy this is happening too, but its like i lead them on then i stop liking them once he likes me! i dont know whats wrong cuz in my head i have the perfect picture of me and the perfect guy as g/f and b/f but when the guy starts liking me, i back out. its like im afraid of commitment, but i know i want it. this is confusing but can anyone give me tips or advice to help me solve this?
btw im not talking about one guy really, im talking about them in general. =]
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my friend is exactly the same way. once they like you its just like "omg..he actually likes me?" and you start to second guess if its the right thing. this might not be exactly the same for you..but what i'm about to say applies to you anyway. just next time you like someone don't second guess it. just go for it. if it doesn't work out..that's okay. don't worry about what will happen..just stay in the present. you could even write down everything you like about the guy you like and if he starts to like you, refer to the list..does he still have everything i liked about him before? most likely, he does. that will give you some extra confidence that you aren't making a mistake.
nothing in life is a mistake, because you learn from everything. it's just something else to grow from.
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Hey Doll,
It seems to me that you like "the chase" more than dating which is totally fine. I know a lot of girls that stop liking the guy once they know he likes them back. I am not sure there is much you can do to solve this problem other than just becoming someone's girlfriend (as long as you really do like them) and seeing how it goes from there. If you are afraid of commitment, then maybe you just aren't ready for it yet. There is nothing wrong with just dating different guys until you feel like you are ready for a boyfriend. If you think you are ready for a boyfriend, then just do your best to follow through with it instead of getting cold feet. Maybe you are scared of getting hurt. Just remember everyone gets hurt eventually by someone else but it's just part of growing up and learning from your mistakes. I hope your cold feet go away! If not, have fun dating and being single =) You will get a boyfriend eventually when the right guy comes along. Have faith!! if you need anything else you can reach me on my AIM SN: airy red rose
good luck!!
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I know exacly how you feel..I have the same problem. I liked this guy and kinda lead him on but then when he wanted to be g/f, b/f I backed out. I know I hurt his feelings and I feel bad because of it. I dont know why your reasoning is for backing out but I know mine was because I had a bad relationship before and I was afraid that it would happen again. I am now going out with this awesome guy and I have overcome my fear of being scared it wouldnt work out. Just try to say yes to an awesome guy that will treat you well and see how it goes...if he is awesome it will go awesome...lol... :)
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